90.热爱细节 保持冲动：祝我们找回「能把生活还原1倍速」的魔法！| Blake×文森特×付宇
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Deep Dive
Why do people feel the need to live life at 2x or 3x speed?
People often feel pressured to live life at an accelerated pace due to societal expectations and the desire to meet both personal and external demands simultaneously. This leads to a constant balancing act, where individuals try to fulfill professional obligations while also pursuing personal passions, resulting in exhaustion and burnout.
What role do societal expectations play in the 'speed of life'?
Societal expectations, such as the 'social clock,' pressure individuals to achieve certain milestones by specific ages, like having a stable career or starting a family. This creates a sense of urgency, making people feel they must live life faster to meet these expectations, even if it conflicts with their personal desires.
How does the concept of 'social clock' affect individuals in their 30s?
The 'social clock' creates pressure for individuals in their 30s to conform to societal norms, such as marriage and parenthood. However, some people, like the speaker, feel they can resist these expectations by choosing a different path, such as remaining single and childless, which allows them to avoid the stress of meeting traditional milestones.
What is the significance of slowing down and engaging in manual labor, like washing cups?
Engaging in manual labor, such as washing cups, can provide a sense of grounding and mindfulness. It allows individuals to focus on the present moment and appreciate small details, offering a break from the fast-paced, goal-oriented mindset of modern life.
How does the fast-paced work environment affect personal relationships?
The fast-paced work environment often leads to superficial interactions, where conversations are dominated by work-related topics rather than personal details. This can result in a lack of meaningful connections, as people become more focused on efficiency and less on building genuine relationships.
What is the impact of societal pressure on young people today compared to previous generations?
Young people today face significantly more societal pressure to achieve early success, with expectations to plan their careers and lives well before entering college. This contrasts with previous generations, who had more time to explore and make decisions at a slower pace. The current environment demands early and constant achievement, leading to increased stress and burnout.
- 探讨了现代人习惯性地将生活加速的现象
- 分享了嘉宾们的心理咨询经历
- 探讨了自我与他人期待的平衡、对终局的执念的问题
Shownotes Transcript
本期节目是与Blake@Blake有问题)、文森特@NiceTry) 在一狂+现场的录制。
在一狂+现场与两位主播碰面之前，我们完全不认识，我甚至没有完整听过两位的节目，所以这是一次极具「狂喜播客节」气质的录制，充满了随机和不确定，但最终又因为每个人的坦诚和开放，走向了我们所有人都意想不到的美好。
这次录制的缘起是Blake听了我之前《倍速社会)》的那一期节目，在录制之前我们还准备了一个煞有介事的大纲，结果我一上来就把大纲打乱了，直接抛出了本来放在最后的话题。
于是我们从各自的心理咨询经历开始聊起，聊到了「倍速生活」之下，自我与他人期待的平衡，想要看到终局的执念，以及那些让我们感觉到「原来这才是真实的、具体的生活」的细节和瞬间。
结束以后，有听友跟我说，很喜欢那个夹着本子逛公园的故事，还有那个葬礼的故事。
我也很喜欢，以及如果不是遇到Blake、文森特两位，我大概率也不会想到讲述这两个我私藏已久的故事。
后来，我和梵一如、关雅荻、兰若儿三位主播在录《人间游乐园 思想“迪士尼”：狂喜播客节又来复盘了)》的时候，特别提到了这一场录制。就像Blake说的，我们从来不指望给出任何关于「如何过好1倍速美好生活」的建议，但我们希望你在听到这一期节目的58分钟里，是轻松的，是有会心一笑的。
之前有人问我，「狂喜播客节」真的有你们吹得那么神奇吗？几个主播攒一个场子，互相也不熟，一上来就是尬聊，有什么理由非要去现场看呢？
我之前在小红书上写了这样一段话，大概可以作为一个回答吧——
今天在活动现场，我们聊到了「重建附近」的话题，这其实也是过去一年多里面我们的播客节目始终关心的话题。面对各种看得见的、看不见的结构性困境，大家最关心的问题是，那怎么办呢？2024年有很多播客的线下活动，认识了很多新朋友，也见到了很多一听声音就觉得很亲切的老朋友。最奇妙的是那种感觉，我们明明是第一次见面，可就是一打开话匣子就好像有聊不完的话。**我始终觉得，「附近」是需要我们自己去看见、去触发的，就像游戏里点亮一块新地图那样。**我们在播客线下活动所收获到的人与人之间既弥足珍贵、又返璞归真的信任、包容、倾听、理解，可能恰恰是我们在努力寻找的那些东西。
【特别鸣谢】
感谢Blake团队的制作，感谢如此用心的剪辑和后期，让这一期节目所传递的情感和氛围丝毫不逊于现场的感觉~
制作：左右
BGM：
林ゆうき - 共に歩んで
林ゆうき - みんなの力
平井真美子 - graceful
林ゆうき - 淡い恋
CAGNET - Close to You ~セナのピアノⅡ
Adib Sin,Redza,Eliorkid - Last Call
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