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细心的你不难发现,我是个北京孩子。 这句话,我在两年前就在笑红书发过,现在搞得人尽皆知。 真的是,这是闹哪样啊? 我前几天在公司点了一个外卖,点了一个船鸽鱼水饺。 事实上呢,我对于北京的食物没有那么大敌意。 我觉得北京的食物多半还是可以的。

毕竟是首都是个大城市,哪里的人都有,哪个国家的人都有,自然而然就会有各个地方的美食,对不对? 说到国内的食物,自然是一应俱全,再到海外的食物,那也是临次制比。 所以我觉得很多对于北京食物的一种

误会或者说一种抨击, 更多的还是来源于自己所居住的小区, 附近两三公里很难找到非常丰富的食物吧。 但是北京它大呀, 你放眼整个北京的版图, 你会发现你想要什么, 其实你也都找得到。 我觉得大家可以安了安了, 不要太过放在心上。 但是我前几天,

I ordered a piece of "Chuan Ge Fish and Water Dumplings" and I went through all the food in Beijing. The story goes like this. I found the "Chuan Ge Fish and Water Dumplings" when I was shopping near Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall of Guomao. It was in the mall

笑容可掬的服务员,让我对这一个水饺品牌充满了好感。 那曾几何时我们吃水饺就属于北方的饺子,没有那么多乱七八糟的设计,没有那么多稀奇古怪的讲究。 直到我吃了船鸽鱼水饺,发现,哇,这一个来自青岛的水饺,可能是青岛吧,这一个来自山东的水饺,它居然有墨鱼皮的。

He actually had black feet This made me a Beijing child feel surprised So I was Just ordered a plate of ink fish feet Amazingly natural First to the eyebrows fell down So far, there is no one I like very much That's why I think I became What? The disciple of the fish feet But time has passed several years

A few days ago, I was working overtime in the company, and I was in a hurry to order a delicious takeaway. If you are familiar with high-end cars, you should know that the water dumplings in Changge are not a cheap brand. Many of the water dumplings are quite expensive. If your meal is large, it is difficult to satisfy your appetite.

you will spend more than others. And this price is enough for all the family in three, four, five-line cities to eat two dumplings. I chose the "Yao Jin Ya Guan" at such a price. Satisfying stomach, filling the stomach, and eating more than one. Enjoy the food delivered by the boat and the fish, and let the old me enjoy a feast.

So I ordered two different dumplings and ordered a piece of octopus or squid. It may be squid, it's squid flowers. I can't remember too clearly. There are some exquisite dishes. I waited for about 40 to 50 minutes. This takeaway came late. By the way, I would like to ask everyone about your personal feelings.

如果你也在北京,因为我不了解其他城市,如果你在北京的话,你是否发现现在的外卖好像变慢了,现在的外卖员好像变少了? 经常你点一份外卖,你会发现你的外卖员在派送你这一单之前,前面还有两到三单,这又是为什么呢? 那我们不妨来思考一下。

嗯,说回来,那就在四五十分钟之后呢,我于是在公司的这个外面的桌上,很多朋友听到这里可能误以为我是要给这个水饺品牌打广告,但事实完全相反,我作为消费者,我对这一餐非常非常的失望。

First of all, I received this meal. I opened this dumpling and I ate two bites. I found that compared to the Sichuan-style fish dumplings I bought, its taste is slightly bland. It's not slightly bland, it's extremely bad. It's very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very

It's even sticky in the mouth. I can understand what this is. This is because of the out-of-sale fluctuation. It's been in there for a long time. We can temporarily ignore it. OK, as a sleeping brand, your out-of-sale sleep is not delicious. We can temporarily understand. What's wrong with this squid? Each squid is full of plastic texture.

它们呈现出令人怀疑的半透明状,吃到嘴里,它并没有那种鲜鲜鱿鱼的弹牙和来自海洋的鲜香,它有的只是一份浓郁的化工气息,如果你是这种生化的爱好者,你可以秒入。

嗯

I find that I can't speak properly now. In fact, if I can reduce my chance to speak,

There has been a very, very obvious change since this year. I want to communicate with you here. Even I have a certain purpose of seeking help. I found that I became more self-defeating this year. This self-defeating is a kind of life state. It's completely different.

