Clare Cory grew up on a farm in Montana in a single-wide trailer with six siblings. As a child, she often slept on the couch and gazed at the full moon, dreaming of romance. She imagined a future with a husband named Jim, riding around in a truck, living a happily ever after. This early exposure to nature and her imaginative play with stick horses shaped her lifelong yearning for love.
Clare's engagement to Roger ended abruptly when he called off the wedding, saying they were 'missing the magic.' This left Clare heartbroken and confused. A year later, Roger clarified that their relationship lacked the emotional spark he desired. This experience deeply affected Clare, leading her to question her understanding of love and relationships.
After turning 50, Clare shifted her focus from seeking a romantic partner to embracing life itself. She found joy in simple pleasures like watching flowers bloom, sunlight on water, and spending time with her cat. This newfound love for life made her content, and she stopped actively pursuing romantic relationships, feeling fulfilled by her career and personal growth.
Clare's diagnosis of stage 4 inflammatory breast cancer was life-changing. She faced the reality of her mortality and began living day by day. Despite the aggressive nature of her cancer, she chose to continue working and exercising as long as she could. The diagnosis deepened her appreciation for life, and she found beauty in everyday moments, even as her health declined.
Clare reconnected with Don, a man she had a brief but meaningful relationship with 27 years prior, after her cancer diagnosis. Their rekindled friendship evolved into romance, bringing unexpected joy and companionship during a challenging time. Don supported Clare through her illness, cooking for her, accompanying her to medical appointments, and even helping her make funeral arrangements. Their relationship became a source of comfort and love in her final years.
Clare's story highlights that love can emerge unexpectedly, even in the face of terminal illness. After decades of searching and heartbreak, she found deep fulfillment in her love for life and, later, in her rekindled romance with Don. Her journey shows that love is not confined to youth or traditional timelines and can bring profound joy and meaning, even in life's final chapters.
Clare's cancer diagnosis shifted her perspective from long-term planning to living in the present. She embraced each day with gratitude, finding beauty in small moments like sunrises, sunsets, and interactions with loved ones. Her illness taught her to cherish life deeply, and she often reflected on how much she would miss these everyday experiences when she was gone.
Clare's relationship with Don demonstrates that love requires vulnerability, especially in the face of life's uncertainties. Despite her terminal illness, Clare opened her heart to Don, finding joy and companionship in their shared moments. Their bond shows that love can flourish even in difficult circumstances, offering comfort and a sense of belonging when it is most needed.
When Clare Cory was a young girl, she dreamed of love. But by the time she turned 50, Clare hadn’t found it. Still, she took a look around and found she was happy and was looking forward to the future. Clare fell in love with life. She saw a flower bloom, watched sunlight sparkle on the water and held her cat on her lap. Her heart was full.
Then, to her surprise, as Clare faced cancer and was about to turn 60, romance arrived.
On today’s episode, Clare explains how she fell in love and began sharing her life at a time when she least expected.
This episode is adapted from Clare’s Tiny Love Story from 2024, "Finally Finding ‘The Magic.'")
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