GETTING IN TROUBLE IS A CHEAP WAY OF GETTING ATTENTION?
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slash GWF promo or again go to the top of the guys we fucked show page on Spotify and tap that exclusive benefits banner and uh yeah we're gonna do a solo episode today I have a bunch of emails yes I wanted to say some things first though yes I've been noticing men doing something really considerate what's that I don't want to give them their flowers being quiet kind of at night almost that great um

The last three nights, I've been walking around in the dark. I mean, you know, I've been on my way to something and not just wandering the streets. But then, you know, if it's no one else on the street except me and a guy and they're either coming towards me or behind me, I cross. I don't want that smoke. I know what it's like to be a woman. And so they've been crossing before I get to the chance to cross. Oh, that's just because you're over 35. Oh.

They can't see that. It's dark as hell out. Way to burst my bubble, bitch.

God damn. The men just moving away from us. Jesus. They just smell our womb drying up. They go, I'm going to actually make a move. They don't want that smoke. Ice cold, Corinne. I'm older than you. I mean, we look great. I think we look better as we age. Anyway. That's so funny. You know, or I've been like outside smoking a cigarette. I like that you think...

This is just like speaks to the difference between us because I like that you think it's out of courtesy to you. Because to me, it's like I would have moved anyway. They don't want a police report. So they're just moving away. Whatever, man.

They don't want to rape me either. And that's all. They're like, I just don't even want to be. I just don't even want to be a part of this. I'm so worried about getting in trouble. Am I officially too old to get sex traffic? No, I really don't think it's about the age. But I but I am I am serious about the second comment that I made that I'm like, I feel like it's like they don't want the smoke. OK, well, whatever. Either way, I appreciate it, dudes. Also, I will do that.

I do. Yeah. As a courtesy. You're tall. Yeah. I'm like, I can't see your handsome face yet. It's night. Yeah. But he's young. So I'm like, who are these people doing it? Yeah. Like twenties and thirties. Younger. Younger. Younger. I trust. Yeah. I was like, if it's an older guy doing it and he just doesn't have the funds. No, it's a younger guy. Okay. Yeah. Younger than you. Younger than you. Yeah, exactly. He goes, he's like, I'm already, you know, just.

not making money. I can't, I can't lose anymore. I can't lose the couch. I also too. I, I sense too, like these guys are around our age or, or a little younger. And I sense that they're like, Oh, like I, we, I make eye contact with them a lot of times and I'm like, okay, I'm just going to move. And then they do it. And I'm like, thanks guys.

That's great. I love that. Also, I've been thinking a lot about what you said. I think you said this to me in private a while back when you had blonde hair and you were like, everyone's like, yeah, wow, you look so good. What's different about you? Like I'm fucking blonde. Everyone looks better blonde. The amount. Oh yeah. It's just, it's easier on the face. Yeah. It's just, it's a lighter color. Almost everyone looks better blonde. Yes.

And the amount of guys that have been staring at me confused as to like, I don't know what you did. They're not even saying the hair. They're just going, you look amazing. The light is now reflecting off your face. That's what you did.

I just, I, I fill it in for people. They go, Oh, what did you, what happened? I go, I dyed my hair blonde. Moving on. My hair, like my hair turned blonde again. I mean, it's not supposed to be, it's supposed to be actually like silver, but just like when the color fades out, it turns back to blonde. So I have to get it darkened, but I like my, my extensions are fully falling out of my head. I don't have time. Hell yeah. I mean, I like, like, I like alternating between like,

For me personally, blonde makes me feel like a kid because when I was a child, I was very blonde. Yeah, when I think of you, even though I know you are not naturally blonde, I think of you as a blonde person. Yeah, but it's just so funny. Every time I get a compliment, especially from a guy, I just think of what you said. Like, yeah, I'm fucking blonde and that looks better. That's all you're noticing. Right. Also, it also looks like you're going to be like nicer. Yeah, I know.

Truly. Yeah. And the straight hair, I look, I mean, I guess not everybody's like this, but I look like, people don't recognize me. Like they like do a double take when I have straight hair versus curly hair. They're like, oh, they have to like take it in in a different way. Well, because when your hair is curly, it's like a, it's like a, it's like a centerpiece. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Ugh. Ugh.

Anyway. That's your reaction to your own hair? Yeah. I just – I mean sometimes I figure it out in the curls. I'm like, oh, yeah, the curls look good. But then other – I'm like having – I get blowouts now and I do the gloss over. So it's like this – I go to Dry Bar and they have a gloss option. Oh, I know. The glass thing. I know what you're talking about. And it just makes the blowout last way longer. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I've done that. That's a good product. So it's only like $10 or $15 extra. It's really worth it. It's so worth it because – all right, I'm going to admit something and I'm not ashamed.

I don't wash my hair for like seven to ten days. Yeah, no, we know. I do dry shampoo. Yeah. Oh, you do? You know? Well, you talk about it all the time. Oh, I do? That I don't wash my hair? You say, oh, I'm not a big shower person. No, I shower every day. Oh, you do? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because I have the wraps. No, I have to shower every day because I need the stink of the day and other people's energy off of me. True. I do like a cleansing shower every night. Ugh, God. Ugh. I know. I wish you could take a bath every day, but who has the time? I know.

I wish I had a bath. But yeah, talking to people is a lot of energy. It's a lot of energy. Yep. So I just wanted to say that. And there's this chat. I'm reading this great – I'm rereading this book called The War of Art, Breakthrough the Blocks and Win Your Creative Inner Battles by Steven Pressfield, a comedian I know and love recommended this to me ages ago. And it's all about –

But this, I think this relates to all of the emails. Like we're going to read a bunch of emails on this episode. It's just like the crux of everybody's problem is resistance. And a lot of creatives, like if you do anything that is potentially exciting or anything that where you could live up to your potential of who you know you could be, resistance is just going to come in and it's just going to sweep its way from yourself or others or both from inside you.

Others as well. I find it more from others. Well, that's – rereading this, I'm like, oh, that's one thing that you've mastered. That's like one of the things about you, Corinne. That's like why you get things done is because you plow through the resistance. Well, I just go – Not many people do that. Listen, I acknowledge that the things that I'm doing are crazy, a long shot, like all these things. But it's like I just –

is pretty unpleasant in my opinion it totally is just go for it yeah fuck it would you rather be miserable and a failure or miserable and you tried a lot of like even if you fail at those things like at least you try them like i just don't want to live a life where i didn't try stuff yeah and i'm i'm so interested in people that like give you a hard time in the form of an attitude or

when at the fact that you are doing something bold. Like, yeah, at the events we've been to. Everyone's just always unhappy. But like, you know, like you talk about, I think people become, you know, addicted to their own stress hormones or whatever it is. I'm like, do you like just like being unhappy? Yes.

Totally. I truly don't like being unhappy. So when I'm, you know, I try, that's why I try a lot of new things. Yeah. I hate being unhappy. It's the worst feeling, but that's the paragraph I wanted to read is about that. But really quick first, there's this one paragraph that I love, you know, Hitler wanted to be an artist at 18. He took his inheritance 700 Cronin and moved to Vienna to live and study.

He applied to the Academy of Fine Arts and later to the School of Architecture. Ever see one of his paintings? Neither have I. Resistance beat him. Call it an overstatement, but I'll say it anyway. It was easier for Hitler to start World War II than it was for him to face a blank square of canvas. But the chapter, this paragraph that I really love that I'm like, oh, this has so much to do with people's addiction to stress.

resistance and trouble. We get ourselves in trouble because it's a cheap way to get attention. That's what I was just thinking about that Hitler thing. I'm like, it really is. It's so much easier. Like everyone loves Luigi Mangione. I got it. But it's like, but it's like going and shooting someone is actually quite simple. If, but if he really wanted to make change in the way the healthcare system is made, there was a much, there was a much longer path.

to doing that that he could have absolutely done and because he is so handsome I don't know what his personality is like but like his because he's so handsome I actually feel like he could have made moot alright that was okay that was that was God saying that it was wrong for me to call him hot

Oh boy. Oh, sorry. That was like literally someone drilling through the wall. I was like, what is happening right now? Do I need to yell at somebody? I love yelling at people when it's deserved. Yeah, no, but, but, but I, I thought of that immediately. Cause I'm like, everyone's applauding him, like for getting something on, but I go like, yeah, I mean, it's America. It's actually quite easy to go and shoot someone. Yes, it is. It's,

Out of all the countries, it's easiest to do that here. Yeah. So we get ourselves in trouble because it's a cheap way to get attention. Trouble is a faux form of fame. It's easier to get busted in the bedroom with the faculty chairman's wife.

than it is to finish that dissertation on the metaphysics of Motley in the novellas of Joseph Conrad. Ill health is a form of trouble, as are alcoholism and drug addiction, proneness to accidents, all neurosis, including compulsive screwing up,

and such seemingly benign foibles as jealousy, chronic lateness, and the blasting of rap at 110 decibels from your smoked glass 95 Supra. Anything that draws attention to ourselves. That feels a little racial. Oh, really? No, I'm thinking of all the kids I went to high school with. I feel like that's

Okay. Okay. I mean, all the white kids in my high school had 95 Supras and they, oh God, the smoky glass. Anyway, anything that draws attention to ourselves through pain-free or artificial means of manifestation of resistance. Cruelty to others is a form of resistance, as is the willing endurance of cruelty from others. That's a very interesting perspective. Cruelty to others is a form of resistance, as is the willing endurance of cruelty from others.

