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本段落讨论了在生活中如何更好地拒绝他人请求，包括面对推销、服务员好评请求、以及朋友的邀请时的不同应对策略。

拒绝的策略因情境而异
善于拒绝可以减少不必要的麻烦
对他人请求做出回应时，要考虑自身感受

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Hi!

感觉放了很久的枣,就是能敲钉子的那种硬度吧,他说, 枣和钉, 还有肉啊,有天人来, 给我推销了大概三五遍,我一直拒绝吃,我就挺善于拒绝的。你的做法是对的,我没有拒绝。

Oh.

I'm like that, I've already agreed. Oh really? What kind of person would look down on you to assassinate the King of Qin? No, look at that heart. King of Qin. So you won't refuse, and you'll still do it? I won't refuse, but I won't... Just won't do it? If you really want me to assassinate Hitler, I won't be able to...

You're German, too.

He might really go to Tangshan. Really? Tell me why. The president of the United States, one of the presidents, I know. He was the director of the Tang Dynasty. So he and his wife Hu Fu, they would go to the White House to prevent the spies around them from communicating with the Tang Dynasty.

Oh.

因为他结束了之后,他马上那个界面就是给好评的嘛,然后他有的时候,比如说去吃饭,服务员,我和我朋友一起,然后服务员让我们两个给两个好评,我会监督我朋友把那个好评写了,因为我觉得人家提出了请求就很不容易,我就很难拒绝。他很容易提出请求。他跟谁都这么说。是吗? 而且我会,尤其我当他那面拿手机,我会慌。

You can't just stand there and panic. People are looking at you. You get nervous. A lot of people are like that. You are like that, right? You are so sharp. When people look at you, they say, I gave you a good review and then they give you a bad review.

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You can do it. You can do it. You found my way of using it.

都可以都可以

What about you, Na? I'm the kind of person who rejects others with a big mouth. But I actually do that kind of thing. I'm the kind of person who is very open-minded. I always say no.

Say no da da da da. This is called rebellious. Yes, it's rebellious. It's intentional. It's like when you meet someone, you're scolding them. But in reality, I still think Narasu is a good person. But they're actually like this. Their first step is different. But the second step is the same. Yes. The result is that they all did it. They're not done yet. That's not it. That's all... Are you serious or superficial? It depends on what it is. I'm within my ability. Yes. That time, let Bangquan get a takeout. He said no. Then he went directly. He can't go all the way.

I'm not doing it at all. And say no. You said no is particularly exasperating. But he has no fantasy. No imagination. Tell him no. I have a bunch of rejection emails. Xie Guangkun's grandson or something. Xie Feiji. That kid has a

忘了怎么开车了。

And

But you always have to cut your hair, right?

但你说那病名肯定用不尽对因为他都是设计好的比如说你抽 500 他每次剪头的那个钱最后肯定让你剩一个他可能每次剪头 70 来块钱最后肯定让你剩个 50 来块钱剪个头发 70 多块钱现在理发这么贵了个人关心的问题不一样

You tell them what the price of the hair is now. I also said that the hair salon next door is 10 yuan. No card. I'll get it for you in 10 minutes. You sit down. You don't have time to tell him where I want to cut it. People have already started to cut it. Is it the river side? Not the river side. The kind of face. The wholesale market in Wumei has a very popular one. You regretted it last time. I regretted it that time. This time I think it's okay. Are you satisfied this time? It's pretty good. I can try again.

I almost agreed to it.

但是你看就是有了孩子之后对于孩子的很多要求会相对坚决一些。

You can show him the 10-minute movie after watching a movie. Harry Potter 10 minutes.

You should let him see it.

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我就怕傻不住。我真的,你是,看到 30 分钟就心虚,然后 40 分钟他就已经眼睛受不了,他自己就不想看了。那是你吧。小孩子我觉得不会有这样的自控能力的。我巅峰时期从早上 6 点看电视一直看到晚上 6 点。你看,去年。中间尿都不尿,不是小事小事。所以你多少度啊?

六百。现在说,你跟当时的他说,他才不在乎这个,对吧? 没有,那既是绝大多数都是遗传。是。他会恨你吗? 他会恨我吗? 不会啊,因为哭了一会儿我就给他弄了好吃的嘛。早。忘了这个事情,早。孩子今天上幼儿园换牙去了。

You don't let him watch TV. Are you very stubborn? Or are you a bit of a liar? I'm quite stubborn. You threw the TV away. It's hard to pull it out when it's hanging on the wall. I just talked to him for ten minutes. You're so mature at home. I'm a five-year-old kid. I can't be mature. But you're so domineering. You and your client sometimes have a good contract. And then you guys, for some reason, can still negotiate. You don't give your kid such a chance. Yes.

