Episode 195 - I Will Never Be A Slave To A Sandwich
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You're listening to Don't Take Bullshit From Fuckers with your hosts Greg Barrett and Kane Holloway. Hello and welcome to Don't Take Bullshit From Fuckers. I'm Kane Holloway. My name is and will continue to be Greg Barrett, despite the fact that it should have been changed years ago. Yeah, a long time ago.

Yeah, I used to say I should have been Dane Cook when I had the chance. Yeah. And now I say I should have been Matt Rife. Do you have the abs for a Matt Rife? No, but I need a chin implant. I think you'd be a good Greg Gosling.

Huh? Yeah. Greg Gosling would have been a good one. GG. Great Gosling. Not bad. Yeah. Good. Ryan Barrett. Also pretty. Yeah. Ryan Barrett would have been really good. I guess.

Because for some reason that makes my last name work, whereas Greg Barrett, I saw a thing today on either TikTok or Instagram, and it's a woman being interviewed by what's the worst name of all of the names to have, and she says Greg. Oh, no.

And the guy's like, yeah, Greg's an asshole. Oh, no. And it just goes on about what a shitty name Greg is. It's true. It has become kind of the punchline name in sitcom scripts. That's true. I also think George is a bad name. Yeah, George isn't great. George isn't great. Just Bob. Like, if your name is Robert and you go by Bob, what's the matter with you? You're just...

You know, there's I hate those. I hate Bob. I hate Bryce. There's I hate. Yeah, except I wouldn't like Robert Odenkirk. That's true. But he's Bob Odenkirk. Not he's not just Bob. Like, I don't think people go around and call him Bob. Everyone to his face calls him Bob Odenkirk. Even you. His full name. You never never, you know, like you call them David Cross. But if you just call them Dave, that would make him a lot less interesting.

Yeah. And he was always a David. He was David. True. But yeah, Greg's not a great name. It's not the greatest. No. I mean, I'm stuck with it. That's true. Now you are. They call me Gregory on the ships, so I like that. Gregory? Yeah, I like a full name when people full name you. As a Cain, I never had a full name, so people always try to full name me. You know, Caineth, Cainer, stuff like that.

Yeah. You can't shorten Kane either. I can't be, it's too hard. Yeah. Um, Pat's here. We haven't bored the listener enough. You're still with us, by the way. I don't know what you're doing. I don't know why you're here still. Yeah. It's for the, it's, it's for the sounds of Pat. Whenever Pat jumps in, they're here for that. Whenever you get to hear him say things like, yeah, you know,

Yeah. Barbenheimer opened last week and we all saw, well, two of us saw Barbenheimer. One of us just saw Barben and we all loved, I mean, I think we all loved both of them, but we all three especially loved Barbie. We love Barbie. Barbie. Fucking what? I didn't think I would like, I knew I would like it.

Because I like Greta Gerwig. I didn't know I would like it as much as I liked it. I didn't know that it would be... This is going to sound super condescending and sexist. Sure. I didn't know it would be... Because it was about Barbie, the doll, who has no real narrative, I thought it was going to be amusing at best. I didn't think it was going to be as smart and as self-aware and...

Just, it was just perfect, man. It was just, yeah. Margot Robbie is a monster, man. She's a fucking, she's a beast, man. She's a producer. She's a, an actress. She's like, she's a, she's got it all, man. She's got it all. Yeah. She's great. Gosling's a revelation. He's so good. When he finds patriarchy, changes the game, baby.

Like just the funny shit like that he would really be into horses like that is just such smart writing. And so, so silly. And the fact that they like make fun of pavement and that they like just the references. It's so smart. You know, she wrote it. Greta wrote it with her husband, who's Noah Bombeck. Right. Yeah. No, there's no slouch himself. Good writer. Good director. Smart guy. Super smart guy.

It's made some great movies. And yeah, it is just a great script. It's, you know, America Ferrara is amazing. Mm hmm. Ferrara. Ferrara. Ferrara. Yeah. Ferrara. Ferrara. She's she's just unreal. Yeah. Everybody was great. Apparently Meryl Meryl Streep read the monologue she gave about what it's like to be a woman and said that she wanted she wanted to do that monologue.

And so Greta told America that, hey, Meryl Streep really wants to do this monologue. And then America was like, oh, cool. No pressure. I guess I'll just... One of the greatest living actors of all time wants to do this part. All right. How do I still have a job? That's how I would feel if I was America. Yeah. I'd be like...

It was, she did apparently, she did between 30 and 50 takes. Holy shit. Yeah. So it just. That's incredible. Yeah. The whole, the theater went crazy when it was ended. Some people stood, everybody applauded. I went with a super Barbie crap. People were, there was just, it was nothing but women dressed up like Barbie. It was like the, it was, it was crazy. Yeah.

