EP 67: “Bullies Fear Them, Besties Love Them: The Nurse Daddies Take Over”
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It says here, I had a miscarriage at work and I was forced and bullied to end this day. Oh my God. Damn, what is the story period? Oh my. To take a chef. Gross. Girl, time to find a new job. Hey, that's me, it's your favorite caffeinated, medicated, and never hydrated nurse, Nurse John. And welcome back to your favorite podcast.

podcast I beg your pardon hello besties another week another podcast together I miss you guys so much I hope you guys are doing well wherever you are listening right now at home at work driving don't drive actually I mean like you can drive you can listen to a podcast and drive that's fine yeah

I think it's actually a good thing. While you're driving, while you're doing laundry, grocery shopping, wherever you are right now, I hope life is good. I hope life is treating you well. And if it's not, remember there's another day to try again as long as you keep trying.

Anyways, you guys, I am currently right now in Portland, Maine, my first ever time here in the Lovester City. And I've been loving it. And the only reason why I'm here is because I just had a show here in Portland, Maine. I sold out show with a bunch of nurses. And actually, I'm with two of the funniest, two of the loveliest people here.

that I met in social media is the Nurse Daddy, Daddy Carlton right here, and Daddy Dazo. And they joined me here in Portland, Maine, and we had a blast, actually. Slay, we did have a blast. Yes, we're in Portland, Maine, not Portland, or gag. Nah, man.

In Oregon, Portland, Maine. And we had a performance. How did you like the performance, Daddy Dad, though? It was great. It was my nine-year-old moment when I started dancing to Madonna. Because when I was a little kid, my dad would say, why are you dancing to that music? It's for girls. It's for bad bitches. You know what I'm saying?

And the thing is, Daddy Dazo had his bad bitch moment on stage. It was great. I mean, I was honestly just have to be up there just shaking my booty. You were shaking your ass. And that was my game plan the whole time was to just find every straight man in the audience and shake my ass on him. Yeah.

And then we're having fun. We practice it once and we ate that up really good. 45 minutes into the show. Can you imagine? I know. And everyone loves the daddies. They just know the daddies are the hottest out there. You know what I mean? But yes, another episode. And I know you guys probably already know the nurse daddies. But I think before we start this whole podcast, though, for...

today, which is very interesting because it's not just an introduction or getting to know. We're actually going to bring you guys stories that you're probably going to want to know and want to hear. And we are basically your therapist for this week's episode of the I Beg Your Pardon podcast.

But before all of that, if you're listening right now, make sure that you follow us on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. Make sure that you share this amazing episode and all the other episodes that you love of the I Beg Your Pardon. Leave us a five-star review and make sure that you tell your friends to listen to this because this is free therapy for every single one of you guys. And also...

If you haven't gotten your tickets for the short stab tour, which you should because honestly, we are all having fun. What is your best favorite part of the short stab tour? What's my favorite? The dancing. The dancing. And of course, the warm and friendly people that were there, the nurses who were on their days off. And I think...

Maybe part of Portland's hospital system has been short-staffed last night because they were all there. Oh, my God. Absolutely. What's your favorite part of that, I call it? I think my favorite part, I think I have two things in mind. One thing is just seeing all the nurses and health care workers getting the night off to hang out and just kind of, you know, release and be together. And the second one, my favorite part of the show is when you do a little bit of a Q&A.

The Q&A. Yes. With the boyfriends, with the husband, with the partners. That was really fun. And I'm trying to watch them get kind of, you know, squirmed with their seats. Roasted. Exactly. Exactly. So if you haven't gotten your tickets and our North American tour is actually finishing soon. So if you still haven't gotten your tickets, go to www.NurseJohnNShows.com. Again, that's www.NurseJohnNShows.com. Get your tickets and come see us at a short staff tour. It's a fun night. Everyone shows everything.

basically every single one in that room is just people who wants to relate and who wants to laugh for a night and forget all of our problems because they're not going to go away. But one thing is for sure is that having fun will stay in your memory, just like the bad ones. You know what I mean? So go get your tickets. Come see me at a short staff tour and you're probably going to see the daddies a lot more. Oh,

Okay, so if you love the daddies and you want to see them on stage, it's your chance, baby. Another thing is if you guys are wondering what scrubs we...

bitches where it's the one and only guard malad that's g-a-r-d-e-m-a-l-a-d-e and you should definitely go get your squirrels in garmalab because we love them they're so comfy they're so stylish they release so much cute colors in this past few weeks they've been releasing um the the what's what's it called peach peach

Peach. We love this peach. They released that almost like matcha green. Lilac. Lilac and moss green. Moss. Moss green. That was really beautiful. Really love it. And so go get your scrubs now. What do you guys, what do you call this? Discount code so they can go get them. NurseDaddies10. So when you go to their website, use NurseDaddies10. When you go up,

Go to pay when you check out. Apply the code NURSE, that is 10. Exactly. And that is NURSE, that is 10. N-U-R-S-E-D-A-D-I-E-S. 10. So you can get a discount. Yeah, that is. And also, if you didn't know, I also have my first ever line of skincare. That is Philly Skin, Philly for Filipino, the...

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Now, since all of that is done, it's time for us to head to... I think we gotta give a little introduction of you guys because I'm pretty sure...

You know, there are some people out there who haven't heard of the Daddies, which they definitely do need to hear about you guys. So I think an introduction from you guys would be the best way to start this whole podcast. Let's start with Daddy Cotton. Okay. Yeah. So we are the Nurse Daddies. I guess I can kind of talk about how we met. Right. So we were working together in the emergency department.

in Boston. I was a travel nurse. And I just kind of started recording Daddy Dozzle one day at work as kind of a joke, post the video, and I kind of just took off from there. It was by total accident. And that's how the Nurse Daddies was born. And yeah, that's how we met. Oh my God. And so for you to nurse... Daddy Dozzle.

How we met actually was, he was a brand new traveler to our emergency room department. I mean, emergency room. Where did you guys work? Oh, so we work at the trauma center in Boston. Trauma center. By the way, you guys are trauma ERDSs? We do trauma and emergency at one of the world's best academic centers. Period. Okay. Period.

Yeah, he was a traveler. This was towards the end of the pandemic. And so all the girls were buzzing like, oh, there's a new traveler. He's kind of cute. I'm like, OK. And he was staring at my butt. That's why he was. I wasn't really. But it was kind of impressive. He was sitting on the other end of the desk. And I looked over. I'm like, oh, oh, that's a new traveler. And I kind of wanted to be friendly with him. But I don't know how to break the ice.