And last paragraph, the working artist will not tolerate trouble in her life because she knows trouble prevents her from doing her work. The artist, a working artist banishes from her world all sources of trouble. She harnesses the urge for trouble and transforms it in her work.

I want to DM that to all the comedians who instead of writing new stuff, just like sit around and complain about the other comedians who got Netflix specials when they didn't. Yeah. I just like, and that's why I shot the fuck up. Like I, like, no one cares when I've dated guys that are like, they complain about something they can control. I will go a wall on you. I'll never, I'll never talk to you again. Like I fucking not, you know, if that's like a chronic habit of like a thing that they resort to, I hate that in any person. Um, so yeah.

Just wanted to read that. It's pretty cool. Also, I have some promo before we get into the emails. And I figure we can do a mayoral update. Are they doing a demo? Let me go. Should we pause? Yeah. Where is that sound coming from? I think it's coming from here. You want me to cut? Let's fucking go. You want me to cut? Or do I... Do you want to bring the mic with you? No.

Are you allowed to even like do construction in this building? It's not really what's in there. I think they work with the building. I don't know. But OK, so, guys, I'm going to be in London the first week of April and I don't I'm waiting on confirmation. But April 4th and 5th, go to my Instagram at Christina Hutch to find out exactly because I'll be blasting it on Instagram.

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Um, so some exciting news I've been calling every, um, one or, you know, I'm getting to them one by one. I have thousands of people, literally thousands of people, uh, to call, but I do want to get to everybody. Um, and thank you for making a contribution to the campaign. Um, uh,

We did hit that first financial goal that we set for ourselves, which was raising over $100,000 in the first 50 days of the campaign. I know, you know, you can look at other numbers for other candidates and go like, oh, okay, well, everyone, these other people raised a lot more. But there's also, you know, candidates who have spent many, many years in politics who are considered serious candidates who I've raised more than, especially, you know, period by period. Yeah.

We got a shout out in the New York Times, the Daily News. I did my first mayoral forum this week on land preservation. And I have another one coming up on environmental issues. And I have some on air press coming up. So again, like just to put it into perspective, and I had a longer conversation about this on Without a Country. But, you know, I know it feels like

I don't want to, um, although part of the reason I am running, um, is to see if it's really possible for someone without a political background, like an everyday person, uh, to run for political office. Uh,

I'm certainly not trying to make my candidacy about being like a victim. Um, who says that? No, me. Oh, I'm saying it because I think like there are, yes, there is a lot of gatekeeping that's happening. Um, but I, you know, I just, I don't want to like harp on that. I think that, you know, I want to tell you that yes, like, uh, access journalism does exist. And like other candidates definitely are like, well, if we don't mention this person, then she doesn't exist. Um,

But I think overall, it's actually pretty cool and impressive the amount of movement we've made in one of the, you know, this is like pretty much the biggest municipal election in the country, I would say. And so it's pretty cool the movement we've made since January 31st.

And then furthermore, we have until April 28th to make matching funds. We have a long road there, but it is quite possible when you break down the math. And again, like getting to $100,000 was quite a feat, especially when you're doing it basically in like $30 donations. But we did get there. So I just want to reiterate that all...

All New York City residents, your donations, when I hit the threshold of $250,000 matchable dollars, are matched by the city 8 to 1. This will turn our campaign into a $2 million campaign, like, immediately. Yeah.

Which would change the entire game. Like money equals access. One of the other candidates who's running who everyone was kind of like laughing at at the beginning when he announced his candidacy has now maxed out at $8 million, almost $8 million because there's a limit on how much you can raise to run for mayor.

So like this really is possible, but the power lies with people, not with me. I've already maxed out my contribution to the campaign and I unfortunately have a very small family. So I've maxed, I've even maxed out like, um, at least what I've maxed out one of my boyfriend's parents and, uh, my dad's dead. So I was like, well, you count as that. Um,

He contributes from heaven. Maxed out my, that's very, I was like, that's like some shit Eric Adams would do. Um, you have a, he's a, I have a dead parent donating. Um, and,

And, you know, maxed out my mom, maxed out my brother. And I just don't I don't have a big family. So but we're we're doing what we can. That being said, if you are listening and you are a New York City resident, any of the five boroughs, I am asking you earnestly to donate money.

$10 is the lowest amount that counts for a matching fund. So it has to be at least $10. Even if you think this is silly, even if you think I have no shot, even if you're like, I don't really like her and I'm listening for Christina. Christina is also working very, very, very, very hard on this campaign. Fuck it.

So if you don't like me, do it for her. Yeah. Ten dollars for a human. Do it for humanity, really. You know, and do it just because women deserve visibility and races. And I'm not you know, you're not going to see a lot of conversation about me being a woman. That being said, I do think there's a problem that, you know, up until a couple of weeks ago, only one other woman did.

Was running and she kind of was getting the least support. And, you know, she's she has a lot of political time and experience under her belt. Right. House Senate state senator. Yeah. And so I yeah, I I think that.

We shouldn't be running on identity politics, but I also think that we need to start seeing more women trying big things. You know, there's lots of conversations about like what it takes to be qualified to be mayor.

in any other place that isn't New York City, you know, people are like, oh, New York City is so big. Okay, well, it's still a municipal election and running for mayor in a lot of other places, like someone with my level of experience, my age, the amount of time that I've lived in the city, like would be completely feasible. You'd almost be over, like you would be so qualified to run for mayor in a small town because of your activism. Not even a small town, like I mean, places like Portland, Oregon and stuff, you know, things that are like major, we see candidates,

similar to me running and, and, and, and doing well, performing well. So I think part of this is expanding our minds. And like, we've set, like set up this hurdle for ourselves. Like, you know, New York city is so big, like, yes, it is larger. And yes, we do set the tone and pace for other parts of the country in the way that perhaps other cities don't, but like,

you're kind of psyching yourself out. It's still a municipal election and you're, you still have municipal responsibilities. And obviously with so many more people to take care of, you have a much larger team. So the role in and of itself is not terribly different from other areas. And I feel like just everything, you know, people try to,

We set up boundaries for ourselves And I've really been loving the tour That Bernie Sanders and AOC Are going on right now Me too Because you know AOC's been laughed at enough And I've certainly had conversations On Without a Country Like is she qualified What does it mean I think like

These front-facing, these public-facing political roles were getting bogged down with these conversations about policy, experience, etc. When what we really need – and Barack Obama was proof of this as well –

And Donald Trump, I've got to give him his credit, even though I think it's taking people in the wrong direction. He's still getting people engaged and excited about politics again. And to me, that is the role of –

you know, someone who's more public facing like a mayor, like a Congress person, like a, you know, like the, like the president. Right. So when people are talking about, well, like why may or why something so big again, it's because you need someone who is charismatic. And when we're talking about qualifications has a track record of getting people engaged. And there's, there's,

Very few candidates who are running for mayor that have a track record the way I do of getting people engaged. And that's what you want. Like you have people to handle legislation and you have people who are experts in all of the different sects of government that you need to cover. That's not good.

You know, the merit, really what you're what you're looking for. So this constant, you know, conversation about qualification, the leaders who have inspired us the most in recent history are actually the people with the least political experience. Like when you look into the history of Barack Obama, there was no way he should have become president. They were, you know, the stage was set for Hillary Clinton to become president. Yeah, man. But people weren't responding to her. She's a woman.

And some other stuff. You know, and so – But Barack's a leader. That's why I was saying like what I look for in a politician that I respond to is leadership. That's what AOC has because she talks and she doesn't allow you to continue with your bullshit. She calls your bullshit out. And she speaks in normal language. Yes, and we are in what I believe to be a very spiritual crisis, which the population –

America, New York City, the world at large has been through over and over again. So we always overcome this. So the fact that we're in a spiritual crisis is not a bad thing. But now is where the time we go, okay, now we decide where to pivot. Do we want to pivot towards leaders who lie to us, who say, who are looking me dead in the face and saying they're doing something that they're not or they're not doing something that they are? Like it's such horseshit. And so people like Jasmine Crockett and AOC and Bernie Sanders and John Ossoff

Oh, oh, what a hottie. I saw him at the hearing when Pete Exeth was drunk texting war plans and the journalist was included. And then everyone's like, no, we weren't. You know, when they were being when they were being questioned by the I think it was the Congress, Tulsi Gabbard. Was that her name? Yeah, whatever. Yeah.