I can do it without contacting others. I will go out, but everything I do outside is done by myself. You may have heard in my previous blog, for example, I go there to play, I go there to do something, you will find that I am alone. And I watch movies, I am also alone. No matter what kind of movie it is, I am alone to go to the cinema. Of course, I rarely go to the cinema. Maybe once or twice a year, but I am also alone. And this year,

这个情况就是更加升级, 就是自从我开始自己做饭之后, 我会发现我与朋友的交流和见面都在变少, 就是自己做饭,自己每天喂饱自己, 也不会想着说和别人约在哪里吃, 特意的去吃一些什么, 也不会去觉得谁是一定要, 所谓一定要见一下的人, 然后并不是所有人都是这样的, 我以为大家多多少少,

I'm sure everyone has this kind of moment when they stay at home, right? A moment of silence. But not everyone can endure being alone for almost 24 hours in this state of life. Because I have a friend myself, I envy him. Not envy, I'm curious and at the same time envy a part of him. His ability is that he will immediately go to meet whoever he wants to meet.

I asked him if he could have lunch or if he had time in the afternoon. He has the ability to do that. He can meet several people a day. He can meet friends, chat, understand information, or spend time with them. But I couldn't do it at all. I couldn't do it more and more. I even didn't know how to talk. I had a very surprising inner image when I was in a

公共场合里边就比如参加一些活动什么的我是很早就会落荒而逃的人 就基本是那种公开的场合和和和环境我只要是稍微有一丝不熟悉 我很快就走了我很快就走了我就是完成我 我一定要出现这个我只要完成了我出现了 ok 我就走了和原来是肯定是很不一样的就是

I found out that my last circle of friends was posted in 2023.

This is the first circle I posted in two years. I posted it a few days ago for work purposes. After posting it, I can't talk about it. Anyway, because I posted a message asking for help, and everyone came to help, this kind of communication will make me feel unfamiliar. Because I actually, for example, I haven't posted a circle and the function of closing has been closed for more than two years. Including everyone's circle, I can't see it. I don't have this entrance. I don't look at it.

So I don't know how everyone is doing in this situation. How is the process going? So when I sent this message, it seemed like I had a problem with my IQ. It's possible that I have a problem with my IQ. After I sent it, the message I received from others made me unable to respond. And then I had another problem.

I'm a little bit hard to handle. I found that for others, even if this is an initiative of mine, but if suddenly there are a lot of people who want to talk to me, I will really be hard to handle. I will hide. And then my hard to handle even reflects myself. Sometimes I don't know what to say to my colleagues. Sometimes I will talk to Qilin privately about this problem. I don't really know what to say to my colleagues. I think my problem is so big.

Because I used to be a talkative person. I think the least I'm afraid of is talking. The least I'm afraid of is using my fluency, clarity, and accuracy to fill in the time of one minute. Occupying the value of this one minute. Or letting this one minute lose its value. This is what my language can bring.

and I know my own ability to seduce people so I tend to be in a discussion environment where I often take on some leading roles but now I'm giving up on this I'm not giving up, I'm just not going to do it anymore especially when my work relationship becomes more

变得更加的短暂 就是怎么说呢 就是相当于 就相对于曾经 我可能现在和一新的同事 我们确实还没有那么熟悉 他可能他就是毕业了 然后他那个实习期就结束了 他就走了之类的 就可能是这样的 就是我会 我就不太再会说话了 就是我原来会或多或少的 偶尔也开一个所谓的全员大会 或什么的 因为其实我们现在公司人还蛮多的

然后我会开一个全员大会,我会,至少我们能不能达成一些内部的共识,对吧? 因为你要做一件事情,或者大家要做一个事情,那大家想的东西是一致的,这件事还是比较重要的。 但我现在都不太会做这种,比如说大家一起聊点什么的这种,而且我跟大伙说话我也会回缩。 经常出现的一个诡异的状态就是我和我的同事是互相恐惧的关系。

因为我的这个没有办法, 就是放在这儿了。 这权力关系一定程度就会带来一些, 比如新加入的同事, 他看到我可能会有一丝丝的, 他避免和我对视。 然后这是在原来几年前是不会发生的情况。 我可能播客里面有讲过,

Um,

嗯就可能怕麻烦吧但这个我能理解啊这个我能理解我完全可以理解 但是我觉得咱们一直这样可能也不太是个事儿因为我发现我也我也害怕和他对视 我也害怕和他看见我也不知道该怎么怎么样 呃忘了可能是上前两周 呃开始很努力的要跟大家打招呼 我就是要告诉自己说我要很努力的我要跟大家打招呼 我跟大家不是说我这个人