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You can be yourself. I didn't catch it. Did he forget that you were here today? Yes, I did. Su, if Dandan is stuck, you can have a Q. It's all in his expectation. Su, stuck. Let's talk about your dad.

I don't like crowded places. I don't know any of my friends. After we finished eating, they suggested that we go to KTV. I didn't refuse. But when I was leaving, I secretly called a taxi. I made up a very reasonable reason.

I said, "I have to pack my stuff and go home to pack my stuff." And then they went out to play. But I still think about it now. Will his friends think that I'm not easy to get along with? Because I don't talk much on the kitchen table. Without you, they would be very happy to play. Hurry up and play. I don't even know who to play with.

But this thing will make me feel very good. It's obviously my way of doing things. Both sides are happy. But I might still feel that I'm not doing it properly. Daliu, do you have any bad comments about him? Did you get a good rating for the car you hit? No. You can't ask me so many questions all day. People will collapse. When you leave, are you happy with your boyfriend or not?

她无所谓就是我去不去她无所谓其实我觉得除非他们在那个 KTV 里给你准备了一个生日惊喜否则的话其实都还好都无所谓我觉得你有一个减少内耗的判断标准就是这个事你在意的人在意不在意剩下就都无所谓

留言

Actually, at this point, his heart was broken.

对对对我需要一个确定的反馈你要说我确定你觉得我给你的印象不好那 OK 那就不好了好也可以但是我不知道他好不好那如果他们说 OK 那你走吧我们没有关系我们玩的非常开心可以可以非常可以

But I don't think he would say that you were having a great time. I hate people who leave. I know. There was a time when many of our actors gathered. There were also many people I didn't know. I really wanted to leave. Because my family was quite far away. I asked everyone quietly. I said,

I said, "Are you leaving?" They all refused to leave. They all care about other people. Yes, I was standing there for an hour. Was it the time of "Headed Lounge"? Yes, "Headed Lounge". You didn't leave when we left. What do you mean? You left your stuff behind. That day, the waitress left the birthday card with me. Because I sang all the birthday songs.

I found a job. I must have a tough person to take me with me. A tough person to take you with you. Unless you are a cook in Hainanese. And you are a slave. Do we have to be so extreme? A tough person. It's hard to be a hard worker. It's hard. But you said you didn't go to the second round with your boyfriend. I think it's a temporary loss.

嗯

Oh, yeah.

这是什么项目? 一个演员一个关注的呀听着像刺琴然后我会找很多我自己身上的不足我去跟人家拒绝但是你又不能直接的跟他说明吧直接就是我不想去

Su, first.

还有人在找我做。因为其实那个活就是又累又苦,钱又少。然后后来我就是有点……

反正我就是非常明确拒绝了快乐吗拒绝完快乐啊就是你没干这个事而且我经常确实因为我可能太善于拒绝了

善于到我身边会有朋友会不知道怎么拒绝事会过来问我然后让我给他一套话术拉个微信请人上来帮我拒绝一下没有没有就给他一套话术然后告诉他怎么拒绝我也有一个这样的朋友就是我会说我说这个事我应该怎么说比较合理因为我很害怕比如说大家可能会觉得我是一个就是相对来说好说话的人所以如果这句话说从我嘴里面说出来我说我不想做了

你说别

特别容易。特别容易。我就说你别说这种话, 我说我过得挺好的, 你别感觉我在外边天天吃炕烟菜一样。然后我妈就又开始说, 你找个男朋友, 你就会过得好了。她不知道吗? 她不知道,我没有跟她说过。她也不听播客。她不听,她不听。她听了我还能在这嘴她吗? 我妈也不听。我就会直接跟她说, 你再说这种话,我就不跟你联系了。不跟你好了。然后她就不说了。你这个就属于,

妳敢跟妳媽這樣說對像我跟我媽這樣說後果就是我媽倆也沒理我你慌了但我覺得冰冰拒絕家裡人是因為家裡人就是不會離開我對啥意思永遠慣著我就是我跟我媽真的說這種相對來說有點難聽的話我也知道有一天我們關係肯定會變好但是比如說我跟一個就是工作上有關係的人我跟他說我就不想做

这个好奇怪啊,按照正常的育儿顺序来说,本应该是父母非常娇惯的孩子, 不会让孩子们很害怕。

Your expression is quite scary. You are not clean and clear. I can do it the other way around. You said there was a set of drawing books. I saved a set of drawing books on WeChat about two or three years ago. I refused to perform in a club abroad. Because I was still working at that time. You are done. Now you are begging. No one found me even if I didn't work. Now the clubs abroad have a set of drawing books that refuse to perform.