Yeah, I I didn't go with a super Barbie crowd, but people did. There were kids in the with their Barbies there and like but I was I was like sitting next to a mom and then her girls and they were watching and I was dying. I was laughing hard and I could feel them looking at me.

like this grown white man enjoys this movie a bit too much if you're making us a good one there's so many kens in san diego like that's really i think in in ken's origin story he should be from san diego for sure yeah i'm a if i were to work out i'd be i'd be bald ken but

But right now, I'm full Alan, which might be my favorite character. I think Alan is my all-time favorite character in the movie. He's so good. See, Muli, he's really having a career. Do you guys watch the other two? No. Oh, fuck. Get it together. Do you know what the other two is? I've heard good things. It was on Comedy Central, then they moved it to HBO. And it's about...

a family and the youngest boy is a YouTube star and the kid they cast is unreal. He looks like a young Bieber. And then it's the other two deadbeat siblings. That's what the story is about. And one of them wants to be an actor and the other one ends up being, becoming her brother's assistant.

It's fucking, it's so smart and so funny. You got to watch it. It's really, really great. Seriously. You're watching. You'll be excited. There's only going to, there's only three seasons. It ended this year. The last season is the craziest. It's so good. Ken Marino's in it.

Molly Shannon plays their mom. Henry is the manager. It's fucking, it's so, so good. Yeah. And so Simu Li is in the last season and he plays himself. Ooh. Okay. He's a jet-setting Marvel superhero. Okay. And they call him Marvel Simu Li. Isn't that, am I saying his name right? Simu Li, right? Simi Liu? Oh, okay. We're not going to get it. It's like Killian Murphy.

Yeah, Killian, Cillian, whatever it is. Yeah. Who is in his, like, I think he's in every Christopher Nolan movie. He's in almost every Christopher Nolan movie. He just came out and said he'd be happy to play Ken in the sequel. In the sequel to Barbie? Yeah. Cillian Murphy, Ken. Yeah.

He'd be Ken Oppenheimer. He'd just play kind of both roles, like a sexy Oppenheimer. He could be Irish Ken. Irish Ken, yes. Oppenheimer, also great. I did it. So I did my Barbenheimer. I did Barbie first, Oppenheimer last. Mistake. That's a genuine mistake. Don't do it that way. Because you walk out of Barbie...

walking on air. You're like, my God, I feel so great. I feel good about myself. I feel good about the world. I feel good as a human being. You know, the concept of existential crisis that brings it full circle around to go, you know what? There is something really nice about being human. And then you go into Oppenheimer and you're like, human beings are garbage. We're all doomed. The world is going to end soon. AI. Oh no. Yeah.

I walked out speechless. I couldn't talk for a while. I was just like, oh, I'm so depressed. Oppenheimer, why? So speaking of AI, I'm going to take us down a different path here for a minute. I have to write a bio for my book, like a bio of myself. And my brother-in-law, who's here with us right now, who's a great guy, said, why don't we chat GBT?

Great. And so this is what it said. Gregory Barron is a seasoned stand-up comedian, best-selling author, and captivating speaker. With years of experience in the entertainment industry, Gregory has garnered a loyal fan base with his witty humor and relatable insights into modern relationships. As the co-author of the iconic book, He's Just Not That Into You, he has empowered countless individuals to navigate the complexities of love and dating.

Through his engaging talks, Gregory continues to charm audiences, combining laughter with profound wisdom of matters of the heart. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Just to think that a computer knows who you are. Dude, the computer nailed it. It's fucking, it's awesome. I brought it up in the meeting today with all the, and of course, nobody wants to hear about ChatGPT less than a book publishing company. Yeah.

Yeah. What did they say to you saying that Skynet wrote your fucking bio? They laughed. They were into it. And we kept profound wisdom of matters of the heart. Something that the fucking computer doesn't know anything about.

Yeah, originally he had just said, originally Kurt had just said, will you write an author's, like a generic author's intro? And then he said, and it was, you know, basically the same thing, except without my name. And then they said, can you write a 75 word speaker's biography with the largest possible words?

And so then it said, Alexandros Konstantinopoulos is an extraordinary distinguished creator of an esteemed luminary in the realm of interpersonal development. Yeah.

Spanning a multiplicity of years has led to the entertainment of global audiences, which is profoundly inspiring exhortations on maximizing human potential and accomplishing unmitigated triumph. Oh, my God. Can I tell you something? I've dedicated my life to maximizing human potential and accomplishing unmitigated triumph. That's true. Yeah.

That's what our podcast should be. That actually should be the new name of the show.