John Ossoff was like coming at them like, stop this. I'm not going to allow you to do the lying thing. It's not cute. It's stupid. Like, what are you doing? And so it's like these, you know, all those spiritual videos that I was following a while back that I kept watching about like predictions were saying we're going to have two different realities existing at the same time. I don't know if this is what they meant, but it feels like this is what they meant. Like there's people in two completely separate camps of reality where they accept

and they don't want to face the truth. And then there's the side that wants common good for all people and wants to face the truth dead in the eye, even if it's not something that they want to hear. Yeah. So it's like that we're at odds. Those two forms of reality are at odds. And to me, it's why I'm so excited about your campaign. Your campaign is a chance to pivot in the right direction. Yeah. I mean, if anyone gets anything out of the campaign, I want it to be to acknowledge that, you know,

you've been treated like shit by your government for a really long time and

And it doesn't need to keep going that way. Like you're, we're in an abusive relationship with our government, but let me tell you, it does not need to continue, but for it to stop, we have to not allow ourselves to continue to be treated like that. And the way you do that is by participating in local government. And you certainly don't have to run. I don't even know that I would recommend running, um,

Unless you really want to be beaten up emotionally and consistently every day. That being said, there are plenty of other ways you can participate. And that includes donating. And it doesn't need to be a lot. But when you're working with grassroots, everyone needs to participate, you know?

And, you know, doing things like volunteering, canvassing, phone banking, all of this kind of stuff really, really matters. Stopping on, you know, when someone, you know, asks you, are you a registered Democrat on the street for two minutes? Because it just seems like a lot of the conversations I have with people who, you know, online would appear to be the most socially active, are the most resistant to trying to run online.

Yeah. Because I feel like, you know, they know better. And it's like, if you know better, then you should run. Yep. You know, that's what I, are you gonna, I, that's why I truly, I truly think the same thing is like, we know when I was doing standup, if you don't like my joke, write your own and go perform it. Yeah.

I don't know what to tell you. But yeah, all this to say, this is a plea specifically for people in New York City to donate. I called someone today and she said, oh, I actually donated because my cousin lives in Massachusetts and

and is a big fan of yours and called me you know she lives in Brooklyn she called me and she asked me to donate and that person donated like 50 bucks to me so things like that that's great are so helpful and like I do I like really I really noticed because I'm doing all this like you know work myself so I'm going through the calls I'm taking my own notes on every person I call and

I, uh, about the conversation we have about maybe how you got, um, to know about my campaign, uh, about whether it was directly or indirectly word of mouth is so, so, so, so, so powerful. It's how guys started. Yeah, absolutely. And we're, and we're getting to see like, man, these y'all let you listeners, you listeners, man, you're really showing up and it's, and it's such an honor, uh, how much you give a shit. And it's so interesting to me, uh,

to see like when we started the podcast and then we started in comedy, I got to like have this like side seat to like people's first impression of you specifically crib. And I'm like, Jesus Christ, this is so, it was so interesting to me to watch people misread you. And, um, and now I get to watch people who don't know you from the podcast completely misread you as like,

I don't know what they're reading. That's arrogant or narcissistic, whatever it is, whatever it is, they're misreading you. Um, but, uh, it's so nice that like the listeners are like, we have so many listeners that are volunteering for petitioning, uh, and they are incredible. Like they're getting so many signatures. They're so enthusiastic. And the one listener you told me about who was, who was reaching out to journalists, like, and, and something to Heidi. Thank you. That's so fucking cool. Hi. Okay.

That's so fucking cool. Let's actually take a moment and talk about Heidi. I'm not going to give your last name in case you don't want to be involved. I told Colin about it and he was like, fuck. That's amazing. There's a listener and I believe she listens to Guys Be Fucked and Without a Country. Definitely, I know you listen to Without a Country, but I'm guessing you listen to Guys Be Fucked too. So I want to shout you out. And this is like the power of one individual person. So Heidi took it upon herself. She was, you know, she wanted, she's like, I want to do like a little bit more. And so she got

She compiled a list of all the journalists in New York City who cover politics. She put it in like an Excel spreadsheet. She contacted them one by one asking them why they weren't covering me. And she has got she got me an on air interview on CBS with like a prominent politician.

political reporter in the city. Not too shabby because Heidi knows what you're capable of and she knows your incredible work. Yeah. Um, truly. And so this really shows the power of people. You know, we see companies all the time, uh,

A lot of times we're talking about food brands or whatever. If people get together and boycott or demand that something changes online, companies respond. So you can get the same reaction from journalists. And we see it happen. And it's happening. There's another candidate, again, the one who was laughed at a lot, who is now polling number two. And it's just really showing...

the power of the people. And then Heidi compiled this list. And anytime someone says like, how can I help in an additional way? She shares that Excel spreadsheet with other listeners who then also partake in reaching out. And it's so powerful. And I am like,

by how well it's been working and so grateful. But when I say we're doing this together, we really are. You know I love doing things alone and trying to work my hardest on my own, but it is an impossibility for me to run a campaign by myself. It's not on the table. So I have to rely on the help of other people. And in this case, it's you guys. So CorinneFisher.com. You really have been stepping up.

to, and it's interesting cause it's like so many people are doing all the things. Like there's so many people who I call, I've called so many people to thank them to donate. Um, and they're like, Oh, I just came back from canvassing for you. And I go, Oh wow. That's like so much. And it's really, it really moves me because, um, I love calling you guys directly and talking to you. Um, cause there are some days when I go, what the, what

what the fuck am I doing? Yeah. And you guys going like, honestly, like I'm watching from, you know, Massachusetts or Philadelphia. And I think what you're doing is so inspiring and good. Good. Thank God. Well, because we need you guys, because what I was saying earlier about like, okay, now I get to watch people misunderstand you as a candidate first. Right. Like we need the fuckers that are, that are interested in doing something like that. Like, like I feel like when you put it like, Oh, I should do this. I should cut.

Yeah, no. Then you're not going to do it. Don't do it half-heartedly. The resistance book chapter I just read from, like, that's exactly what it is, right? Do it because you want to. So if you don't want to, don't.

But I think that like – Yeah, and don't do it if you think I suck. A hundred percent don't do that. Yeah. But if you don't think she sucks and you get it, do all these things because I think we – that is also a big part of this campaign of journalists because there's so many political reporters that have great integrity that they're just like – they're not paying attention to the – certain candidates for certain reasons. That's fine. But when you shake their tray, they're like, wait, what's this? And if they hear –

Corinne's name. Like we were at that Cuomo protest and the woman in the Working Families Party heard of you. And I was like, fuck yeah. Yes, that point is just like having name recognition. And that literally just means when you hear a name, you go, oh, that's not the first time I've heard that. And if you keep hearing a name enough, you're going to start looking into it. Yeah. So I think like reaching out to journalists, something like that, that is an incredibly big part of this. And you're doing it because you want to. That speaks volumes. Yeah. So thank you very much. Tell a New York resident to...

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All right. So this subject line says, my new boyfriend voted for Trump. Womp womp. Hi, Corinne and Christina. Well, I mean, but he's your new boyfriend. How can it be a womp womp? Wouldn't you have just known that?

Hi, Corinne and Christina. Loyal fucker here. Wanted to start off by saying thank you, girls, for everything you do. My mom introduced me to you guys. And now I've been listening for years. And I feel like you guys have helped raise me in a way. As a 22-year-old, I will say that I think your show is far more helpful and relevant to relationships than Call Her Daddy. Oh, thanks. Shots fired. Shots fired.

Not that you need any confirmation on that is that I'm sure you're well aware, but just wanted to throw that out there. Well, I mean, I agree, but like, and that's part of the reason that I'm like a little bit bothered by it because I just earnestly don't think that they're giving good advice to young people. Like it's kind of like, it's like they bastardized our baby. Well, I feel like people, sometimes they just rather be hot than better. Put it on a sticker.

I agree. Anyway, now I'll get into my current problem. Call her daddy. Are you okay with your looks? Listen to guys be fucked. Yeah. Anyway, now I'll get into my current problem. I switched some names to keep this anonymous-ish.

I made up a new word, anonymous, but I like that one. Yeah, I like that one too. It's like monogamish. Yeah. I was hesitant to email for a minute because I was trying to figure out how I feel about this situation before asking for outside opinions, advice. Wise. Love that for you. I don't know if I'm even 100% sure how I still feel about it, but here we are. It happens.

Some background about me, I just graduated college in May, and that was also when my most recent relationship, it was three months long, but yeah, but you're 22, ended as well. So that is a relationship. Yes, it is. We broke up because I couldn't see myself marrying him or being with him long term, and I didn't want to waste my time on a long distance relationship like that. Good. Well, I mean, you're 22. That's like the one opportunity you have to date people where it's not going to work out and like who it's just going to be fun with. Yeah.

I don't know. I took everything so seriously when I was 22. That's like my two cents. I just feel like that like this is the opportunity when like to just date someone who you're like, oh, this is like a cool boyfriend to have. Like it's never going to work out. But like what a cool boyfriend to have. I'll look back on this one fondly. Yeah. I spent my – because I feel like there's a lot of interesting people that had I been thinking long term, I wouldn't have dated. But I'm like glad I did. Yeah, yeah. I spent my summer casually dating and realized that there really aren't many eligible men out there.

