You'll Never Manifest a Relationship Unless You Do This
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Today I want to show you how to manifest a relationship. How can you manifest love in your life? How can you manifest a beautiful, loving relationship? That's what we want to talk about today. And it all starts by you realizing that love is a beautiful, universal emotion that has to be felt universally. And what I mean by that is that it's not enough

to feel love when you go into the imaginal act and you see yourself with your dream partner and you then see yourself holding her or his hand. But it's also important to develop a strong love for yourself.

Because if you don't love yourself, nobody else can. Or at least you will then end up in toxic relationships where your own unworthiness will be again and again attracted and reattracted. And this is just something that you have to keep in mind. And it's a very uncomfortable subject, but...

My background is also in the dating coaching realm. That's something that I mentioned in many podcasts before. And it is no secret that people, no matter how rich they get, no matter how famous they get, no matter what...

quality or let's say desirable quality as a partner they might have, if they have not healed their trauma and if they have not developed a sense of self-love, they will attract exactly what they don't want to attract. And this is true for both men and women. I mean, it's just often more talked about with women because people throw around this term daddy issues, but I also believe that there are mommy issues. It's the same thing for guys. It's just the other way around. So if you, for example,

were abused by, let's say, as an example, by your father. And you then developed this feeling of unworthiness: "I am unworthy, I am not lovable." Then of course, I mean it doesn't have to be severe abuse, it can be neglect, it can be emotional abuse, I'm not talking about the worst of the worst that we can think of right now. And you might be asking yourself right now: "Okay, that's a very serious subject, I didn't expect that in an episode about manifesting love." But well, it is an important part.

Because then what happens so often is that people then say to themselves, okay, I will not attract somebody like my mother or I will not attract somebody like my dad.

But then they attract exactly the same person, basically, who abuses them in the exact same way, even though consciously they said to themselves, I will never end up in a relationship like that. And again, the same is true for men. Best example would be Johnny Depp. That guy is one of the top 0.0000001% most desirable men in the world.

Who does he end up dating? Amber Heard, who abuses the living beep out of him. And he actually sat in court where the lawyer asked him, or I don't remember who asked him, but somebody asked him, why did you stay? Guess what he said?

I guess because my dad stayed. That's why it's so important to resolve these past traumas, to rise above them and to feel love for yourself, to practice feeling love for yourself. Otherwise, yes, you might be able to attract a relationship, but it will not be the relationship that you want to attract.

And that's why I truly believe, just like it's not enough to simply see yourself being abundant if you want to attract money, but you actually have to step into that new self-concept and you have to walk and talk and think and act like an abundant person. The same can be said when it comes to manifesting a loving relationship.

It's not enough to simply say: "Okey-doke, I'm gonna visualize a little bit of me being in a loving relationship, but I continue to hate myself, I continue to feel unworthy, and I continue to feel as if I don't deserve a loving relationship." Then, of course, nothing changes. Always remember: Manifestation techniques, no matter if we're talking about affirmations, if we're talking about meditation, no matter what techniques we're talking about, the reason for these techniques, or let's say the reason why you use these techniques, should be - I hope they are -

Because you want to change. Because you realize that you have to change. Nothing changes until you change. Always keep that in mind. Nothing changes in your life until you change. You have to change. You have to change a part of you.

you. You have to shift into a new state. It's not enough to visualize it. Again, visualize it. It's a good thing. Go into the meditation. Go into the imaginal act. It's a good thing. I don't say that it's a bad thing. Create these images of you with your partner, of you in a loving relationship. Maybe you even want to create some not-safe-for-work images of you, cha-boinky-boinky, your partner. That's also okay. All these images are great for manifesting a loving relationship. But

you have to shift into a state of being.

Embody the feeling of already being loved and cherished. And if you want, you can write the sentence down. In order to embody the feeling of already being loved and cherished, you have to, at least to a certain extent, love and cherish yourself. There's no way around it. You cannot embody the feeling of already being loved and cherished if you don't, at least to a certain extent, I don't say it has to be 100% self-love,

and no negative emotions towards yourself at all. But at least to a certain extent, you have to love yourself. You have to cherish yourself. Otherwise, nothing will change. And what I also wanted to share with you, and yeah, this goes out especially to the ladies, and oh, I know that's a controversial thing to say, but well, I had so many clients, and in this case, especially female clients, who had this huge list of all the requirements that they want the guy of their dreams to have.