Yes. That's catchy. What a catchy title. That's super catchy. If you saw that a podcast was called Maximizing Human Potential and Accomplishing Unmitigated Triumph, you'd fucking go, who are these guys? Yeah. Then you'd tune in and you'd be like, wow, they spent the first 10 minutes talking about Greg's name. Yeah. Yeah.

And Barbenheimer. Barbenheimer. We're really maximizing your potential here. You know who maximizes potential? Oppenheimer. He created the atomic bomb. Okay? What are we doing? What are we doing but talking about it? We're just talking about it. But also, I mean, do you feel maximized? Guys,

When you listen to the show and you hear our advice, do you feel like we're maximizing your potential? I hope so. Because if you don't, ChatGPT is going to come out with a Don't Take Bullshit From Fuckers version of the show, and they're going to take over. First off, when we change the show to that title, every episode, we both have to be holding trophies and drinking the water bottle. That's true. That's true.

Yeah. Well, that's, that's incredible. I hated every second of it though. I hated every minute of it. I don't like, I don't like that. I don't like it. I don't like AI. I don't like it. I don't want it to happen. And, um, and also as a, as a writer, it makes me nervous. So I just like, I thought it was going to be a little more, uh, disjointed. Like there was going to be run on sentences and it wasn't good. You know, I didn't know it was so seamless, uh,

If I sat down to write myself something which wouldn't be nearly as thought out, and also I don't see myself in terms of the way that it's... But that literally saved me a half hour of work. I didn't know how big a deal ChatGPT was until Mighty would turn in assignments to ChatGPT and it would give her a grade before she turned them into her teacher's.

no shit would you then work on it some more if the grade was low usually it underestimated her grade so she'd get a b plus and end up getting an a minus damn she was the one that turned me on to it and i and i i was like fuck i should have it read the book oh no oh yeah you should actually i want to see what happens oh no greg you're about to be out of a job

It's so wild. Yeah, it is sort of the quiet atomic bomb of our, well, not my generation. I was around during grunge. That's all we got. Well, yeah. I mean, eventually we're all going to be ready player one right now. We're all going to jump into fucking, we're going to live in stacks in a junkyard and

And then we're going to just be popping into our virtual reality and hanging out that way. I mean, we're kind of doing it now. We're virtual reality right now. We're all in the same room doing this podcast together. Well, Tom Cruise is jumping into a fucking canyon trying to save us. He really wants to save us from ChatGPT. Yeah. Tom Cruise would read your book. But if you found out that the introduction, the bio was written by AI, Tom Cruise would lose his mind.

You wouldn't get Tom Cruise's approval for your book based on you reading that bio. I told you the girls thought that Guardians of the Galaxy 3 was written by AI. No. Yeah. They were like, it's good, but it's garbage. They hated it. They hated it so much. They're fucking so harsh. Did they see Mission Impossible? No, they're not interested. They went to the last one, but I think it was only because they were talked into it. They don't care.

And I don't blame him. I haven't gone yet. I get it. Hey, man, I get it. After Fallout, it's hard to follow that. He even said after there's an interview with him where he's like, we could do better. For me, he did all those things in Fallout. And my favorite scene was the bathroom fight. Yeah. Which we've seen in James Bond movies.

and in true lies like we've seen the bathroom fight before yeah there's nothing better than somebody's head being smashed into porcelain so hard and then when it breaks it's like glass and there's pipes and shit and henry cavill's just throwing you around like a rag doll it's great that's the best thing kenry cavill's ever done i agree

He was a great villain too. That's what I'm saying. Like he did, he was like, he said he could do better. And I'm like, I think he did about the same. I think it's about the same, you know, it's crazy fights. Uh, the woman who plays Mantis is in it and her fight scenes are cool and she's crazy. And she's one of my favorite characters in the movie.

But other than that, you're right. It's about the same. And the bathroom fight is sick. The way he fucking reloads his arms. Fucking reloads them to go in and beat the shit out of that guy. Oh, now that's maximizing your potential right there. Speaking of maximizing our potential, Pat, you have something from the internet, right?

I do. It's another BuzzFeed article. It's sourced from our favorite internet cesspool, Reddit. People are revealing signs that scream that a relationship won't last. And some of these are pretty obvious, maybe some a little more subtle. The first one on the list is when they have a kid to fix the relationship. Yeah. Terrible idea. Yeah. That is a bad idea. That's bad on its face.

Plus, how is that kid going to feel when he finds out he was a save the marriage baby? Yeah, right. Oh, no. We've also got, if all disagreements end in arguments. That's true. Yeah, I haven't been in a really hostile relationship in a long time. I haven't been in one where there's a lot of fighting, but I have been in them, and they're bizarre. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, you look back at those fights and you sort of wonder, why would I do that? Yes. What was I fighting for? I should have just been leaving. Yeah, exactly. It's like kind of running on broken glass. It's like if you go to, I want to jog and make myself better, but my road is filled with broken glass. It's like, well, why don't you go a different way? Go the non-broken glass way. You're fucking, you're ruining yourself for no reason.

