Why Letting Go of 'How' is Key to 'What' You Manifest
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Today I want to talk about an extremely important topic. As always, of course, I always want to talk about extremely important topics. But today it's about something that so many people are struggling with on their manifestation journey. And yes, it has to do with letting go. Let it go, let it go. Because so many people, they just can't let go. And they understand letting go the wrong way.

Because so many people, and I know that from Reddit and from forums and from emails that I received, believe that letting go in the realm of manifesting means to let go of their desire and to just no longer care about whether or not their desire actually materializes, whether or not their manifestation shows up in their physical reality. But if you are able to do that, then you would be the very first person I meet in the history of humankind or mankind, however it's called,

who actually is able to do it. Here's why: We cannot let go of our desire. If you are currently physically sick, then you simply cannot let go of the desire to be healthy. And it would also not be beneficial, because then you can no longer manifest it. If you're currently struggling financially, then you simply cannot let go of the desire to no longer struggle financially and to be financially abundant.

if you are currently not in a fulfilling relationship, but you want a fulfilling relationship, you cannot let go of your desire to be in a fulfilling relationship. I hope you get the point. So what does letting go actually mean? It does not mean to let go of your manifestation, it does not mean to no longer manifest, which is also, by the way, often a big misconception, especially by the people who follow Neville Goddard, who for some reason believe that Neville said:

with "it is done" that you should only meditate or affirm once and then you should let it go because well, otherwise you are too attached to the outcome. But Neville in many of his lectures mentions repetition and repeatedly going into the imaginal act and repeatedly feeling the feeling of the wish fulfilled.

If these people had read and listened to as many lectures from Neville as I have, then they would know that. So no letting go does not mean to let go of your desire. It also doesn't mean to let go of your manifestation practice. It simply means to let go of the obsession of when and how something will materialize, and especially how.

I mean, when it comes to when, that's of course something that's up for debate, because I personally believe that it's not beneficial to put a certain date in your intention to, for example, say, I have a net worth of X amount of dollars by the end of this year, or I am healed by the end of this year, because when you do that, you are just like a donkey with a carrot in front of him or her.

in case you will be a female donkey or a male donkey, but it's a donkey nevertheless, because what you're doing when you set these intentions is to basically say, "I don't have it yet, but I will have it at the end of the year." And remember, you always want to manifest from the perspective of already having it, because once you are no longer dependent on your physical reality changing,

in order to feel an emotional state that implies the fulfillment of your desire. Only then will you be able to manifest it. But by saying, "I make X amount of dollars at the end of this month or at the end of this year," or whatever it might be, you are sending the signal out into the field, "Yeah, universe, you know, I mean, yeah, at the end of the year we'll make it, but now I'm not abundant, I'm still based in lack."

and then you will just be like the donkey, walking with the carrot in front of the face and you will never catch the carrot.

And I know that this goes against traditional goal setting and goal setting advice, because usually when it comes to reading self-improvement books or business books, it's all about setting goals that are very specific, focused on a specific time frame. But in my humble opinion and in my experience, and also from the experience of having coached so many people from all around the world, in the art of manifesting, it is way more beneficial to set the intention in a way of, I already have the money,

I already have the relationship, I am already physically healed, because otherwise you would just project it into the future. And on top of that, and that happened to me in the beginning when I experimented with specific dates, is that the closer you get to the date, the more nervous you get, the more you mess up your vibration, and the harder for you it will be to manifest it. And in the end, who cares if it comes one day sooner or one day later? If it comes one month after the date that you set for yourself,

Who cares? It doesn't matter. As long as you receive what you want to receive, there is always divine timing. Remember that. Then when you're ready, you will receive it. But now let's talk about the how. Because letting go of how the manifestation shows up in your life is actually the key to manifest what you want.

Because the moment that you let go of how you acknowledge that the universe has an infinite array of ways, an infinite number of potentials, how this manifestation can flow to you. And this was also a trap that I fell into at the beginning of my manifestation journey, where I focused so much on making the money with my one struggling business, because well, that was

the only reality that I knew. And don't get me wrong, my business back then that was struggling was then after a year no longer struggling anymore because, well, I manifested more abundance. But the true level of abundance, the real money,

came once I said to myself and also to the universe, universe, I am open to all kinds of possibilities, all kinds of ideas, all kinds of synchronicities. You can bring me the money however you want to bring me the money. And that's when I received all these direct downloads.

all these signs for new businesses, new opportunities, new products that I hadn't even thought of before. Because remember, by you clinging on to a specific how, you not only create resistance, but you also project this resistance into the field. Because you're basically like a horse with blinders on and you only see this one reality.

