We're sunsetting PodQuest on 2025-07-28. Thank you for your support!
Export Podcast Subscriptions
cover of episode 228

228

2025/5/1
logo of podcast 姜思达

姜思达

AI Deep Dive Transcript
People
(
(未署名)
Topics
我反复梦见牙齿脱落,这让我感到非常焦虑和难过。 几年前,我与一位朋友因为钱的问题产生了一些不愉快,虽然要回了钱,但我仍然感到非常尴尬和后悔。这件事让我意识到,不要轻易参与金钱纠纷,也不要借钱给别人,如果别人给我钱,我会把它当作礼物。 我开始反思自己,觉得自己像老牛吃嫩草一样有些不知羞耻,我年轻时对30岁的人充满幻想,现在回想起来很尴尬。每个年龄段都有其独特的魅力,我需要学会与自己和解。 我很少去电影院看电影,因为国内电影质量参差不齐。我害怕在公开场合说出一些可能会让别人感到不舒服的实话。 我认为活动主持是一个非常尴尬的职业,很多主持人缺乏同理心,表现模式化,缺乏个性。我希望活动主持人能够找到更适合自己的工作,避免在不擅长的领域表现尴尬。 我观察到不同年龄段的男性给人的感觉有所不同,不同种族的面部特征的识别能力也让我感到惊讶。 总而言之,我最近经历了一些事情,让我对生活有了新的反思。

Deep Dive

Shownotes Transcript

Oh my god, I feel so bad. I just woke up. I had a dream last night. I was dreaming. My teeth were all gone. Oh my god, I was so sad. I was so sad. Actually, I didn't dream about my teeth falling off once or twice. I fell so thoroughly yesterday. All gone. Oh, there's not a single one left.

首先呢,梦到我这个牙变得歪七扭八,变成了曾经的那个矫正前小的时候那牙,就是里里歪斜,就是那德性。 就梦着先那样了,然后后来呢,这牙齿阴暗的扭动嘛。

I was so upset. I was so upset.

I called the dentist and asked him to make an appointment for me. I said, "I'll go right now. Who can do it for me now?" Then I went to the dentist. I dreamed of it. I went to the dentist and found that the nurses were all foreigners. Why are they all foreigners?

He came to me and said, "You know, the foreigner who told you that you went to Yakult, he said, 'You look good in a coat.'" The foreigner was like this. "I went to Yakult, and you looked good in a coat." I said, "Thank you, you too." And he was wearing a nurse's clothes. I said, "What was I thinking?" I said, "Oh, you too."

OK, and then...

然后没怎么治呢就醒了 没怎么治呢就醒了 然后我席间还做了另外一梦 我发现我最近精神状态是有点一般 我就是总做噩梦啊 另外一个梦吧 它也不算是噩梦 就是一个我确确实实 那个你不说压在心底吧 但每每想起总是有点 羞愤难当的这么一个事 就是我在北京原来有一个好朋友 是在这个

um

嗯,然后再到大概几年前,几年前,就是我呢,一定程度也谈不上纠纷啊,就这事肯定谈不上纠纷,但是我会觉得就产生钱上的一些问题,然后我呢,就是想把自己的钱给要回来,然后我也要回来了,我跟你们讲,我是从来不会遇到这种事儿,我从来不会遇到这种事儿,就是...

First of all, I don't borrow money. His money is for investment purposes. I don't borrow money. I don't borrow money from outside. Who cares about me borrowing money? I don't. Because I really don't. I really don't. But unless you say you care about me borrowing money, I don't need you to pay back. That's it. Then I'll borrow money from you. I'll take it as a gift. I forgot this. My dad told me this when I was young.

Generally speaking, you don't need to borrow money from others. The premise of borrowing money is that you can borrow money that you are sure that it doesn't need to be returned to you. You can accept it. Then you borrow money. This is still a dynamic ratio, right? Because you have to see how much money you have to see if you can accept it more or not. Now 300, I'll send you my WeChat.

It's not easy, everyone has no money, who has money? Hello, who has money? But at that time, he just let me invest in a small project Actually, it's not a small project, it's a big project, he told me a lot Then I believed it, and later I found out that this may be a bit of a problem This is a bit of a problem, this is not the same as what he said at that time

But I'm not sure if she was the one who was cheated or she was the one who cheated on me. Because if she cheated on me, I would be very very sad. Because we have a good relationship. And we've been friends for more than a year. For many years. For many years, we were friends.

