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Allie Yost
Allie Yost: 我感到主真正渴望和平，因为他是和平之君。我希望即使在我们意见不一致的情况下，我们也能团结一致。作为教会，我们有责任通过政治等事情向人们展示耶稣的道路。即使人们粗俗、令人讨厌和充满仇恨，我们也有责任爱他们。我希望我们的世代能够坐下来倾听彼此，即使我们并不一定同意彼此的观点，这本身就是一种团结。这一代人充满了愤怒，主为此感到心碎，他希望有更多的和平。即使人们说的话荒谬、疯狂，甚至违背圣经或你的信仰，我们也要爱他们。我们应该与世界不同，当我们以世界的方式回应时，我们就没有发挥出上帝赋予我们的真正潜力。当人们对我们大喊大叫，说我们是错的，说我们没有权利相信这些事情时，如果我们用祝福回应，那就是与众不同。要对那些对你怀有恶意的人有同情心，可以回想耶稣在十字架上说的话：'父啊，赦免他们，因为他们不知道自己在做什么。'如果上帝对他们有怜悯之心，那么我们也应该对每个人都有怜悯之心，即使是对那些残酷和不友善的人。耶稣希望我们坐下来好好谈谈，不要提高嗓门，试图压倒对方，证明自己的观点。我们应该以同情、爱与和平的态度说出真相，缓慢发怒，并且乐于倾听。我们应该接受人们不会同意我们的观点，我们的工作是说出真相，而不是说服别人。上帝希望我们和平相处，即使我们彼此意见不合。耶稣渴望即使在我们意见不合，甚至生活方式不同时，我们也能和平团结地彼此相爱。我们可以在不同意别人的同时，不评判他们。只有依靠圣灵，我们才能做到这一点，因为这是一种超自然的力量，是我们人类靠自己无法做到的。我们需要对每种情况都有辨别力，因为我们不能为不良行为找借口。不评判并不意味着我们为不良行为找借口，也不意味着我们必须与每个意见不合的人成为朋友。圣灵会给予我们智慧，告诉我们如何处理情况，设定界限，以及该说什么，不该说什么。当你面临具有挑战性的对话和关系时，寻求圣灵的指引是最好的方法。耶稣以恩典、怜悯和同情的方式传递真理，从不残酷或侮辱。愤怒本身不是罪，但我们不应该在愤怒中犯罪，就像耶稣从未做过的那样。爱人如己是命令，上帝知道这包括那些我们不同意的人。要记住，我们不同意的人也是上帝所爱和耶稣为之牺牲的人。记住上帝创造了他们，并差遣耶稣为他们而死，以此来获得同情心。在社交媒体上与那些你不同意的人互动时，要带着同情和爱，记住他们是上帝深爱的人。下次当你无法理解别人时，试着把“我无法理解”改成“我想理解”。问问对方，帮助我理解，是什么经历或观点让你相信这些？耶稣也问了很多问题，他想了解人们的来处。富有同情心地保持好奇心，可以让你了解对方的故事，从而进行尊重的对话。你也可以通过为那些你不同意的人祈祷来爱他们。祈祷可以让我们专注于上帝，增强我们的灵性，并获得爱那些我们不喜欢的人所需的同情心。成为一个和平缔造者。尽你所能，与所有人和平相处。尽你所能，与所有人和平相处，包括爱你所冲突的人。努力寻找共同点，并从那里开始。即使你与某人意见不合，仍然可以尊重和尊重他们，并坚定地表达你的观点，同时提供坚定不移的爱。爱那些你不同意的人，可以引导他们认识耶稣。我们以同情和真诚好奇心对待他们的态度，实际上可以引导他们认识耶稣，因为你正在通过你爱他们的方式，向他们展示天父的怜悯之心。与那些不同意我们的人交谈时，我们的主要目标应该是让他们愿意再次与我们交谈。与不信耶稣的人交谈时，我们不应该想着“我赢了吗？”，而应该问“他们感受到上帝和我的爱了吗？”我们应该始终保持开放的态度，以便进行第二次和第三次对话，直到他们准备好与耶稣建立关系。耶稣不同意他所爱的人，但他并没有与他们断绝关系。耶稣对那些不同意他的人说话时，有时语气会更尖锐，但那是出于爱，希望他们能转向真理。耶稣欢迎所有人来到他的国度，但他要求那些跟随他的人要遵循他的方式。耶稣邀请我们效法他的方式，向所有人提供爱和同情，即使是那些不配得到的人。有时，打破一颗戒备的心只需要爱、宽恕和不必要的同情。解决冲突不是一个操作手册，而是在字里行间寻找建议和智慧的道德准则，以帮助我们为每种情况寻求上帝的帮助。我们必须与圣灵沟通，才能找到解决问题的方法，也就是祈祷。要快快地听，慢慢地说，慢慢地动怒。温柔的回答可以平息愤怒，但严厉的话语会激起怒气。每个人不要只顾自己的利益，也要顾及他人的利益。解决冲突意味着倾听他人，在争论之前寻求理解。我们要以同情和爱的态度对待每一次分歧。如果你很难对别人产生同情和爱，那么我们只能从上帝那里获得。我们要慢慢地说，慢慢地被冒犯，不应该有冒犯的精神。我们应该改变心态，不要想着赢得对话，而要更多地关注对方，对他们的内心和来处抱有真诚的同情和好奇。每个人都是按照上帝的形象创造的，我们必须与众不同。我们要通过爱别人来与众不同，人们会通过我们彼此相爱的方式来认出我们是耶稣的门徒。爱别人并不总是意味着我们同意他们的观点，也不总是意味着我们在所有事情上都意见一致。爱别人意味着倾听他们，并以和平的态度对待他们，即使你说的话他们可能不想听或不同意，你仍然可以用和平的态度来传递，这就是爱他们。我们要以和平缔造者的身份对待每一种情况。让我们通过付出更多的同情和爱，更快地倾听并试图理解别人的来处，来向别人展示耶稣有多酷。
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Allie Yost: 'And I feel the Lord actually guiding me to talk about how to handle things conflict when it comes to the topic of politics and how to create peace among our brothers and sisters and our neighbors as we disagree.'
Allie Yost: 'And I feel the Lord's heart for really genuinely wanting peace. And that makes sense because he's the the Prince of Peace.'