This one was answered by an actual therapist. She says, if one person shows contempt for another's feelings, it's over. Contempt. Contempt. Contempt. And yet our podcast exists. It's true.

We've also got only accepting large over-the-top gestures when no small thing would ever mean anything. I love over-the-top gestures. My favorite is over-the-top gestures. Win me back. You know, win me back. All right, I'm a delicate flower. I'm a high-class commodity. You can't just...

Come in with flowers and a candy bar? I don't think so. Roller coaster rides at Turks and Caicos. That's what I want. Don't you ever fucking just come in with an apology. I don't think so. Not today, my friend. Not today. What about you, Greg? Do the little things do it for you, or has it got to be a grand gesture? It's always little things. It's detail-y.

Like, Amira is really good at, like, understanding me on a molecular level and doing things to, like, make my whole life better. But she doesn't do grand gestures. I mean, for my birthday, that's not fair. My birthday, I got three pairs of Dickie shorts because I live that punk lifestyle. And then a latte maker. Ooh.

A machine, a big, beautiful machine for the kitchen. Really great. That's pretty grand. That's a grand. For you, that's pretty grand. Yeah. Yeah. I would agree. And also that all four of them went to Barbenheimer. I mean, all three of them that day that, you know, they were like, do you want to go to both? And I was like, yep. Now, like, we're going to both. That's great. That's fucking awesome. What a cool birthday. It was the best birthday. It's going to be the best birthday I've ever had.

Dude, that's awesome. I mean, it was magical. We had donuts for breakfast, and then we went to a cool... We went to Stanley's for lunch, and then we went back to the movie theater, and we saw two of the best movies I'm going to see this year, and maybe of any year. And those movies are going to stand the test of time. And I love...

that the right wing is super upset by Barbie. Yeah. I knew that would happen. Of course, Ben Shapiro destroyed Barbie. Did you see that on his YouTube channel? He destroyed it with, he, gosh, with his alt-right ideas about men's rights. And Barbie really took it too far. I'm going to tell you right now, Barbie took it too far, according to Ben Shapiro. Just, what do you, his thumbnail even has him with,

Pink dyed hair. What the fuck? It's like the antithesis of his whole argument. He fucking dipshit. He burned a Barbie doll.

Yeah. He's just a fucking idiot. And I also... Did you ever see the video of him talking with Neil deGrasse Tyson about transgender rights and the idea of being transgender? And then Neil deGrasse Tyson just stops him in his tracks. But it doesn't even seem like Neil is trying to have an argument with him. Neil just spouts off this idea about...

the molecules in the body and the brain chemistry and everything and about how people operate and work. And you just see Ben going, what, what, what, what you could tell it dismantled his whole fucking. And he's like talking to his hero. His hero is Neil deGrasse Tyson and Neil deGrasse Tyson's like, yeah, you're just way off, man. Yeah. Fuck. Dip shit destroys Barbie and big. That's what it says in the thumbnail. Yeah.

Big old letters. Destroys Barbie. Did ya? Or is everyone who made that movie filthy rich? Shut up. Nobody who listens to Ben Shapiro is going to Barbie. And they might even go to Barbie, too. They might go to Barbie just to hate Barbie. Here's what's going to happen. His daughters are going to eventually want to see it, and they're going to love it because there's a lot to love. And then they're going to hate their father. Yeah.

Exactly. Here's one that seems pretty obvious. Greg and I didn't have to deal with this, but social media addiction. If the person constantly needs to show the world that they have a significant other and they're just so happy together. Yeah. I've been in a few of those where it's important that we look good on social

Instagram like we have to look good and we have to look good together and we got to take a million pictures and it's important that I share and I like and I post and I remember one girl just she posted a picture of um us together and I didn't like it like I didn't even think to like put press the like button because it's not typically something that I do or even think of

And I was we were already kind of going down the drain. And she was like, she messaged me. Why didn't you like that picture I posted? Why didn't and why didn't you reshare it? And I didn't even I didn't even say anything for a whole day. I just saw I saw the question in my DMs, which was weird because we have cell phones or we have each other's number.

And then I just was like, I don't even know what to do. So I just was like, I'm not talking to her for the rest of the day. I can't handle this. And then the next day I was like, I think I've had I've had enough. This is silly and unimportant. She's like, I know it's unimportant, but I also, you know, and tried to, like, explain to me her thought process. And I was like, I can't be I can't be in, you know,

relationship where that has that's important because that's not important to me if it is important to the two of them fine whatever but that's not important to me yeah i'm watching quarterback on netflix do you know it yeah yeah it's fantastic you don't have to like sports to watch it and mahomes is one of the quarterbacks that they follow you know from kansas city his wife is

Yeah. Mm-hmm.