算了,再说就具体了,就是,怎么说呢,就是甚至会见证对方重要生命时刻的那种朋友。 不是说那个,懂吧,就不是说咱俩吃过饭或什么的,不是。 然后我就特别的难过,因为你知道这个就是,钱都,钱首先也重要啊,但是这钱要回来之后呢,很尴尬,就是非常的尴尬。

I was also embarrassed. I didn't think that after I got it back, I would be like this. Or he gave it to me, he said, "It's embarrassing. I'm telling you, don't get involved in money. If you still owe someone, give it back to them as soon as possible. Okay? We don't do money-hungry things. Don't owe others money. Don't let others borrow money. If you want to borrow money from others, what are you doing?

Don't let others borrow money. Because all investments are failed now. No successful investment. Unless you invested in the ice city. There is no successful investment in this world. Don't invest. Why do you want that money? If you don't invest, what do you do? That's consumption.

Right? It's impossible to do this before. It's not the time now. I think it's different from a few years ago. I'm not so sure now. I didn't expect that at this age, I would sometimes reflect on myself. Am I eating tender grass like an old cow? You know, I would have such a moment. I would suddenly stop. I would suddenly stop and then say, "Am I a little shameless?"

I felt embarrassed. I felt like an old cow eating grass. It was appropriate. We all have problems with our fathers. We all have that "Daddy Issue". You know, you... You... You... You... You... What do you have since you were a child? You introduce yourself. You say, "I love movies. I love to travel. I have a daddy issue." Right?

You have a problem with your father, you have a problem with your father.

为什么呀?那是因为你他妈的年轻,谁他妈都能当你爹,好吗? 你那是真的有爹地 issue 吗? 不是,那是因为 you so fucking young, 谁对你来说都是爹地,都是妈咪, 所以不要太拿自己那当回事儿, 我跟你讲 time flies,一切都会变的。 曾经有时我也是,那 50 岁以下我不长,

I'm sure you'll like it.

Because when you were 20 years old, you really had a passion for 30 years old people. Oh my god, it's so embarrassing to say that. I really think that 30 years old people can rent a house of more than 4000 or 5000 yuan.

They can rent a house for 7,000 yuan. And they have a name tag. And they can travel. They have been to many countries. People over 30 years old.

I also want to see people over 30 years old go abroad to see concerts. I think it's hard to imagine this at the age of 20. Now I don't know. I think you guys are 20 now. Maybe you can host a concert yourself. I don't know. But you think about us ten years ago. You really feel envious when you are 20 and 30 years old. And I'm really looking forward to it.

I'm really looking forward to your 30th birthday. I want to say that I'm 30 years old. I'm so successful.

I also think that your best age has passed. Time is running out. Look at the table. 20 to 30 may be your best age. I don't want to listen to those who are not. So every age has its own beauty. I don't want other beauty. I want the beauty of youth. Okay? I don't want my own beauty. I don't want my own beauty. How can I be my own beauty? How can I reconcile with myself? I went to watch a movie two days ago.

I have to be honest, I don't go to the movie theater. I don't go at all. Every year, you can see the number of domestic movies through the movie theater. Very, very, very, very few. Very, very few, more and more. The movie theater is also less and less. And everyone is basically like a crybaby to go to the movie theater.

For example, when I was invited, it was actually very difficult for him not to call me. Most of the time he would call me. I had to stand in front of hundreds of people, holding a microphone, to express my sharp registration for this video. And then I thought I had done too many things like this on TV. I'm not the same in real life now. Because I'm very afraid to tell some truth that makes everyone very...

非常的表情复杂。 但是我又不想撒谎, 我就不想撒谎说你这片真的特别好看, 因为你的这一片真的不怎么好看, 我实话实说真的不太行。 就不太行的是大多数, 你说有没有好,那也有好的,对吧? 有没有特别厉害,那肯定也有。 但是绝大多数是真不太行。 所以我会有这个提前量, 就是...

这次我就去了,因为在家里也没什么事儿,我就还是去了。 但是我跟对方说,我说你一定,这不是咱们摆谱啊。

I'm telling you, I'm not a plain white person. I really am not. And I'm quite not plain white among many people. This behavior is purely good for all of us. I feel a little embarrassed to say those words. It's very uncomfortable. And I don't want to be here to show off. Just let me stay here quietly. Let those stars, let those big directors, let those big stars. Let them say. They like to say. Don't let me say. I don't like to say.

Then I told them to stop. Fortunately, they didn't. Why did I say that? What did I say? Why did I say that? What did I say? I said I was disrespectful. No. I said I was shameless. No. What did I say? I forgot. I forgot. I forgot. Let it go.