Allie Yost: 'But I just, I feel the Lord's heart in wanting unity even through disagreements. That he wants unity even through with us not agreeing with one another.'
Allie Yost: 'But Jesus did the opposite of that. And he communed and he sat and he broke bread with people that was like, Jesus, what are you doing? Like those people are filthy.'
Allie Yost: 'But I just feel as the church, we have a responsibility to show people the ways of Jesus, even through things like politics.'
Allie Yost: 'And I believe that it is our duty to love people even through disagreements and to love people even when they're vulgar and nasty and hateful and resenting. Like whatever way that that looks, we are supposed to love those people.'
Allie Yost: 'I think another thing that I really wish for for our generation, y'all, is that we can come together and have healthy conversations and hear each other. Just hear each other...'
Allie Yost: 'Believe it or not, that is unity. Even if we don't necessarily agree with one another, just sitting down and listening to one another is unity.'
Allie Yost: 'It's just a lot of anger. And I feel the Lord's heartbreak with that. And I believe that he wants more peace.'
Allie Yost: 'Like loving everyone, even when some of the things that people say you could think is literally absurd and crazy. It could actually go against scripture or it could just go against your beliefs.'
Allie Yost: 'And so if we're dishing out what the world is dishing to us and we don't look different than them, I just don't believe that we're walking in our true potential with God by looking just like the world. We are actually supposed to look different than the world.'
Allie Yost: 'So when people are coming at us screaming in our faces, telling us that we're wrong, telling us that we don't have a right to believe these things, and then we respond with blessings, it's giving...'
Allie Yost: 'If somebody is spewing hate, okay, at you, you must be compassionate just as your father is compassionate. Jesus actually tells us that we're supposed to be compassionate to those who hate us. We're supposed to be compassionate to those who are our enemies, to the people who are unfair to us.'
Allie Yost: 'I think it goes back to one of the last words that Jesus said on the cross where he said, forgive them, Father, for they don't know what they're doing.'
Allie Yost: 'I think also like if the Lord has compassion for them, then we also are called to have compassion for every single person. And that's hard. I think one of the most challenging places to have compassion is towards people who are cruel and not kind to us, especially in disagreements.'
