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cover of episode Vol.181|人生有很多选择,但没有一种选择是无痛的。

Vol.181|人生有很多选择,但没有一种选择是无痛的。

2024/12/27
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不把天聊si

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仙草:在面临选择时,我倾向于将选择视为实验,去体验不同选项带来的结果,即使结果伴随着痛苦。我也会坚持做一些事情,即使很痛苦,也能带来毅力上的提升,例如坚持瑜伽。 在漫画出版的选择上,我经历了漫长的过程,期间热情有所下降,最终选择暂时搁置。在与出版社的沟通中,我学会了拒绝,这让我感到轻松。我意识到,有时我们不是选择拥有什么,而是选择承受什么。 今年最庆幸的选择是克服了社交障碍,与许多人进行了交流,结识了新的朋友。最遗憾的是没有坚持完成漫画创作。 阿车:今年我经历了换工作的选择,这个过程既有理性因素的考量(薪资、晋升空间),也有感性因素的考量(工作状态)。我发现,实际的代价可能比想象中要小,人不要低估自己的调整能力。 在做选择时,我倾向于明确自身的优先级,例如地理位置、工作自由度和薪资水平。我也会综合考虑感性因素和理性因素。 今年最庆幸的选择是认识了一个重要的朋友。最遗憾的是接受了一个项目,给我带来了伤害。 Kitty:婚礼筹备过程中,每个选择都需权衡时间、精力和金钱,并可能需要与伴侣反复沟通。在做选择时,'都可以'或'都行'的态度会令人抓狂。 在做选择时,我会考虑对未来世界的期待和向往是否发自内心。有时,选择不在自己手中,决定权在别人手里。 今年最庆幸的选择是换工作后,工作环境变得更加严谨高效,减少了内耗。最遗憾的选择是没有坚定地拒绝一些项目,给自己带来了伤害。

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What is the concept of 'Or Game' discussed in the podcast?

The 'Or Game' is a decision-making game where participants must choose between two options, without the possibility of selecting both or neither. It reflects the many choices in life, each with its own set of consequences and no perfect solution.

Why did the speaker choose to continue doing yoga despite the pain?

The speaker chose to continue doing yoga to experience the physical sensation of persistence and to understand the extent of their own endurance. This decision helped them build resilience and eliminated the excuse of being physically weak.

What challenges did the speaker face when planning their wedding?

The speaker faced numerous challenges in wedding planning, including selecting materials for printed items, choosing between lace or satin for the wedding dress, and even deciding on the type of buttons for the suit. The process was time-consuming, labor-intensive, and costly, requiring constant decision-making and negotiation.

How did the speaker's friends help during the wedding preparations?

The speaker's friends significantly helped by taking on responsibilities such as decorating the wedding venue without being asked or reimbursed. Their assistance reduced the overall budget and stress associated with the wedding preparations.

What was the speaker's experience with publishing a comic book?

The speaker faced a prolonged and uncertain process in publishing a comic book, which included legal consultations and contract revisions. The project was eventually put on hold due to lack of progress from the publishing platform, leading to diminished enthusiasm and a decision to step back from further publishing efforts.

What does the speaker suggest about the nature of choices in life?

The speaker suggests that life's choices often involve selecting what to endure rather than what to gain. They emphasize that every choice comes with its own set of challenges and that the ability to adjust and adapt is crucial in managing the outcomes of these decisions.

What insights does the speaker share about the workplace environment after changing jobs?

After changing jobs, the speaker experienced a more structured and rule-bound environment, which initially felt restrictive. However, they eventually appreciated the reduced need to manage others' decisions and the clarity in responsibilities, which minimized personal stress and workplace conflicts.

What does the speaker conclude about the pain associated with making choices?

The speaker concludes that no choice is entirely pain-free, but some people are better at forgetting the pain associated with their decisions. They highlight the importance of accepting the consequences of choices and the value of moving forward despite the discomfort.

Chapters
本期节目讨论了生活中常见的二选一选择,以及在做选择时的一些思考。嘉宾们分享了各自今年遇到的重要选择,例如:瑜伽、婚礼、漫画出版等,并探讨了这些选择背后的思考和代价。
  • 生活充满各种或大或小的二选一选择
  • 没有完美的选择,但可以尽量减少选择的代价
  • 做选择时要考虑理性因素和感性因素

Shownotes Transcript

本期聊天编辑: Kitty、Acher、仙草 制作:左右

在之前的播客里,我们就有提到过 Or Game 二选一游戏。它的规则,是必须要在两者之间选一个,不能说「都可以」,也不能说「都不行」。 生活里,其实也布满了很多或大或小的 Or Game 时刻,我们常常在不同的选择里纠结、迷茫、困惑,一方面是清醒地知道世界上不存在完美的选择,另一方面也仍在期待,是否能做出一个无痛的选择。 于是这一期,我们回顾了一下这一年里对我们来说重要的 Or Game 时刻,也聊了聊在这些选择背后,我们经历了怎样的思考。 你将会听到: 02:45) 今年的 Or Game 时刻:瑜伽、婚礼、漫画出版。 12:42) 我们不是选择拥有什么,而是选择承受什么。 20:30) 换工作给我带来代价,也带来新鲜感。 25:53) 人真的不要低估自己的调整能力。 28:27) 没有无痛的选择,但有擅长忘记痛苦的人。 32:18) 舍弃也意味着我们有机会遇见和自己相似的人。 36:24) 美好是显性的,辛苦却常常被隐藏。 40:44) 今年最庆幸的选择和最遗憾的选择。

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