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All right, gentlemen, coming to main stage next, this is Bunny. Get up there. She's got a tornado of titties coming your way. Get those dollar bills ready. She's got an ass that shakes like Michael J. Fox. So get up there and throw, throw, throw them dollars. Dude, that is fucking iconic. What's up, you sexy motherfuckers? Welcome to another episode of Dumb Blonde. Today, I have somebody who I've wanted here for the longest time. She is this tight little package, just drooling.
draped in skin and beautiful, blondie, fucking IMJ. How are you doing, baby? I'm living. Like, I'm just here, honestly. The reason why I'm laughing is because if you guys could hear our conversation before, you'll understand why I was laughing with her saying, I'm living. You had a rowdy night last night. Oh, we had a long, very long, I still don't remember how I got in the Airbnb. Oh.
I have no idea, but I was with a lot of little hotties, you know? Yeah. Let's talk about one of these little hotties. Yo, I'm not going to lie. I was like, ew! Because sometimes in person you're like...
Like, he's a cutie too. So there are some of these dudes that on media, you're like, yeah, person. Whoa. Yeah. So who are we talking about here? Oh, let's see. Kaden. Yeah. Kaden. Kaden McGuire. Kaden. I really liked this dude named KB that was there. Yeah. Like vibed. Yeah. It was so funny. Cause he was like drunk. He was like, yo, you want to make my ex jealous? I was like, not really, but sure. And, uh, you took, I gotta show you this videos. And then another one, his name's Creech. Whoa. Yeah.
At first I saw him on TikTok, I was like, this little dork, no person. I was like... I bet you're like a hot commodity though because, you know, everybody loves you. I feel like a hoe though, for real. I just like, I vibe with the dudes. Hold on, because you're in the wrong area to say that because listen, you are, you're what? You're 21? Yeah.
bitch hoe it up hoe it up you know like you right now from the time you're 21 until you're fucking 35 fuck everybody like literally sport fuck the entire state i don't give a fuck because you're gonna get married you're gonna settle down one day and you don't get any more dick so you might as well just get it out of your system unless you're just not a sexual person you're not a sexual person really like i can be it depends who it is but like i mean i've
Try to before my Jesus moment everybody knows about. Right. I'm trying to save myself for marriage, but I've slipped up a little bit. Well, I mean, you're human. But it's just like, it's more of like I don't like anymore because of that. Like, I don't even get the desire. Like, I don't, like those hot dudes, my first opinion wasn't like, oh, they're,
You're a dick. It was more of like, you got Jews in your heart, dude. But it was more of like a, some of them do. So what if they have Jesus in your heart? Does that make your bingle tingle? That's so funny.
Okay, I'll be real, because, like, I'm in the flesh. I'm a sinner. Absolutely. They sometimes would make me want to throw my booty cheeks back. Yes, baby. But I'm still going to be, like, it's more attractive if, like, I don't like when people respect my boundaries. I like when they protect them. So it's kind of like a... That's actually really good. It's kind of like, if you protect me, I can just lose-lose, because now I'm, like, even more attractive because you're protecting me. I can't win. I can't win. So you and Caden are hooking up? Or what's the tea with that? Um...
Have we seen Caden's wiener? Because I want to know about it. Because that little boy, I'm like, hey, are you into MILFs? Because here I am. Yes. I would say about two years ago, you know... Oh, this has been a long... It's been a long ride. It's been around. Um...
I wouldn't say he was, like, a true ex. I just wouldn't. Yeah. Because it was more of, like, a... I felt like it was for show. Right. And, uh... Which is fine. I don't care. But it was kind of like I could never give him that part of myself because it was always, like, a video. And I'm like...
Just got weird, weird. But yeah. So you felt like he was kind of like using you for clout. Oh, for sure. Oh, he's a fucking clout chaser. A little bit. But, um, but not allowed on the podcast, but now he's not, but now he's not cause he got his own. Okay. Good. Using good. I'm kidding. Maybe. I don't know. I'm just being real. He hates when I say it, but well, I mean, if it's real, it's real, you know? Yeah. Let's, let's rewind and let's take it back. So where did Jay grow up at? Oh, Ohio. Oh,
really oh hi oh h born in south carolina but i have grown up in ohio gotcha that's awesome i would not take you as an ohio are you a juggalo
Oh, what? Okay, never mind. If you don't know what that is, all the jugglers at home are like, whoop, whoop. They're all pissed. So you grew up in Ohio. Are you close with your parents? Because I noticed that your parents have a TikTok. So it was rough a little bit because we all had our like family issues. Everybody got them freaking generational curses. But now we've never been closer. Like to where back then, I still feel a little bit like this. I think it's just because like it's a mom thing. Yeah. But sometimes, you know, in your worst moments of your life, like...
hey i might be pregnant or hey i really messed up uh sometimes you want to call them but usually it's just like have you ever had to call them and say hey i might be pregnant i've never have i'm proud i mean there was a time i might have had a scare with uh with who with caden caden you little fucking dirty dog oh it was actually my 20 why am i oddly turned on though you know like this is just it was it was uh
My birthday last year, we ended up going to a random hotel when we had a huge Airbnb. But that's fine. And I was like, wait a minute. First off, man, come on. Too dang. Because now I got to pop a plan B, and now I'm going to be hormonal, and now I feel like a hypocrite. Is Caden good in bed? Yeah. Oh, he is. I'm telling his mom. Oh, she's going to watch this and be like, it's bad. Oh, fuck. Mom, I'm so sorry. He's all about the...
keep my image good and stuff. I hate that. Like be, if you're gonna be yourself. Just be who you are. But no, it's, um, yeah, that thing cranking. Wow. It be cranking. These men are trash. Oh yeah, no, men are trash. Trust me. I was in a domestic abuse relationship. Really? Oh yeah, really bad. Um, but,
what what happens is people mistake um the abuse for passion yeah yeah and that's what makes you stay because oh yeah no he loves me so much he's willing to put his hands on me and i know that it's so mind-blowing but if you get it you get it because everybody's like what you know make you feel stupid and i was like i can't really describe it because it's more of like a i don't love that you did that but i see you deeper like as an actual human being and but at the same time it's like
I don't need to be in mom mode with a grown man. And I was in mom mode with a lot of, like, dudes. And even if they're abusive ones that's still in mom mode, they're, like, not men no more. Right. Ever. And it sounds weird as hell to say, but, like, I look at men, like, as my... Like, I want them to be like my dad a little. Why am I doing this? We've all got daddy issues. We've all got daddy issues. We've all got mommy issues. Like, he has always provided for my mom no matter what. And he, um...
Can do everything. I mean, fix any car, everything. Like, I want a man to be like, build me that porch. And he's like, all right, baby. Yeah. Do you consider yourself a daddy's girl? Do you consider yourself a daddy's girl? Oh, for sure. Yeah. Oh, for sure. But I don't think I got daddy issues. No. I think I just have fucking issues. I mean, we all do. That's why I have this podcast. It was a therapy for me. No, this honestly feels so good to Venice.
Yeah, no, totally. All right. So you do have a good relationship with your parents. When did you come to Tennessee? Because did you guys move from Ohio to Tennessee? Yeah, we went to Florida. And I wanted to stay in Florida, but like my dad got a new job. And at the time I had just started social media and I was like, I ain't got no money.
I can't stay here. So we moved to Tennessee. It's basically Tennessee, but like if you were to, it's literally the line. If you were to step here, it's like Mississippi. Oh. So they moved there and I ended up living in Memphis. That was traumatic. Yeah.