I mean, certainly not when you're 22. It could be my location. I'm from upstate New York, but it could also be just a general thing about men my age in their 20s. I found that I couldn't connect intellectually or physically with the guys I was casually dating. This period of four to five months helped me figure out a little bit more of what I'm looking for in a partner, so that aspect of the casual dating stint was helpful. I started nursing school in August, early September, and hung up my dating hat as school has been pretty intense.

Fast forward to November, December. I ended up seeing this guy. We'll call him Larry. No, you didn't like him. At my place of work pretty frequently. I wait just part time for reference. I thought he was super cute and seemed normal. Also, I thought it was a green flag that he hangs out with his family and I wanted to drop my number on a receipt or something. Oh, I love that. Love doing that.

Okay, I love this. Oh, grrr.

very attractive okay larry we connect physically and can have very good conversations as well by the fourth oh oh the minute she said woodworking i go of course he's a republican liberals can't make a fucking shelf i know we gotta work on that guy that was your dead gift that was your dead giveaway he can make something that's not a pie yeah he didn't vote for kamala he's conservative okay

I wish we could bridge that gap because bad respect to these wood bankers. Yeah. Liberals learn how to make a chair. By the fourth or fifth time we hung out, I had to ask the politics question. I'd like to think I'm averagely informed about the current happenings of the world. I follow a lot of political accounts on Instagram and look at AP news as well as CNN and Fox at times. So I can get an overall picture of what's going on in our world. Nice job. I'm liberal. I'm liberal.

but like to think I'm open to other people's opinions. Off topic, but that's one of the things I love about Without a Country. Corinne, is your ability to sympathize and attempt to reason through other people's opinions when they differ from your own. Ugh, the downside of being a Libra, right? Ha!

Anyway, point is I have strong-ish informed opinions. I love the sentence. Strong-ish? I have strong-ish informed opinions. Delete that ish, baby girl. Larry, on the other hand, doesn't really watch the news and has no social media, so doesn't really have the constant stream of information, accurate or not, about politics. I think he's just kind of uneducated in the politics arena and has expressed that, although he votes,

politics doesn't really mean a whole lot to him or impact him at all. And I think that's the key. He's right. It doesn't impact him very much. I'm sure he's a white guy too. It doesn't impact him as much. Yeah. And like, so when you are, you know, you don't need to know about politics when it's not affecting you. Yeah. Right. Right.

A lot of times, unfortunately, we're informed on a need-to-be-informed basis. So it's like we start studying up when they start coming for us. He's a white guy, so of course he can say that. Nailed it. I also know his parents voted for Trump, so I think that he could have been influenced by – that could have influenced him as well. Yeah. Of course, if you're in your early 20s, for sure. He admitted that he voted for Trump because he thought he would be good for the economy. I mean, Trump said he would be good for the economy. So in fairness, he just believed the liar.

That happens. Which I kind of view as a cop-out answer because Larry said that he doesn't think Trump's a good guy. I would also love to know how much money Larry has at 22 that he's this highly concerned with the economy. What 22-year-old really needs to keep an eye on the economy on that level? He wants a BJ. He doesn't care about the economy.

I mean, if he genuinely did, he'd probably be in finance. Right. Okay. Which I kind of view as a cop-out answer because Larry said he doesn't think that Trump's a good guy, nor does he agree with much of anything that he has done or says. Yeah, that's

Interesting. Larry also claims that he is pro-choice in LGBTQ plus rights. Not how he votes. And generally supports the Second Amendment, except for when it comes to people getting AR-15s or other guns that are just not necessary for anything but killing people. He's also pro-environment. Seems pretty liberal to me.

I love this statement. He's pro environment. What like that exists? Who's anti environment? Oil companies. That's about it. Does Larry work for them? Like he, you mean like he believes in climate change or like, what are we talking here? He goes, yes, it's warmer. He thinks that you shouldn't like throw a can on the ground. Like what kind of environment affected by a flood recently? I would just love to know this. I'm just having a hard time connecting the dots here. I think we agree on a lot of political stuff, but I just don't understand how he is pro all of these liberal ideas and then votes for this homophobic racist. Fuck, excuse my language.

Well, I mean, again, like I –

he is still quite young. And I mean, I think when you grow up in a specific space, you're basically just going to mimic the people. Yeah. We want to fit in. We want to belong. And a lot of times that takes over people's logic. Yeah. I mean, I am excited that he's this young and, and voting. Yeah. That, I mean, I really do. I really am excited about that, even though it's not the guy we hope he voted for. I am, I am happy that he voted. That really is a step in the, in the right direction. Right. Yeah.

I keep trying to further gather data regarding his political views, and it just further frustrates me and confuses me. How can this really nice, smart guy who claims to support human rights vote against all of that and kind of not care? Because you put more thought into his voting decisions than he does. Yeah, and I also, you know, I mean, there's tons of stats that talk about, like, did he go to college? There's nothing wrong with not going to college, but...

But just like the statistics of people who didn't go to college voting for Trump versus people who did go to college are overwhelming. And I think that you can interpret that as like people are stupid. Okay, well, that's a different conversation. I wouldn't say they're stupid. I would say they don't have access to accurate information perhaps is the way I would say that. But this...

really doubles down on a conversation I continuously have on without a country is that Democrats refuse to speak to the people that they so badly need to get on their sides. And that's working class Americans. And you cannot use political and legal jargon, uh, like, and be snarky and shitty to, uh, middle-class people like the New York times often does. Um, and expect them to vote for you. You have to use cut and dry language. And again, like when we're talking about, uh,

political candidates, you know, being qualified or not. Well, it's the underqualified ones who are actually connecting with voters because they're regular people and they speak to them in regular language. Listen to AOC talk. There's nothing that you won't understand. And, you know, there is a chunk of people that said, you

You know, that will say, you know, that's because she's dumb and not qualified. And, you know, it's like, you know, again, this is something I've certainly grappled with myself for years. And then I ultimately just kept watching her. And I was like, you know what? I'm going to take this a positive way and make this inspirational and say, you know what? This is going to make this. This should inspire other regular everyday people to run for office and try to make change. Like, that's what you should take away from AOC. Yeah.

And like, and the fact that we're constantly having a conversation about her. Yeah. What other politician can we say that about? Donald Trump, Barack Obama. The argument that she's dumb does not fly. It doesn't check out. It's just because she's using really accessible language. Then why aren't we saying Fox News is like, well, Fox News is, is dumb, but that's why they have so many subscribers. Yeah. Right. Um,

But again, like the information overall that they're conveying, certainly clickbaity at times, but that's like the headlines, right? So if you're reading the actual articles, the information there is accurate, right?

It's not it's not not accurate. A lot of times, like I said, like the content, they blow up small things. Yeah. Yeah. And op eds across the board for any for any news source, please know are just opinion pieces, just one person's thoughts. So, yeah, you shouldn't be using that as news. That's just like, oh, that's like a basically a way to have a podcast without listening to a podcast because you're like, oh, I'm going to hear a different perspective.

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All right. So how can this really nice, smart guy who claims to support human rights vote against all of that and kind of not care? He also doesn't totally recognize his privilege with that, that he's able to kind of let politics take a backseat because changes over the next four years won't infringe his rights at all. That's a whole other thing that I have been gathering data on. I also wonder like what is what what's his socioeconomic status? You know, yeah.

Because I think like we often overlook that when people are like white and men, you know, but I'm like, if he is lower income, I mean, I think he is affected. I don't know if there's a question in all of this or if this is just me asking for your opinions because I respect you ladies. General idea is that I like this guy a lot and I think he's a good person with a good heart. That's what matters.

We had the whole what are we talk after about four weeks of hanging out consistently and ended up being on the same page about wanting and seeing a relationship in each other. I can see a legit future with him, which I have found that that's kind of hard to come by. It just doesn't really add up for me that he can be a nice person and share some of the big important points.

political opinions as me, but then he uses his vote against all of these things he claims to support. I'm also trying to be realistic about expectations for relationships. I think I have high standards for myself and I feel like this guy has met 84%. That's very specific. Yeah.

84%. That's also pretty good. Yeah. This guy sounds like a good guy. Okay. This guy's not a piece of trash. Of those standards, the last 16% being that he voted for he who shall not be named. Is it unrealistic to think that some, I like that that accounts for specifically 16%. Yeah.

Is it unrealistic to think that someone will meet 100% of those expectations or is that pessimistic and am I settling? Thoughts, opinions, advice. Again, thank you guys for everything you do. Y'all rock for real with love. A loyal fucker. I think if he's as great as you say he is and that's true, then he has the ability to evolve

and change his mind more than others, but you shouldn't bank on him changing his mind because he needs to do that on his own. Like, I think just existing with you and it sounds like your relationship is like pretty healthy. He is not a bad guy. You do not, I would not recommend breaking up with him. I feel like if we just break up with people who are good because they voted for Trump, like,

no, like I know what it's like to fall for somebody's false promises. And a lot of listeners of the show also do in the form of romance and in the form of parents. Okay. But we come around, we come around. And even if it takes a billion people in our lives trying to tell us to come around, we say, no, no, no. And we eventually get there on our own. We do it. So don't write off somebody because of who they voted for. I think that's a dangerous, that's dangerous territory.