I saw he was wearing a ring. So I said, oh, that's a nice ring. And then he was like, oh, it's my engagement ring. I'm like, oh, okay. Period. Yes. But then, of course, my mind was like, married to what? And I was like, is the person a nurse as well? Is the fiancé a nurse? Do you feel fiancé or fiance? No. Yeah, I'm going to say.

And he was like, oh, he's a flight attendant. So then I was like, oh, welcome to the family. Another Mo. So that's how we became friends. And, you know, and then he told me he's from Arizona. And, you know, and one thing led to another. Now we were making trips to New York. We were traveling actually together before the Mercedes even came about, right? Right. And then I took them to New York. They went to see their first Broadway show, which was Moulin Rouge. Okay, it was that. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, and then, you know, and then here we are. The rest is history. The rest is history. Everybody knows, to me, he was filming a lot of, you know, like, you know, your videos. Years ago.

And honestly, shout out to Daddy Calden for filming you because honestly, that was the funniest freaking thing ever. Because you are the most Filipino daddy ever. And so like when you just scream at him in Tagalog, it's so like...

It's so Filipino motherly. Yeah. Wait a second. What did you say? You know what that? Yeah. Oh, my God.

So it's basically a curse word. Yeah, it's a curse word, but it's a curse word in Cebuano. Oh, so yeah. So now it's such a... Oh my God. I'm sorry. It's okay. We can actually cuss in here. People, whoever's listening right now, we can cuss in here and nobody's probably gonna know, but it's basically a fucking... And...

Anyway, so you guys met. You guys became a tandem and people love the tandem. Honestly, I think you guys made it so fun for a lot of nurses. I think you guys as a niche is so much needed because it shows that

You know, you can be friends with people at work in nursing because there is a saying that you should not be friends with people at work, right? Because it's hard and you don't know these people and if their intentions are good. But honestly, like I said, even in my tour, I keep telling people, I was like, listen, these people that you work with, you see these people more than you see your family. It's true. And they're people...

You share so much trauma with these people and there's no one else who

Apart from your coworkers who would understand how heavy the shit you'd seen, you've heard, you've felt, you've all of this. Because none of the people that is not healthcare in your life would ever understand unless they've seen it with you. Because, I mean, you can't expect other people to understand if they're not seeing that. And that's kind of what I tell any nursing student who asks us for advice. I always, like, the first thing I say is to find your friends and your people in school because...

nobody else is going to understand what you're going through. So yeah, I think it's important to have that friendship and the camaraderie, like especially with people that you're having to work with and see every single day. That's so true. Yeah, and a collective effort to really work on certain things that, you know, it's like when you're working together, you just kind of bond on certain, I mean, I think it's a trauma bond. It is trauma. Yeah, that makes you really work well together. But sometimes, you know, you may not be able to...

agree with each other, but you always find that little something that you agree on, you compromise on certain things, and that's just how it is. And I guess, like, I mean, that's kind of like how friendship is anyways. It's compromise. Like, you will never always agree with things. Just like in nursing, like, we all have our ways of doing things, which is totally fine. But at the end of the day, I think we have one common goal in nursing, and that is to make sure that this patient gets the care that they need. Exactly.

You know, like we fight and everything. But at the end of the night, like at the end of the fucking shift, we're like, do you guys want to get mimosa? Do you guys want to fucking eat? I think that's literally, it's trauma bound. And like, that's the essence. That's the whole essence of why our community is so, like so tightly knit together. It's because no matter how shitty our day was, at the end of the day, we just laugh at it. Because that's the only way we could actually do, like,

I guess, like cope with the whole thing. Are you also an ED trauma nurse? So I'm only, it's actually true in my, you know how I tell my jokes of like, I've been to the ED for like two, three months. It is true. Yeah. Because I was in med, med search transplant for three,

Almost three and a half years. And that's kind of like where I started. But I was working there as a tech before. Oh, right. So you kind of know. Yeah, I kind of know everything. And I did my clinicals there too.

And they, you know how like when you work in certain unit, you just get used to it. People kind of love you. And they're like, Hey, like if you graduate as a nurse, maybe you want to come work here and stuff like that. Yeah. And so I was just like, you know what? Let me come work in here. I already know everyone. I already know how everything is. Like it's easier for myself to work in med surge. And so I, I'm more of a med surge more than ER, but like,

the funny thing is like and people don't realize how med surge is basically er psych fucking cardiac fucking labor and delivery fucking everything rolled into one yes exactly so it's basically ed but you don't get the pay you don't get the extra stuff that you get from ed but it's just harder yeah i started med surge yeah my first job because the same thing i was

a student capstone on a med-surg unit, and that's where I started. And then once the pandemic hit, I went into the ED, and then I went to the ICU, and then I went back to the ED, and that's when I traveled, and that's when we met, was when I went back to travel nursing. And your history, Daddy Dasso, of working, where have you worked the most? So I've done accident and emergency in the Middle East, as well as doing acute psych care.

And then when I moved to the U.S., I did, I was a night supervisor at the skilled nursing facility for a little bit. And then I did emergency nursing. That's what I did. So you've always been in the ED. Yes. Yeah. There was a little bit of a break because when I first came to America, I had to study for the exam, had to sit down. And then, in fact, I spent a semester doing clinicals in Chicago because that in, I'm

I'm not sure if it's 2001 or 2000 that Illinois had a new law where people from foreign countries, graduates of foreign nursing schools, needs to go back for a semester of clinical neuropsych. So I did that clinicals for one semester. And then from then on, I went to do a skilled nursing facility. Then I did, I mean, there was a short stint and then I did emergency room.

Oh, my God. Yeah. Oh, my God. Anyway, so you've been basically always in the chaos.

always amidst chaos. I thrive. I think I thrive in organized chaos, which is why I love emergency room nursing. I could never do anything else other than emergency room nursing, I think. I mean, I've been in this institution where we are right now. I've been there for 17, for the past 17 years since I came, since I moved to Boston from Chicago. So I don't think I see myself retiring maybe from there. Because you're Filipino. You never retire.

I know, but I am breaking that because in five years, I'm going to try and retire. My hospital allows us to do an 11-month sabbatical. And if you want to come back, you have to make sure you have to come back before the year ends. And you can keep your seniority, I think.

And then you can go back to work. But you will need to probably be rehired if the position is still open. Or you can go somewhere else. But at least you keep your seniority before the end of the year.

Okay. Oh my gosh. Wow, that's insane. I mean, how long have you been a nurse, Daddy Colton? I graduated in 2018, so it'll be seven years this year. Oh my God, you've been a nurse longer than I did. Oh, really? Well, how old are you? 29. I'm 29. So you're a 95 baby. 96. I was born in January of 96.