上班吗?

If. If.

我非常对人不对事我这个人我就对人

漂亮。你要这个人行。那比如说就像他那种, 就是如果是一个你喜欢的人过来跟你聊, 即便这个钱不到位, 你也愿意干。对。那即便是一个就是非常, 那你如果这个事是纳斯乌跟你聊, 即便钱非常多。就是喜欢的那个人嘛, 刚才我说了嘛。哎呀,怎么说两遍我啊。

这个人你非常烦。又喜欢钱又多,你说干嘛不去。那就不行,我特别对人不对事。我其实平时要面对的这种情况其实还挺多的。经常有人要来牵你啊。不是。还没像每个礼拜跟你说一次啊。

因为我是这样的,你看比如说有一些电影会过来,因为比如说看完大家想合作或者怎么样,因为经常会遇到的情况就是电影不太好,我也不想接,可是呢,这个客户有可能这个项目不好,人家下一个项目好,所以你这个不想接,但是你还得给人把话说。还得留一些。对。但我觉得比如说这就又说起来对人不对事,比如说,嘉蔚来找你。谁? 嘉蔚。

王嘉蔚还有易某嘉蔚嘉蔚易某凯哥什么的来找你咱都哥们儿啊对然后咱就说让他们三个分开来行不行咱就说蛋蛋好兄弟喝完奶的咱这次咱们

Yeah.

First of all, this situation will not happen. Let's say that Jia Wei will not come to find. Second, let's say that Jia Wei has never been in a movie that is worth scolding. There are also Baidu people, right? Back then, half of the entertainment circles were saying on the Internet that I like it. I like it. Isn't that a hot event at that time? Did you post it? No, I don't like it. I'm in the heat. And then it's not Wang Jiawei who came to talk. But there are indeed employees who come to find it.

Right.

Yeah.

想编编书大片我们都不找就找蛋蛋秀找找去吧是啊要是你的话会因为不同的人找你我肯定会不是我跟那个什么如果不是我朋友的话我一般不会说不行什么的其实我也会都是那种挺得好会去帮忙干的那种的人如果是不熟的人的话我还挺客气的

这种对就是我们可以真实的表达然后也不会迫害对我是忽然间有一天我是觉得说我要把我最好的一面留给我的朋友反倒是我跟朋友说话会挂脑子然后

确实对陌生人可能稍微... 我觉得各有各的道理。像你这个,那陌生人关我什么事啊,对吧? 我们可能平时此生都不会再相见了,就无所谓,我觉得。不是,因为我在陌生人面前,我要维护我们这类人的一个形象。这类人。忙溜的。你们这类人除了你还有别人吗? 不是,就是这种形象的,就看着比较凶,然后那什么的,然后我想就... 脑袋大的。对,然后友善一点,像...

Because usually in front of friends Just want to be cool Just awesome Just that kind of feeling No friends really think you're awesome I think so No one thinks I'm a princess Just say I'm a little princess

Your mom knows you're a princess? My mom knows. Your mom knows you're that... Of course. Because her mom gave her a dress when she was little. Yeah. My mom made all my clothes. When you were little, did you put a bowl on your head? No, no, no. You put it on? Yeah, in Mongolia. Like a Chinese style. Chinese style. There's a girl who dances Ding Wan Wu. That's a real girl dancing. A real girl. Brother He, don't show it. What?

也不是值得被骂吧。你不能选择忽略是吗? 那得看你这个片子值不值得。说我演瞎了,我没看见。你说如果是家卫的片子, 你也忽视不了啊,对吧? 为什么不能忽视呢? 因为这明显是一个大家在关注的一个东西。那你做自媒体不都是流量的狗吗,对吧? 你有热度不去蹭。那他比较想见你,你不想见啊?

But I really watched the kind of leaflets. Once I saw a lady in Jinan, a lady in Luyuan, she gave out leaflets. A lot of people didn't want them. I was so angry. I took the leaflets and came back. I didn't care. I didn't want to take them. I had to take them. The lady was so happy. She kept saying, thank you, young man. Thank you, young man. Thank you. The lady said, we are promoting a civilized city. No.