Oh, yeah. No, Memphis is hood. We love shout out Memphis. Love you. But like you guys, I still live 30 minutes from home and like I'm talking about PTSD to this day. Wow. Yeah. I'm always like on the paranoid. OK, so you started your social media career whenever you guys moved to the Mississippi line. No. OK. Just Florida. Oh, and it was weird because I had a damn. I sound like a whore. Like
Like I've had a lot of men around Hold on I've never had a real relationship Let me just Let me Cause I know there's gonna be I know how trolls are on TikTok Oh I'm not a Christian For talking about my life I need you guys to remember That this This woman is 20 years old Like what the fuck Were you bitches doing At 20 years old Yeah So before you throw stones At any sort of This story Think back to I know what I was doing I was doing everybody When I was 20 So you know Like It's like Live and let live Is what we need to do
I had a, uh, I guess my longest relationship, I was like 15, 18. His name was Brett. That's so young. I know. To be tied down. Oh, I know. Oh, trust me. It, it, um, and it was weird cause like I wasn't hurt by it at all, but in reality I was for like a year. I just never cried about it ever. Then he messaged me and my dad a year later, like, Oh, sorry. It was just so weird. Um,
But what was I saying, shit? We were talking about you starting your social media in Florida. Oh, yeah, okay, yeah. So we agreed, like, we're not going to have social media. I agreed with it. It wasn't no controlled vibes. Who said you weren't going to have social media? Brett. Brett, okay. So I was like, bet, I don't give a fuck. Okay, cool. But it did feel weird because...
I just stand out. They'd be like, everybody knows what's going on. I'm like, I don't give a shit. I'm playing with an Aunt Paul at fucking 18. I'm weird. Yeah. You're playing with Aunt Paul? Yeah. And when we are. Who's Aunt Paul? Aunt Pyle. Aunt Powell? Aunt Pyle. Oh, Aunt Pyle. I'm like, who the? I'm like, wait a second. Who's Aunt Paul? All right. What is going on here?
Dude, you talk so fast. I'm trying to like grab. My brain is working faster. Everybody that knows me is like, stop mumbling. I'm like, no. All right. So you're playing with ant piles at 18. I don't know where the fuck that came from. Um,
um oh yeah so i wasn't gonna have social media got it so when we broke up um i'm sorry the first trying to pull it together over here how do you think i feel um
Yeah, so we had, um, damn. All I hear is that, I got really bad ADHD, so the dog's snoring and I'm like, well, pink light is writing on the wall, there's everything going on. He's always snoring. So Brett said you couldn't have social media. Right, and I did too. I was like, bet, cool. But he would always go behind my back and get it. Cool. F off.
And when we officially broke up, the first normal thing to do is like, oh, Instagram, Snapchat. I was like, ain't nobody going to see me on this little kid app. I'm going to get TikTok. And to remind you, I went through a huge stoner phase. Have nothing against weed, but personally, I can't do it. Yeah. I would like have paranoia.
but I was funny on it. Oh, I couldn't imagine you. Oh, I was funny. I'm not even gonna lie. Like I couldn't imagine. I would make myself laugh. Yeah. And, uh, I had downloaded this app and like the first video I posted. And after that, they're just like face reveal. Cause apparently they liked my voice. I was like, what the fuck is wrong with my voice? And, uh, I learned a lot about myself through social media. And I'm like,
Yeah, people tell you what you're doing. Yeah, I know. And I was like, you're not wrong, but you're not right. But what? But like, keep them guessing. I think people are attracted to you because you are such a just a ball of light. You're also a ball of fucking energy. I'm also annoying. No, people don't know what's going to come out of your mouth. No, never. And they love that. Neither do I. When people say think before you speak, I'm like, can't. Won't do it. Can't. And it just blew up. And I'm like...
Riding in my freaking, oh, trap car. I love that car. I don't know why we got rid of it. I think I remember that's when I started following you was probably what, like two years ago? Was this about two years ago? Yeah. Okay. Yeah, we went through a huge, a huge change, whatever. We're just growing up, you know? And again, out of my parents' house, whatever. That's when I moved to Memphis. Murder right in front of me, my mom. It was bad. You saw somebody get murdered right in front of you? Oh, bad. Like 16 plus shots. My mom was in my apartment, like on the floor, like,
And my dog ate my Subways the whole time. We had just got back from Subways. Somebody's getting murdered and the dog's eating Subways. Yeah, man. It was an off-duty firefighter. Oh. And they were trying to rob his car. Oh, my God. So it was very like...
And honestly, I felt guilty. I was like, why not me, Lord? Like, dude, I'm a piece of shit. Why not me? But it was life-changing. And then after that moment, plus the social media and getting noticed, I don't know, it probably happens to you, is like, I don't like when people do not come up to me.
and that makes sense like i don't like when i'm later and they're like hey i saw you yeah there's haters out there the world's getting worse and i'm like bro i could have just got shot in the neck yeah something i totally feel you like i have very bad anxiety from social media now so in other words if you see jay out go up to her and see her yeah but if you didn't go up to her don't dm her yeah no i can't stand like i literally try to tell them like
hey i ain't nobody but if you did want to like say hi for some reason awesome but please just don't message me after it happens all the time yeah i know i i totally feel like that i have guys that message me on like my only fans that are like the butcher at the grocery store and i'm just like bro you just fed my family
I'm like, you know, like, come on, dude. The Kroger manager gave me like half off a steak. He want to take me off a date. I'm like, sir, no, sir, no. You're like, you are old enough to be my dad. No, he was. And he wanted to like, he took my groceries out to my truck and stuff. Cool guy, but like, whoa. Yeah, just overstepping boundaries. Hey, $45 steak out of 14 bucks. What a deal, baby. I bet you his tube steak was free though.
Sorry, I had to. I had to. Can we rewind it back to something you just said? You said that you have anxiety because of social media. I, honest to God, never believed in it. Like, I remember my family members when I grew up, like, grew up, in my 12, when I grew up, like, I would see them having it in, like, ambulances at their house and stuff. It would creep you out because I'd be on my four-wheeler.
You know, just out of there. Wild child. And I never believed in it. I was like, oh, suck it up. Like, hard skin. I was tough that way. And then I realized my karma real bad when I first had my first anxiety attack. Oh, I suffer from panic. I worked at the Hard Rock Casino.
as I was getting kind of bigger or more following whatever to where it got dangerous to where I couldn't work anymore. Was it that bad? People were just, uh, I parked in a really sketchy parking garage and men, women, they would be waiting at my car and I'd be all alone. And I also didn't have my clock back then. So it was very, uh, I acted like it didn't bother me, but I'd like
And then it would make me smoke more. And then the weed would make me have more. It was a bad place. I think people just don't understand boundaries. You know, like just because you see somebody on the internet. Oh, it's like you owe them everything. Right. And, you know, they want your time. They want a piece of you. They want a picture. And they don't realize that, you know,
Us as creators, we deal. That's why I'm very open about it. I tell everybody, I'm a fucking weirdo when you meet me in person. Oh, me too. For sure. I have anxiety. I got another hug. And that's why people, when they approach me now, they're kind of like, can I touch you? Can I hug you? And I'm like, yeah, come on. But I love that because they ask permission first instead of just. Because you're still a human being. Right. It's not like, I hate that too. They don't get it though. Because I've also learned if you were to complain or talk about your problems, I always get the, you have nothing to complain about. Yeah. Your life's perfect. I'm like, honestly though. Yeah. Yeah.
Whenever I talk about having depression, people are like, you work so much and you wear makeup and you get your hair done. And I'm like, does that mean I'm not fucking depressed? I know, I know. Like, what are you talking about? I've been honest to God that I'm happier when I didn't have money. Aww.