What? Wait, I'm older? I had to repeat some high school when I moved to Canada. So like that was harder for me. That's why like I'm backed up with everything. Oh, so you were born in 95? I was born in 95. I'm turning 30 in like three weeks. But 30, do not ask me about age. But let me just do four-week girl class. Can we pause for a minute? Because I think I need to look at my makeup. I'm done.

Derek, don't screw up. Okay, guys. I'm so sorry, but Daddy Dazzo has to pause. Okay, go pause. But Daddy Dazzo, how long have you been a nurse? We don't have to... Okay, long before you were born. Both of you. Not long before, just about how long I've been before. I've been a nurse since 1994. Okay, so it's like a year or two. A year before I was created.

Yeah, I know. But look at your glowing skin. But look at your glowing skin. Okay, this is another episode for a podcast. Daddy Nasa's skincare routine. Okay, so that is nice to know.

You guys got a little introduction of the two daddies. They're amazing. They're such genuine people and they're just so happy to exist, basically. If you guys haven't followed them, you should definitely come and follow daddies because they're amazing. I love them so much.

Anyways, we are heading to the best part of this podcast because this podcast, actually, we're going to read you guys stories. And for this episode of the I Beg Your Pardon podcast, we will be reading stories of bullying at workplace. Yeah, we went from happy to very dark and negative, but this is something...

but very important that I think we have to talk about because we have like basically three generation of nurses here from Boomer. I'm sorry. I'm like yawning. You know what? It's actually like 11 p.m. and Daddy Dazo's bedtime is there four hours ago. And he's tweaking right now.

Wow, you're so true. I go to bed at like, the latest, like 9.30. But mind you, I have to be up by 3 because I usually pick up 4 a.m. chefs. He's crazy. I do not. 4 a.m. He's so Filipino with this like attitude in ways. But anyway, so we're going to be reading you guys stories that you guys have submitted and have shared. And thank you guys so much. All of these stories are going to stay anonymous forever.

And we're just going to be reading these stories and we're going to give you guys some of our advices, experience from working as a nurse and what you could do for yourself. And let's hop on it. Let's hop on it. Okay, let's go. I'm going to do the first. I'm going to read you guys the first story. So our first story.

Oh my god. Damn, what is the story period? Oh my... What?

Yeah, that's my advice. First of all, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that you had a miscarriage. And secondly, I apologize in part of our nursing community because those motherfuckers literally made you stay after having a miscarriage. That's fucked up. Okay? My advice, my first advice for you, girl, is that

you didn't deserve those people or you didn't deserve to be in that job. Because if they care more about you taking a shift than you literally losing something that was part of you and probably affecting you physically, mentally, and emotionally, those people, there's place for in hell for those people. That's all I can say. Here we go, De'Arian. Why would I say? I mean...

Sometimes you really have to set up for yourself, you know, if you feel like you've been wrong. But that, you know, a miscarriage while at work, I would just say I would my feet underground. I said, I am going home. I cannot do this shift. And that's it. You know, don't be bullied into finishing your shift. That's why, you know, you're for me, all of us nurses, I feel that we're just a number as soon as, you know.

we do something wrong, we can easily let go. So I should just, I'm sorry, I can't do the shift today. I need to go home.

period that it calls yeah i think i mean i think it's you know easy to say uh you know obviously go find a new job but i think you know putting this into perspective that maybe you know this person supports a family it's not that easy to just like walk out and go find something new um i think that that's just yeah it's a really terrible situation to be in and the best advice i would give is to you know not work in an environment like that um and just to

seek jobs elsewhere, honestly. Because nobody should be treated like that. Yeah, that's a terrible working condition. And unfortunately, there are places I think like that all over the country.

That's very insane. A miscarriage. Sorry, but that, I guess, I hope you're fine. I hope you're fine now. I hope you found a job that actually treats you right. And you've served to be treated right. And we all deserve to be treated right as a human being before we are nurses. Period. That is called NACA's story. Okay. My boss used to slap my hand when she didn't like the way I held the syringes.

The day of my horrific car accident, I broke my back. My boss called me back after I told her I wasn't going to be in that day. Told me I better be there that Saturday in three days because we were short-staffed. She called me the wrong name for nine years. Wow. Well, there's how many? Oh my god. Let me count. Okay, first slapping the back of the aunt. Calling back after I told her I wasn't going to be that day. And then not knowing your name for three years. I'm like...

Okay, this is a girl, bye. Yeah. And where are these places? You're like, are you at piano school? And that was back in the day. Yeah, I'm like, excuse me, where are you? No. Which hospital is that? Make sure that the hospital will get the name. Don't send us letters to us. I'm like, how are we in 2025 and these things are still happening? Like, I... You know, I have no words. Yeah, I think there's just like,

really shitty facility and if you live in a small town and the only hospital that is available to you is just that hospital it's hard it's hard to get out from that situation yeah point yeah but also like again like we can't really speak for these people's shoes because we're not in their um

you know, life and stuff. But honestly, like, if you're in a small city and you have a hospital and the only hospital you have is a shitty hospital, girl, time to fucking travel. Like, time to get out of that fucking city. Like, do something. Like, again, like,

You don't want to turn your passion into something that you hate just because you're scared that this is the only job that you will ever get. Because I think a lot of nurses are scared to leave a job because like, you know, oh, I've been working here like five years ago or like five years now or 10 or 20. Like, girl, like.

And so is so many nurses who are leaving two weeks after. If you're not happy, leave. Right. And nurses need to realize that we really are in the driver's seat as far as like there's jobs everywhere. Driver's seat. Like there are literally jobs anywhere you want to go. And that's what he's been advocating for for the longest time that I've known him. You've always advocated for that. Like if you're not happy with what you're doing right now. Yeah. Right. We spend so much of our time at work. Yeah.

I mean, right? Like, why be so miserable and unhappy at what you're doing? Like, there's really no... There's so much options out there. Like, you could really pick your, you know, whatever Bible you want to pick. Yeah. I love that. Now, Daddy, it's not for you to read this. What is this? This is very long. It's enough. Is... Is your eye... I'm like... Okay. Okay.

Boy, I didn't have to say that. I was about to take this off because I really have to. Oh, you really have to. Yeah, it's focused. Okay, this is going to be a hard one. Guys, give that to someone. It's like two paragraphs, but what? Over 120 words. I'll make it 250. Okay, this is from someone. I don't know where she's at, but when I was a PCT in an ICU, I had a nurse hunt me down on my break.

Okay. Wow. She can do this to herself? Yay!