I was walking, and she gave me a punch. That big sister is a... She chased after me and gave me a punch. That big sister is a crazy person. She's a bald head. She's a bald head. And she's got a lot of hair here. She went in two years ago. Two years ago, she went in. You know that? I've been paying attention to her. Because she hit you. I was about to know that the angel big sister heard me say that.

I knew it.

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There are many people in the circle of friends who send the survey questionnaires to help them graduate from design or graduate from the market research. Yes, collect some of them. Every time I want to say that it is not easy for everyone to study. Everyone is doing this question. I want to fill it in and then I will fill it in. Every time I fill it in, my mood is the same as the big pot. I said you are playing this garbage and graduated. You see that the question is very confusing. I said you are AI. You need some data. There is also the kind of thing that helps children vote.

I like that one. I don't refuse that one. I just choose another child. I really like that one. People say, why are there more people asking for help? The more children, the less. There's also that kind of forwarding. Or is it? I'll forward it to Jin Da Kejian. You like it. Or is it? Look at a knife. Yes. I said there's no app. Then he said, you're next. I said no.

I just, I just don't know. Continuous rejection. Continuous rejection. I said no. Anyway, it's like that kind of completely unfamiliar,推銷的那种。我已經到了就是我身上的那個整個的那團氣,就是它不會靠近我。它知道你會拒絕,你身上透露著我,馬上就要拒絕你的那個氣。不是,就是這就是一個冰山,就是那種根本一點都不帶看它,然後苦苦往前走。然後如果有人要過來了,我就會背對他。

They would pick people. If you were nice, they would come and do something to you. Like before you came out, you would stare at him. You would leave. He likes me. You would stare at him and leave. He wouldn't dare to look for you. He wouldn't know what's going on. But you would leave.

Beijing caught a patient, didn't catch you. But have you tried it? You have to watch him first. Is there a car in front? Is there a platform? Don't bump into another person in the arms of a person who sends ads. We are both blind people. You are also staring at nothing. I just stare at this and don't look left and right. But I haven't experimented with this. Look at this. I summed it up. I think it has been analyzed. Because I will be entangled by him. Then I am also embarrassed to speak. I just

Xiao Ma Rong. Xiao Ma Rong.

但是这是我经过我就是多次从地铁口翻来覆去的分析出来的翻来覆去的走分析出来的但他没有时间但这个是可以的但是我觉得这个有点太娘了不是

这个非常羞耻。一个手挡在自己的额头前面。这我都不太做得了。别人心里会说不要就不要。

I'm not here for nothing.

Actually, if he did this, he would have finished the whole thing in an hour. Look at the explanation. Eat this and I'll let you watch another ten minutes. Don't, don't, don't. So disgusting.

I understand. Let's start. Hello, everyone. I'll tell you my background. I'm not a person who refuses. I'm very sad. About three months ago, I was unemployed. My life was very tight. One day, I received a text message. One day? You suddenly got a bonus. It's strange.

He sent a text message. Yes, he sent a text message. And the text message was... He told me directly that

Oh.

You refused. I didn't refuse at that time. Then after two hours, a girl called me. She said after she sent me fruit and eggs, I said it won't take long. Because I might have something to do. You're busy looking for work. Yes.

He said, "Sir, it won't take long. You can come and join us in this simple process and then you can take it away." I said, "Okay, fine." He sent me the address. By the day of Saturday, I was still thinking about whether I should go or not. I was feeding eggs and fruits. When I have work, I'm not like this. You don't like eating eggs? If you like it, you can go. I can cook. I can use a lot of eggs. You can cook. Yes, yes, yes.

Or else I wouldn't be so anxious about whether to take this. Then your address is... Is your address far from there? It's close. It's in Taiyang Palace. Then it's close. Yes, it's close. Go. Yes.

I thought so at that time. You were so angry that you didn't go. Yes. You went twice. It's not a loss to come and go with a six-dollar subway, right? Not a loss. Then I went. Then I took the subway. I thought I would take the eggs and the fruit. I turned around and left. I didn't delay even for a second. As a result, I arrived at Sanlitun. I rode one more piece of my car. There is no need to reveal this detail now. I think the county governor has finally decided. You don't have a card for the public transportation bike?