Yeah. And I was like, that would be a lot for me. I wouldn't love that. And she's a big social media person. And some people think she's too much, but that's classic, you know, don't let the wife outshine the husband kind of bullshit. But it's a lot. And I would be bummed if Amira was super concerned about

social media or liking posts or whatever. I mean, she's on Instagram and I'm on Instagram and she likes my posts and sometimes she comments and she posts maybe once every four years. I don't know. You know, she's just not, you know, but she follows it. Right. You know, she follows a lot of different people, but, but, uh,

I'm glad that that's not a part of our relationship makeup because I'd be bummed. And she didn't like it when I was originally on there at first because I tried to, like every other comic of our generation, my generation, tried to figure it out because I could tell that's where the things were going. Yeah. You know. Yeah, yeah.

This next one I fully agree with. This is definitely a sign your relationship is about to go down the shitter. When you start calculating how much you give and receive in a relationship, keeping score. Yes. Yeah. Wow. I did that for a while myself when I was really messed up. I was like, I'm not getting enough and I deserve this and I deserve that. And I wasn't seeing what I was actually getting and driving Amira away. And that's the worst thing.

This one also pretty obvious. If the relationship started by one of them cheating on their previous partner and then leaving them to be with the new person. Yeah, I mean, sometimes that works out. Sometimes it's indicative of a pattern. Yeah, it's true. And I think we can finish it up with this one. Don't ever do this, people. Tattoos of each other's names. Ha ha ha! Ha ha ha!

You can't see this because you're listening to a podcast, but I'm showing the boys my Amira tattoo. And I can't tell you how close I've been to that being a mistake. I put all my girlfriend's names on my back, so technically they're not there because I can't see them. Yeah.

I go, yeah, anybody want to spend time putting a black bar over a name? Have you had to do that yet, Cain? No, I haven't. I don't have any girls tattoos. The only one I share a tattoo with is my sister. And we both have the same H on the same font tattooed on us. And that's the extent of it. But no, I don't.

Even if I felt very, like very much in love with somebody there, I've always been with people who are like, I'll go get tattoos with you, but I'm not, you know, just to be clear, like they want to read, they want to make sure that I know I'm not, they don't want my name on them either. I'm going to get a candy cane FYI. And I'm like, I didn't fucking ask you. I don't, I didn't ask you, you know? Yeah. It's a good way to end up with why no forever on your arm.

Why not forever? Man, how prophetic that is. Yeah. Hey, if you're a writer, performer or creative in any way, then you might benefit from my coaching program.

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This is the theme song for What Does This Mean Song. The theme song for What Does This Mean Song. We'll read a self-help quote, and they're definitely not memes. Memes are something completely different than quotes. Quotes are supposed to help you through all the bullshit in your life. And memes are like that.

poster of that cat hanging from a tree and it says hang in there baby or mondays am i right mondays am i right so if you can think of a different title then we'll probably change it what does this mean the theme to the this segment which is to inspire you with memes

We have some from Britt Jane at DTBFF Podcast on Instagram. She sent one from a guy called Luke Guy is his name. Luke Guy. Luke Guy says he's got a bunch here. A man with a hustle needs a woman with a vision, not a little girl who likes to party.

Well, so it seemed like it was done with vision. And then he fucking just loses his shit. Yeah. It becomes this personal like, and fuck you for being my girlfriend. You know what else makes me mad? Goats. I'm fucking tired. Hey, you know what?

All right, Luke, take it easy. No, I'm going to tell you something else. Piece of shit. Didn't have vision. I have hustle. I just don't know what to do with it. I need a woman with vision and not some girl that likes to fucking party. I party. I party. I party. I work hard. I play hard. I'm Luke Guy.

I'm Luke guy over here. Hey, Luke guy. He's at official Luke guy. I'm assuming on, uh, on Twitter or Instagram. I don't know.

Oh, yeah. It says here for the Planet of Fitness Instagram, I highly recommend you follow at official Luke guy to learn to make money online by mastering this in-demand skill. He's an in-demand skill guy. Love the online guys that help you maximize your potential online. Online? There's no scam there. The wrong Luke guy again says the wrong girl will distract you. The right girl will motivate you.

Fuck, that he even got up off the couch to write that down. Luke Guy coming in again. A man becomes a slave to anything he can't walk away from. This goes for pleasure, women, and bad habits. Conquer yourself first. He'll be a great guy to be married to. Yeah. Fucking idiot. I don't want a handjob today, baby. I got to conquer myself first.