哎 你们说有比这种活动主持更尴尬的职位吗? 哎 这是一个单独的职业呀 还是说他其实平时也干别的事啊 但是他也经常跑活动主持 就比如说这种婚礼司仪 那个都相对来说更特定一些了啊 都特种行业了我觉得 但是你说你像电影 首映礼 商场开业 领导剪彩 就这种活动的主持啊

好尴尬呀,哎呦好尴尬,你们那个看过手影里的主持吗?去看过吗?你们去看一下吧。 哦,对,最近有一个很火的话题,就是那个什么,哎,我啊,5G 冲浪啦,我看到最近有一个很火的话题。

说那个大概就是电影露眼,然后让主创在台上说学头唱,学猫叫,花式笔心。 然后那个大家觉得特别尴尬,大家觉得这么低,对吧? 然后就开始说这些事。 哎,我跟你们说真的是这样的,刚刚十几年了。 哎,大家以为说很新鲜吗? 说那个在台上学猫叫,不新鲜。 我跟你们说这个事十几年了。 大概是在 2014 年,15 年。

I was a self-media person. I wasn't a superstar at that time. I wasn't a god of the three realms. I was a star because I wrote the public number "Stapart". I was quite famous in the self-media circle. Because we wrote "Pian Pian 100,000"

No, 10 years ago.

国外的电影,重要的电影,在中国是必须宣传的,就是必须来,漫威就是一帮一帮的来,就是必须要来的,那个大伙儿,大伙儿是去哪儿呢?是万达 CBD,就是万达影城,基本是在那儿做活动。

Tom Hiddleston.

I haven't posted this interview for a long time. Why? Because I was blocked by the biased side. Because I asked some questions that I shouldn't have asked. Anyway, the Chinese artist was protected and it was fake. Everyone said that. I think it's okay these years. I think these years have been trained to some extent. Why? Because of the so-called internet celebrity. Internet celebrity, right? Everyone wants to

I think it's okay to talk about it more because it's actually quite stuffy. So I think now the artists are really fine. But foreign artists are not as good as everyone thought. At least he won't have to decide what to talk about in an interview. Especially if it's a big star like Dawson.

说错话是真的会出事的这种明星可能会非常非常的在意。 所以其实底层逻辑都是一样的,就真的不要觉得

I think that's a very popular word nowadays. I think everyone has used the wrong word. It's not like you have to go to the doctor if you don't move. There's no doctor at all. You say you went to the doctor for the dragon fruit. I think you're sick. You say you went to the doctor for the dragon fruit. The premise of going to the doctor is that this thing is originally quite big. I think it's like Dosen. It's probably quite big, right? But I went to the doctor very hard. I went to the doctor very hard.

I was a little sad at that time. I thought, how could I do this? But maybe I was not sensible. I was not sensible. I was confused. I was confused. I just asked what I had to do. What I had to do. Just compare that to what. Then it was many years ago. At that time, it was Lu Yan.

I think the biggest problem is the host.

啊就是呃活动流程都是这么个流程先看看电影再说说感想发表一下这个感言 对吧答谢一下观众然后我们最后呢祝大麦来个合影吧都是一样的流程这个流程你是玩不出花来也没有必要

It's just that it's embarrassing or not. It depends on the host's speech. It's embarrassing to talk to the host. Then there's nothing to save. So can I call on you? Can we not host this show? And these hosts, teachers, can you find some other jobs? I don't think this job is suitable for you. It's true.

"Wearing a suit." "I feel so stupid." "We are so happy today." "Director, do you have any unforgettable stories to share with us?" "All of you are like this." "So stupid."

这些奥斯卡呀,这些

international awards. They don't have a so-called... Every section has a host, but everyone is from the film industry. If he hosts, he might get an award next time. It's all actors and directors. They don't say I trained an activity volunteer to host.

How ridiculous! He's not in the language, you know? And it's also very, very model-oriented. It's all a set of unified drawing skills, unified expressions, unified posture, unified talk and cat-calling.

It's very scary. It's so unnerving and so strong. I have a great sense of propriety for this kind of event. I have a great sense of propriety. I think everyone should find another job. Find a stable job. Don't do things you're not good at. You don't even need to be very funny. Just don't be awkward. But this is already a problem for many hosts.

I think the most important problem is that he is not empathetic. It's scary. If you are not empathetic in front of the camera and on the stage, you can't imagine that there is another pair of eyes next to you, looking at yourself talking, and you can't stand far away to empathize with others to see how you feel, you will easily fall into your own little bubble.

然后你以为自己在空场其实是没有人在关心你,就是特别特别难过,而如果你都在台上了,无论你今天是干嘛的,你在台上你连场都空不了的话,你就是失败的。

你是主持也是,然后你是老师,你也是。 你是模特,今天舞台这个东西就是很特殊,舞台,讲台,对吧? 就是这一类东西,它就是物理上给你一个更高的位置。 然后如果你在这个空间里,在这个物理空间里,你在聚焦目光的这个中心点上,

You can't control it. Whether you're talking, acting, or modeling, right? If you can't control all these things, you're a failure. You should leave this stage. This job is not for you. You must have this awareness. But I found that we are all very diligent in other things. But this kind of event host...