I don't have a card because I ride all kinds of bikes Haro and DD and Kymk also ride them So they all do And then they ride until the end And they have their own drivers They all work with the same team DD, Kymk, Haro We usually ride our own bikes You're really amazing I want to ask how Kymk has a driver Just one person riding in the frame

Then I arrived and I felt that the atmosphere was not very right. Because I felt that the scene was at least for people over 50 years old. When I arrived, I texted the manager who contacted me. I said I arrived and I waited for 10 minutes. I was thinking if I should leave. But I still held it in for the egg and fruit. I said, "Do you want it? This thing is actually quite useful." Yes. Then he came down to greet me. He said, "Hello, sir. Are you alone?" I said, "He might be the old man I brought home the previous time."

Oh, the old lady came. Yes, I was so young. Why did you come here? She had this feeling. Entered a venue. Like a party. There were about 30 tables. Old people. I was really pulled to a table. There were about 10 old people on that table. They saw me walk over. Did you use a toast? Yes. Actually, I was thinking. This is not going to be. I have to make a joke with the old man. The old man gave me a different look. Hey.

Ah?

Wow

Old lady told the old man, don't stop me. I want to dance with him. You spent nine dollars to give this old man a nose. It's pretty cool. It's just me. But I don't want it. I'm here to see you. I just love to come to meetings. I don't want a prize. I can't understand. It's just a

You

You're such an idiot.

But you're a little... You're super naive. A little cute. But in the end, he also woke up and quickly ran away. No, maybe he was really scared later. Will you support his behavior of not taking things? I mean, I mean, why don't you just don't go? If you go, you can't come back empty-handed.

Oh,

I still can't

Okay. The latest one. You go ahead. Actually, my dad also had this experience. My dad was 50 or 60 years old. He was also called by the insurance company to get things. My dad got an egg and a box of apples. But actually, I want to... No apple and sugar. But actually, I'm quite the opposite of him. Actually, there's something I don't know how to do recently. I want to resign. I've been in the internship recently. And I've been in the internship for six months. And I want to resign. Your internship is so long. Yes.

Ha ha ha

Okay. See? She really won't refuse. That's interesting. You're very obedient. No. You really won't refuse. Or you can say you want to take a class and you want to learn Russian. Then the teacher will have to ask you after two months of learning. I can take a class. I can refuse Russian. Niet. Niet. Niet. Niet. Okay. Russian sounds painful. Okay. Then I'll take a class. Okay. You can do it. I'll take a class.

You said your boyfriend's mom is in the hospital. I don't have a boyfriend. Just say it. What if she does? Okay. Just say it. Okay. She's been using the word "don't refuse" to refuse others. I found that she has a lot of absurd suggestions. She should accept them all. Come on, let's have a talk. Let's find a more serious one. Just say that everything else is bullshit. I think it's just saying something. If you want to play the third grade, it's not the time to play. Right?

I don't know.

这个继续说完。继续说完,然后你就说,但是确实在临毕业之前呢,我还是想先玩一玩,然后准备准备毕业,然后我也想把我的记点提一提,然后所以我呢,就不再有太多的精力去放在这个工作上了。然后你说,以后如果有还适合我的岗位,也麻烦帮我留下。

I'm already a third grader.

哎呦

来你制招。我是觉得啥呢,就是不要,尽量不要去编一个。编一个,对,因为你这个你要圆。我确定,我觉得这样的,就你这么不好意思开口,我说明我感觉你俩的关系应该还挺好的,对吧? 是。所以你要是编像各种理由,他一定会。发现的。对,他会。你就跟他说姐你玩过吗? 已经编了一个被发现了。本来那时候本来三月份我想走,我跟人说我想考研,然后人家说。

People say that you need to be prepared for the exam. And then, anyway, the exam is really different. Because I really can't get into it, and I don't want to get into it.

So...

I think Bingbing's was the most subtle one. Okay, thank you. You're welcome. I want to say that I'm a person who is very good at rejecting others. You're the only one left. I want to say that it's not about what I do, but it's similar to the requirement of high-speed train. I was on a boat from Weihai to Dalian. We had to sleep on the boat for a night.

It took about 6-7 hours. I was late to the boat. The boat was like a room with a bed. It was like a bed for four people. It was similar to a high-speed train. I found a man lying on my bed.

- Then, when... - You look a little happy. - What are you doing? - You're a man. My seat was on the top floor. When we were buying tickets, we didn't know if it was the top or the bottom floor. When I saw it was the top floor, I was happy. But then I found out there was a man on the top floor.

Then I pushed her and asked if she was lying in the wrong place. She was lying down with her wife and a couple. Her wife told me that the girl was drunk and wanted to rest early and change her bed.