I'll be doing it in the bathroom. I'm Luke Guy. That's how he does everything. Makes himself a sandwich. Does it real fast. No pleasure in it either. It's just mustard and fucking ham. Just mustard and ham on rye. He eats it and he's like, I'm Luke Guy. I'm not a slave to this sandwich. I will never be a slave to this sandwich.

I barely liked it when I made it. And I could walk away from it at any second. I'm not a fucking slave. That's right. The only time, the only part of making this sandwich I liked is when I was holding the knife. A boy becomes Luke Guy again. A boy becomes a man when he stops complaining. The world's not going to treat you lightly. Boys complain. Men work.

He's a shitty writer. He's the worst writer. Stop at a certain point. Like you're still kind of doing, you're still bad at this, but you're even worse when you don't stop. A boy becomes a man when he stops complaining. Full stop. This is it for Luke Guy. But Luke Guy's coming in. Every man needs exactly to have three hobbies. That's how he wrote that sentence. Every man needs exactly to have three hobbies.

A physical one, weightlifting. A cerebral one, sales. A spiritual one, prayer. Commit to one of each and you will never feel lost again. I know when I committed to sales. I'm surprised. It's my cerebral habit. Yeah.

I also commit to prayer. Yeah. I love to pray. I pray all the time. Yeah. I've seen you. It's weird. Also, weightlifting. Look at you. Something physical. You look like Ken from the Barbie movie. Can you imagine if you went to Planet Fitness and this guy ended up being your trainer? Oh, no. I'm going to look. Looking at a picture of Luke Guy. Yeah.

He does not weightlift. I'll tell you that much for free. This fucking dumb piece of shit. You know, typically don't make fun of people's appearances, you know, just for fun. But you can't tell me I need to focus on weightlifting when you're full dad bod. So shut the fuck up.

Luke Guy. Britt Jane, I want to thank you so much for bringing Luke Guy to our attention. Yeah, Britt, thank you. Really brightened up our day. I have one. I have one that says, your ability to feel other people's pain doesn't mean it's your responsibility to fix it. Are you an empath? Do you feel other people's pain? I'm kind of sick of hearing that, by the way. I'm sick of hearing about people's feelings. I'm an empath.

Are you? Are you inserting yourself into other people's problems? I'm an empath. So when you feel down, I feel down. Yeah, that's how feel that's how energy works. You don't have to be empathic to be like, oh, they're in a bad mood. Well, I'm going to leave. I don't want to be around you in your shitty mood. Fuck off.

I'm a lack of empath. That's true. You're a sociopath. So I just quickly put in motivational quotes into Bing, which why I have Bing and not Google. I don't know. I don't want Bing. Bing does a bad job. Bing is bad at job. Yeah.

Yeah. Why don't you ask Jeeves while you're there? What's wrong with you? It says try out the new AI-powered Bing. Start exploring in Edge. Amazing. Did you know that Twitter changed its name to X or something? Mm-hmm. Boy, they're doing a great job over there. Why would he do that? Elon, what are you... I mean, I don't care. Fuck it up. Twitter is garbage anyway.

Twitter is like a high-valued version of Reddit, where it's like, look at me. I have 100 million followers on Twitter, blah, blah, blah, whatever. It doesn't matter. But I've never seen the point of it. Like, I've just never seen the point. And the amount of people that get in trouble for past tweets that they've done, said, whatever, and then they still have a Twitter and will still get in trouble on their... I'm like, what...

Again, this is, this is, it's like, it's the same as having that fucked up relationship where you're constantly fighting and you're keeping score, except it's online. Just, but fuck Elon. Fuck it up. I could care less. I don't fuck all of them up. Yeah, I agree.

So this one, it's an inspirational quote. And I just have to describe the photo because it makes it just so much more poignant. It's a sunset. It's a beautiful sun. And then in it is the silhouette of two kangaroos hopping. Okay. I love it so far. And then it says, obstacles are the things a person sees when he takes his eyes off his goals.

So it makes you want to hang yourself. Wait, what do the kangaroos have to do with it? I have no idea. I have no idea. Why are there kangaroos? I don't know why there's kangaroos. How high can kangaroos hop? Is it high? Is it really high? It's not that high. So if jumping up, what's the phrase again? I'm done with it. Okay. Moving on. What do you have, Pat?

I've got a couple here. Oof. You know, all that really matters is that the people you love are happy and healthy. Everything else is just sprinkles on the Sunday. Oh. Yeah, that's true. Are there kangaroos on yours?

No, but there is a whole lot of ice cream. Oh, that's nice. And then I think we can close it out with this one. This one is from Hustlers Motivational Circle. Oh, I love it. I love Hustlers. I love Hustlers. I love bitch bosses. Boss bitches. You know this one's going to be great. Let's be happy in private. What people don't know, they can't ruin.

