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She is the executive editor of Family Circle magazineGood morning, BettyGood morning, AlanWell, in an ideal worldI guess we would all get along with our neighbors, wouldn't we?Right, right, we hope soBut how do we establish a good relationship?When you move into a neighborhood, right?Should you reach out to the neighbors?Or should they be reaching out to you?
I think it could work either wayI mean, certainly if they don't reach out to youdon't assume that they are being rude or unfriendlythey just might be holding backbecause they think you are too busyso if they don't make that first stepyou know, after a few daysgo ahead and introduce yourself
Yeah, neighbors can be really helpful, but of course they can also be annoying.For example, neighbors who make a lot of noise.Well, loud music is one of those top complaints, and I think you know for most reasons.People, they probably aren't even aware that they are causing problems for their neighbors.And I think if you bring it up to your neighbors' attention, they will be more than happy to fix it.
You could say something like,you know,I'm kind of,I'm really a light sleeper,or I suffer from headache.Can you help me out by,you know,turning down the music during those evening hours,or the early morning,or come up with a compromise that works for both of you?Don't just call the police,right?Which a lot of people do.Of course no.Right then,what about a nosy neighbor?
Right, I think a lot of time we make mistake nosy behavior for being, you know, nosy or pokey, when they are just being kind of trying to be friendly.Or maybe that person is lonely.It's, you kind of have to see what the motive is there, and oftentimes, if you are a little evasive, or you just don't answer their question, they often take the hint and back off.
And the neighbor that comes to visit and won't go away.Well, I think you know that.There might be somebody who is just really lonely and wants a friend.You know, oftentimes, I think the rule is,a five or ten minute visit is fine,because you know that way you are not imposing on that person's schedule or that person's plan.
但你知道,你不必和你隔壁的最好的朋友们是好朋友。你只能是很卑微的,在早上打个招呼,这让人们的关系变得更好。
Questions 6 to 10 are based on Conversation 2.Question 6. What should we do if our neighbors didn't reach out?Question 7. Which is the best way to handle a noisy neighbor?Question 8. What should we do if we have a nosy neighbor?Question 9. How long do we expect our neighbors to stay?Question 10. Where can we get more information on this topic?