And also I had more true friends because now it's all like, oh, I'll just hang out there because I know she'll pay or something like that. That hurts my heart for you. Oh, it's just some real life stuff I have to like come to terms with. Your feelings are valid, though. Don't invalidate them because you have to be tough. I did that my whole life, too. And it's OK to feel how you feel. You know, like it's not fair. I couldn't imagine being your age.
It sucks. Having the money you have. Yeah. Having the platform you have and having to grow up in front of the world with everybody having a fucking opinion about you. Oh my gosh, you get it. Absolutely. I've never heard somebody actually do that. Bitch, I was like Lindsay Lohan back in my day. I don't even know if you know who that is. I do, I do. But fucking, I'm so glad people didn't get to see me doing eight balls of fucking cocaine and shooting shit up my ass. Yeah, yeah, for real. You know, like it was, I had a wild time so I couldn't imagine being
How you feel trying to just live your life and be you. And I'm also trying to do it like... Everybody thinks... I don't know. Like, I'm not religious at all. I hate that. I don't believe in it. I solely just believe in Jesus. That is it. I don't think you have to be rigid to be spiritual. Right. But, like, I think I just let the comments bother me a little bit. Because it's like, I shouldn't care. But at the same time, this is, like, my career. I should talk about it a little bit. But it's more of, like, yo, too much. Because I'm still learning. I'm still growing. I'm still...
If I can't, you know, so it's like nobody knows. It's hard. You know, nobody knows your heart. So these motherfuckers that literally every day I get fucking bullied because I'm with my husband and my husband's a big boy, you know, like everybody got to do it. Exactly. Oh, she's a gold digger, even though I'm fucking, you know, I've said it a million times. I make my own fucking money. Yeah, it's just like.
nobody knows what's going on. They're just jealous. Nobody knows what's going on though. They don't know your heart. You know, they don't know your relationship with God. Or what I do in private. I'm not a Pharisee. Like there's been so much stuff like that stuff you're supposed to do between you and the Lord so much. But like a lot of people want that you between the Lord stuff to be completely like out
I'm like, you're not going to get rewarded for that. It's private. So let's talk about your Christianity. I was going to wait to kind of like build your story a little bit, but let's get to it because it is such a hot topic. When I Googled IMJ on, well, Reddit. Shout out Reddit to everybody. Oh my gosh. Hold on. Shout out Reddit. Bro, dude, you want to know the story of that? Oh my gosh. Hold on. Shout out to all the standup citizens that are on fucking Reddit. Let's just give them a hand right now. They're these motherfuckers. They're doing the Lord's work over there. Let me tell you. What?
right oh dude the the the main thing i struggle with is forgiveness me too um but i can forgive instantly it's just have you really forgave if you still think about it right um and i had blowing up by the way this is why i hate the media because i'm just a normal person like i don't think i'm nobody like you know what i mean that's rare because a lot of people are fucking dicks yeah and uh i had my snapchat hacked
Right. And I remember my manager was like, hey, is this you? And truly, there's like a lot of pictures that look like me, but I know what's not me. And I was like, no. And then it was me like a week later. And I was like, wait a minute. Are we talking about the nudes that week? Oh, hell yeah. And I was 17. Okay. 17 years old. Shit. So honestly, that's a case to what the fuck. Yeah. It was very, very like, damn, I didn't even have a butt back then. Who hacked your Snapchat? No idea. No idea. They just got in your Snapchat. And I reached out to rent. I'm like, can you just like remove it? What the fuck?
But it was more of like I got told like, oh, it's fine. It's just more eyes. I was like, no, I genuinely feel like so the whole world has seen me. I'm not okay with it. And it was just, oh, it's fine. It looks better. Have you ever tried to get a lawyer involved? No, I should. Yeah, you definitely should. I see syndesist motherfuckers all day long. Yeah, I know. It was bad. I was like, actually, I don't really care. You have to protect your peace, baby. Yeah, yeah. You really do. For sure broken. I was like, damn, how are you going to do me like that? No.
I feel so bad now that I know the story. But they did it after, like, they knew. It's just, like, a most, I fucking hate saying, dude. It was more of, like, you couldn't, you could have done that a year ago. Yeah. But you decide to do it just when I talk about Jesus. You see how that works? Yeah. I was, like, really pissed. The devil comes against you harder. I fought the devil himself, if I was, like. Yeah. But that really sucked because you're already an influencer. You're already, I share too much online, let alone, now it's my body. Now it's all, you're not this and, oh, man. Yeah.
so it's like when you search my name up why can't it be some funny shit and it even sucks because like when me and kane was like starting to be like a thing uh people would go out there that's why i hate public relationships too because it's like you can't win if uh you don't post them they think you're single but two i just can't date a dude on social media and i won't yeah but he should be strong enough of a man to be like thank you someone has sent him it and i was like dude that was so long ago and he was like still angry i was like dude that was so that's kidship
Yeah, I was like, damn. I have nudes all over the internet. There was, like, no comfort. Like, I get it. Like, I shouldn't have took them. But at the same time, why the fuck are people in my Snapchat? And it was, like, the minute I didn't know it was serious. I didn't know you could get hacked. I didn't know people cared that much about my Snapchat. I had to, like, change my passwords probably every...
A few weeks. Just because I'm, like, traumatized. I'm a walking traumatized jelly bean. Cherry. Cherry, preferably. You can put that two-factor authentication on your phones, on your accounts, too. Because it's just, like, you've learned a lot. And sometimes I feel like I have...
outer body experiences a lot. And like I read an article about like does fame like really fuck with your head? Like I thought I was getting schizophrenic for a minute dude. And it was like... It's called derealization. That. And it was a lot of...
I can't even fucking, I don't even know. Is your life real? Is this real? Derealization, depersonalization, that's what it's called. Okay, I'll look that up. And it's a form of anxiety. Yeah, definitely look it up. I promise you, baby, everything you're going through right now is normal. Cool. Especially because of all the shit that's been thrown at you. Very quickly. And you haven't really had time to process it. Like, I can look you in your eyes and I can tell that there's a lot of hurt in there.
Yeah. And I hate that. I hate that for you. But I'm also, like, I hate that when people are hurt, they like to hurt others. Do you talk to anybody? Do you go to therapy or anything? No. I am a huge advocate for therapy. I just be chilling and just talking to myself. Baby, I'm 42 years old, okay? Mm-hmm.
you don't look like it i love you i'm gonna put you in my pocket and carry you around with me i'm 42 years old i never suffered from depression a day in my life until i hit 40 and you want to know why because i didn't deal with a lot of trauma and i didn't deal with a lot of hurt and i shoved a lot of shit down inside of me oh and that's definitely got whenever you're ready just go find somebody that you because i'm always like i got such a
I have to unlearn a lot of things. And I've always been the, like, never trusted therapy. Because I remember as a kid, I went, like, once. And I made, I was so, I made it awkward for her own purpose. Yeah, I know. Like, I was acting funny in my mind and, like, looked at her like this the whole time. Yeah.
