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Dating Apps Suck. A.I. Clones Are Making Them Even Weirder.

2024/12/11
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Anna Martin:约会软件体验糟糕,但却是单身人士认识彼此的主要方式。作者Eli Tan尝试使用人工智能技术来改善约会体验,包括创建AI克隆和使用AI约会教练,以提高效率和成功率。 Eli Tan:约会软件上的互动是例行公事且缺乏记忆点,让人感觉像是在进行表演。使用AI克隆可以节省时间,因为AI可以处理初步的对话筛选,从而提高效率。AI克隆可以同时进行大量的虚拟约会,远超人类自身的能力。创建AI克隆需要回答关于约会兴趣、恋爱观等问题,并将个人性格特征转化为文本信息,这其中存在一定的困难。AI克隆应用是独立的,不与现有的约会软件连接。AI克隆可以与其他用户的克隆进行对话,用户可以查看对话记录。AI克隆在与其他克隆的互动中,展现出独立的个性,即使经过训练,也会有自己的偏好。看到AI克隆之间产生亲密互动,感觉非常奇怪,并且感觉自己没有参与其中。阅读AI克隆的约会记录,并不会激发用户与真人进行互动的欲望。AI克隆应用并不会对约会进行排名,用户需要手动阅读大量的对话记录。除了创建AI克隆,还可以使用AI约会教练来获得约会建议。与AI克隆对话可以帮助用户了解对方的性格和兴趣,比简单的照片信息更全面。与AI克隆对话可以提供比照片信息更丰富的个人信息,帮助用户判断是否值得进一步接触。AI克隆在与真人对话中使用了过多的口语化表达和流行语,显得不自然。AI克隆在对话中出现失误时,用户可以对其进行修正和再训练。AI克隆的失误可能会错过潜在的约会对象。与AI克隆进行对话,难以建立真实的化学反应。约会软件上的对话内容可能并不利于建立联系,约会软件上的对话内容往往过于肤浅,不利于建立真正的联系。不同的AI约会教练会给出不同的建议,用户需要自行判断。作者在使用AI工具时,会选择在约会之后向对方坦白。向对方坦白使用AI工具后,作者担心会影响自己的形象。作者认为AI工具可以帮助用户优化个人形象和约会策略。 Anna Martin:AI约会教练具有不同的个性,可以提供不同的约会建议。AI约会教练可以分析用户与其他人的对话,并提供建议。AI约会教练可以帮助判断对方是否对用户感兴趣,以及对话是否顺利。线下建立联系仍然是理想的方式,但难以计划和控制。

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Why are dating apps often considered frustrating and unfulfilling?

Dating apps are often seen as tedious and time-consuming, with repetitive conversations that lack depth and authenticity. Users often feel trapped, as these apps have become the primary way for singles to meet, despite the negative experiences.

How do AI clones in dating apps work?

AI clones are chatbots trained to mimic a user's personality and preferences. They can engage in conversations on dating apps, go on virtual dates, and provide insights to the user. The clones are trained by the user through text messages, helping them understand the user's interests and cadence.

What are the potential benefits and drawbacks of using AI clones for dating?

Benefits include saving time by automating initial conversations and potentially finding more compatible matches. Drawbacks include the clones developing their own personalities, leading to uncanny and sometimes off-putting interactions, and the ethical concerns of using AI in personal relationships.

What was Eli's experience with AI dating coaches like?

Eli found AI dating coaches helpful for generating responses and providing feedback on conversations. The coaches had distinct personalities, such as a wise aunt, a bro best friend, and a blunt bestie, each offering different perspectives and advice.

Why did Eli decide to disclose his use of AI to his dates?

Eli felt it was important to be honest and disclose his use of AI, especially if he was going on a date with someone. He brought it up indirectly, and most people were put off by the idea, although a few found it intriguing.

What did Eli learn about the nature of conversations on dating apps through his experiment?

Eli learned that conversations on dating apps often lack the depth and chemistry that can be felt in person. Even with AI assistance, it's difficult to build a genuine connection through text alone, and the in-person experience remains crucial.

What is Eli's verdict on whether AI can fix dating woes?

Eli's verdict is that while AI can assist in certain aspects of dating, such as generating responses and providing advice, it cannot replace the authenticity and serendipity of real-life interactions. He believes that automating relationships is not what he wants for his dating life.

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Dating apps are a common way for singles to meet, but many find them frustrating. Eli Tan, a reporter for The New York Times, explored if AI could improve the dating app experience by using AI dating apps and coaches.
  • Eli Tan used AI dating apps and coaches to improve his dating experience.
  • He found the initial conversations tedious and time-consuming.
  • He was curious about the AI approach, not nervous.

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Fake profiles. Unresponsive texters. Boring conversations. An endless stream of dudes on boats holding the fish they’ve caught. Talk to single people using dating apps, and they are likely to tell you that the experience is awful, but that they have to be there. Dating apps are just how singles meet one another these days. But what if artificial intelligence could fix modern dating? The Times reporter Eli Tan explored that hypothesis).

Eli joined several new dating apps that seek to duplicate a user’s personality via chatbot and let the A.I. clone do the dating. He also received flirting advice from a squadron of A.I. dating coaches. He used that advice on real dates, actually trying to find a connection, to see how the A.I.’s guidance held up.

On this episode of Modern Love, Eli tells us what happened when he revealed his use of A.I. to his dates, and whether the technology may actually push us toward more authentic interactions on the apps.

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