I'm curious to see what this grading rubric looks like. I love it. You're very type A. It's fucking great. It's like very to the point. And you're somebody who cares about your life, which is nice. If you have this written down, send it to me so I can take a look at what this –

we'll get some tips yeah well yeah i mean honestly what i'd be graded on yeah yeah i mean i i still don't know he obviously voted for trump oh my god he has a sweater over a button down he's got a watch and he's pouring a glass of cabernet guys you gotta get you gotta get to get better about eyeing a trumper i should i should i should have just saw yeah where do you live virginia what is this new york oh she's at upstate new york yeah yeah he's wearing a tommy hill figure sweater everything about this guy even

his haircut says he voted for Trump. Yeah, sure. But he's got a nice smile. And like I said, if those qualities that you say he has, he has, that's something. That's worth a lot. You're 22. This is the time to date somebody experimental, like Corinne said earlier. There's a big conversation online about how Gen Z is becoming more, Gen Z men specifically, are becoming more and more conservative. So again, it's not just him. This is a larger problem with

with culture. And I think part of it is like that the democratic party needs to make some big changes because, you know, I'm not happy with them either. And I'm not having great conversations with them either. Um, and, uh, yeah, I mean, yeah, just like Christina said, just don't make it like, don't make your whole, you know, all your time spent in this relationship, like trying to change him or banking on that. You will change him. Cause, uh, you very likely might not. And more oftentimes, unfortunately we see the man changing the woman's opinion.

opinion so just don't fall into that trap don't do that girl yeah I also like don't think he's putting as much thought into this relationship as you are and that's not a slight against you or him it's just another reminder for me how much more straight women think about the relationship than straight men sure for sure for sure

That's why I get so excited when a guy writes us. Like, oh, you're thinking about stuff? Yeah. Let's talk about it. Yeah, I mean, I still have people who are angry at me or even stopped listening to the show because I dated someone who voted for Donald Trump years ago, and I was angry at listeners who were like, break up with him because you're voting for Trump. And they think now that I'm a lot more involved in politics. First of all, I do often, I always credit that ex-boyfriend with he's the reason why

that I got so involved in politics. I must credit him with that. Like having, you know, having to,

uh, fight for like how, for what I believe to be true, uh, with him nightly, like really ignited something inside of me. So I, I, first of all, I want to like really credit him, uh, for giving me that gift. Uh, and it wouldn't have, it wouldn't have happened if I hadn't had the openness to date someone like that. And I think people, you know, might are, are,

Again, filling in gaps that are that that are not true, that I have not filled in for them, that, you know, because I'm running for office or because I am kind of at this point now, like if you voted for Trump, like I do think something's you're really missing something and you've been lied to and you are kind of like part of this cult mentality that I like regret that time or that I am now stepping back on.

my anger towards listeners, but like I, I stand by all that stuff. I'm, I'm, that still upsets me. And I still think that I should have been able to have an open conversation about that and that I shouldn't have had people demanding that I break up with my boyfriend. Like, so none of that has changed. Um,

I've just continued to get more politically active. And like, yeah, I don't think I would date someone who was like a big Donald Trump supporter today. I just don't think that's where I am at in my life.

But I don't regret any of those past experiences. And I think they really made me see the world in a much clearer way or our country at least in a much clearer way. Okay. So we're not going to have time for all these. So let's just make some adjustments. All right. Next subject line. Dealing with pervy brother-in-law. Ew. Ew.

Dear Corinne and Christina, loyal OG fucker here. Been supporting Corinne for mayor from day one. I'm forever in debt to you both for the priceless advice, honesty, and laughs you've given over the years. Corinne, I truly admire your authenticity and integrity. I've been listening for 10 years, and while you're open-minded, you've always been consistent and grounded in your beliefs. You're a real one. Christina, your lightness, curiosity, and playfulness inspire me. I feel like you're a kindred spirit coming from a stony, alien, supernatural, obsessed, curly-headed fuck. Eric, you're here. Honestly, honestly. Oh, we love Eric. I know. I know.

honestly you're all hilarious legendary and I love you I 33 female and married to my husband 36 male and we have a 3 year old daughter and a baby our relationship is good healthy communicative and I genuinely feel like I didn't settle nice love that good job for you

He's my person, but here's where I need your advice. His family, specifically his brother. Okay. Well, you didn't marry his brother, so that's good. We'll call my husband John and his brother Zach. Zach, early 40s. His wife, they're two kids, 12-year-old boy, 15-year-old girl. And my mother-in-law all live here in the same city. Ugh. Ugh.

From the start, I saw that John was very close with his family, more intense than I was used to. He's a great guy, but there is this side of him that bends to his family's will. Eh, we've all been there. Like he just cannot set boundaries. Ugh.

There's a lot of strangeness in his family dynamic. His mom even acts like she wants to fuck him. So common. Very common. So common. But that's a whole other story. For context, both John and Zach had really traumatic childhoods because their mom wanted to fuck them. Both experienced sexual assault. Oh, fuck. And were exposed to wildly inappropriate situations growing up. That really sucks. And that makes sense why the brother's pervy because if that happens in your childhood, the odds of you becoming overly sexually active are very high.

My biggest concern is and has been Zach. From the start, he's been pervy, watching softcore porn on his phone in front of everyone, including the kids. Okay, that – he needs a timeout. That's crazy. That's fucking insane. Without a second thought, he makes sexual comments constantly about anal and stuff towards me, my friends, and any woman around. Yeah, Zach needs therapy. He needs an intervention.

He masks it as jokes or bits. Is he a stand-up comedian? No? Okay, then it's not a joke. And also, you know, stand-up comedians often like to use things as bits or jokes that are just misogynistic and racist and xenophobic and the list goes on. But it's creepy as fuck. Normally, I'd tell a guy like this to go fuck himself. But with him, it's harder. He's family. But honestly, I think it's because he intimidates me. He has a massive gun collection. Oh, Jesus Christ.

No one with a gun collection is actually brave. Like I, okay. Anyway, um, I think it's because he, again, he has a massive gun collection that he loves cleaning in front of me and my kids. Um,

Oh my God. John, Zach hates himself and he's, oh, he has so much shame. That's an intimidation tactic. He's doing that on purpose. It's really psychotic. Yeah. Guns should not be taken out in front of children. Um, he has left guns out around them. He's verbally abusive to his wife and kids yelling, raging. It's gotten worse over the years. Yeah. This, this guy desperately needs trauma therapy now.

I think he just needs to be arrested, honestly. I mean, maybe that'll do it. Since having my daughter, my awareness of how dangerous his energy is has only heightened. Recently, things boiled over. Nearly every time we're around Zach, he makes comments about his 15-year-old daughter's breasts. How big and nice they've gotten. It's disgusting. What is he, Jessica Simpson's dad? What is he, Donald Trump? Ew, Jessica Simpson's dad? Oh, my God. Dad, stop sexualizing your daughters, you know? That's fucking weird.

He even sexualizes her on social media, posting heavily censored nude photos

Nude photos of her? What? What? That's child porn. Like it makes me sick that those images even exist online. I feel sick writing it. What the fuck? Are you kidding me? That's terrible. Okay, he is normal. Okay. That's like a child protective service. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I would low-key probably call child social services or something. I've always had a gut feeling that something more could be happening. I mean statistically I think you're right.

But I've never voiced it out loud because it would feel like blasphemy to John. That's crazy that John is in that much denial. But you're not, so you're going to help John get out of that denial, okay? He's your partner. You've got to help him. I would never make that accusation lightly, but the discomfort is eating me alive. Yo, I would just straight up have a conversation with a 15-year-old privately. She's old enough to have a conversation with. That poor girl. 15 is a very... Oh, I want to protect her. Yeah, I would just... Also, if you're going to ask it, just be like, hey, how's

how's everything? And you're like, are you okay? How's everything? I would say that. I mean, my, my tactic, I mean, I'm, there's still more of the email to read, but I just want to next time they're all gathered, go, why did you post near nude photos of your 15 year old daughter? That's weird. And then just let him own that.

I've told John how uncomfortable Zach makes me. I've told him I don't want Zach around our kids, especially alone. Yeah, absolutely not. John agrees his brother is fucked up, but still minimizes it, especially because he works for Zach's company. Fucking who cares? There's got to be another company he can work for. Yeah.

He feels trapped. Family, money, loyalty all tangled up. Yeah, he's doing that to himself. He needs to get another job ASAP. I don't want to be that bitch who tries to sever a man from his family. Well, this is just one family member. Yeah. And his mom sucks, sounds like. But my instinct is to protect my kids is screaming at me. Good. Listen to it. I can handle being around degenerates, but my kids, absolutely not. You shouldn't have to either, though. No, and I wouldn't be around this man for one more second. I would never. Ugh.