Like just messing around. I used to manipulate therapists. I used to be an ass. Yeah, when I was younger too. But when you get older and you're ready to heal and, you know, when you get, not, let me not say older, when you get tired of carrying all that weight on you. Sometimes what helps a lot is like I have a room upstairs with, it's like my media room with,
with like a snake he's cool and he's really mean and uh i have a prayer closet and what i'll do is like a little kid i will journal out like i'll literally write to god and then i'll pin it on my wall and i'll tell my friends if you go in here you're gonna get your ass beat nobody can go in here my mom's probably in there right now watching my dogs you're in them just reading what's going on it's like some it helps a lot because it's more of like i don't trust a single soul i'm so a single soul um
um i really hate that yeah that makes me want to cry because you do you deserve to have a safe place yeah i think it's the closet you know pray closet get in the closet bitch and then it sucks because it's like with the god thing like i know i'm supposed to uh deny my flesh and stuff and then when you're that you know kind of fucked up in the head yeah uh you kind of sin more right and it's like damn because it makes you feel better yeah for that moment right but it's kind of like a damn what's the escape but
but i think it's just age it's just a maturity let's talk about overall let's talk about what pushed you into christianity were you partying a lot were you doing drugs like what happened what was that moment that you were like so i've never done any drugs in my life uh i've only smoked weed and i've i've just drank a lot um i think i've done a part of set with wisdom teeth and
Uh, like, everybody thought I went through, like, a huge drug thing. I've never done... I'm too scared. I am A+. You should. Like, I've always heard that once you try something, that can be the last time you're... You get breathed. Yeah. I don't know. Especially nowadays, because fentanyl's in fucking everything. Oh, I know! Even in weed now. Yeah, it's crazy. It's just, like, I've always been, like, wild, but when it came to drugs, just scared. Like, I grew up around it. I lost an uncle to suicide from it. Like, I just...
Drugs scare me, you know? And I also have a lot of friends that struggle with it. And I would have to go through a lot, because I love people, where, like, you know, a zanitude, they call it? Mm-hmm. Um...
a lot of my friends struggle with that, and, like, I would try to be their, their helper, but, like, I would get ripped to shreds kind of trying to help them, like, I would lose myself trying to find them and, like, help them, but, you know, I think it's just, like, I have such a nurturing spirit, which makes me, uh, when it comes to dudes or something, I get that, that wall on, because I can do everything myself, I don't really need you, but sometimes it's, like, damn, is there, like,
daddy energy out there who do i run to yeah i need something jesus i want to know my toxic trait i will buy pets pets yeah oh i'm real shit how many pets do you have oh my gosh um
Four dogs now. Two cats. Snake. My rat died. I don't know why. I don't know if it's the cheese ball I fed him. Oh, fuck. I read online it was fine. But like, he died like two days ago. I cried about it. God, rat people do not come for her for feeding them a cheese ball. Yes, sorry. Like, I'm kidding. If they come for you over that. They come for me for everything. They need to fucking go and shove a stick up their ass.
Like go sit on a stick and spin like for real. This is I'm telling you, I'm so tired of trolls on TikTok. So you've never done drugs and you know, and you've never you just drank a lot. So what was the moment that was like, I need Jesus. OK, so I went through. OK, so I didn't believe in this COVID stuff when it happened. Like I believe there was a sickness out there, but I didn't like take it serious.
And we were moving out of Florida. And what we realized was it was serious because we're like dumb rednecks, right? Nothing was open, like power companies, whatever. Like my parents had bought a bunch of property there.
And we moved to freaking Mississippi, Tennessee and homeless for about eight months. Oh, my gosh. You would have never known. Yeah. I'm talking about in a $500 trailer with like no, I think they had a few windows to where like my own parents, I don't even want to talk about it. Like, I'll cry. My own parents like worth their whole life, like sleeping on air mattresses. What the fuck? Because you guys just couldn't find a home or? No, it was COVID. Yeah. Literally COVID. And it's just sucked to watch.
And then it was, like, more of a, I think, my parents. Because they try to, why is this sad? What the fuck? It's okay. You're not going to cry. I literally was, like, okay. It was more of, like, a, they try to tell me that I used me in their life for Jesus. But I think it was the other way around. And they don't say it like that. You know, they have a lot of, like, stuff they regret. Like, how they parent, what, trained us? Parented us. And, um.
I think they need more credit because I'm an asshole. I don't tell them I appreciate them that much, but I hope I do. But, yeah, no, it was like a moment where nobody knew. And I would be going to, like, hotels and stuff, like, any money I'd make. Back then I didn't really make much. Now it's fine. Thank you, God. But it was like any money I would get, hotel, just I want my dad and mom to fucking shower.
It was fucking rough, but like nobody knew. And I'm not the go-fundme type. And you were maintaining the social media at the same time. And people didn't know that about you. No, they do now. That's something I've never talked about. It was more of a...
Damn, you really don't know what you have until it's legit gone. I'm talking about everything my parents have ever worked for. Did they lose their jobs? No, it was just COVID. He even had a job. We went through fucking hell. And he didn't want to rent a house. He don't. He's very stubborn. And he was like, I'm not paying somebody else or whatever. And we have dogs and stuff. So he was like, I'm building my house. He did. It was just like we didn't think that – I mean, we didn't have power –
a fucking toilet for months. Wow. I'm talking about shit in a bucket, like, this is, like, real life, and it still feels like a fucking dream, and, um, I knew it was fucked up to where I would, like, I got that Memphis apartment, and it's like I still couldn't catch a break. I just left that. I left, felt bad, left my, leaving my parents. They didn't want to come. They couldn't, dogs and all this stuff, and then you see someone get murdered, and I'm like, Lord, I literally need a break, so I was coming to my breaking point of, like, bro, I'm about to fucking kill myself. Oh.
And I just couldn't do it. Do you battle suicidal ideation? No, I've really never battled it. But it was more of like, you know, your friends always play like, yeah, bad. But I was at my breaking point where I was like, OK, I have nothing going for me right now. Fuck this app. I'm not making money. And I'm watching my parents sleep on a fucking mattress that they had to travel. Like my dad is the most harsh worker. And I was like, fuck this.
I was like at the point where I didn't even care because, you know, like you don't want to do it because like your family or like your dog. I was at the point where I was like, I do not care.
And it was weird because I was, like, super, I got super drunk again. And I was driving like an idiot. And I parked in front of a church. And I felt calm. It was weird. I was like, this is nice. And, like, I was about to do it in that parking lot. And I had a freaking Bible app notification pop up. A bottle of what? It was a Bible app notification. Gotcha. And it was, like, it was, like, a verse that hit it. Like, you're deformed and something. Yeah.
fearfully wonderfully made something like that i don't know everywhere for a while sorry christians it's okay and uh it hit different and then um started going to church and
I was so happy, like, homeless. It's weird. After it... I understand that. It felt like Job in the Bible. I'm a Christian myself, and a lot of people don't realize that, that I also believe in Jesus, but I also believe that you can be spiritual without being religious. Yeah, I'm not really... Yeah. Yeah, no. I can't stand the people, because it's a relationship with a man, like...
It's your father. Like, you gotta look, people look at it like a scary thing. It's like, that's legit your father. Whenever I have panic attacks, I listen to Christian music and I listen to Joyce Meyers. I love Joyce Meyers. She's like one of my idols. I don't think I've heard of her. Dude, if you're ever down, listen to a Joyce Meyers. I don't know if she's your speed, but I listen to her sermons all the time. And I'm telling you, it's like, it's just. I know, I know, I know. I listen to Pastor Locke a lot. Mm-hmm.
I don't know who that is. Greg Locke, I can't wait to see him going Sunday. He's just, like, one of the pastors I've seen here in my life that, like, is just complete, full-on, tell you how it is. Like, you'll be convicted. You'll be walking out. Like, shit, I need a change. You know what I mean? And it's a good, like, feeling because everybody's, like, wrapped up in this, like, all about yourself, self, self. Yeah. And they lose track of, like,
They don't give a fuck about anybody but themselves. One of the things I really admired about you when you were first coming out as being a Christian is that no matter what anybody said to you, you didn't waver.
no i just don't care i was watching that because i was like dude they're gonna fucking try to break her like i wanted to reach out to you so bad but i mean we have so many people who reach out to us every day it's like do the dms yeah i have to literally scroll to find you yeah to find you i was like hey i'm here i'm the only type or not even yeah it was bad yeah so i just sat back and i watched and i was like this poor girl man but i also was like go little rockstar because i was watching you literally
No, I'm serious. I was so proud of you. I even told Mimi that like, I was so happy that you still like stood in your conviction and was like, no, I love Jesus. I don't care what you guys say about me. Like I don't have to be the perfect Christian. Yeah. This is, it's a, this fake lie that, uh, you have to wear certain things and talk a certain way. Like I shouldn't cuss and I know it. I cuss like a sailor. Me too. I dress like a Gucci mama all the time. Sorry mom, but also my mama gave it to me. Right.