She's spicy. You see, she's spicy. I, too, never had another problem with her. This is one instance of many with various nurses, but I always stood up for myself. Good job, girlfriend. Respectfully. Once I graduated, I vowed to never treat anyone like that. The hospital took the majority of our PCTs away in the ICU, but my girls always had my back because I never treated them poorly and only asked for help when I actually needed it.

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Stock open. I couldn't hear it because of the negative pressure and didn't realize until it was in the hallway. I was especially busy that day and my sweet housekeeper cleaned it up for me.

Oh, she already had all the answers too. She's probably just sharing her experiences with how some nurses, yes, I know, like if they're busy, like, okay, if they're busy and you want to do your acu-check every hour, especially because that's probably a patient that's ICU bound or, oh, she's in the ICU. She has a PCT. So they're hyperglycemia. You have to check every hour because the patient, as I say, on a

an insulin drip. But you know, for you to find the person to do it and to go down to the cafeteria, I'm pretty sure the cafeteria is not the same for as the ICU.

You could have done it. And that is a team effort from nurses. Yeah, it is within a nurse's scope to check a blood sugar. And just like she said, her hunting her down, she literally could have done it herself. Exactly. And at the end of the day, it is actually the nurse's job. Yeah, and it's a shared responsibility. I really understand that. But if we're all sitting and not doing anything, then I would ask you to do it. But if, you

you know, if I know you're busy or if you're on your break, I would gladly do it. And make sure that your badge still works because when you scan that barcode, you're like, maybe he didn't see. Right? Mine doesn't always work. Exactly. And another thing is that I think I just want to recognize every CNA, PC, DL, every single one of you guys. I've,

You know, like, don't be pissed at me that I didn't mention you. But you know what I mean. Every single Warranty Healthcare worker, we're all equal in it. And we all deserve to be respected. And I just want to give a shout out to our CNAs, PCTs, all these techs. Because honestly, it is true that there are nurses out there who take advantages of these people and say, like, well, that's your job now.

because you are basically helping me. These people are not your bitches. These people are not lower than you. These people are here to help you balance the work so that you guys don't drown. But that doesn't mean you're going to sit there in a nursing station, let these people do that. I would never in a million fucking years sit there and watch my CNA fucking struggle alone.

If I am not busy, and again, this is the context of if you're busy, if you're busy and you're really doing something, sure. But if you are there and you have a minute, it doesn't matter if you haven't sat down. I think, again, I would not just sit down in there and watch them do it because it's easier for me to help these people so that we can both sit down. If me and my CNAs and my techs are sitting down, we know that we did our fucking job.

And that's like the best feeling ever. Fair. When I was, where I'm from, I know some nursing schools still do this, but a lot of them, like I said, back where I was from, they would require you to have your CNA before you can even apply to a nursing school. And I think that that was actually very beneficial for people to see and work in that job before being a nurse because it's like a, you know, remember where you came from type of thing where it's just skipping over that step and never understanding what it's like to like be in that role and have nurses treat you like less than.

Hm?

Exactly. Oh, we love you. And like, we hope that you got a daisy. Or a tulip. I think it's a tulip for the CNAs. Yes, I think it's a tulip, yeah. Well, she's a nurse now. Oh, she's a nurse now. She'll get a daisy. And that's good that you take those negativity and turn it into something positive because you should not end up the way you were treated because if you end up the way people treated you, you're exactly the same thing as them.

Like you don't give it back. You turn those negativity and make it positive so that this, you know, so other future nurses, techs or whatever don't have to go through that because it's shitty to go through that, I think.

Now, next. Had a boss write me up every single day for random crap because she didn't like me. Why? Because I refused to falsify documents for her. Oh, this is not a nurse. I work at an airport. You can go to jail for six years if you falsify records. So no, thank you. I ended up quitting and reporting her to ethics, but she still works there. All but one of my fellow supervisor ended up quitting too. It was a hot mess.

Girl, yeah. Sometimes you just gotta protect yourself. That's all you can do. Right. And the funny thing is, this is a worker from the airport, but it's so relatable into nursing because it's true. There are people out there who would ask you to falsify shit. And I'm like...

Baby, I am not risking my license, myself, and anything that I work hard for just so I can protect. Like, listen, at the end of the day, you make friends with these people. These people treat you right and whatnot. But if it starts going down in a rapid hole of like,

oh, like, I pull a fucking Dilaudid and please don't tell anyone. I don't fucking do that. That's a hot mess right there. That's basically, you know... Not going to jail for it. Illegal shit. Right. But you can back type Tylenol, I mean. I mean, I've taken Tylenol at work. I've taken nausea pills at work. Right.

And the funny thing is like, you know, Canadian healthcare system and American healthcare system is so different. Like, that's honestly one thing I can fill you guys up in is like, when I moved to America, I just realized how you guys basically live on suing people.

I'm sorry to say this because this is actually true because every single fucking billboard that you guys have is like... Call Anthony something for if you... Do you have an Uber problem? Sue, do you have walking... Sue, like... If your family member had acquired or ulcers while in the hospital, please call 1-800-STITCH-ME-UP.

Fuck. Later. Nobody qualified for compensation. You might not. It's so capi- Like, it's such a capitalist- Oh, of course. Fucking country because we don't have this. Like, we don't get sued for it. And again, there are shit that happens in the hospital that people in the public would never ever fucking know.

And to judge us nurses for that, you gotta be in our shoes first before you can tell me how to do my fucking job. And period. Period. Period. Nicks. Sorry. Oh, alright. When did you get all these questions today? Oh my god, every single day. Yeah, I was in the DMs, girl. Uh-huh. Okay.

I had been in the service industry, Sand Girl, for many years. I'll never forget the day that I chose pizza over salad for lunch. I was in my early 20s and had lost a ton of weight after having my first child. One day, I decided to order pizza for my lunch instead of my typical salad. My boss took notice of this, proceeded to call me a pig, and started making... Oh, I know. Noises. This is really sad, but I'm sorry. Making snorting noises. I wish I could say...

That was the one and only time he did it. So I started telling my patrons and they started leaving interesting Google reviews. Okay. That is very inappropriate. Very. And sad. Good for you for making, I mean, healthier choices. And then for somebody to then, like, degrade you like that. That's not okay. It's actually a reflection of the other's unspoken. You know, there's nothing wrong with you. It's him.

There's something wrong with that. And I think a lot, like one thing I realized in life as I grow older is that miserable people will do anything to make someone who's not miserable, miserable.

