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How to Say No Without Guilt & The Secrets to Satisfaction - SYSK Choice

2025/6/14
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Vanessa Patrick: 我发现很多人难以拒绝他人,主要是因为他们担心损害人际关系和个人形象。因此,我的研究重点在于如何培养一种既有说服力又能维持人际关系的拒绝技巧。我会建议大家使用更有力量的词语,例如用“我不”代替“我不能”,这样能更坚定地表达自己的立场。同时,我也强调自我意识的重要性,了解自己的价值观和优先事项,这样才能更清晰地知道何时应该拒绝。此外,建立个人规则能帮助我们更好地拒绝,并表达我们的价值观。例如,如果有人邀请我在家庭时间打电话,我会说“我不在晚上6点到9点之间接电话,因为那是我的家庭时间”。 Mike Carruthers: 我认为很多人害怕拒绝会损害自己的名誉,但实际上,能够自信地说“不”反而会赢得他人的尊重。那些设定明确界限的人往往更受人钦佩。而且,当你开始拒绝一些事情时,人们可能会减少对你的请求,因为他们知道你不会总是答应。所以,学习如何自信地说“不”实际上可以改善你的人际关系和个人形象。

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It can be hard to say no. After all, you don’t want to let people down or have them think you are not a team player. But think about all the times you have said yes and wish you hadn’t. If you find saying no to be hard, you will be interested in some interesting research that says HOW you do it is what really matters. You can say no to almost anybody and people will generally accept it. Here to explain how you can say no and feel good about it is Professor Vanessa Patrick from the University of Houston and author of the book The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life (https://amzn.to/3MUs6KE).)

There is a lot of emphasis today on finding happiness. Yet about 40% of people say they are unhappy. Perhaps chasing happiness is the wrong goal. After all, no one is happy all the time. Happiness comes and goes. Maybe instead of a happy life we should be seeking a life of satisfaction. Here to reveal the important distinction between happiness and satisfaction and why a satisfied life is a better goal is Dr Jennifer Guttman. She is psychologist in private practice and author of the book Beyond Happiness: The 6 Secrets of Life Satisfaction (https://amzn.to/43mzyoB).)

We all know that maintaining eye contact is important when talking with someone. Listen as I discuss how one simple eye contact technique triggers just the right hormones that will make you more intriguing to the person you are looking at. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/26704066)

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