Maybe I'm a dumb bitch for not seeing this coming, but here we are. No, you're not. I've set my boundaries. Zach is never to be alone with our daughter. Guns never lying around when my kids are there. That's like serious, serious, serious, serious. I mean, that's someone's going to accidentally die. Yeah. The problem when I inform or when I perform, excuse me, I'm a singer. So many evenings I'm gone. John uses that time to visit Zach. And when I ask him if he's enforcing my boundaries, he hesitates. He says he quote, doesn't see it the same way. So why should he, uh,

uh honestly i think it's his fear of confrontation and that's what terrifies me because i know he won't speak up especially to zach yo straight up one of your kids is gonna get physically injured or sexually assaulted yep this is like not like no i'm heartbroken call the fucking police on this guy yourself i would i would actually please no one will know it's i'm not it's anonymous you can do it anonymous i'm heartbroken for zach's wife and kids me too dude

But I don't know what I can really do. Call the cops. I try to make sure the kids know I'm the safe person. Good. I know I'll speak up if something happens, but this shit is exhausting. Oh, yeah. It's also exhausting to wait for something bad to happen. That shouldn't be how our systems work. That also shouldn't be how we function.

I'm so done people pleasing though. It's the best feeling in the world. Learning that giving zero fucks is the real secret to life. I will be the bitch if I have to, I'll be the bad guy for my kids, but I need John to wake the fuck up. I need him to have my back. I need words or tools to get through to him because this is non-negotiable. Absolutely. You're a good mom. Uh, if you've made it this far, thank you. Seriously. I'd be grateful for any thoughts, advice, or just to hear you talk through this attaches a photo of us. Cause why not put faces to the dysfunction? Um,

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I have them all in my closet. I keep finding them. I go... Let your titties out at Gracie Mansion. I go, I gotta find these buttoned up shirts. Okay. Or buttoned down shirts. It feels like buttoned up though. I... Yeah, this is... I mean, you know, I love to...

you know, bringing divorce to the table, but like, this is grounds for it. Yeah. But, but, but her husband, I could tell he's a good guy and he just hasn't faced the terror of his life. And I don't think it's like, I think you have to have a real conversation, you know, and the conversation is like, uh,

I love you. And there's nothing that, you know, in the way you treat me is great. But like you not understanding that our kids are in like really eminent danger. Very alarming. Is really alarming me, you know, because we are co-parenting these children together. Like I do feel...

Like, it really is grounds for divorce. Like, I mean, this is... I mean, look at the facts here. This is terrifying to me. Look at the facts. To me, it is so obvious. This is one of these, like...

I'm like put down the email and call you immediately things where we, you know, we go, you got to do something today. Yeah. Guns and a guy who is like, who's sexualizing his 15 year old daughter. Yeah. I mean, he's already, he's already broken the law. Really, really, really bad is going to happen. And it's, it's so clear. And you know this. Yeah, you do. I can feel it. I can feel it through the email. You know, something is back. So like,

And I think – and like what is stopping you that you don't want to tear your husband away from his brother? From his shitty family. Yeah. I mean it's not that – he needs to wake the fuck up and he needs to support you. Like this is an imminent danger situation.

Something really, really, really, really bad is going to happen. And it's very clear to me that your husband, John, in quotes, one hasn't faced the trauma of what he went through with the sexual abuse as a child. Yeah. He has not faced that. And that's it's not an easy thing to do. And it's it makes you go backwards for a second, but then you go forward. So it's it's so doable and it's necessary to lead a productive life.

And number two, I think he looks at Zach as also not facing the trauma that he's experienced. And if John, your husband, can't feel compassion and empathy for himself to go to therapy, then he's channeling all that empathy that he should have on himself to his brother, Zach. And that's why he's creating excuses for Zach because he's like connecting to Zach's pain in a way that's like we're buddies in a war. No one gets what we've been through except us. But that protecting is putting you and your kids in danger.

Yeah. So that's fucked. When you bring, I understand that it's his brother, but when you bring people into this world, they have to be your number one priority. Yeah, ma'am. Like they have to be. And so there's an ultimatum here and he has to, like, it's not that he can't see or talk to Zach anymore, but he, your kids cannot be around this guy. I've never gone to that fucking man's house again. They cannot be around this guy. And I think Zach needs an intervention. I can't.

I can't imagine his wife and kids are happy with him as he shows up as a, as a husband and a father. I can't imagine it's good. Um, I can't, there's gotta be friends that fucking that are getting fucked over by him in some way. Like this, this guy is just a walking bomb. Yeah. I mean, yeah. And I mean, it's like, you know, with any kind of like abuse of an adult, like you, it's really hard to, you know, call the cops or whatever, but like,

You can report him anonymously about the kid stuff for sure. Yeah. I mean, he's going to get in big trouble, but at least he'll get you away from it. It'll get him out of the situation. He needs a sobering wake up call. And I think like having the authorities involved will wake your husband up. Again, like I know it's hard. That's like a huge secret to keep from your husband. But like if your husband won't pay attention to you. He's too brainwashed to see the truth. You've got to take matters into your own hands. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Like this guy needs to be removed from the situation. Yep. And I mean, I'm sure somebody else saw that photo of his 15 year old daughter. So they could have reported him. You know, that's really alarming and eerie. Yeah. Yeah.

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All right. This says, is being a good person when you come from a lot of traumatic childhood enough? Hey, let's get into it. I have three older brothers. My 11-year-old brother passed away from an accident in the home when I was two. Oh, no. My parents divorced when I was five and used us kids as weapons to hurt each other in a very messy divorce. Crazy Lou in locks by my dad. Children's aid being called to our school by my dad to embarrass my mom. Oh, no.

Intense emotional guilt trips and silent treatments if we showed interest in visits with the other parent by my mom, etc. Oh my God. That sucks. I remember my mom saying, I'm not going to be a basketball parent. You either live with me or him. This caused separation among the siblings as my two older brothers took my dad's side and I took my mom's. My mom would make me refer to the popular store-bought cookie shop

dad's oatmeal cookies as mom's oatmeal because using the dad word was triggering for her. Our moms should be friends. My mom refers to me as the business associate. She won't even say my fucking name. Oh boy. So emotionally immature parents are something, huh? Just an example to show the petty emotional immaturity.

That's nice.

Nice. Without that, I don't think our relationship would have been salvageable. She's been a great grandmother to my children, and I told her I wish this is the mom I had growing up, to which she replied, me too. Aw. Just to have her agree, not make any excuses, and sincerely apologize was extremely therapeutic for me. Me too. She's really shown me with her actions that she is now a much better version of herself than the mom I had growing up.

My dad and I never had a relationship from the time I was about five to 18. Around 18, I reached out to him and we would go for dinners, have drinks here and there, etc. But after about a year of that, he became frustrated at the fact that I didn't have interest in meeting his new wife yet and I lost it. I sent a very hurtful text message to him with words I'm not necessarily proud of. However, no doubt they were my true feelings. He died about eight years later in

It's fucked up, but I do reflect on those times we hung out fondly. And even though it wasn't much, I am happy I had those before he died. I've seen a few mediums and between that and what was a very real dream of him coming to me apologizing for all of that happening.

Mm-hmm.

My oldest brother, 13 years older than me, left for BC when I was about 10. He stopped any communication with me shortly after the divorce. I always thought he was the coolest guy. For years, I would sit in my class just daydreaming he would come and visit me at school. I reached out to him through email a few times through the years and no response. I was like,

I reached out again around age 18 and we started a relationship back up. I visited him out in BC. He actually walked me down the aisle at my wedding with my mom. Things were going well with us. And then our dad passed away in 2021. I had a nine month year old son, still prime COVID months. He came to visit and was going to stay with me for the funeral. And because I told him to be careful with COVID precautions, he flew off the deep end and said I was too controlling and kicked him out.

and we haven't talked since then. The third brother, five years older than me, lived with my dad after the divorce for the most part. He got kicked out of there a couple of times and would try to come back to live with us, but he had problems later diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. And my mom ultimately kicked him out because of drugs and weapons in the home when he was about 16.

I contacted him when I was about 20 and would buy him groceries, take him for dinner, a few pieces of new clothes here and there. And it quickly turned into asking me for money to get his laptop back from the pawn shop, et cetera. So I pulled back with that aspect and just continued open lines of communication that fell off after he no longer had a phone.

He's now in the shittiest apartment in our city. It's basically one step above homeless. Obviously, drugs and poor mental health play a huge part. Anyway, after the divorce, we moved around a lot. I had been to seven different grade schools by the sixth grade. In grade nine, I started dating my now husband. He's been my rock since I was 14. And despite the bad rap, high school sweethearts can...

yet we really have grown together and have created a great life. Codependent to an extent, I'm sure, but I have always felt safe and supported by him regarding anything I've ever wanted to do. From schooling to new jobs to healing emotional baggage as stated above, he never misses a chance to tell me I'm the MVP in our home. He's really helped me become the best version of myself and I've done the same for him. We work well as a

team. Uh, his weaknesses are my strengths and vice versa. He always has my back. He's my best friend and we have a great sex life. Every weekend we share a bottle of champagne in our hot tub and unwind with quality time together. We have great jobs. He owns a plumbing business and I work from home doing medical coding for a local hospital. We bought a house at 21, got married at 24, had two beautiful kids and a fricking sweet dog recently purchased the second home to flip for investment purposes. Can I get a hell yeah for a handyman? Um,

I'll be 31 this year. I am resilient and was able to get myself in the great situation that I'm in now. I've done a lot of self-help and healing books, a lot of them recommended by Christina. Thanks, girl. No problem, girl.