And that is just something that you cannot change. And it should never affect you because, again, it doesn't describe who you are. It describes them and the struggles that they're going through. And the problem is they cannot handle it themselves. They have to, you know, pass it on to somebody else who's actually doing a better job than them. Sorry. That's all. That's all. Nyx. Oh, is it my turn now? Oh, my God. You always get the long ones.

We just want to hear you read. Yeah, we just want to hear you read. All right. Okay. All right. Here's a question. What is this? I'm not sure. Had a nurse come up

Come get me on my break. Oh my god, it's a good... Another break? Oh my... No one's getting great. Oh wait, no one's getting... Where is this hospital? I don't know. Maybe they came from the same hospital. Maybe. I'm trying to say you needed to go change a pillow... Oh, come on. A pillowcase for a resident that vomited on it when I was a CNA. I vowed to never be that type of nurse. She didn't get far when I stared at her like she had two heads.

I told her I was on my break and I would not be leaving break. She found someone else to do it. Other than that, had an MD that wanted me written up for calling to clarify an order, he wrote in the chart no one could read. This was also against policy of that hospital. All physicians were required to enter orders electronically. Thankfully, the charge nurse and manager told him no.

I was going to say, where are you working? Some writing orders. Who writes orders? And it's true. It's like the audacity for people to be following these employees to give them tasks. I don't understand. Oh, okay. So many... And to be on your break and for someone to bother you on your break. This changed you a lot, guys. Like, some people just...

Like, more than that, people thinking that you're lazy for not changing that pillowcase, they're actually the lazy one because they could have done it themselves, but they had to ask someone to do it. Like, how much time and energy do you have to find someone on their brain just to ask them to change a pillow that you could have done? Right. Like, what the fuck is that? That is actually insane. I think that also maybe, like, I'm not sure. Maybe, like, that person is a slave driver? Yeah.

What? The slave driver. You know how sometimes people just think that, like, I can just order you to do this, do that, do this, do that. Okay. People like that. It's true. Some people... Driver. Driver.

That's Barry. No, it's okay. Correct. You know, English is not our first language, okay? We use what we can. Anytime he says this to me because whenever we travel, he irons my clothes. Or if I ask him to, he says, oh, is it because I'm Filipino or you still wear white and I'm a brown boy? I'm like, oh my God, I just, I don't know how to iron.

We were taught to iron our clothes because we were chill. Especially if you have a military-trained father. Oh my god, your dad is in the military? He went to Sakhia, some sort. Some sort, okay. I'm going to iron my scrubs today. Next story. I experienced terrible bullying from a ward manager when I first qualified in the UK. Oh my god, we're going to the UK.

Nurse joined the daddies who are going to London, England. Spent weeks and weeks crying and tried to understand her behavior of slagging me off in front of the patient and telling me how rubbish. Oh my God, this is so English. Rubbish. And slow, I was in front of the whole nursing staff on ward rounds. I tried to talk to her about things. She just got worse and threatened to ruin my reputation and threatened me if I left her ward.

I went to see the union. They told me she was too valuable and got good results and that I was newly qualified. I left the job, got myself a job in a different department, wrote an article on bullying, submitted it to the British Nursing Magazine, oh my God, and got published and paid for it.

How you do it, right? That's how you do it. I took a copy to the ward where she worked and left it on her desk in her office. Oh my God. Wow. What a flop to review. It's the pettiness for me. I'm fearful. You know what? You did this very correctly. You went up your chain of command. Nobody was helping you. You got the hell out. And then look what you did. And I love this. And this is the kind of

petty I am, I guess, to people who doesn't like me is that I would never revenge on someone. My revenge is my success. Yes. Like I said, there's something that says about it. Like, you know... What is that? I forgot. I read somewhere. I just don't remember. I'm old and it's late. But yeah, like, success speaks louder than anything that you do. Like, again, you were, like...

Mind your business. Do your job. Do whatever the hell you need. Again, people who are struggling with their own stuff needs to find a way to

to make other feels that way because they cannot be the only one doing it and like get it like get getting affected by those people will just like you know stop you from like progressing and growing as a person so you just keep going you keep going you mind your business and you do your stuff and you know karma will come back to you that's basically it yep i love that next oh

I keep almost reading the names. I know. I know. It was tattooed. And this is from Stoops. Okay. I was a student nurse and it was our first day of clinical. My charting was not perfect, of course. My clinical instructor shouted at me in front of my classmates asking why my charting was not according to how he wanted it word for word. Some people are just mean and unprofessional. Okay. First of all, mean instructors are the worst. And I'm trying to think from my nursery school experience, I don't think I ever had any mean

mean instructors, thankfully, in nursing school. But I feel like especially at that point in your career, like it is just a special kind of evil to be traumatizing people already as we're like taking in so much information and you're not expected to even know. How would you even know how to turn that into a nursing student? Yeah, but others actually thrive in that environment where they feel like they could eat their young or something to the effect. Or even like, you know, it's a badge of honor for them that people fear them.

Why? Like, you know, like instilling fear in your students doesn't mean that they'll learn better and they'll learn faster. It's just creates fear. You know, it's like, it's almost like fear mongering. Why do you do that? I don't, I don't know why. Creating like trauma and stuff. Right. And it just creates trauma for these kids. Like when, especially if they're learning, you should be at least. But I think it also goes back to the generation where

If, you know, if they're strict and stern, people learn better. Because I think I learned that from experience with my dad. Right. Yeah. That's kind of like just a Filipino experience. Honestly, though, like it's true. Like when I be my instructor, I'm an instructor, but like I've had that situation where I remember one of my friends,

clinical instructor which she was actually basically the head of the department of nursing at that point and i remember um struggling with care plans which you will never fucking use just to let you know never fucking use a care plan because you don't even got time to fucking like sit down and charge so care don't exist okay i'm so sorry and like

to the very, very nitpicky, like, oh, but care plan is important. Tell me that. Not important. Tell me that when we are fully fucking stabbed. Busy work. Busy ass fucking work. Honestly, in nursing now, you just try to make it alive for yourself and for your patient at this point. That's the whole truth about it. I have had experience when I was in college. This was...

This was, I think, the most difficult semester. This is medical surgical nursing. We call it Nursing 103. It's the first semester on your third year in nursing school. And our instructor was the dean of nursing. Oh, my God. And she was notorious, known to literally yell at you. And we have graded recitation where you have to stand up and answer her questions.

And kind of like she, not shame, I think she's still alive. I saw her last time at a reunion. Anyway. Yes, this was kind of, I remember her face and how she was like, no, Mr. Dazza, that's not the correct answer. I was like, really?