And I wanted to say that if you were to sit next to me when I'm not here, He would have already said yes. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes

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下面是主的。因为其实火车一般情况下不都是下铺, 反倒是卖的贵一点嘛。上楼下楼了。他是觉得这样来回走啊, 或者说出入不打扰他。我估计他也很意外, 竟然那么坚持。但是这一刻得让他上。那他俩为什么不睡两个下铺呢? 他为什么不把他的下铺,

下铺给她老公呢? 都是下铺,俩下铺。对啊。她是不喜欢左边是吗? 我觉得就是我不想干的事, 我一般都能拒绝, 就是我可能是不太会考虑, 就是说这个人是像大刘跟我说的那种, 就是说看是人还是分事儿, 就是我...

I'm mainly a mean person. I just look at my own mood. I think he has a good mentality. For example, I read a lot on the Internet. After learning a lot, I occasionally refused. Then I feel very guilty in my heart. Yes, I think I refused many times. I once went on the high-speed rail. It's also a couple. Then I sit in my position. I told him, I said, are you wrong? Then he didn't talk to me. He just made a face. He just let me do that.

- -

I even told my boyfriend to go to KTV. And that girl was a little angry at me because I got up too early that morning. I was also angry. She was a little angry at me. She started to say sorry. That was the first time I tasted the sweetness of rejection. I was very happy at that time. I was very happy at that time.

Ha ha ha ha

这个太不尊重人了。对。所以我们现在就是发现, 就有的时候, 就是对方实在是不会好好说话, 然后导致了被拒绝。也就是说如果我们想求人办事, 减少被拒绝, 你就跪下。你就恳求。身手不打笑脸人吗? 甚至打钱,对啊, 身手不打笑脸人。

Right.

I found out you have a new trick. You're starting to act cute. Really? Cute. No, it's just... You're so cute. I'm sorry. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting cute. You're acting

Ha ha ha

哎呦哎呦

但他来不及通知你让你误以为他还有这个能力那不至于我不会求人办很难去做的事就是他之前有这个能力他这个能力丧失了

I will feel bad too. I will let it go. I used to be a person who wouldn't refuse. But now I am trying to adjust. When I find that this thing makes me uncomfortable, I don't care about anything else. I just refuse. Whether this person needs my help or begs me, I will refuse. It happened last weekend. I went to Changyang Park to prepare for an event. It was very cold in the morning.

- -

Is that the person who was passing by? He wants to go back to 130. He wants to go back to the city. He wants to go back to the city.

You help him brush the subway.

He just wanted your WeChat.

He said I was the only one who helped me in these two parts. Then I sent him a request. He said he would pass it after he went back to the top. Pass it and give me the money. Then I didn't care. I went to the event. After the event, I saw him pass me a few hours later. After passing me, he asked me if I had time today.

我说帮你俩车也行,而且你现在不是应该先给我转钱吗? 他问我有没有空,然后他就说其实手机丢了以后不好意思跟朋友说,想问问我今天有没有空能不能麻烦我,我当时就觉得有点不对劲,我虽然有点好奇,我说你还能怎么麻烦我?

You should buy him a phone. I said, my brain wouldn't want me to eat and play all of his food and drinks. Then I felt a little uncomfortable. I thought it was my time. I said, I have something to do.

I didn't do it. I should have been a good person. No, no, no. I didn't do it. Did he pay you back? The next day, I paid him back another day. He was embarrassed to tell his friends if he could trouble me. I thought it was very inappropriate. He didn't refuse to say what he wanted to trouble you with, right? I was curious. But I was afraid that after I asked, I would put my family on the line. It's hard to refuse.

I just want to know what you think. But I might refuse to say it. You're playing with me, right? Yes, I just want to know what you think. But I always think that if I lost my phone, I might need money to go home. I definitely want to find a police station.

But I just know...

I will get a call from a very reliable friend. I think it's good. These things, if you feel uncomfortable, you should stay away. Don't have psychological burden. You'd rather say that he may be a normal person. I didn't help him. Don't let yourself fall into that kind of... Right. You can't get out of it.

拒绝陷入自己对而且这种真的会有骗术哦在这里跟大家说是快 20 年对快 20 年前我好可怕彬彬都不知道这事你说吧快 20 年前快 20 年前我在马路上是一对兄妹捡到一份钱

I've talked about it. There's a couple of siblings. They say they're from Singapore. They're Chinese. Their Chinese is very Southeast Asian. But they're also very Hong Kong-like. They speak Chinese with a very foreign accent. What are you doing? What are you doing? Don't be selfish. They say that.

