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How to Fall in Love with Anyone | Mandy Len Catron

2025/2/14
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Mandy Len Catron: 父母的离婚经历让我开始反思爱情故事对爱情观念的塑造。我发现,我们常常被爱情故事所引导,认为存在一种“正确”的恋爱方式,遵循这种方式就能获得幸福。然而,现实往往并非如此,爱情远比我们想象的要复杂得多。爱情故事常常将爱情与婚姻、生育紧密相连,形成一种“恋爱-结婚-生子”的模式,但这其实是一种社会建构,而非爱情的本质。我们应该以更加开放和多元的视角看待爱情,探索爱情在不同关系中的意义,而不是被固有的模式所束缚。我希望通过我的研究和写作,帮助人们打破对爱情的刻板印象,重新审视自己的爱情观,从而创造出真正适合自己的关系。 Mandy Len Catron: 我认为,我们应该寻找那些以复杂的方式对待爱情,并寻找爱情在生活中意义的故事,而不是思考爱情应该是怎样的。寻找这些故事的优势在于,最终你对爱情的可能性有更广泛的认识,并且更有可能创造出适合你的关系。改变我们对爱情的看法是可能的,但这需要时间和实践,并开放自己接受新的可能性。我拒绝的一个最大的想法是将爱情等同于应得性。灰姑娘的故事暗示,有些人应该得到爱,如果你足够好,就会有人注意到你并选择你,然后你就会拥有你一直梦想的生活,但我讨厌这个想法。灰姑娘的故事暗示,生命中最重要的时刻是被重要或有趣的人选择,这是一个非常被动的寻找伴侣的方式。

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Mandy Len Catron is known for her wildly popular Modern Love essay in the New York Times, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This." She popularized the 36 questions that are said to make people fall in love. Mandy’s essay inspired her book of the same name. In the book, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This," Mandy deconstructs her own personal canon of love stories through a series of candid and vulnerable essays. She dives all the way back to 1944, when her grandparents first met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver, drawing insights from her research into the universal psychology, biology, history, and literature of love. And she tells the story of how she decided to test a psychology experiment that she’d read about — where the goal was to create intimacy between strangers using a list of thirty-six questions — and ended up in the surreal situation of having millions of people following her brand-new relationship. Originally published in July 2017. Watch this episode at youtube.com/TalksAtGoogle).