The hosts criticized the show for its double standards in handling Mai Lin and Li Hangliang's relationship, particularly in the final episode. They pointed out that Mai Lin, who shared her experience of being abandoned as a child, faced harsh and malicious comments from both the audience and the show's guests. Meanwhile, Li Hangliang's emotional detachment was largely ignored or even justified, reflecting a broader societal issue where male emotional isolation is normalized while female emotional expression is scrutinized.
The hosts expressed strong disapproval of Huang Zhizhong's comments, accusing him of being malicious and biased against Mai Lin. They noted that Huang consistently avoided addressing the specifics of Mai Lin's situation, instead resorting to broad, abstract concepts that painted her in a negative light. The hosts felt that Huang's approach was unprofessional and lacked empathy, particularly when dealing with sensitive topics like trauma and emotional labor in relationships.
The hosts described Li Hangliang as emotionally detached and unwilling to truly understand Mai Lin's feelings. They criticized his tendency to use logical arguments to deflect emotional issues, creating a barrier between them. The hosts also noted that Li's actions, while seemingly well-intentioned, often failed to address the core of Mai Lin's emotional needs, leaving her feeling unseen and unheard.
The hosts criticized the show for failing to address the issue of emotional labor, particularly in the context of Mai Lin and Li Hangliang's relationship. They pointed out that Mai Lin's emotional labor—her efforts to maintain the relationship and address Li's emotional detachment—was largely ignored, while Li's emotional isolation was not treated as a problem. The hosts argued that this reflects a broader societal tendency to undervalue women's emotional labor in relationships.
The hosts advised individuals in similar relationships to focus on understanding each other's emotional needs and past traumas. They emphasized the importance of open communication and empathy, suggesting that partners should listen to each other without immediately resorting to logical arguments or defensiveness. The hosts also stressed the need for both parties to take responsibility for their emotional well-being and work together to address underlying issues.
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