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Myha’la’s Relationship Advice? Get in a Fight.

2024/9/25
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Myha’la分享了她母亲教导她的处事方式:善良是解决问题最有效的方法,即使她有成为'暴君'的潜质。她认为在亲密关系中,坦诚表达自我至关重要,避免积压负面情绪,导致怨恨。她以Laura Pritchett的散文为例,说明了长期回避冲突可能导致关系破裂的严重后果。Myha’la和未婚夫Armando在处理冲突方面有不同的风格:Myha’la倾向于直接解决问题,而Armando则更倾向于先让情绪平复,再进行沟通。他们通过不断磨合,建立了有效的沟通模式,能够更有效地表达需求和感受,从而避免更大的冲突。 Laura Pritchett的散文讲述了一对长期避免冲突的夫妻最终分手的经历。文章强调了坦诚沟通的重要性,即使这意味着争吵。这对夫妻由于童年创伤而习惯于沉默,但这种沉默最终导致了他们之间情感的疏离和关系的破裂。作者认为,在一段健康的亲密关系中,表达愤怒和不满是必要的,而回避冲突只会加剧问题。 Armando在与Myha’la的相处中,展现出一种包容和理解的态度。他允许Myha’la表达自己的情绪,即使这些情绪是负面的或具有攻击性。他不会立即回应Myha’la的负面情绪,而是选择在合适的时间和地点,以平静的方式与她沟通,从而化解冲突。这种处理方式体现了对伴侣情绪的尊重和理解,也为他们建立了更健康的沟通模式。

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On the HBO high finance drama “Industry,” basically everyone serves cruel insults. It’s part of the culture at their bank, Pierpoint. But Myha’la’s character, Harper Stern, goes after friends and enemies with deep, cutting verbal attacks.

Myha’la reads a Modern Love essay) by a woman with the opposite problem: Laura Pritchett and her husband have avoided conflict for so long, she writes, that the fights they’re not having are tearing them apart. Myha’la also tells the host, Anna Martin, about the kind of communication style she strives to maintain, and what it’s like when she and her fiancé, Armando Rivera, find themselves in a fight.

The Season 3 finale of “Industry” drops Sunday night on HBO.

Laura Pritchett has written seven novels, including her latest, “Three Keys).”

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