Um, it's more of like, I know what I need to work on. I don't need other people to tell me, especially when I'm telling you it myself. Well, my thing is people that are always telling you what you need to fix, need to fix things within themselves also. So it's like, why are you throwing stones in my house? There's a difference of like, I have some great girls, man, that reach out like, Hey, you're slipping. I'm like, Hey, I know. Yeah. But also, um, I got a, I got a stubborn place too. I got a stubborn problem where I'm like,
Just because you said it, I want to do it more. That is so bad. But it is because it's like, dude, I already fucking know. Why do I need you to tell me? And I get it because I get the righteous judgment stuff. I'm like, no, you are literally still judging the absolute fuck out of me. And you're making me want to do it more. Yeah. You are. People think that telling people what they're doing wrong with their lives. Like, I won't reach out to you.
unless you come to me if you're struggling like i don't need to call out what you're struggling exactly that's what i'm saying if somebody wants advice we're gonna ask for it but until then just sit back and enjoy the show you know like dude my life is a shit show yeah you should label this jay shit show we can we could definitely do that like i can't like there's some stuff like even barbara she's my manager she will literally be like dude half of the stuff you tell me if i haven't seen with my my own eyes i would think you're insane i would think you're a liar
Like, she has been... I don't know how she's... How did you find Barbara? How did you get the management? So, I was just scrolling through my DMs. And I just read it. And she was like, hey, I want to manage you. I was like, sure. And then she... I did playlists. I broke my foot. Jumped off a balcony. Yeah, I heard about that. So, what happened with that? Man, I was just stupid drunk shit. I was higher than a motherfucker. And I had...
jumped off a balcony onto a broken couch and then realized it was broken when I felt it popping when I'd walk. And then nobody believed me it was broken. They're like, suck it up. I'm like, fine. A week later, I'm like,
throbbing in pain i'm like mom you got to take me fair enough she's laughing her ass off at one in the morning i'm in crutches i can't use them so i didn't and that's exactly that was also when we had moved and became homeless so i'm also walking on my foot it's hell and then on the way there like to the drive uh i don't know why my parents just couldn't let me sleep 12 hour drive that was rough and uh my dog had flew out the back of my dad's car oh
uh, going maybe 70, still alive. Oh my God. Just one thing after another. And lately, since I moved to Olive Branch, uh, it's 30 minutes from Memphis, I have found, like, a lot of peace. Like, a lot of people have been reaching out, like, hey, you...
look good yeah like you're doing good like you're not that fucked up anymore you're still fucked up but you're still you're you're doing good and i was like yeah i think it's just because i i cut a lot of people off baby you're a lot you're 21 years old and you're growing up in front of the world yeah you're going to go through people don't look at that though well after they hear this podcast they will i'm telling you right now because i haven't i don't think they've ever seen this side of me i have a way of putting things in perspective for people and i
That's one of I think that's a gift that God gave me is I've always been able to see both sides of the story. You're fucking 21. You're going to be 50 more people in front of our eyes in your lifetime. I'm still changing who I am. I change my hair every other fucking day. You know what I'm saying? It's like you're going you're going to find you're discovering who you are. Yeah. You don't even know who you are. Sometimes it's like I'm a very self worker. Like if I know I'm
I'm fucking up or I fuck somebody over. That's a great trait to have. I'm a very self-aware queen. Like, I would never tell you, I would never be in denial if you're like, hey, Jay, you did this to me. I'd be like, I apologize. Sorry. But that's an amazing trait to have. It's so rare, though. I can't tell you how rare it is to have people own up to shit. Like, I'm so blunt and straight up and open book. Like, that's why I'd always tell people if it didn't come from me, it's not true. Right. Because I will tell you
I literally don't care. Like, we're all gonna die. Yeah. I'm a very... I think that's why also people are very comfortable talking to me about their problems. But sometimes, like, I'll be struggling behind. Like, there's been multiple times where, like, my buddy just called me. I've never heard him cry for, like, two years. But I had just got done with the breakdown. But he wasn't gonna know because I'm focused on your pain. Aw, but you've got to start focusing on your pain. Yeah, but it's just like a... Protecting your peace is a form of self-care. I get over it. I know, but you can't. Also, I got a jacuzzi bathtub. Bruh.
face the front bro let's talk about modeling i saw that you were like modeling on a truck on one dude listen i had started i don't know why i had the idea i was just like okay it's summer
this, I posted a bathing suit video and people liked it. And I was like, instant thought, bikini, kind of like, absolutely. And then I was like, wait a minute, maybe because I'm, I'm already going to get the, uh, you're not a Christian. She's not, um, it was more of a, I don't think me wearing a bathing suit, uh,
And as a whole is making you stumble. Right. But I know that there's females out there that I guess want me to wear a jumpsuit to swim. Yeah, no. And maybe an astronaut suit would be better. Yeah.
It's just like a I think a bathing suit is modest. I don't know and I even went super classy on it too Listen, very classy. You could wear a turtleneck and people are still gonna call you a whore or or or yeah exactly Where the fucking bathing? So I live your life. I was a little nervous, but I did uh, shoot a bikini out of the comfort zone And you look hot though. You look so good. I was like, yeah, baby. I got no boobies and you
You have proportionate. You have the cutest little body. I wish you could appreciate. Trust me. When you get to be my age, you're going to look back on your body now and you're going to be like, holy fuck. I was the shit. Like seriously. Well, I always felt uncomfortable because I've never had photos done. I've heard a lot of people like, why don't you model? I'm like, no, it ain't for me. No, no, I can't do that. That's how I feel. Ask my team. Anytime. You're literally a model though. I'm not. Anytime we do a photo shoot, I shoot in five minutes and I'm like, let's get the fuck out of here. That was me. I also couldn't be serious. Right. But.
we i'm really excited to come out i really that would be hilarious if i sent you one hey give me one we'll hang it like i'm telling you dude is the most redneck but like sexy classy i love it like dude can we have one please i swear we'll hang it up here you'll have to sign it for me and we'll hang it up here right here i'll keep it in the studio i'm serious i've never done it i'm really excited for that i'm excited those motherfuckers are gonna fly off the shelves mark my words well if i do make any money from it um
it's, it's literally gonna, uh, parents for sure. No. So, so are you taking care, are you allowed to talk about this? Are you taking care of your parents? No, it's just, I like to help them out. Cause it's like, it's weird at my age. Cause I know, uh, you know, some people my age don't, you know, they can't rent a home by their self. It's just like, you know, money. I don't give a fuck if I have money. If I don't, it's just like, I do make more than the average 21 year old female. Um,
And that's cool. Don't care. It's God's money, not mine. But it's like, the more I make, I'm not really good at saving. I'm really good at spending. And I want, like, a big extra. I don't like giving it to them, like, in little amounts. I want to do, like, a huge amount, like, out of nowhere. And be like, dude, don't stress over again. You know? Because it's like... You have such a giving heart. Oh, for sure, man. And I don't like to accept either. But I can't wait because I want to get my dad a six-inch lift. I want to...