Happy and private. What? Yeah. Okay. Yeah, true. Keep it to yourself. Obviously, I don't want you to deal with it because I'm an empath and I feel too much. Segment three. We're in it. We're ready to rock and roll. We got a really nice email. I hesitate to even read it because it's just so nice. And...

This is from anonymous. She says, hi, Kane and gang. I've been behind on the episodes and only caught up this week. I was so sad to hear about Griffey. I'm so sorry that you're hurting Kane. It's so painful to lose a pet. Griffey sounded like an especially awesome cat. By the way, Bruce would have been a great name too. He would have been a good Bruce. I have lost a beloved pet too. And I wanted to share what helped me. If Griffey could talk, I'm sure he'd say thank you for loving me and taking care of me.

You don't know that. I just take this whole thing so personally. Don't fucking speak for my cat. The thing is, is that it would be so disappointing when animals really can speak. And the one question they would absolutely ask you and probably the only one they care about is, can I have something to eat? It would be. That's it. Like, oh, you think I like you?

I mean, I do, I guess, but you're where all the good shit I get comes from. Yeah. And I'm only thinking about me and how I can eat right now. Yes. Or be scratched. I like that part, too. Scratch me, yeah. But as far as my feelings for you go, I'm not even sure of your name. LAUGHTER

She also says, I recommend giving space maybe via ritual every year as a way to celebrate Griffey's life.

light a candle on his birthday slash adoption day, or read a book featuring a cat. This will sound silly, but my family member eats watermelon once a year on the death anniversary day because his pet cat liked watermelon. That's really nice. I like that better than reading a book that has a cat in it. You just see me with a pile of children's books, the cat that nobody wanted. It's four pages long. Yeah.

If you have good dreams of Griffey, he's just trying to find a way to visit you. While I don't believe in this woo-woo, nor do I believe that dreams are some oracle, this thought felt healing to me.

On a different note, I believe the same episode inquired about insults from foreigners about the West. I've only heard this from Twitch streams. What did we talk about that? Did we talk about how foreigners make fun of us? Yeah, you were wondering how they made fun of us. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's right. I've only heard this from Chinese Twitch streams, but it has something along the lines of your lineage is only five generations long.

loser or shut up your alphabet only has 26 letters best anonymous uh that's really sweet anonymous i really appreciate that thank you so much i will take a lot of consideration um his ashes are actually supposed to come today so got him in a nice uh jar with his name on it nice like tin jar yeah and i got a batman sylvester the cat funko pop i'm gonna put that

next to the ashes somewhere in this room and, uh, do that. So, but I will think about that. He didn't really like to eat. Um, the only human food he liked was deli meat. Um, but he did like treats. Oh, I'll, uh, I'll think about eating some cat treats and reading books about cats. Okay. Uh, moving on to our Reddit remix. I read it.

Am I the asshole for telling a 40-year-old friend he's too old for college parties and that he is a creep? I'm 40. I have a friend, Steven, who is also 40. Steven had a midlife crisis. Steven began listening and taking life advice from YouTubers Richard Cooper and Greg Adams. Hey, another Greg.

who is also a college basketball coach. These guys are what they call red pill manosphere dating coaches. What? What the fuck? They're red pill dating coaches? I guess that makes sense. Yeah, that lines up. Steven divorced his wife because he said he was sick of being a beta provider and claims he paid all her bills when he didn't.

Beta provider is a term Richard Cooper, the YouTuber users say it's someone who pays the woman's bills, I guess. Isn't that some alpha shit? What? They can't even figure out who the fuck it is. You're supposed to provide for your woman, but you don't want to be a fucking bitch about it. It's so tragic. It's so tragic. It's got to suck.

To grow up or be a person that hates half of the population. Yes. That has no respect for or understanding for or enjoyment. Like I enjoy why I enjoy women as much as I enjoy men, but I enjoy women. And I, that was part of my, why I like Barbie so much was I was like this, none of this movie is for me.

None of this movie is thinking about me or my experience or whatever. And yet I'm, I'm getting something from it. I'm fully enjoying it. And I'm, I'm, and I'm loving it from that perspective. And, uh, these are guys that just fucking hate and don't understand women.

Right. I found it. I found that that's kind of interesting. I thought it was opposite. I don't think that the Barbie movies for me, but I also think that Ken is a surrogate for people like me.