And I'm like, oh, no, I gave you the right answer. I know it was about prostaglandins. Can you imagine? They'll remember. It's that with me because I was kind of traumatized by it. And then literally before the class ended, I said, I raised my hand. I said, Dean, we call her Dean because she was the Dean of Nursing. I think you were wrong when you told me that that did this and that, yada, yada, yada. And she's like, okay.

I don't know. I think sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself. That's right. Yeah, there are just people out there, really, that they never ever want to be wrong, even though they're wrong. They have a tendency. Again, it's trauma. Trauma that you've kind of, like, grown when you were a child. That's why, like, honestly, when I got into therapy, like, one thing I've learned is that a lot of the reason why you are the way you are is because of your childhood.

And everything goes back to when you were a kid and what happened when you were a kid. And so for all the people who's making fun of this, you know, in TikTok, they're showing like a gentle parenting for kids. Like, it's okay. Like you can hit, it's fine for now because that's actually how kids are. Like, it's fine. But I think raising your kid in a gentle way and more of like an open way instead of like,

This very fearful, like almost like a, what do you call this? Military ways of raising kids. Like I'm your parent. I'm strict and very like, I'm your parent. I know everything is right. This and this and this. It changes everything for the kid when they grew up because they become more kind.

There's no trauma built into them. And like it lessen how they are, their personality is when they start going out in public, you know, socializing and stuff like that. It's very true. I'm currently unpacking all this in therapy, so I will. Oh my God, you're in therapy too? Oh my God, yes. Therapy is so nice. You guys, you should try. Are you in therapy? So are you just on like shopping therapy? Travel, shopping, and dining therapy. Okay.

And yeah, Daddy Colton always tells me, it's not a badge of honor that you're not at therapy. I'm sorry. I never had to go to therapy. Okay, well, I do. I do. And one thing I can tell you, Daddy Dazo, is like learning to go to therapy was a struggle to me too because growing as a Filipino, having the same culture that we have,

Therapy makes you feel like as a Filipino is that you're fucking insane. You're not insane. You just have things, flaws that you need to work on and sometimes a train...

A stranger just has to tell you that. Like the same exact things. Like what I've learned in therapy is like there are things that I tell myself that it doesn't work. But someone who's a stranger to my life telling it to me actually fucking works. And I don't know what the fucking psychological shit from that, but it does work. Yeah. So go to therapy. Period. Period. And shopping too.

I think that's a shopping therapy, retail therapy, vacation therapy, and like food therapy work still. I think so too. Yeah. You just have to have the means for it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Being told I was the wrong caller for the job. Oh, God. Sounds a little... I work for a large school district and had a great relationship with the students. It was an awful blow to my self-esteem, even though I knew I was the best choice for the job. Okay. So, first of all, it's 2025. Right. We all exist. And... But we also have to, I guess...

just you know uh what do you call this i'm losing my shit uh uh recognize the fact that racism does exist and it does exist for us like minorities and people of colors in north america it is true because like i remember one time like like it was like subtle microaggression of like racism of like

I remember going to our patient's room and like the wife and my patient was like, oh my God, like I was in the Vietnam War. You know that my joke in my thing, my comedy, it's true. They're like, oh my God, like my husband fought in the Vietnam War, but these four are so nice. But he said, I don't do nails. Like, I'm the wrong Asian.

I don't know. I have clean asses. I'm the wrong Asian. I was like, it's so funny because the Indians are the Uber drivers. Oh my God. Vietnamese are the nail techs. The Filipino are the ass wipers. That's weird. And,

It's even like the same thing if a male walks into the room and they immediately think it's his doctor. It's like, girl. Most older patients, the older population thinks that every male person in healthcare is a doctor and every woman is a nurse. Even female doctors, they call them nurse. I'm like, no, that's your doctor. I'm your nurse. She's like, huh?

Like, no. But she's so young. But yes, and she's a woman. Yes, she's your doctor. They're like so stuck in that. Yeah. But I think it's the older generation. But it's very true with, especially, I know I'm color. I'm a person of color. And, you know, we are our country's biggest export. Not as being an export like she is.

Now that we got tariff in, it's going to take a lot for you guys to export Filipino nurses. Okay. 25%. Yeah. Now it's a lot of tall you guys. Mix. Okay.

Alright, my very first nursing job, my unit manager gave me the worst patients every day. I cried in the med room every night. I averaged 12 to 14 patients a night. Oh my god, run fast. My very first coach, he sat at the nurse's station and never offered support or help. Never stepped foot in the room. I'll never forget that looking back.

Looking back, though, it made me a stronger nurse. Yes, I understand that perspective because when you come from a facility that is just like a dumpster fire total shit show, I think it really does...

in some way make you a better nurse and able to handle things but it doesn't make it okay to have to go through those kinds of things at 12 to 14 patients it's just insane like and it's unsafe and nobody can take care of that many people um i'm very sorry that that happened to you especially after your first coke that's also something very traumatizing that there should be like resources for you to process that um to help you also all these people just need new jobs

I think so too. What facilities, what hospital is that? I mean, like, run now. Run it fast. Oh my God. But again, it's like I said, I know it's like a bit, let's just say that. But if any way you possibly can, don't put yourself in those situations. Right. But to make a negative thing to be positive, I think that they get better, you know, handle, you know, karate codes and being able to

Take care of, oh God, that's a huge load. 14 patients, 12 to 14 patients. Who does that? I mean, it's so sad though. I'm so sorry.

And it's true that there are facilities out there that, you know, pay, like, they really do be handling, like, 14, 15, 20 patients. That is insane. Like, a nurse should only be handling maximum four patients. And the two of those patients can be critical, but the other two has to be stable. Or lighter. Or lighter. Like, but it's insane now that, like, you can have three nurses

like critical patient and the other one is also like version of being critical and it's normal like fighting for your life and it's normalized in our profession that it's okay to have those kind of things and it's just anyways girl we hope that you're good now okay i hope she finds a new job we love you okay we love you next oh my god why is it it's always the long ones okay i'm not complaining yes

My mom had just been diagnosed with breast cancer for a second time, and this time it was stage 4. I'm so sorry. I rung her on my lunch break in the break room. There was nowhere else for me to call her. I didn't call her in front of my clients. It was on my break and not on company time. Okay, so...

She's not in hospital, I think. I was told I wasn't allowed to call my recently diagnosed mom. She's from the UK because she spells mom, N-U-M, because it made people uncomfortable. I have never been so furious in my entire life. I saw red, laughed, and walked out.

came back in and somehow managed to explain that there is literally nowhere else to ring her. The manager agreed, but she had to bring it up, told me to take as long as needed, and she'd be having worries with the people involved, but she couldn't see how angry I was. I think people forget that we're humans first. Right. Before these jobs. Yeah. I don't know what the policy is. She was calling to ring her mother.