You know, do whatever they want. My mom's a super good, like, gardener. Like, I just want to see them happy, but it's just like... I can't garden for shit. Tell your mom to teach me. Me either. I try. I kill sunflowers. I can't even take care of myself. But, like, I'm going to do that, yeah.
You're going to garden one day? I got to get, like, I would rather them live in, like, a super nice thing and I'm cool with a legit modular home. Like, those bitches are badass. A modular home, dude. Is that the new homes that they're doing, like, the tiny homes? It's like, okay, like, it's different from a trailer, but you can literally build it however you want. Make it as big as you want to. And I want something, it's just me. You know, I don't see myself getting married anytime soon.
Let's talk about that. What's dating life? It's awful. Like, it's honestly awful. Why do I keep finding trash men? Don't know. Because you haven't worked on the issues within yourself. You're going to keep attracting your childhood trauma. Yeah, it's just so gross. I think it's more of like a... I'm not laughing at you. I'm laughing at your reaction. The things you say. Yeah, they're trash. That's all I can say. I think it's more of...
I will never feel a dude generally likes me for me. It's like a trophy of what I feel. And I'm just like, dude, can we just talk? Well, you're in a really fucked up age group right now, too, where boys are just really horny and there's so much clout chasers out here now. So it's like you're probably not going to really find that deep love for a little while. Maybe ever. No, it'll happen. But yeah, I would say it's shit.
I don't think I would date for a while. So do you have boyfriends or you just have friends? Homie loving friends. I would say... Wait. So I would say I...
I won't fuck them. Right. But, like, if I had to be under the whore category, because every girl has to do that to themselves, I would be under the make-out whore for sure. Yeah. There's nothing wrong with that. Yeah. I would say I could kiss a lot of dudes, but, like, if it's not serious and we're not dating, like, I'll kiss you here and there. But, like, I can't kiss more than one dude at one time. Yeah. I feel weird. Plus, I don't want to get sick. What about girls? Do you like girls? I've definitely went through a phase. Mm-hmm.
uh were you like full-on gay or just okay no i wouldn't even say i was bi i just would drunk experimental kiss girls a lot oh me too listen to this day if i get any liquor in me i want to make out with everybody around me yeah i don't know what it is like the last girl um i'm just kidding are you you might never i don't know uh
It was kind of weird because, like, I didn't expect it, but she just full-on just made out with me. I was like, oh, whoa. Who was it? Her name's Zoe Ann On. I don't know who that is. She's, like, kind of blown up on TikTok. Really, really pretty country girl. Think she got a man now. But that girl will kiss any girl drunk. I mean, anything. She's my kind of girl. Anything. But, yeah, I definitely...
I would like probably go through a phase where I would kiss more girls at a bar. I feel more comfortable with women. Yeah. You just feel safer. You know that they're not like predatory. Yeah. Never, never dated. I've never done any of that stuff. Never licked a cooter. No. Never bumped a beaver. No. No, I just, I'm just strictly, strictly dickly.
Just made out, man. So when your manager talks about things that you've seen, like what are some of the fucked up shit you've seen in this industry since you've become famous? Can you talk about some of those things? Probably going to die soon. Kidding. Do you believe in the Illuminati and stuff like that? Oh, it's real. Yeah. 100%. Everybody asks me if me and my husband are in the fucking Illuminati. And I'm like, first of all, if you're in the Illuminati, you don't say you're in the Illuminati.
and i you know um but no we're not no dude they have like real long meetings in california at like two to three in the morning with like weird ass candles and like people are dressed in like
white clothes eyes uh eyes wide shut type shit like just have you ever seen that movie no i'm not i'm not smelling what you're stepping in it's it's uh they do like say they do like seances with masks and shit like that my manager's over here dying um yeah i know it was some creepy shit man um i know a lot did you go to it or you just know of it
Both. You went to one? Because I didn't know. I thought it was a party. And they wanted to, like, take your phone and shit. So somebody invited you to a party in the hills in Hollywood? I was like, I'm not going in. Bye. And it was creepy because, like, a lot of people you think wouldn't be there was there. Wow. Yeah. And I honestly am afraid of talking about it because, like, this world is fucked up. The world is ran by, like, some fucked up people. Oh, I know that. You know the Rothschilds?
Oh, of course. Are you woke in that way? Oh, yeah, yeah, of course. I was a conspiracy theorist before conspiracy theories were cool. Yeah. So it's more of like a...
I know what's up. Not many people do, but it's just, like, a little scary. Yeah. Because the shit is completely real. No, I actually, I grew up in a really strict Christian home. Oh, really? And my mom, my stepmother always had books on, like, Satanism. Oh, God. So I read a whole bunch of, like, all the rituals they do with the children. Dude, that's real. And that's another thing I saw. There would be people, like, in a circle with, like,
I think they were saying this. I'm not sure. In a circle, like outside. So did you go inside this party or? No, hell no. I said I'm leaving. Right. Hell no. But you did see people in a circle and. Yeah. That's crazy. Yeah, man. Can you say some of the people who you saw there or no? Fuck no. I am not dying today. Gotcha. After this podcast off, I'm giving you a whole list. Yeah. For sure. Yeah. Yeah.
That's crazy. I don't want to die. No, I get it. I get it. But like, yeah, no, they, they, they for sure. Like it's real.
And it's just all a certain agenda. Do you think that had something to do with you running to Christianity? For sure. Yeah. For sure. Because I feel something that evil and see something that evil up close. It literally changes you. It'll let the hair on the back of your head. And I think it's from just your life changing so quick. Like I am a freaking host at a Tampa Hard Rock Casino. And now I'm in Howie Mandel's little I don't know what it was.
It wasn't a house. It was like a hangout building. I don't know. So it was Howie Mandel who was hosting the party? No, no, no, no. It was just like... It's like your life goes so quickly. Right. Change. I'm in California. I've never been there. It's not me. I'm a fucking redneck. Yeah. And at heart, for sure. But it's just like I...
I remember going, I always felt weird. I always knew it wasn't myself. I was like, I'm not a stoner. I'm not. And I, these people, I don't need to be around them. Yeah. And like, they would have origi boards and shit in the house. Like, I could feel it. I could feel it. No, I know. And it was like, no matter how high I got, it never left my brain. Like, it was always like, God was tugging on me to be like, yo. Yeah. What are you doing, child? Like, come to me, you know? And I finally had a, I was just fucking done with it. I got the taste of the media. Don't care for it. Cool. Can't be gone tomorrow, you know?
don't care so how do you make your money with social media do you do brand oh definitely some brand deals uh i got close friends where like people are uh i don't know why they are so interested it's kind of cool um like you just literally you know like an instagram story that you post and you make it close friends yeah people want to see me post normal shit in my life yeah
That's about it. Do you do YouTube and stuff like that too? I've never posted on YouTube, bro. Yeah? Oh, so you've never done YouTube. That's crazy that you're as known as you are and fucking have never posted on YouTube. I think I have one video and it was, it was HiJay. 2019 Jay. That's what we call her. And I also, I just came out with, well, it hasn't came out yet, but I did a Christian show. Oh.
kind of where uh you're definitely gonna be on it it's just like this yeah i would love to about all your traumas with jesus and before and after whatever i've got a story let me tell you like all these bad things i grew up in vegas i grew up in vegas oh gosh yeah so i know everything that you're talking about is not new to me yeah uh i it was it was really cool to do also i don't think i'm good at it but it was kind of like i was just like i couldn't be serious and i'd be like yo so you know they'd be talking about some fucked up shit and i'm like
I don't have emotions myself. I do want to comfort you, but I just don't know how. Like, you're crying. I should be crying, right? I don't know. No, I'm not friend to people crying. I'm like... I know. I'm like... I'm sorry. Sometimes I can really... If it hits me hard, hard in the heart. But, you know, I think it's... I'm made for, like, the... I think the talent part. Right. Entertainment part. I'm not the serious part to, like, interview people when I did. Right. I loved it, but it was like...
it's not for me right the producer the whole time had to repeat herself maybe 30 times to be like say it again say it again i'm like what are you saying yeah you're like bitch this isn't my this isn't my jam people want me to do like serenade live
I think it would be fun. Dude, I think it would be fucking hilarious. I think you would rock that shit, dude. I think the world definitely needs to see more of you, Jay. And I think that right now you're young and, you know, people are still trying to figure you out and you're figuring yourself out. But people love you. You have more people that love you than people that hate you. I met my first hater in real life. Really? At the fucking hair salon. Getting my hair done.