Even though the universe has all these different opportunities for you, all these different ideas, all these different businesses, all these different job opportunities, but because you don't see them and you're not open to them, or yeah, let me rephrase that please, because you are not open to them, because you're like a horse with blinders on,

That's why you don't receive them, which means you release a lot of resistance automatically when you're no longer focused on how it will flow to you. And always remember, and this is a beautiful example that one of my dear clients mentioned,

The universe is the library. You're just a human being who might have read three books or four books or five books, and yes, you have some knowledge in the same way as I have some knowledge. But the universe knows infinitely more than you do or than I do or than any other human being does. And that's why you have to trust that the universe knows exactly how your manifestation will flow to you.

And that might be through positive contrast, where something in the beginning doesn't work out the way you want it to work out, and you actually think it's a negative thing, but then it turns out to be a blessing. It might also be, for example, through an experience where you receive an opportunity that you could have never even imagined in your wildest dreams. I mean, I had manifestations come to me, ideas come to me in ways that

are so ridiculously stupid when I think about them logically, but it had to come in these ways. The universe knows the path of least resistance for you. You as a human being might think you know it, but the universe really knows it.

And then, once you let go of it, then you're in the flow. Because when you're no longer fixated on the how, you become not only more receptive to all these signs and synchronicities, but you also stop worrying, you stop doubting, you simply immerse yourself in the practice.

I mean, if there's one tip that I would give everybody who's manifesting, and I wish that more people would do that, but I know from countless coaching clients that this is easier said than done. And I also know it from my own experience, of course, in the past, that it's easier said than done, even though nowadays I'm very good at it.

And that's that no matter what happens in your life, as long as you do the work in the spiritual realm, as long as you reach the frequency of what you want, good stuff will happen for you, even if the walls are breaking down left and right. And

That's why I often send my coaching clients this meme of the dog, like this comic meme of the dog sitting in the kitchen and flames everywhere and the dog says, it's fine. So you just have to type into Google, it's fine meme or that's fine. I don't even remember if it's that's fine or it's fine.

But this meme always reminds me of the manifestation process. That doesn't mean that your house will be on fire, but if something happens in your outer reality where sometimes, yes, the old life has to break away or at least parts of the old life have to break away. And as long as you trust the process...

You will arrive at the destination. I truly know this. I mean, I remember at one of the Joe Dispenza advanced retreats I went to, he actually screamed. I mean, almost screamed in the microphone. Some of the people in the audience here had to live out of the back of their cars. And now they're making millions of dollars every year. And in this moment, I was like, whoa.

And of course that doesn't mean that you will be homeless or anything like that. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to put nightmares in your head, but what it means and why he got so passionate about it is that sometimes certain aspects of your old life have to break away. And only when these aspects break away, and yes, that might come through positive contrast, which means it's an experience that's not so favorable at the beginning, but it actually turns out to be the biggest blessing of all.

And you can only experience that if you let go of the obsession of how it will come to you. Because the only way for you to truly immerse yourself in the experience of change, the experience of becoming somebody else, is...

when you let go of the how and therefore immerse yourself fully in the manifestation practice. When you live your life in joy, when you experience your life to the fullest, when you, yes, meditate, affirm and use any other manifestation technique that works for you, but always remember: every manifestation technique just has one purpose and the purpose is for you to change.

And that means that once you let go of the obsession of how it will come to you, then you can simply be. You can be abundant, you can walk like abundance, you can talk like abundance. And that's when you will automatically enter a state where you expand beyond limits, which means your limited understanding of the how...

has restricted for a long time all the possibilities that can flow to you. And now the universe can deliver your "what", like what you want to manifest in ways that might exceed your wildest imagination. But now, because you're immersed in the process, and because you're changing a bit more every day, now you are open to miracles. Now you're open to possibilities.

And now you receive true empowerment directly from the universe. Now you enter a state where you recognize that you are a co-creator.

that you are manifesting in perfect alignment with the universe. And that's when all the things that you want can and will flow to you. And that's what I wanted to share with you today. And of course, if you want to work with me either in an individual coaching session, or you're ready to completely transform your reality by immersing yourself in the Abundance Reality Shift coaching program, you can go to affirmation2manifestation.com slash coaching. And of course, if you want to directly go to my presentation page,

for the Abundance Reality Shift Coaching Program, you can also go to affirmation2manifestation.com slash abundance. And if, just in case, you want to find out more about my audio program, you can click on the second link in the description.