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Open Your Heart and Loosen Up! Therapist Terry Real’s Advice for Fathers

2025/6/11
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Terry Real: 我认为，我从父母那里继承了最好的精神。我教会了我的父亲如何更加敞开心扉。这就像打开一个牡蛎。我不得不撬开他的外壳才能接近他，我做到了。在他临终前，他召集我和我的兄弟，说，'我本可以为你们做得更好。我犯了很多错误。不要做我做的事。'所以我不停地说，对正在听的父亲们来说，你能给孩子们的最好的礼物就是你自己的健康和康复。做你的功课。如果你像我们很多人一样来自创伤，如果你和你的父亲或母亲的关系不好，那就去接受治疗并解决它。

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This chapter explores listeners' stories about their fathers and their emotional vulnerability, highlighting the significance of those rare moments of openness and the lasting impact they had on their children.
  • Listeners shared stories about their fathers' emotional expression or lack thereof.
  • Moments of emotional openness, even fleeting ones, were deeply meaningful.
  • These moments were often associated with significant life events.
  • The impact of these moments extended beyond understanding the father; it also changed how listeners understood themselves.

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For Father’s Day, the Modern Love team asked for your stories about fatherhood and emotional vulnerability. We heard from listeners who told us that their dads rarely expressed their emotions, from listeners whose fathers wore their hearts on their sleeves and from fathers themselves who were trying to navigate parenting with emotional honesty and sensitivity. Your stories had one thing in common: even just a peek into your father’s emotional world meant so much.

On this episode of Modern Love, we hear your stories about your dads. Then, Terry Real, a family therapist, returns to the show to offer his advice on being a father while also showing kids what it means to be emotionally vulnerable and available. He offers his philosophy around parenting through a combination of techniques.

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