I got called a hussy. What the fuck is that? I thought she literally called me a hush puppy. What is a hussy? I was like, are we in the 1960s? I was about to say, how fucking old was she? Probably like 24. I didn't even know her. Okay, well, that was learned behavior. Her mom says that. So for sure. I was like, wait, what? Oh, she's talking crazy. It was like the hair salon girl, like, tell me all about it. And I'm like, dude, I don't... First of all, do you think I care too? Like...
don't know y'all i just put my hair on and it was like call me a hussy and all this talking about like they know my life better than me it was weird you gotta do that too yeah well no people don't come up to me like that because i i just i'm i've always been a fighter and i think people know that in my life you know it was weird because like they were just like the girl supposed to leave like hours before but it's just like they stayed around just because i was sorry i'm like dude you're i feel like a bully
Like, what the fuck? You got nothing else better to do? You don't take care of your dog? What a terrible fucking human, dude. Yeah, it's been... How did you get away from that? I mean, I wanted to. And it was awkward questions like, is that your truck? And I'm like... You gonna pop my fucking tires or something? You know what? She probably caught her dude fucking jerking off to you or something. Dude, probably. I'm not gonna... Probably. I was like, I don't know your man. So...
So we were talking about fillers before the show started. I know a lot of people are just like her face looks different. She has she had worked on. She looks beautiful. Let's clear the rumors right now. The only thing I've ever had done was my lips twice each time. Both girls.
No disrespect. You suck. It hurt so fucking bad. And, like, she put the filler. No, dissolver. Oh, no. Did you do it without numbing? For sure. Oh, shit. And she put dissolver in my mouth, my lips, without even telling me. And it burned like lava. Oh. Four times. And I was literally in the chair like this. I thought that was, like, illegal. Why wouldn't she tell you? Because, I don't know.
The shit show, man. We need to give you my injector. I'm scared. Like, it hurts so bad. We all go to the same injector. I just had my eyes done literally a day ago, and you can't even barely tell. What's that? Well, I had filler under my eyes because I'm old and I have bags. You don't need it. But I'm just saying that's how good our girl is, is that you can't even tell. So...
you know not at all i'll give you i'll give you her information so that um you can go to her um you know whatever you do for like getting your list well yeah it was like 100 bucks each time and it lasted for maybe seven days and it's somewhere floating in my face so so you don't do drugs but you do drink do you think you have a drinking problem oh for sure people say i got a drinking no for sure um i would say i know when this like i'm not i actually have
Like, yeah. Okay. Like, it's just like, I know how to control myself. I just don't want to.
baby you're 21 like i know like i'm not addicted or an alcoholic but like i just can i please tell you that anything you're doing right now is not wrong we have a 14 year old at home and we tell her listen if you're gonna drink drink at home yeah do it at home like you know like you guys are rather be safe i'm sorry i know you probably don't like to hear this but you guys are babies i know you're 21 trust me i don't know what i'm doing
You're not doing. I'm just here. Yeah, you're not. I'm just here. You're not doing anything wrong. You're doing what every fucking normal 21 year old has ever done in their entire life. I can drink though. Yeah. I mean, drinking out of Roman. I drank out every dude last night and I was still tatered. And you're still here handling business. And I still woke up.
puffy face and all because you know i'll probably make your face bloated and i was like damn i'm gonna be on camera today i barely brushed my weave out because i got so much hair spraying it from the night before i was like she gotta take me as i am my buddy nathan you'd love him uh he dropped me off he's like dude i'm doing a waffle house call me when you're done yeah i was like love you man he could have came in he's very uh you would love him uh he he's like one of the only people i have like
that you can trust oh for sure but he also will put me in my my place well that's somebody that in a good way yeah like you know he's a really good dude he's mature he's like 26 and i'm like he's i really i don't see myself losing him anytime soon he's really good for me for sure um he's a good protector too and he ain't no weird crap like like so he's not the jelly he's a grown man like the first one i've ever met honestly my parents love him when's his birthday
October 12th. So he's a Libra and you're a Cancer? Apparently people think I'm a Leo. I don't know. You're a Cancer Leo. You're right on the cusp. I'm a July 25th baby. Yeah, you're a Cancer Leo. Well, no, you are a Leo. Wait, 22nd I think is Leo. So you're on the cusp. Cancer Leo. I don't know what the fuck that is. Well, you guys are compatible. Extremely compatible. I don't fucking know. I don't even know what that shit is, man. Leo, what, like Capricorn, Acorn stuff? Yeah.
So what does the next year have for you? Beats me. Um, hopefully, what do you want the next year to have for you? I want to be more mature. I want to get my fucking four wheeler fixed. Buy for four grand. Can't ride it. Built. Damn near built the whole thing. Damn. Um,
I'm sorry. I just pisses me off. You're the cutest thing ever. Thinking about it right now. No, I just love it. Make my dad's sweat and his balls all fall. It can't even. Anyways. Didn't even get the fuck title. Gave me a bill of sale. Anyways. So, I say. Just plan on living your life. I'm trying to make money just so I can. A lot. And that. What I was telling you about. That huge chunk to be like. Here. That's it. Yeah. Um.
I kind of want to, you know, get out of this rental house for sure. You want to buy a home? I honestly want to move to Mount Juliet. Oh, do it. You'll be right by us. Because I love this. And you can hang out with us all the time. Yeah, and plus it's just like these are my people. And, like, I feel comfortable around them. I have the best time. And then it's just like I go back to –
And it's just like nothing but these people do not grow up. There's nothing fun. And I thought it was like better for my walk. It's making it worse because I have nothing else to do. I just be my thoughts. And here it's like it was.
My freaking pastor's here, you know? Go where you're watered. Go where your soul feels watered, you know? Definitely Mount Julia. And it's nice. Yeah, I love Mount Julia. And, you know, or Franklin. But, like, Nashville is not good for me, dude. I spent 50 fucking grand one time, like, in a month on Broadway. Oh, I believe it. And it sucked. I don't go to Broadway unless I have to. Because it was like, you two gave me a good deal on these shorts. I was so dumb. It was like, oh, fuck, I got a lot of money now. Let's just go fuck it up. Oh, no. Could have gave that to my parents, you know? Well, I mean, you're a little...
I'm living and learning, but man, the regrets I have. Don't. If I could give you any fucking advice and any wisdom, please do not live in regrets. Mimi, when you were 21, what were you doing? Blowing money, blowing dudes. You know, like, fuck it.
Blowing breath water. Yeah. Hello. You know, like you just fucking have fun. Live your life. It does not matter. Don't be so hard on yourself. Oh, that's like the biggest thing about me. And I think I like it because it just keeps me. It can be toxic, though, as you can see, because you're just sitting there like, go to therapy. Oh,
But that's how you learn and that's how you gain wisdom. And that's how you mature is by going through shit. I honestly think in most ways I'm more mature than most people. Doing fucked up shit. Yeah, no, I think you're great. I think you're a great little guy. I think in some ways I really do think so. It's just everybody thinks like, oh, you just party too hard. Okay, what's the point of fucking partying then? Fuck them. They're not living your life. And when you lay your head down at night, you know what's in your heart. You know what's in your mind. And you know who you are as a human. You know what you can do in your free time that's really cool? Hmm.