I'm a mom and wife that I am proud of. I hold myself to high standards and I'm always hyper aware of doing the right thing. Well, be careful about that. Then you become obsessed with being a good person. Taylor Swift syndrome. An act of life with good food, active exercise, healthy kids, happy marriage, and good friends is all that I could ever dream of. The question.

I can't help but think about my brother who is pretty much homeless. All of these same things happen to him too. I think I was a little luckier to have a healthier brain to overcome a dramatic past. I can't help but feel like there's something I should be doing to help him. I don't feel safe to even go near that neighborhood he lives in, nor could I ever let any of his, uh,

old family drama bleed into my new life, especially children. I'm extremely protective of my kids, as you could imagine. But am I just supposed to wait until I hear that he's overdosed? I am worried I'll feel guilty when that happens that I didn't do more. Is being a good person day to day in the life I've created enough? There's a voice in my head saying, move on and enjoy the life you've created. I would love your thoughts.

Anyway, I'm a luminary subscriber and OG fucker and love you gals. I definitely see similarities in you and I, Christina and Corinne. I often find myself asking how would Corinne handle this situation? Thanks for everything you guys do really kept me company during two COVID maternity leaves attached a picture of my family and dog because I know my audience. Nice, nice, nice. This is such a tough one. Um,

Because, yeah, like your brother is struggling. And, okay, so my first question would be,

you express that you are worried you will feel guilty so is your main concern here and you can be honest there you don't try to give me the good person answer because I know you're really like I see definitely overcome a lot I see a bit of myself in you and like me getting over like the want and need to be a good person and do the right thing was such an important part in like my growth like

Don't do things just because you think they're the right thing to do or that that will make you a good person because if that's the reason you're doing it, you've already – like you've canceled out because you feel like it's the thing that you – like you as a person, like you want to do, that you're living in your integrity and your authenticity. Yeah.

if you're doing the right thing just because you're like, well, this is the right thing, like kind of mindless and monotonous, I would say to honestly don't even fucking bother. Cause you could say in a way you're skipping a lesson there. Um, yeah. And you're not living authentically. And it's also just like not, it's not putting the energy out into the world that you think it is. And it also creates this thing that separates you from other people when you continually do things. Um,

You know, this is to me like one of the downsides of liberals is like we do a lot of things because we say this makes us the right person. And it's gross. It creates a stench on you. It's gross. It creates a stench on you and we can smell it right now from the left. So I would say the first question I want to ask you is do you want to help your brother? And again, be honest. So really, I'm not going to think you're a bad person if the answer is not the quote unquote right one.

Do you want to help him because you are worried that the guilt is going to crush you if and when he overdoses? Or do you want to help him because you feel like...

Like what you talked about earlier, like you both grew up, grew up in these same circumstances and thing, just things just worked out differently for you. And you now have the energy and you feel like because you have healed so much, you have the energy to lend a helping hand and you're genuinely interested in doing it. Answer that question first.

Because if it's just about the guilt, that's a separate journey. And you'll deal with it when you need to deal with it. But if you're only doing it to save yourself the guilt, don't bother. Don't bother. That's a good answer. So that's step one. And then step two, I mean, so if your answer is you're just doing it because of the guilt, I don't know.

I say keep living your life and we'll cross that. Send me another email when you need to get over that guilt. Because guilt also, you know, to me is really attached to this need to be a good person and do the right thing. So it's still, and I know some people disagree with this. Yeah, you're right though. There's still a self-servingness in it. Even like the feeling of guilt, you're like, oh, I could have been personally better. Okay, well, but you weren't.

Okay. So I mean like just work through that yourself. Um, and, uh, but, but if you, if you generally want to, if like, I also understand being like a man, like things turned out better for me than for a lot of other people. So I have this extra energy and I do feel like, you know, I do feel this like want to, uh, give that extra energy to people who weren't as lucky. And

uh if you want to do that i mean definitely keep your kids away from him um i think if you don't have experience with mental mental illness and addiction you probably need to talk to contact someone like there are plenty of like friends of family of groups for people you know like yeah like like yeah yeah alan on in like um alcoholic or dysfunctional family right what's that group um

Oh, fuck. I forget. Cause you need information on how to handle it. I mean, the primary issue here is his mental illness, right? That he's then exacerbating through the use of substances. Cause it says, this is the one with schizophrenia and bipolar. Yeah. So, I mean, that is a lot. That is a load. That's a lot. So, you know, I have a lot of experience with being close to people with a person with bipolar disorder. And then I have a good friend who has a sibling who has schizophrenia and like

literally we'll just have to fly to his hometown and look for his brother who went off his meds and is literally roaming the fucking town. Yeah. With schizophrenia. These are really serious things, um, that you need a certain level of expertise to, to learn how to handle. Um, I think even like step one, you know, I, I know you said like, you're nervous to go to where he even lives. That's going to be a challenge. Cause I would say step one is just like,

You know, maybe once every other week you go and spend an hour with him. Yeah. And just like connect with him. Just meet him for lunch. Because I do think like having like make making eye contact, having human contact with someone. Yeah. Like you can poke through the mental illness. Again, this is like kind of the tactic I use with people experiencing a mental health crisis in New York City. Just...

eye contact and saying like, hi. Yeah. Like something like that I think is super helpful. But I mean, to actually make a long-term impact, I mean, this is something that I don't think you would be able to do alone, which is why I say I think like reach out to whatever the local services are in your area. And like the

they should have some kind of like a plan to help a family member of someone experiencing, you know, cause the mental, to me, mental health is the first thing you need to get past here. The substances is just something that's making it worse. But like, I wouldn't approach this as someone, um,

who's experiencing addiction, I would, I would approach this first and foremost as someone who's experiencing a mental health crisis. And then also what are the laws where you live? Cause it's different everywhere. We have different amounts of, you know, autonomy that we have over ourselves. Like,

Can you say, can you make a point to the authorities that this person is unable to care for themselves and get him put into a program? I don't know. I don't know the laws where you live. Um, cause I think this is a Canadian person, right? Yeah. Uh, so that's something like, you know, and, and so if you are able to do something like that, I mean, I think it's quite obvious that he's unable to care for himself. Yeah. Um, so you could do something like that, but it is a lot of times it's very hard because we do have,

Especially in a place like America or Canada, like a lot of control over whether or not we want to be put into a program. Yep. I agree with the guilt part. I asked the pet psychic yesterday on my appointment that Corinne gifted me. She was also a people psychic. What did you ask the psychic? But I realized it was out of guilt. I go, you know, when I die in this lifetime and –

I am confronted with all the choices that I made in my life and how I treated people. There's some good and some bad, but you know, I was concerned, like, am I going to regret not reaching out to my mom and not just looking at her as somebody who has had a really tough childhood, uh, is struggling with mental illness, did not get the love she deserved and like come at it from there. Um,

I was asking her that. I wish somebody could just – I wish like a spirit guide could just come down visibly and go, this is the right decision to do, Christina. But I realized as I was asking her, I was asking her because I felt guilty. That's not a reason to do something. So I do agree with her. Like if you're just doing it to be a good person or to be – to rid yourself from guilt, that is not the right way. That's not the strongest way.

To help somebody. And that's what might make you feel better. It'll make you feel more burdened. Yes. And I like your idea of like doing like an hour a week with your brother. If you have the room after you've kind of thought it over because as Gabor Matei states, the opposite of addiction and the opposite of trauma is...

And so I think allowing your brother to maybe feel 45 minutes to an hour of just his genuine, simple, no-strings-attached connection with his sister, that might help. I think that we make changes that are permanent when we do small things over a period of time.

Yeah. And depending where he is, like, I mean, like if he's unable to even like hold maybe a conversation, I don't know where he's at in his mental health. Even so, if you feel like the conversation like is not going anywhere or is like confrontational, you can do something like,

over the next couple of weeks, we're going to read a book together and like bring a Harry Potter book or something and just like literally read it to him. I don't know. It's a, it all depends where he is. But yeah, I think just like connection really kind of like snaps people out of something, even, even if it's moment, momentary. I mean, obviously it's not an actual, you know, connection is not going to solve schizophrenia or heal schizophrenia. Yeah. Yeah. You need meds for that. Yeah. All right. Last email. I met my boyfriend on a reality dating show. He's a narcissist. Oh, crazy. Yeah.