Oh, just think about it again. Is your company really going to need an external host for the annual meeting? What does this host know about your company? Of course, I'm talking about that kind of large company. Generally, our small companies are kidding about the annual meeting. It's good to collect money regardless of the colleague. It's hard. It's really hard. What did I say? I said that the old man is not obedient. I said that the old cow eats tender grass. I said that.

Because now, I can't help it, right? I'm past the age of "Daddy issue" Can I still date someone older than me? I can, I'm still there But will I date someone younger than me? I will I found that for me, for me, young people are determined I will say no with determination Later I found that the answer is not surprising

I was 20 at that time, and I was 22 at that time. If I keep looking for someone younger than me, I will become an underage. Is this appropriate? That's definitely not possible. Right? We still have to be reasonable. Then, I'm over 30 now, so I'm over 20 when I'm younger. Don't be like this. Right? It's okay. It's cute. Then one day, I really want to tell you that I was very embarrassed. I really was out of my mind at that time. I was a little out of my mind. I just stared at people's faces. I was thinking, "Damn it."

Young people have such good skin. I felt so disgusting at that time. I felt so bad. But I really think so. Because I always treat myself like this. And our little uncle is on the level, right? You can share with him how we eat, how we take care of each other, how we exercise, how we look at the world, right? You are always here, little uncle, so proud.

然后你就看别人也嘚瑟,小时候就是互相嘚瑟呗。 就是我们那个,你这不够,我来秀,我们来秀啦。 真实生活里面,你就是看到一个二十出点头的一个男孩, 一个男孩,你再看他的脸。

Oh my god, why are you so young, baby? You are so young and beautiful. Why did I think of her? I met her before. Why did I think of her? I just recently sent a message. I thought of her again. She said her brother is so nice. When will your brother come to China? When will he come to China? I'm so happy. When will your brother come to China? Sit here, brother. Brother, come and find me. Brother. Brother.

Sit here, little brother. Little brother, don't run. Little brother, don't run. Little brother, I'm old but I'm gentle. I'm old, I'm ugly but I'm gentle. I'm ugly but I'm gentle. Gentle, you know? Oh my god. It's really hard to imagine. Happy. A smile that shows happiness.

这个不一样年龄不一样大的男子确实给人的感觉还是有一些区别的。 还是有一些区别,从这个聊天说话触感,触感区别很大。 原来没觉得会有这么细这个微观的。 哦,大伙发没发现。

But I found out that there is a very strange place. I think Chinese and foreigners have much better eyes than I imagined. What does it mean? A few years ago, when I worked at Huamao in 2017, I was far away from the city at night. It was dark at that time. It was cold in winter. I couldn't see people. I saw a man walking over 200 meters away.

I can't see his face clearly. He was standing at 200 meters from the door. I don't know if he was walking in or walking far. But I could feel that he was a foreigner. He was not Chinese. Then I found out that he was walking in. I saw it for the first time. It was real. I thought it was amazing. How did we feel that he was not Chinese?

Because actually when you talk about the outline, for example, everyone's facial features are different, right? But even if you're far away, you really don't care about the facial features. You can't come out, you can't see, right? What is that? Is it a posture? What kind of posture is that? I just can't say it. This is really a little bit... I don't know if everyone has the same feeling. When you look from a distance, you're not sure. That's the boss.

I think it's weird. I think it's amazing. Even if I think there is such a big difference between dogs and dogs, but they all think the other is a dog. They all think the other is a dog. But many pet animals are clearly cross-breeds, but I don't think they look different. For example, you think the yellow-handed wolf and the moth. A. Yellow-handed wolf and moth. How big a difference can you say?

那对我来说那长得没什么区别 那对我来说那长得没什么区别 黄鼠狼和貂 它就是一样的 就是有什么区别 没有 没有区别 没有区别 那就是一样的 但是你说这个萨摩和吉娃娃 这个鹰豆 鹰豆和一个什么呀 我们讲一个什么小狗啊 一个雪纳瑞吧 一个雪纳瑞 一个灵蹄 它们是一个物种

哎你说吉娃娃和灵体他们看到对方都觉得对方是狗 这我就有点不太不太明白 这个我就他们都觉得对方是狗 都长成啥样了 你说灵体和法斗那长的是他们一个物种吗 那是一个东西吗 那不是一个东西啊 你说槐树和杨树 我真的就是随便抓一个大学生 我说你分清一下 他也不见得分得清

That's two species, that's not a good match. Then you say, "Fatou and Lingqi" Interesting, interesting, interesting. The class in Jiangsi Da was interesting. I don't know what to say. Interesting. I'll go exercise and go to the gym later. The weather in Beijing is good. I'll take a small car and go to the gym later.

I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal person. I'm going to be a normal