他們的意思是他們跟我聊很久我當時還仔細看了他們的穿著背包手錶都還挺體他們以為你盯上他們什麼東西了哎呦這麼仔細他們倆真的很體面長得也是那種乾乾淨淨文明人非常奇怪他們倆跟你聊很多說手機丟了然後問這個問那個然後甚至於中間就是聊了很多風土人情這方面的事後來就說我

我们现在回酒店你能不能借我们你的电话我们回酒店我说啥意思啊对把你电话拿走了因为那个时候不是智能电话是诺基亚你说那可不行我还防身呢留着你说是诺基亚我说我可以给你们比如说打个车或者是我陪你们去酒店比如说你们要找人因为我当时不是我姐在天津我在天津然后是在天津的那个八一堂那个桥底下然后就是

Right?

来就来了这个好奇怪啊然后当然就是我在搞清楚他们最终意图的时候我说那不行我说聊了 40 分钟然后他俩估计也很挫败然后他俩就还试图在说还在找刚才的话书里面的仅有的情分刚才咱们不还说咱们也都聊得挺好的呀然后那次是不是这种我说哦

我的意思就是我可以跟你们一块去这个凯月你们有什么需要我去看看对吧凯月反正我也没进去看过但是他跟我说那次你不用去我说那我就是反复跟他确认你需要我电话怎么拿回来呢对啊到时候我们会想办法给你送回来我说我要不可能在这等你我说你这个我说你逻辑有六种对我当时就说我说我说这有点开玩笑了然后我说那我走了啊拜拜我就走了

这个

How old are you?

That was 2008. What happened that year? The Olympics. That's right. Beijing. I was at the CETER building. That was our company's office. And then, that was the time our company implemented a big small move. You have to go to work on Saturday. But you go to work on Saturday. Anyway, it's okay. I don't go to the store. I just play in the office for a while. Play for a while. It's okay. I just want to come back. Just go home.

- - - - -

I want to add a little bit of warmth. You two foreigners are very safe. They told me...

foreign

- Follow me. -

You should say "Damian"

So you know no no no no

I just pretend to be a foreigner. I don't know how to deal with it. So did you notice that when you don't know how to deal with it, you pretend to be another foreign person? Or... Another foreign person. Yes, or... Can I pretend to be an Englishman? You refuse to communicate. I'm good at this. Yes. Refusing to communicate will keep you safe. I often pretend. What do you pretend? I pretend to be a minority who doesn't understand Chinese.

- Do you know how to say it? - No, I don't. It's just "yes". - You're a "Soo"! - Yeah. - You're a "Nar-Soo"! - You should call him "An-Na-Soo". - Yeah. - I went to a music festival. I was working. The flight was delayed. The organizer called me and scolded me. He said, "Our Nar-Soo is from the mainland." He couldn't even speak Chinese.

They are supporting us. They think I am the girl who is the father. Now the princess is satisfied. There was another one. I have a similar experience with Mr. Da Fan. I once refused to be robbed. Oh.

That means you've escaped. Don't push me. You call it escape? Actually, no. In 2018, I went abroad to attend a conference. One night, it was a free event. I was separated from my team. I went back alone. When I was waiting on the roadside, a very tall, very tall person came. He was wearing white suit, white pants, white shoes. He had a gold medal on his chest, just like an iPad.

Mexican. I can't remember what he looked like until I saw Mr. Narsu today. You are a mess around the world. Bad people. Bad people. Bad people. But he looks more fierce than Mr. Narsu. I'm standing on the side of the road because I want to know how to go back. It's okay. You scold him. He doesn't understand Chinese. Okay.

I have no English.

English.

Right.

Say that person or him. In Europe, there are some thieves who are very strange. When you walk over, he tells you to open the bag. You just need to tell him that you don't want to fight. That's it. That's it. He refuses to fight. There are many black people. We don't talk about the racial discrimination. But most of them are from their side. They will suddenly bring you a bracelet. Then that bracelet, he will ask you for five pounds, five euros, something like that. You just say...

I don't like it. You just tell him, I like it, but I have no money. Then he says, okay, give it to you. You can leave. Wow. Then you take the bracelet. Because he has too many scammers. He doesn't want to be close to you. It's a probability. Yes, he just goes to the next one. Then he tells the next person, start, start, start. There will always be someone who gives him a start. He is a high school student. You know? I didn't say he was a college student. Ha ha ha.

- High school. - - -

Ha ha ha ha

Yeah.