My boyfriend, 24, me, 27, met on a reality dating show we were both on. We didn't actually start dating until a while after the show ended, but now he's a couple, it's been a couple years and we have the most tumultuous relationship ever. But do you love it? Yeah, if you're still with him, you do. He's a narcissist and I'm anxious attachment. Ooh,

Match made in heaven, says your ego. I want to preface by saying that I'm embarrassed to type out all of these things I've put up with in our relationship and even more embarrassed that I still want to be with him. We're going to solve this. It's important to admit that.

We are traditional people with similar views. I have differing political views from both of you, but I love hearing your opinions and perspectives, by the way. That's fucking awesome. I love that. As we are both Christians from the South. Oh, I follow a lot of Christian accounts. Yeah. Also, being a Christian and being in the South, you're right. That's a different-ass world. Different-ass world.

Oh, they set a timer for 45 minutes. Yeah, honestly, it was what it was. I mean, to be fair, yeah. They're just going to be hammering for this last email because we did make a deal. Yeah, that's on us. It's fine. They're doing the right thing. He is a lot more extreme than me, though. He feels as I should be submissive to him and follow his lead. I agree to an extent that that's how I would like my future marriage to work as long as I'm getting what I need as a woman as well. Okay. Okay.

Girl, that's not going to get better. Let me give you an example.

We last minute got invited to a concert, my favorite country singer, by his best friend who had scored $9,000 worth of tickets for free from a client. That's fucking amazing. I was so excited. I said, yes, let's definitely go. Not knowing, we would have had less than an hour to get ready and I was struggling with the remainder of food poisoning. He said, am I sure? Died to me not feeling well. And I said, yes. What? I don't know what you meant to say. He shed a...

I don't know what you meant to say there. Sorry. I had no idea we were going to have less than an hour to get ready. I was at his house, so I had only packed gym clothes and some clothes I had to make content due to a brand collab. I will admit my fault and I... That's not your fucking fault. You didn't know what was going to happen. I will admit my fault and say I was taking my outfits too seriously as nothing looked good and I had no real shoes. Girl... This is the language of someone who's being emotionally abused. I know. I already can sense it. I'm the girliest girl ever and prioritize my outfits. Yeah, it's fun.

to like dress cool and like put thought into what you wear because it's a form of self-expression. You do not like the you don't have to make an excuse for that. You're literally explained to us that you wanted to look nice to go out to a concert. Yeah, that's a red flag. Yeah, you don't have to explain this. Yeah, we get it. You're a fucking adult. Yeah, not sure if anyone can understand but it's very important to me to look the part especially when I'm going somewhere that everyone else will have super cute outfits. Is that dumb girl? I just want you to listen to us read your email. That's all I want for right now. No, no, no.

no, no, whatever. He told me after I tried on all my clothes just to wear my gym clothes and gym shoes. I had asked, uh, I had asked if we can drive separately and just Uber giving me 20 more minutes to figure out my outfit and get ready instead of being ready. And now in 20 minutes, so we can ride with his friend and his friend's girlfriend.

He said, no, be ready by 8 PM or I'm leaving you. No. Immediately that sends me into a panic because I have abandonment issues. Yeah. And he's, you're just triggering each other's bullshit. Some that he's attributed to by kicking me out of his car at 4 AM and leaving me at my sister's apartment, not making sure I get into the house. Okay. Which I did not. She was asleep and the door was locked and I was drunk. So I couldn't drive and didn't want an Uber myself that late at night. So, and blocked me as I called his phone a million times. It fucking sucks. Fuck is going on here. Um,

Remember that chapter I read at the beginning of this episode about tolerating abusive behavior as a form of resistance? Replay that. Yeah, and this is not tumultuous. Tumultuous is a quirky word that you're using for being abused. This is abusive. Just so you know. Yeah. So back to the concert dilemma. I'm saying that comment threw me off and put me in a defensive headspace. Yeah, he wanted that.

So now we are arguing. I am crying and I'm not ever proud of how I react when I'm this upset. But I said, can you stop sucking so-and-so's dick and just put me in, put me first in the situation? And you'd think he, I punched his mom. Yeah, because you fucking stood up to him and narcissist. Love that. I know that's not the kindest thing to say. Girl, what? He's not.

kind to you, excuse me, but it's just a saying and I wasn't really thinking clearly. Because you're being abused.

Long story short, he ended up uninviting me and leaving me at his house to go with his friends. Mind you, he lives an hour away and I drove to see him so we could spend the day and night together as our schedules clash and we were very busy. So my feelings are not only hurt due to him leaving me, but also why couldn't we just have a convo where we both discuss if the concert should even still be on the table for both of us? You should leave your girlfriend behind. You shouldn't leave your girlfriend behind.

His friend insisted on picking me up ultimately, missing the concert, and it's embarrassing that we are that couple that everyone knows is a shit show. We all played games and went to the fair. My boyfriend took cute pics with a stuffed animal he got me, bought me food, etc., just to break up with me the minute we got home. I feel so confused because why even come back to me and act like everything will be okay at the fair? Because this is the game he plays and he loves it.

He says I'm incapable of listening because I should have just put my gym outfit on and we would have had any further discussions. But I'm still my own person. Is this a lost cause? Because I can – can I have a successful future with someone who thinks I should be at his beck and call and not have a mind of my own?

I'm so frustrated and this has been going on for around two years. Okay, just read that last sentence about yourself. I'm so frustrated and this has been going on for two years. Let's take all emotion out of it. Why have you allowed yourself to be frustrated for two years? I think it's easy to get addicted to the highs and lows of emotional abuse. I get it. I get it. It's addicting. To be emotionally abused can feel...

cancerously good because it feels so good when you guys to re-earn the love back that's that's the moment you live for with an abusive relationship yep um i'm trying to do this bit on stage where i'm like being in an abuse emotionally abusive relationship is like if something in your house smells like shit you walk in 10 minutes you're like oh my god it smells like shit 10 minutes later you don't smell it anymore you're used to it and then years later your friend comes up your house smells like shit and you're like no you smell like shit and you get defensive

you are in a cycle of abuse and I think that you are resisting living your life by continuing to tolerate this. But your higher self knows that you shouldn't be tolerating this and that a better life is out there for you if you will only take it because your higher self had you write this email.

And like, okay, so I know, and I know the submissive thing that you're talking about and like, that's totally your choice. I mean, it's, you know, there are plenty of wives and cultures where it is recommended that the wife follow the husband's lead. Obviously I don't need to,

tell you my feelings on that. You know, this is your own choice. It's your own life. If you feel like that is comfortable for you, go ahead. I support your right to choose that. But I, you know, there's a difference between following someone's lead and being fully controlled by somebody. And you are like now in, I mean, being controlled, being emotionally abused, being disrespected. Nothing about this is good.

Like when we talk about the man, the woman submitting to the husband, it is because he is taking care of her. It is because he is providing for her. It is because he is cherishing her and adoring her. Like that is all the things that are supposed to work in that type of dynamic. And that is certainly what's not what is happening here. There's no cherishing.

So, okay, if you want to follow a man's lead, it has to be a man worth following. This is not a man worth following. Also...

reality tv show so that's not that's the worst place to find i did one of those uh reality dating shows when i was 19 of course you did it was uh one of those uh 19 year old models and counting i was actually uh youngest person on that i don't think they knew how old i was john and kate plus eight pack that's pretty good i think i'm much better than that but no everyone there uh

In holding all the guys that every single one had a get up on. And that's a, it's a big telltale sign of narcissist. I get up. Yeah. Get up. Like, it's like, there's a dazzled hat. There's a difference between like an outfit. Yeah. I get up. Yeah. You got to have a gimmick. Yes. They all had the LA fucking fedora. Just go away with that fedora. Never wear a fedora in my presence.

Everybody. Oh, my God. Yeah. This person is not worth following. No further comment. Yeah. Also, like you say, you're a Christian. Like, would Jesus treat anybody like that?

that yeah ww he would not he would not jesus was fucking nice jesus wouldn't leave for the concert without you girl jesus would want jesus will make sure you get to that concert and make sure that you are in an outfit that you feel good about jesus would have carried you over the sand so there was only one set of footsteps going to that concert jesus would never have left you at home to get into your sister's locked apartment and blocked your number absolutely not

This guy's really not. If you, if you call yourself a Christian, get on out of this relationship. But I really mean that. Like, you know, so it's like, okay, if you're a Christian, like, do you have a, like a go talk to, I want to say like, go talk to like a pastor about it, but.

Hey, they can be great. I've met a few that I read a few books by rabbis and pastors that I'm like, fuck man, this, if this guy was my dad, I would have been way more successful in my life. Absolutely. So there's some sage wisdom to be gained, but you wrote this email because you know, you're in a bad situation.

and you want us to read it back, which is great. I'm glad you did that, and I'm glad we're reading this. Yeah, you're honestly open-minded if you listen to this show. 100%. We appreciate you, baby. But you still love God. You love God? Good for you. Hey, fuck yeah, man. Yeah, hell yeah. You do whatever you do, but get out of that. You're better than that. Yeah. Thanks for listening, guys. Yeah.

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My angel.

Angel is green.

Angel is great. And when you're lost, I will help you find a home. When we're scared, you won't be alone.

And when you're lost, I will help you find my angel face.