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Your Worst Dates Ever: With Joel Kim Booster

2024/12/18
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Anna Martin：节目的开篇点明了主题，即当前约会世界的混乱和人们的普遍不满，并引出了对听众投稿的糟糕约会故事的讨论。节目中穿插着对约会现状的分析和对未来约会建议的探讨。 Joel Kim Booster：作为一名约会专家，Joel Kim Booster从人类学角度分析了糟糕约会经历的吸引力，认为这展现了人们在寻求连接时的脆弱性以及约会中高风险带来的行为偏差。他分享了自己的糟糕约会经历，强调了约会前充分沟通和信息披露的重要性。他还对听众分享的约会故事进行分析，并提出了在约会中逐渐展现真实的自我以及相信直觉的建议。 Michelle Monroe：分享了与一个在第一次约会表现良好，但在第二次约会中展现出令人失望的另一面的约会对象的故事。这突显了在约会中展现真实自我的重要性，以及避免在第一次约会中过度表演的必要性。 Laura Faye Tenenbaum：讲述了一个约会对象过度自我吹嘘，而忽略对方感受的故事。这强调了在约会中倾听和尊重对方的重要性。 Mindy Bell：分享了一个约会对象带母亲一起约会的故事。这展现了约会中一些意想不到的状况，以及在约会结束后给予对方反馈的重要性。 Adrienne：讲述了一个约会对象在演唱会后展现出令人震惊行为的故事。这突显了在约会中相信自己直觉的重要性，以及避免与不合适的人继续交往的必要性。 Anna Martin：节目的主要内容是围绕听众分享的糟糕约会经历展开的，Anna Martin作为主持人，串联了整个故事，并对每个故事进行总结和评论，同时穿插了自己的观点和看法。 Joel Kim Booster：作为节目的嘉宾，Joel Kim Booster分享了自己的约会经验和观点，对听众分享的故事进行分析和解读，并提出了许多有益的建议，例如在约会中逐渐展现真实的自我，相信自己的直觉，以及在约会结束后给予对方反馈。 Michelle Monroe、Laura Faye Tenenbaum、Mindy Bell、Adrienne：这四位听众分别分享了自己的糟糕约会经历，这些故事展现了约会中可能遇到的各种问题，例如约会对象过度表演、缺乏沟通、不尊重对方感受等等。这些故事也为节目提供了丰富的素材，让听众能够从中吸取教训，并为未来的约会做好准备。

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Why has dating become such a source of frustration for many people?

Dating has become frustrating due to issues like situationships, ghosting, endless swiping, and a lack of commitment, leading to pent-up frustration among singles.

What is Joel Kim Booster's podcast about?

Joel Kim Booster's podcast, 'Bad Dates,' features guests sharing stories about their worst dates, covering everything from first dates to hookups.

What does Joel Kim Booster find fascinating about bad dates?

He finds the vulnerability and effort involved in trying to connect with a stranger fascinating, as it involves a struggle to see beyond the performance and layers people put on during early stages of dating.

What is Joel Kim Booster's advice on revealing personal flaws while dating?

Joel suggests a gradual process where one reveals their nuanced, vulnerable parts first, and then, once comfortable, drops the more unsavory aspects of their personality.

What was Joel Kim Booster's worst date experience?

Joel's worst date was a hookup where the man revealed his husband was home and a racist, making it uncomfortable for Joel to proceed.

How did Joel Kim Booster explain the drastic change in behavior between the first and second dates of a listener's story?

Joel theorized that the man might have asked ChatGPT for advice on how to perform well on a first date, which led to his seemingly good behavior initially.

What advice does Joel Kim Booster give for navigating the dating world?

Joel advises protecting one's peace, trusting their gut, and having a clear list of qualities they are looking for in a partner to make dating more intentional and less exhausting.

Why did the listener in the Mariah Carey concert date story regret going on the date?

She regretted going because she had a bad feeling about the guy but went for the Mariah Carey concert tickets, only to endure a night of his cheap behavior and a humiliating incident involving him peeing on trash in a parking lot.

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It felt as if the dating world hit a breaking point this year. With news headlines like “Is Dating a Total Nightmare for You Right Now?)” and “Why the Young and the Single Can’t Commit to Dating Apps)” appearing frequently, it became clear that there was a lot of pent up frustration.

We gave you all the opportunity to let it out, and asked you to send in voice memos about your worst dates. We enlisted the help of the actor Joel Kim Booster, who hosts the podcast Bad Dates), to turn your worst dates into tidbits of wisdom for a brand-new year of dating in 2025.

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