Yes. Because some people feel guilty after rejecting others. Yes. And some feel good. Yes. So at this time, they look at others. Like me, you know, I rejected others in my mouth. I felt good in my mouth first. Then I did it again. Then I gave him a surprise. I felt good again. Double. Is there anything that you regret after you rejected? For example, you rejected an offer, rejected a...

- A little, a little.

然后他问我说,我们有一些影片他没有中文字幕,但最后要在电影院上映,他问我能不能帮忙翻译。哇,这也太临时了。然后我当时就觉得,我就觉得,那这个事听起来他也没有要给钱的意思,再加上我本来也... 志愿者嘛。对,然后我就给拒绝了,结果后来我们去看片完了之后,他跟我们说,翻译部电影能给两千块。哎呦。

Wow.

How did you do that?

这是后悔的。但是你解决了呀, 你后来不是回去挣了 6000 块钱吗? 但是他需要舔着脸, 如果他当时答应就不用舔, 挣脸了。可能还能多挣 2000 块钱。对。但是其实这种翻译, 是不是你随便瞎翻就行了? 那不能。大家也听不懂。不是所有人都不懂英语。电影节。你要是说今天来 200 个大盘, 可以,随便翻。他在那什么 I don't have English. I have English only a little. 我有英语只有一点。

直译纯直译就是这个话我真的那么多版本不会说英语我都没听过这个版本第一次好厉害那就对了来不及回来开演的嘛对但是我可浪子 throw 的你甭管在哪儿只要人家问你路就去吧往那边走啊

And then the eyes are always staring at that person. Go over there. The other party has to be confused. About rejecting others, or how is it? What kind of feelings do you have? I think we can talk about it. Because I found out today that some people are from... It seems that they won't reject strangers, but they will reject people who are closer to them. And then...

比如说像我吧,就是可能会拒绝陌生人,但是我感觉就是只要是你能学会拒绝这件事情,你就已经很... 迈出了很重要的一步。对,很重要的一步,你会很舒适,你会让一些没有用的事情不会打扰你。就比如说其实这几年我拒绝了很多没用的社交,就好多人比如说又出去喝酒呀,觉得就是非常占用我的时间。

I don't want to spend time with my family and my own rest time. I always say I don't go. I go. Look, it's in line with your life. And I also refused a lot of things I don't want to do. It's pretty cool. If that's the case, you can save a lot of money.

超大量的时间给自己用完。节省了很多收入。浪费。但我时间有了,时间是金钱嘛, 我虽然没有实际的钱。漂亮。虽然没有实际的钱, 但是我有时间这个局。我有时间,大把的时间。大把的时间可以挥霍。我是觉得就是只要自己心里舒服了, 可以拒绝别人, 而且就别因为拒绝这事内耗了。是。

I learned it. I heard so many stories of rejection today. I feel like rejection is really cool. So I'm going to reject the ending speech. Okay, good. Are you going to host next time? Do you think I'm too lazy to do this? No, I'm not really rejecting. I'm just saying.

I was just happy for you. Because I think, even though I heard so many stories of rejection, I feel that I am like this. If I heard your stories today, and I thought about it at night, should I have rejected those stories?

我觉得会让我更内耗的,所以说我打算忘掉这些所有东西,还是做我自己,如果哪天真的因为没有拒绝一件事情,让我非常难过,可能我非常痛苦或者大哭一场之后,那我之后我再开始拒绝。就是还没有到了那个点,就是说…… 对,所以就是如果你现在是一个好人,你觉得自己是一个老好人,你就先当老好人吧。

Because I don't think you can persuade them. Yes. You can't help it when you get there. Yes. You have your own behavior. Yes. Brother Peng. In Greek mythology, the sun god Apollo has a cup. A cup. He drinks a cup. Then he was thrown into the sky and became a rejection. Yes. What does this mean? When you don't want to do it, you refuse to do it. Yes.

Come on, little princess.

I think it's... I make friends with many people. I spent some time with this person. I did a lot of things with me. And I made new connections with him. So I can say no to him. When I face strangers, I might consider my face. For the sake of my face. When I refuse someone, I might feel embarrassed. Or even if I don't care enough. Your face...

Right.

生给早还不要时间也不早了时间也不早了好吧我们今天就这样吧我们家的多有两个数谢谢拜拜冲过空无语言的写字楼两个老外把我堵在天体里我也听不懂他们想干啥不要把我拐来吧他们夹着我吓得我一个枪

I can only say it in a polite way.

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