In the break. In her lunch break. In the break room. Yeah. I think what's happening is she was at work. She found that her mother had a stage four breast cancer. And she called her mother as she fucking should. Because if it was my mom and something like that so heavy happened, I will speak to my mom. I don't care. I will sit the fuck down because that's not like a fever. If it was a fever, I would probably be like, okay, let me finish my fucking job and do my shit. Like, even if I'm at work...

And I'm doing something. And it's about my family. I would take that call. About my family. Just because. If you guys can care so much about your family. Just like. How some fucking family members out there be like. My dad has been waiting on the ice just for five minutes. Well.

Knowing that your mom was just diagnosed with goddamn breast cancer, stage four breast cancer, not even a fucking polyps, okay? I would sit the fuck down and know what the fuck is happening with my mom. No question asked. I will lose that fucking job, but I will never lose my fucking mom. I mean, in that...

sense like it's 50-50 kind of situation like it's insane yeah period slay slay slay hurry up I can slip I mean they next I was a newly grad in licensed art and my preceptor told me to shut my mouth when I offered help to

to a blind patient with herniated disc in her back who just wanted her cup of coffee. She then told me that it wasn't my job to clean up vomit on a patient who was handicapped, and I cleaned him up before clocking out anyways. She then lied to me about what type of car she drove when I was trying to make small talk to get to know her, and the same day when we were leaving the hospital, she was in a 3 Series BMW. Ha ha.

Sorry, Wolfie's so funny. She was so atrocious to me and I vowed I would never be like her. Okay. Again, like, I don't understand this, like, instructor who are so miserable in life and then bring it to, like, future nursing students. Again, this nursing students, you guys are, like, the parents of these people. Sure. And, like, once you send them off to college or to after teenage, which is basically nursing...

They become who you treat them. And you guys are not realizing that this is what makes bully nurses, hateful nurses, and all these other kind of nurses. Other than the fact that there are some trauma and some shit that we don't know about other nurses. But big factor of why some nurses are really are mean is because of how they were treated. And fortunately, unfortunately, some nurses,

take that and turn it into positive, but some... Continue that. Continue the cycle of toxic shit. Some think, like, if I went through that, you have to go through that. I will say...

I felt very lucky in the sense that my, and my preceptors as a new grad nurse were like the most amazing nurses. Actually, one of them is still like my very best friend to this day. Um, and so I think it's so important to have nurses who will mentor you, um, at that time in your career, especially because it's such a formative time. I mean, you're learning how to take care of people. So my heart goes out to anybody who has those kinds of like preceptors that are bullying them. Um, cause you have no choice. I mean, that's, if that's who you get stuck with, it really sucks.

Yeah. Here you go, Daddy. We got two more. Two more. Okay. Is it this bottom one? Mm-hmm. Okay. I was suffering from PTSD from an abusive relationship. I escaped it. It's amazing. Was doing what I needed to do to get better. My boss at the time pulled me to the office with another manager. I was taking leave and they asked me why. Totally inappropriate. I decided to share with them like an idiot.

her response was we're not here to deal with the stuff that happened twenty years ago not knowing that i had escaped the relationship not months before not twenty years ago not knowing that i had escaped the relationship not months before not twenty years ago i then told her to never ask me again about my leave

She later also shared with the entire staff why I was not there in the staff meeting. Thanks, like from PW. May the Lord help whomever you are caring for as RN. They'll need it. Well, that's heavy. That's heavy as shit. I mean, like, I was just trying to think. Oh, my God. I think, like, first of all, like, I hope, like, whoever is listening in here and who's not a nurse knows

realize that we are actually human just because like this story of like abusive relationship and stuff like that we deal with this at work and imagine going through that

And then taking care of someone who's old. It's like, you know how your patients are medicated with the drug that you should be medicated with. Because you're going through the same thing. Like, I'm treating a depressed person while I'm fucking depressed. That is insane. Like, I don't know how we nurses or healthcare workers do it of how we function mentally and properly even now.

When we have those exact same fucking conditions as people are admitted for. I literally say this all the time. When people ask me the hardest part about nursing, you really think that it is taking care of people when you're not doing okay yourself. It is so hard to show up. And they always say like, oh, leave your problems at home. And it's like, yes, it sounds right in theory. But like when you get there, it's not easy. And so I always advise people, you know, to take care.

take care of yourself first because taking care of people is near impossible when you're really not doing okay yep and that's the hard part i guess because we're just so selfless and we always think about others because i think that's the reason why we're getting a nurse it's just like we just care so much about other people over ourselves yeah your own heart takes a takes a that's very true yeah exactly there's the whole reason why we're doing this

Is that, but you know, again, I could agree to read more about what Daddy Kaldan had said, that we got to take care of ourselves first before we could take care of others. But sometimes it's just hard. It's hard to do. That's why there's resources that you could, you know, you could use and, you know, reach out, talk to a friend, find somebody else, talk to a therapist or shop or travel or diet.

That is just so bougie for everyone else to like ever be. Okay, our last situation in here. I shattered my leg in five places. Holy shit. The worst of it being a tri... Oh my God. Okay, this is a very specific niche diagnosis. Trimolecular fracture of the ankle joint. Okay. Those of you in the orthopedic field know that it's a debilitating injury with a poor outcome.

I just had a baby less than a year ago, so I couldn't take FMLA leave as it's prohibited to for 12 months after maternity leave.

I had to go back to work two months later as I was out of sick leave and vacation time to med-surg. My unit manager would not let me use a crutch, cane, scooter, etc. She also forbade the charge nurse from assigning my patient's room close together. She said that was enabling me. I was in agony every day clutching the hallway's railings to hop to my patient's room.

It's two years later, I still have messed up ligaments in that joint and terrible pain every single day. I think this is one you need to find someone from the billboards when you go drive to work. You need to find a billboard. Yeah. Yeah. Call 1-800-SUE-THE-SUPERVISOR or 1-800-SUE-THE-HOSPITAL. I think you did that. I mean, yeah. Yeah. Very true. I mean, like you're like trying to lower my...

Trimelio. Trimelio. It's like a string of very bad luck. Yes, I'm so sorry. Yeah, but yeah, I think, yeah, you don't deserve that treatment.

Oh, my God. Like, hobbling to work. And wouldn't even put your patients, like, adjacent to each other. Well, no. Is she punishing you? Girl, they don't care. Yeah. They don't care. Like, at the end of the day, again, and I think another problem in some unit is the fact that this is so true, though, of, like...