Well, that's true. You know, like Ken is placed in a situation where in Barbie land, he's a second, he's second class because Barbie is the main attraction. Every Barbie is there's Barbie president. Barbie's winning Nobel prizes. Barbie is doing important things in Barbie land. And then when they get to the real world, it's flipped on its head. So Ken is realizing some things about,

his life. It's, I also equate it to that episode of the Ellen DeGeneres sitcom, where she finally, like her character comes out of the closet and,

And then there's a whole episode where the norms are changed. Everyone is gay. Everyone in the world, the norm is gay. And to be straight is the anomaly, makes people uncomfortable. And Jeremy Piven's character is...

having to figure out how he's going to tell people that he's straight. So it puts you in the, it puts you in a seat. You never got to really understand before. And that's what I liked about Ken's character where it's like a, it's, it's, it's a way more delicate, uh,

And also played for a, it's delicate, but also played for laughs in how incels are created. Yeah. You know, like the way Ken sees how men are respected, he wants respect. And so he takes the idea of the patriarchy and,

which is just so funny. It just makes the idea of patriarchy so silly. And then... Especially since it was based on one visit to Century City. Right. But you start to understand not only incels and why they feel the way that they feel, but you get that...

For Ken, I get to see from a male's point of view how with, you know, obviously with a big leap in logic, what it would feel like to not be seen or respected just based on me being a man. The same way Barbie was. For just being Barbie, she's respected until she gets in the real world where no one really gives a shit. Even the women don't really give a shit.

And her. So that's what I really liked about the movie is that I never at any point felt like, oh, they're really dragonists. They're dragon men in this movie. They take their shots. But at no point do I feel like it's like a teardown of men completely. It's still a well, what about you makes you feel like.

unique and special so you can also feel like we can coexist which is why I like that Ken and Barbie don't get together in the end yes because Ken is defining like women have Ken is defining himself by his relationship yeah with a woman so it makes that point yeah you know

Yeah, and that's the thing about the red pill guys. I can't even really fathom or understand the concept that your problems are because of the population of women. I mean, there's one thing about being in denial about your place in life, but it's such a giant...

cosmic leap to go, I'm here because all women are the worst. You're like, yeah, but how? I mean, really, in reality, let's come back down to earth real quick. And you explain to me how that's even remotely possible. You don't like paying for your wife's bills? Then talk to her about it.

It's as fast as it's, it's as you don't have to divorce her because you feel like a beta. You talk about, you talk about that, unleash that feeling, you know, and, and tell her like, I feel, I feel misunderstood and disrespected and talk about that and see if she's a genuine partner. But you feeling like a beta is not her fucking fault. You're the one that paid for her bills and then broke up with her. That that's, that's the most beta shit ever. Yeah. Anyway, Steve,

My friend Steven has begun crashing college parties and frat parties and trying to date and sleep with college-age women 18 to 22. Steven says Rich Cooper and Greg Adams told him that at 40 he is approaching his peak in what they call the sexual marketplace and that he should try to have children with younger women with fresher eggs. Oh, fucking...

These are their terms, defiantly not mine. I told Steven that he is acting immature and that is too old for frat parties and called me a blue-pilled simp. Oh, God. Okay. Ann said that I was being ageist. My friend said I'm being the A-H-ist.

And they are starting to agree with Stephen's behavior. I have begun to accompany Stephen to these frat parties Stephen used to be a great guy until he started taking life advice from these gurus on YouTube. I'm losing friends over this. Am I the asshole? No. No. No. Not at all. I mean, this shit has become... Because, you know, when I was starting to look at coaching, I would look around at like...

other dating coaches and stuff. And it was so gross, all of it. And the guys that really make the money in that space are, you know, it's all like the game. And, you know, and it's that kind of thing where you, where men also want to be called pussies by their coaches so that they can man up and defeat women. It's just, it's fucking tragic. Yeah. Yeah.

You don't need to try so hard. I mean, you truly don't need to try so hard. I even, you know, I, cause I look at it like I had a domineering alpha type of dad who used to say shit like, you know, do you want to be a leader or a follower? And I always like soaked in that kind of question, you know, when you talk about like, if I'm not, if I'm not excelling in sports or if I'm not getting, uh, I'm not going on dates with girls or I'm not doing well in school, uh,

You know, he would always say, are you a leader or are you a follower? And I remember always thinking about that question going, I think it all depends on the situation. I'm a leader in a position where I feel like people are asking for my lead.

You know, that's that's where I feel like a leader. I'm a follower when I don't understand certain aspects of any part of life or whatever we're doing. And so it's like it's not just so cut and dry.

You can't just walk into a situation and like, I'm the leader today. I'll be leading the class teacher. Sit down. I, you know, that's just not how it works. You know, he's, he's trying to, he was trying to instill some sort of like superiority complex. Like I, my son is a leader, not a follower. And he would like tell me to assert myself, but I'm like,

I always bucked against that. I just remember thinking, it doesn't apply. I don't know anything about certain subjects. I'm failing because I don't know how to lead in this current. I'm not good at this. So I have to follow. You know what I mean? Until I can feel like a leader. But I think it's all about observing. You don't have to take any drastic actions. Yeah. Just relax. Yeah.

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