冷漠或者是怎么样不打招呼,我也会有一点,就是我刚才说的这一系列这个问题,就是我也会有一点不够外向,而且我越来越不外向,越来越内清,就是会有一点,怎么还越回又回去了呢,这种感觉的,明明都不是个事儿的,对吧,多大点儿事儿呢。

Of course, if I take the initiative, you will see that it is different from the day before. Everyone is more relaxed and will talk to you properly. I actually have to face this problem at my age. It has become a new problem for me. I drank too much. I drank about

It's been a long time, about half a month. Half a month is quite long for me. I didn't drink. I drank a little yesterday. I drank a little yesterday. I drank at home. I also became... I don't drink outside. I don't go at all. I don't go at all. I don't drink at all. I just stay at home. You see, for a long time, you rarely hear me say that I shouldn't have drunk last night. I rarely say this. Because I don't drink much this year. And then...

It's become very beautiful. Then at 10 o'clock, I'll go to bed at 10 o'clock. I'm going to bed at 10 o'clock. This is a very, very... For example, last year, I would think that going to bed at 10 o'clock was a mysterious thing. And for the vast majority of people, 10 to 12 o'clock is the so-called "me time". It's possible that

然后我十点钟就可以睡了。

然后从昨天,昨天我做了一个,我做了一个我好好喜欢自己这个举动,我觉得我以后可能也会这样下去。 昨天就是开会,因为工作量在那摆着呢对吧,所以其实要完成这个工作量的话呢,我就必须在公司开会到半夜,就是大概得到 11 点左右。 这是我如果要完成昨天所有的工作的话,我必须得到这个时间。

然后以往呢,按照我的这个工作的脾气,我是一定会把这个事给弄完的。 哪怕弄的比较晚,哪怕大伙也就加班了,对吧? 那我也加班,咱们就是一起把这事弄完。 但是昨天我觉得不行了,我觉得我们不能这样工作,就是说啥也不能,也不能再这样。 就是到点了,就是到点了。 我昨天,昨天大概是到 9 点吧,其实也已经比较晚了。

Because I got home at 9 o'clock and it was almost 10 o'clock. And I wanted to sleep at 10 o'clock. So it's actually very late. But the shooting is in progress. The work nature is different. We are still flexible. But the next day, I will take a look here. It's not that everyone works a long time every day. It's also very late when I came during the day. So when I came to the hotel, I felt that it was really not good. I just got up and said, "Let's stop here today." I left.

That's it. Let's end it here. Now I think that if we put these things to tomorrow, the sky won't be the same. Then let's put them to tomorrow. I don't really want to say, oh, I have to keep this thing today. Don't finish it, don't give up. Then later I will say, oh, this is your request for yourself. Then do you have this request for your colleagues? In fact, I have this request for my colleagues. I don't expect everyone to stay up late to prove that they are a very hardworking person. Then I...

This is not my... I never had such a desire and purpose because it has no benefit for me. What I look forward to most is that your work and life still have to be a little bit balanced. Because our work and life are mixed together, mixed very thoroughly. Actually, it's hard for you to break it apart. For me, especially there is a large part of

工作的面相是公共面相 那我的 life 和我的 work 它就是混杂在一块的

Right?

He is very poisonous, especially for people like me who are more introverted.

它的毒性是很大的。 我会有非常多那种情绪很难料理的时刻。 往往是我会发现我怎么把, 源源不断地把自己放置在一个工作的逻辑里边, 去面对我所有的人生的可能性。 我在可丁可卯地把自己当作我自己人生的项目经理。 所以你知道当有人在跟我讲, 还不止一次,因为不同的朋友跟我讲,

Okay, I admire their life's great part of the wonderful Because these people live a really wonderful life I think they are great But when he was telling me that he was his own project manager He took his life as a project to operate I think your bullshit I can't listen to it at all I am very, very The fundamental level and the work logic are at the bottom

um

And in fact, I can do it.

One of the reasons is that I think I have a high IQ. I really think I'm smart.

Maybe everyone thinks they are very smart. But I do think that if I have to solve this problem according to a certain idea, I will learn this method without hesitation. I can learn it. I have to praise myself. So using rational and logical ways to face work is a requirement for me. And I can do it. And I think I can have feelings for my friends who have worked with me.