Allie Yost: 'I really feel Jesus just being like, I want you guys to just sit down and just talk. talk just talk to each other you know i really hope that you guys are hearing this and i just pray that the people who are supposed to hear this and receive this receive it and they hear it i really want to be able to like translate this well i'm not saying that as christians we aren't supposed to speak the truth i do believe that we are called to speak the truth but with speaking that truth you'
Allie Yost: 'We deliver it in a place of compassion and love and peace that we're slow to anger and we're quick to also listen. Like there are ways to speak the truth without entertaining a spirit of conflict and anger and just conflict.'
Allie Yost: 'I also think that it takes a level of spiritual maturity, which we all are actively growing in, to accept that people won't agree with us. I think that's the other half is like, I don't think it's our job to convince anyone of the truth. I believe it's just our job to speak the truth.'
Allie Yost: 'Yeah, the Lord just really wants peace. And he's okay with us disagreeing. I believe, yes, he's okay with us disagreeing with one another.'
Allie Yost: 'But something that can happen and something I do believe that Jesus desires is peace and unity through not agreeing with one another and even not agreeing with each other's lifestyles, like whatever that looks like, but still loving one another.'
Allie Yost: 'I also think that there is a way to not agree with others, but also not judge them. These things feel like they shouldn't live in the same room, but I do believe they can.'
Allie Yost: 'You don't have to agree with somebody while also not judging them. And I really believe that the only way we can do that, y'all, is accessing the Spirit of God because it really is something supernatural that we cannot do in the natural on our own as humans without the Spirit of God.'
Allie Yost: 'And so I say that because I do believe that you cannot agree with somebody and still not judge them. And I think too, guys, I want you to take all of this with a grain of salt as well, because there is a level of discernment that I believe exists.'
Allie Yost: 'It's like we don't judge, but there also, there doesn't have to be, not judging doesn't mean that we're excusing the behavior. It doesn't mean that you have to be friends with every person that you disagree with.'
Allie Yost: 'I just think that, yeah, there's a level of discernment that comes from the spirit per situation where God will give you the wisdom of, how you are supposed to handle that situation, what kind of boundaries are supposed to be set, what you're supposed to be saying versus what you should bite your tongue about. You know, the ultimate wisdom comes from the Spirit of God. It's the Holy Spirit.'
Allie Yost: 'If you find yourself approaching a situation that could be conflict, accessing the Spirit of God is the best thing that you can do in that moment and say, okay, Jesus, what do you want me to do? How do you want me to represent you well, right?'
Allie Yost: 'But he did it with such a way of grace and mercy and just compassion. He was never cruel about it. And I think that's what needs to be removed from the way that we deliver truth is being cruel or harsh or insulting. Jesus never was like, you idiots.'
Allie Yost: 'Anger in itself isn't a sin, especially if it's a righteous anger where you're like, this is literally not right, but making sure that we are not sinning in that anger, which Jesus never did.'
Allie Yost: 'This is not just a suggestion. It is a command. The entire law, all of God's standard for our lives, can be summed up with just this one thing, which is love your neighbor as yourself. God knew that would include those we disagree with.'
Allie Yost: 'Also remembering that the person that we're disagreeing with is somebody that God loves and Jesus died for.'
Allie Yost: 'You can love someone you don't like when you remember they are someone God loves and Jesus died for.'
Allie Yost: 'To access that compassion by remembering God actually loved this person enough to create them. That they exist because God chose them and wanted them to exist. And Jesus died for them.'
Allie Yost: 'Interact with those you disagree with online with that same compassion and love. Loving a person you conflict with means seeking understanding.'
Allie Yost: 'The next time you think this, try changing the question. Instead of, I can't understand how, change it to, I want to understand how.'
Allie Yost: 'If you're with the person you disagree with, ask the question, help me understand how. Help me understand why you vote this way. What experiences or perspectives from your life led you to believe that?'
Allie Yost: 'Throughout the Gospels, Jesus asked many questions. He was curious. Now, being all-knowing, he already knew the answers, but he asked them anyway. He is showing us how important it is to gain an understanding of where people are coming from.'
Allie Yost: 'When you're compassionately curious, you can get a glimpse into the person's story. You learn their values, passions, and fears. Gaining an understanding helps you have a respectful dialogue that can lead to future conversations about what's important to you.'
Allie Yost: 'You can also love someone that you disagree with by praying for them.'
Allie Yost: 'Prayer actually centers our focus on God. When we pray, we let go of our own agenda and seek God's will. Our spirit is strengthened. Through prayer, we gain the compassion we need to love those we don't like.'
Allie Yost: 'You can also love someone that you disagree with by being a peacemaker.'
