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Were We the ‘Fat Couple’?

2024/10/2
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Anna Martin
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Courtenay Hameister
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Jason Rouse
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Courtenay Hameister从小就遭受内心的负面评价，认为自己体型不符合社会标准而感到羞耻，这让她在恋爱关系中感到极度不自信。她与Jason的恋爱关系中，私下相处时感到自在，但公开场合则会感到羞耻，担心被别人评判为“胖情侣”。最终，因为无法克服对自身身材的焦虑，她与Jason分手。分手后，她开始反思自身问题，并努力改变与自己对话的方式，逐渐学会自我接纳。 Jason Rouse对Courtenay Hameister的分手理由感到惊讶，但他表示自己会一直为与作者在一起而感到自豪。他认为Courtenay的分手决定与自己无关，而是作者自身的问题，他并没有被作者的分手言论所打击，但他为失去这段关系而感到难过。他仍然爱着作者，并为他们能够继续保持朋友关系而感到高兴。他认为这段经历让他变得更加自信和真实。 Anna Martin作为访谈主持人，引导Courtenay Hameister和Jason Rouse讲述了他们恋爱和分手的经历，并对他们各自的观点进行总结和分析。她帮助听众理解了身材焦虑对个人生活的影响，以及自我接纳的重要性。

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Courtenay Hameister has struggled with body image issues since she was young. Her insecurities made dating difficult, and she believed she needed to be a certain weight to be considered dateable. This impacted her self-esteem and her dating life significantly.
  • Internalized fatphobia significantly impacted Courtenay's dating life.
  • She believed she had to reach a certain weight to be considered dateable.
  • Her negative self-talk made it hard for her to feel comfortable in romantic relationships.

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Courtenay Hameister worked hard to stop feeling shame about her body size, but she also had a cruel inner monologue that just wouldn’t leave her alone. At times, her internalized fatphobia was so powerful, she couldn’t think about romance at all. But when Courtenay started dating Jason, everything felt different. He was fat, too, as well as smart, funny, and handsome.

When Courtenay realized she was starting to gain weight again, though, she became obsessed with the idea that other people were judging her and Jason, and she made a decision she would immediately regret.

This episode is adapted from her 2023 essay “Were We the ‘Fat Couple’?)”

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