但它会让我不健康 就是它会让我不健康 然后在这里边我怎么找到那一个突然间 突然间把自己的精神放出出去的那个窗口呢 就是如果我一直要在这种 我自己意识到的压抑和压制里边 要去找一个不完全窒息的理由 那我能找到的是什么呢

OK, except for the birth of a work from nothing, and he must have experienced these uncontrollable crises and its length and its longitude. If there is anything else besides this, I think I can put it a little bit.

That's the same as everyone else, and everyone's common life habits. Like, going on vacation, spending money, spending the money you make, and then consuming it. Spending the money you make by staying up late, and then... well, this, this, this... On one hand, you're tired, and on the other hand, you're feeling like you're feeling down. And then you make this money, and then you give it to a five-star hotel, right? To an airline.

It's like you're giving it to them and you've completed this part. This loop is coming back. It's stuck, right? It's like after you've charged up, you're back. And then you're sitting here. It doesn't feel like it's really solving the problem.

它没有在解决问题。 就这个不是一个度假能够, 一个休息能够解决的。 它能解决的,我斗胆猜测, 就是它能解决的唯一方式呢, 就是你彻底的生活习惯的转变, 和你人生目标的转变。 你不再立一个自己势必会痛苦的 flag, 而目标的转变是依赖于, 它不依赖于勇气,它依赖于经验。

就我觉得能提出一个准确且优秀的目标,一个合理的目标,他勇气只是很小的一方面,他当然需要勇气啊,因为没有勇气的人可能连目标都没有。 就是他需要的是经验,就相当于你如果不够会写字,你是没有资格去创作一本字帖的。

你当然可以写字,就是你写的不好看,你仍然有写字的权利。 但是你没有出字帖的权利。 就如果你要,呀这也不需要解释,我就很好懂。 就这感觉,就是你的目标是依赖于经验的。 那我这样我再重新的去反思,我 20 到 30 岁。 20 到 30 对我来说是人生非常奇幻的十年。 这个奇幻的十年...

嗯,它的奇幻点我觉得非常微妙的地方在于,它居然不是我此时此刻回看自己人生最有深刻印象的这十年。 我更有深刻印象的十年是在二十以前,是我的前二十年。 那二十到三十它是一个充满了这个波澜壮阔的,是……

嗯

只拿出 PVT 要融资 你融五千万我融两亿 然后每一个影视的立项里面的女主角都是范冰冰 每一个人都说她的这个剧组找到了范冰冰来演 就是那个时代 然后再到后面你看到的这些所谓的泡沫 在接二连三的破灭也好 和至今你对自己有多少

实在在能掌握的,就经历了这么长时间,你真的掌握了些什么东西吗? 还是这些东西可以轻易的都亏损掉,和可以光速的在从二三年之后或者哪年之后, 你就是觉得,嗨,你不得不承认,好像你要和这个世界一起去坠落。 所以这十年是一个,我觉得大伙还来不及消化, 就我恰好是二十到三十,那别人可能是不一样的。

But if you look back at the past, I think it was a very, very strange time. I can't even conclude. So the conclusions and methods he got were completely out of line and out of alignment in 2025. Is there an eternal law in this? Maybe there is, but the eternal law is not detailed enough.

就是那些永恒的规律你落实到具体的时间里面, 你还是不够用的,你的方法是不够用的。 但是你过去学到这十年学到的方法也不够用, 就是它也用不上了,这个劲儿也是不对的。 你会发现在原来是百战百胜的, 必对的行动,为什么到现在没有一样是好事的? 对吧,就比如说你是公关人, 你是广告人,你是干嘛的? 你是,你好像原来有一套就是,

按照我这个方法,这事儿绝对能成,它能成什么效果你心里绝对有数,但现在一个一个都应验不了了,我们都变得非常的离奇,这世界没有再按照你想象的,你以为你掌握了规律,但是那个规律只是一个特定的时空下的产物,而它换了一个时空,它就不是规律了,它都是偶然现象了。

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I can't say. I can't say. You're asking me to summarize the five values I believe in with white paper and black paper. What are they? Are they true? I can't say. I can't say. I really have to think for a long time. Maybe ten years ago, I would think that these five are not enough to write. But now I don't believe in any of them.