Men in this case are often more simplistic. They're like, oh yeah, does she like me? And is she beautiful? Okay, yep, I want her. She's my girlfriend. So in this case, men are a little bit more simple-minded. But then when I talk about relationships with my female clients, suddenly, oh,

oh, six feet tall and six figure income and the dark hair and exactly this jawline and oh my god, if he wears this suit instead of that suit, it sometimes goes into so much detail where I think to myself, let's turn on the oven and let's bake this guy specifically for her and

Here I'm going to say something that maybe other manifestation coaches disagree with, but I truly, truly believe it because I've just helped so many women, and also men of course, so many people in general to manifest the loving relationship of their dreams. And I can confidently say that it's way, way better to focus on how you want to feel in the relationship

Because if, for example, you now say, yeah, the guy must have black hair or the woman that you want to attract must have blonde hair and...

you then attract somebody who has this hair color, but maybe the sexual attraction is not there. It makes way more sense to feel yourself into the feeling of what it would feel like to have an insane emotional connection and an insane sexual attraction for the person that you are in a relationship with. I mean, I personally, I haven't visualized my girlfriend looking the way that she looks.

That sounded very negative, I know, but I meant it in a funny way. Oh no, I didn't. Anyway, what I wanted to say, she's of course incredibly beautiful, but I didn't anticipate her looking exactly the way she looked. I mean, that's maybe a better way of saying it. However, I have a very intense sexual connection with her, very intense emotional connection. Everything is freaking amazing.

So if, on the other hand, you only focus on the, let's say, superficial quality, six feet tall and whatever, six-figure bank account and all these kind of things...

then you might attract such a guy. Or if you as a man say to yourself, oh yeah, she should be bleach blonde and double Ds, then you attract such a woman. But this woman is a narcissistic psychopath, and the guy is also a narcissistic psychopath, then have fun in your relationship. So it's way more beneficial to say to the universe, universe,

I want somebody who I have an intense hunger for, sexual attraction is there, emotional connection is there, we have the same values and we love each other dearly and we can't keep our hands off each other. And now the universe, when you then feel yourself into the imaginal act and you really go into it,

can give you exactly that person. And I know it from so many of my clients. That's why it's so important for me to talk about this. Who told me, "Yeah, my dream woman has to be blonde." And then they ended up in the relationship of their dreams with a woman who has brown hair. Then another client said, "You know, my man has to be six feet tall."

And then they ended up dating somebody who's a little bit shorter. And when I then asked them, yeah, I mean, they don't have the hair color, right? They don't have the height, right? They don't have that job. Ah, that doesn't matter anymore. We're so in love. In the end, these things don't matter. But if you go into the imaginal act and into the feeling of the wish fulfilled, that you...

truly attracted to that person and they are truly attracted to you and that you are so in love with that person and they are in love with you, then the universe will, in a sense, just like I mentioned before where I made this joke about putting on the oven and then baking the guy, will bake that person exactly for you that this person fulfills the criteria that then make you sexually attracted to that person, that make you emotionally connected with

that person. So always focus on the feelings, always focus on the emotions, always stay open to, well, what the person then will be like. The universe will take care of that if you only visualize your ideal relationship, how you want to feel in that relationship.

And what about your ex? And now you might be saying, oh God, don't get me started on him or don't get me started on her. Well, you have to release this energy. You have to release any energy, any past negative emotions that anchor you, or sorry, I should say any negative emotions, because you might still feel them, that anchor you to the past.

before you can then attract a new person in your life. Because remember what I said in the beginning of this episode, it is impossible for you to attract somebody who loves you and cherish you if you're not in the emotional state of love and cherishing yourself. And if you're still anchored,

and still holding on to maybe feelings that your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend or ex-husband or ex-wife gave you of "you are not good enough", "you are unworthy" and "you're freaking whatever", then of course you are still not free from these negative emotions. And that's why we have some work to do there. And of course if you want to work with me on that, we can do that in an individual coaching session. And if you want to find out more about the coaching sessions and coaching options I offer, you can click on the first link in the description.

And the last point I want to mention for today is that the more you allow yourself to fully enjoy your life as a single, the easier it will be for you to attract a loving relationship. I still remember how it was for me. I was at a stage where I was like, yeah, you know, I'm so happy. Everything's going good. Life is good. Everything is yuppie-duppie-dooey. And then boom-ba-da-boom, then it happened. I mean, yes, of course, I consciously manifested her.

I specifically manifested her with Joe Dispenza meditation, but it was at a time in my life where I was just happy being with myself. I was happy in my life. I was happy with myself. I was in love with life. And remember what Joe Dispenza says, if you create from the energy of I'm in love with life, then you create the life you love. And the life you love naturally contains the elements that make you love your life, which in this case is a fulfilling relationship.

And that's what I wanted to share with you today. And of course, if you want to find out more about my 11 Days to Manifestation Mastery program, my audio course, then you can click on the second link in the description or go to affirmation2manifestation.com slash mastery.