They favor more of people who have worked there longer than those who just started. And they're like, oh, well, he's been here for 17 years and her job is good. I mean, if someone can treat someone like that, I'm pretty sure their job that they're doing is not good. They just know how to cover it up. Period. Period. Period.

Oh my god, that is a lot of like really heavy shit. It only just read, you guys. But I like hearted. I mean like it's like heart-wrenching. Heart-wrenching. And for us three comedic people to read this kind of shit, it's crazy. Yeah, we need chicken nuggets after this, which we're actually going to have some chicken wings and everything like that. But before we end this episode, I think it would be nice for...

you daddies to give this people who have shared their stories again thank you for every single one of you who have shared your stories I know it's not easy to talk about those kind of things because it kind of brings you back to the trauma and stuff like that but you know sometimes talking about those kind of things too helps you kind of like relieve yourself from that experience and it should never be like a nightmare for you to like go through but thank you again and I think our listeners right now would love to get you guys advice

as nurses and to those people who are dealing with this kind of stuff. Okay. Um, talk ago. No man's star. Yeah. Um, yes, I think my, my parting advice would be to kind of, we kind of touched on it. Um,

And like I said, I know we may be speaking from a point of privilege of just saying like find a new job. But even if you can't immediately find something new, I think just remembering that there's always a way out. You're never stuck in a situation even if it feels like you are. There's always a way out. You may just have to, you know, jump through a few extra hoops than somebody else to get there. But just remember like your job is something that you're going to have to show up to for so many hours of your life.

If you're miserable, if it's toxic, if it's draining your energy for whatever reason, then you need to prioritize yourself and take care of yourself because you have one life and work it out as soon as you can. Daddy Colton had said it very well, but to add to it,

I always come from a place of gratefulness. I'm always grateful for what I've been given. But if it's too much for you to bear, then you really have to weigh your options. There could be other things that you could possibly do, potentially do, and you could potentially do well. You don't have to dwell on something that's driving you crazy, that's driving you mad. If you have other options, explore other options. But always be thankful for whatever you're given. Period.

And for myself, only I can tell you guys is Daddy Dazo is falling asleep. And he has a headache. His blood sugar is dropping. His blood sugar is dropping. He hasn't eaten for two hours. Because even though we just ate. But, um...

Why? I didn't close my eyes when I was talking. You were literally like this, daddy, that. So I was like, that is such a Filipino Lola to do. But anyways, in my, we just got to keep it light hearted a bit, you guys, because it was so happy. But it was so happy. I was really happy.

Hey, guys. You could double down on the antidepressants. Oh, my God. But for me, again, like I always tell you, besties, it's realizing, again, at the end of the day, it's work and you're there to work and that whatever happens is

These people can be your friends. These people can be your family. Honestly, I have met so many people in my time as a nurse and these people become friends, like close friends, family and stuff like that. But at the end of the day, you should not risk your own life or risk your own mental health, physical and emotional health.

just for that same exact job that is like taking it away from you I think it's um it's good to recognize at the end of the day like that he called and said is that you're just a number in the healthcare system tomorrow they will find someone who does the same exact thing as you and hear that big waves are calling

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He's so old. Like my patient would literally burp with just nowhere. I was headed up. But yeah, you're just a number at the end of the day. And just like that, you know, don't sacrifice too much of yourself for this job. Even though, you know, already what you're giving to this job is enough. It's

Okay? Anything over that is just you as a person. But at the end of the day, again, like, if you are sacrificing this much and they cannot even give you a PTO a day off because they're short staffed, when you have taken so much over fucking time for that same fucking unit and have put yourself through that, like, the shithole of that unit, you don't deserve to be there. Like, don't get... Don't feel like you're...

You're weak or you're not good enough. You are good enough. And I can tell you right now, someone will hire you tomorrow. That's all I can tell you. So choose something that's making you happy. Choose something that's going to be good for yourself. If it's not nursing, again, another thing I keep telling people is that

If nursing is a struggle right now for you and it's taking a lot of thought in your life, try something else. If you want to be a hairdresser, if you want to be a florist, if you want to be a traveler, do whatever the hell you want. I've seen so many nurses out there who are doing other jobs than that and like do it.

A nurse can be the side hustle. Exactly. Your whole identity doesn't have to be a nurse. Exactly. Your whole personality. You can be like, oh my God, but I went through school. I've had a hard time getting through. I know. But again, if it's a lot right now, don't do it. It is too much. It is true. We're fucked up. Okay? So just save yourself and love yourself and know that you are human first before you're a nurse. And you are loved.

And you are what? Loved. Loved. Thank you guys so much for listening to this episode of your I Beg Your Pardon podcast. And I hope you guys learn something from us, from us, even though we're all tired right now because it's around like midnight and we had a show and we, Daddy Dazzo is, you know, past bedtime right now. Maybe too. And even, oh my God, you're Gen X, you're not Gen X, you're Benaniel.

Like on the cusp. Depends on where you look. It's the millennial gen Z. Yeah, we're basically old fuckers. You both are the same age. Are you younger? I'm older. I'm a year older. When is your birthday? May 8th. In three weeks. See, daddy daso is sundowning. Remember we talked about it all, sir. Oh my god, I would remember that.

Brewster's birthday. My 30th birthday. Yeah. Yeah. So thank you guys so much. And where can people find you guys in social media? We have our screeners, daddies, N-U-R-S-E-D-A-D-D-I-E-S on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook. Which I don't have access. Oh my God. We should just... We also seem to like figure out...

and uh daddy colton i know you've got a podcast you got some stuff going on share share it to them oh um i mean i do have a podcast but my personal podcast i've stopped doing but i have a new podcast coming up i don't know if i can announce it yet not yet well it i mean oh you can it'll get it i don't even have a name for it but it'll be coming out in a couple weeks so we'll be posting about it um it'll be on like the nurse.org platform um

Just wait for it and you'll see it. And again, follow the Nurse Daddies. They have so much in for themselves. It's 2025 and they are the best daddies out there. Again, thank you guys so much for watching this episode. Make sure that you follow us on Apple or Spotify podcast. Share this episode. Leave us a five star review and make sure that you get yourself some tour tickets and come see me on the short staff tour. And the daddies are going to be in some of those episodes.

Really surprising city. So you better get yourself some tickets. You know what I mean? And get your Philly Skin Care. www.phillyskin.com We love you guys so much. I will see you guys again for the next episode of your favorite caffeinated, medicated, never hydrated nurse, Nurse John. We love you guys. Bye. I'm off to bed now. We're going to send it to bed right now. We love you guys. Bye.