Allie Yost: 'You can't control another person's actions, but as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Everyone includes loving that person you conflict with.'
Allie Yost: 'Strive to find common grounds and start there.'
Allie Yost: 'It is possible to disagree with someone without disrespecting or dishonoring them. You can remain firm in your viewpoint while still offering unwavering love. You can have vastly different opinions and still honor who they are as an image-bearer of God.'
Allie Yost: 'Loving someone you disagree with points them to Jesus.'
Allie Yost: 'Because whether they realize it or not, in the way that we react and the way that we treat them with compassion and and genuine curiosity in conversations like this actually does point them to Jesus. Whether they even know that that's what's happening or not, it does because you're showing them the compassion of the Father's heart by the way that you're loving them in that situation.'
Allie Yost: 'When we're speaking with someone who disagrees with us, we should have one main goal. We want them to leave the conversation willing to have another conversation.'
Allie Yost: 'When talking to someone who doesn't follow Jesus, we shouldn't leave the discussion wondering, did I win? Oh, that's so convicting, guys. Instead, we should leave asking, did they feel loved by God and loved by me?'
Allie Yost: 'We always want to keep the window open to have a second conversation and a third and continue until they are in a place to begin a relationship with Jesus.'
Allie Yost: 'Jesus disagreed with loved ones but didn't disown them.'
Allie Yost: 'While there were times Jesus spoke in a sharper tone with those who disagreed with him, okay? So that goes back to what I was saying where I said, Jesus was firm in some conversations or sharper in his deliverance for sure, but it was out of love and hope that they would turn to the truth.'
Allie Yost: 'Jesus welcomed all to come to his kingdom, but he does ask that those who follow him would follow his way.'
Allie Yost: 'However, Jesus is setting the bar high, inviting us to follow in his ways, offering love and compassion to all, even those who don't deserve it.'
Allie Yost: 'Sometimes all it takes to break a guarded heart is love, forgiveness, and compassion that isn't warranted.'
Allie Yost: 'Conflict resolution in the Bible isn't like a how-to manual. It's more like a read between the lines, suggestions, and bite-sized morals of wisdom that help us seek God for every situation.'
Allie Yost: 'It's God's word given to us for every situation, but we have to communicate with the author to find the solution, aka the spirit. That's where prayer comes in.'
Allie Yost: 'Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. That's James 1.19.'
Allie Yost: 'A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15.1.'
Allie Yost: 'Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. And that's Philippians 2.4.'
Allie Yost: 'Conflict resolution in the Bible looks like listening to others, seeking to understand before we choose to argue.'
Allie Yost: 'Is just approaching every disagreement with a place of compassion and love.'
Allie Yost: 'And if you're having a hard time accessing that type of compassion and love for others, the only place we can truly get it from is God.'
Allie Yost: 'I feel the Lord challenging us to really be slow to speak and slow to get offended. There should be no spirit of offense.'
Allie Yost: 'Shifting our, mindset of wanting to win and walking away from a conversation being like, did I win that conversation? Were my points all communicated in a way? Like not so much looking at ourselves, but looking more at the other person and having genuine compassion and curiosity about their heart and where they are coming from.'
Allie Yost: 'But ultimately, at the end of the day, every single person, every single person walking this earth was made in the image of God. And we have to look different, y'all. We have to look different.'
Allie Yost: 'And this is how we're going to look different, by loving people. There's that other piece of scripture, I don't know where it is, but some of y'all probably do already, where Jesus says that they will know that you're my disciples by the way that you love one another.'
Allie Yost: 'Loving them is actually just hearing them and yeah, just being willing to hear one another and that there's peace. I think loving others well is also approaching it in a place of peace. Even if you're saying things that they don't probably want to hear or agree with, you can still deliver it with such peace, which is loving them. It is.'
Allie Yost: 'I even tried to practice that today where we're just going to approach every situation as a peacemaker.'
Allie Yost: 'Can we show somebody how cool Jesus is by extending a little extra compassion, a little extra love, being quicker to listen and to try to understand where people are coming from? I think that's how we can show somebody how cool Jesus is today.'
Deep Dive
Ally discusses the challenges of navigating disagreements and conflicts in today's society, particularly regarding political issues. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining peace and representing Jesus well even amidst differing opinions.
- Focus on peace and unity
- The importance of representing Jesus well in disagreements
- The challenge of maintaining peace amidst political tension
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