Like honestly, it makes you feel good. Like I would right hand write like 50 of them in like a little verse, in like a little personal message and just put them around people's mailboxes. - Aw. - They probably think I'm weird. Honestly, you gotta take a go with you 'cause some people do be trying their shit. I'm like, I'm just trying to leave a message.
i love that you should do that as like i do it all the time um that was like one thing i did probably forgot that i shared sorry lord no uh because it's like makes you feel good and like instead of you know putting myself in positions where it's like it's gonna this is i know i don't learn from my actions hey let's just put shit in people's mailboxes now yeah you know so it's like a uh i don't know so many things i'm weird i got a weird creative mind
I do smoke Delta-8 sometimes. Yeah? It's not even real weed. Yeah, I think, Mimi, don't you smoke that or didn't you smoke that? Yeah. It's like, it gives you a little something. Oh, it took me three hours to grocery shop. Ha ha!
And I lost my ID in there. Well, it gives you a lot of something then. Stop licking the desk. Chach. But yeah, it's just like, I just, you know, I've calmed down a lot. It's just, I'm still figuring it out. I just, just trying to have fun. And I love calling people out too. I love that too. And they hate, I know you're like the same. I love that. No, that's my thing. I don't condone bullying.
at all oh i know like don't come for me don't come for me i just don't like the people they like to hide their mistakes hide their like don't let don't feel me drinking right now because i have an image like
a fake image that's the corniest that's the thing i like i'll never act like somebody i'm not like and i don't try to rub it in your face all for these christians like if i drink i'm literally being honest about it you should like the transparency not like you god can see your private stories too baby yeah the fuck at least modern public i got nothing to hide yeah there's not you know and people don't get that they're just like you're setting a bad example
Okay. The example should be Jesus. Do you ever just want to turn your comments off sometimes? Yeah, but then I look like a bitch. Yeah, that's how I feel too. I can't do it. I can't. My pride's how I feel too, so I just clap back. My pride's like, nah, I can't look like a bitch. Yeah. You know? I can't do it. I think I did it on one. I only turned my comments off on one video, and it was because they were giving me shit for putting him in a fucking shopping cart. He's a service dog. They're like, he shouldn't be in the shopping cart. I'm like, oh my God, dude. The peanut people. Yeah, I'm like, oh my God.
dude i call him pita people he's this is my baby you know i know he kind of low-key scared me a little bit my first time i'm gonna put him in a shopping cart if i want big head if you want to buy me he can't he's got such an underbite it's so bad his poor mouth i'll show you later it's fucking it's fucked up his whole setup is fucked you know why uh a question for you is how are you doing mentally i you know i have a i can't dude i don't
I'm not going to be real. Like you can look at you. You've been through the fucking mud. Yeah, no, for sure. Like, but you're so, do I look road hard and put away? Is that what you're trying to say? No, like it's like your, your heart was like completely shattered.
or something. Well, I was you. Maybe a few times. And then now you're good. Jay, I was you without all the cameras. Because I don't really know your story that much, but you could tell, like, you're so genuine. I love you. You remind me of Mama Tot a little bit. Oh, I love... Mama Tot was just on the podcast. For real? Oh, yeah. She was amazing. She was? Yeah, she was just on the podcast. I might have seen... I might have... I don't know. Shout out to Mama Tot, man. She just lost her son. I want to watch it. Yeah, did you know that she just lost... Dude, I saw a video of something like that. I don't know what the fuck happened, but like...
I still don't know what happened. Her son was shot, I think, in a parking lot. And they're still trying to figure out, like, the details and stuff like that. But that woman's been through so fucking much, man. Oh, I know, man. And for this to happen, too, I'm just like, bro. Back to back. Dude, I just can't. And in front of the, you know, social media, it's hard.
I just can't wait to hug her again. Like, she's really just... She is the Dolly Parton of our generation. Everybody tries to say I am, and I can't even take that title. Like, Mama Tott really is... Mama Tott running with it. She really is, like... Yeah, she... I don't know. She, um...
I think she went through a lot. I know she'd make stuff for people that like couldn't talk to their moms and stuff. Yeah. And sometimes I'd be sitting there. You should listen to her. Grown ass woman in my bed just. You should listen. No, you should listen to her podcast that we did. I mean, it'll have. Yeah, I really want to. It was two hours, but literally you'll fucking. I cried the entire podcast. Oh, you must make me squeeze one.
I was trying. Once again, I had the hard act. I had the toxic trait. I had the hard wall. I was like, I can't cry. It's weak. No, I'll probably cry on the car. I get it. I'm the same way. Ask them. I don't cry. Like, I'm not a crier. You have to literally physically probably hurt me to get me to cry. I try to, you know, it sucks because I'm always in that masculine energy from these trash men. But you won't. You'll never step into your feminine until the men step out of their feminine. Those dudes that you are fucking with are in their feminine energy.
They're not even alpha either. More of a beta male. They're in their feminine energy. And then I'm like, where's your truck at? Get some mud on your boots. They're like, you're being mean. I'm like, no, I'm just. Being real. I'm used to like hard, like a Chase. Chase Matthews. Let's talk about Chase Matthews. Oh, God. I was actually going to ask you about him.
How was that? Are we allowed to talk about it? Yeah, for sure. So you guys were dating and what happened? No, I wouldn't even say that. I would just say... Because he is dating my cousin right now, my little cousin. So I would like to know what kind of human he is. So I would say he was a great dude. It was just, I don't think we could have ever lasted. I think it was just more we could be really close friends. Mm-hmm.
We definitely did make out in an elevator, though, drunk. Well, that makes me feel better that he's a decent dude. No, Chase is a good dude. He can have his dick moments, but he can't. You know, he's a good dude. I mean, he's another dude who just fell into fucking... Oh, for sure. No, we had a deep... That's why I really fuck with Chase. Like, even if I never speak to that dude again, he would always have a place in my heart because I will never forget...
When he looked at me and it was just me in his house and, uh, he was like, do you ever know what it feels like to not know if your best friend could like kill you one day? He just feels like sometimes you can't trust his circle. Right. And I'll never forget like the way he looked when he said it, you know, I felt bad and we would just drink moonshine and his little freaking rigged studio with some fame on the wall and just chill. He was a good dude. Um,
I always pray for him, too, because I know it's hard as well being a Christian and, you know, being in the concert life. It's fucking hard. Yeah. He'll always have a heart, you know, a place in my heart. But we've had some funny moments, man. Me and him in Upchurch. Oh, my gosh. I haven't got to meet Upchurch yet as much as close as him and my husband are. Yeah, I haven't got. I want Upchurch on the podcast, but he's going through some shit with Nicole Arbor right now. And God, again, she's suing him again.
This bitch is suing him. And this is the only thing that was long gone, dude. This is the only female I'll talk shit about publicly because I have had her on my podcast and I never aired the podcast because the minute she walked out of the studio, I looked at Mimi and I said, that bitch is fake. I don't like everything. Everything she said on this couch was a fucking lie. Yeah. You know, and then all that scandal broke loose where she tried to say all that shit and sue all them. So now she's suing up church because she was in the room while some songs were written.
That would be like me suing my husband for the albums he's written or the songs he's written about me. Like, she's just, she needs to be deported. Period. Period. She's from Canada. Why the fuck is she here terrorizing America? I feel so, like, Upchurch, I'm not going to lie, is one of the strongest dudes. Yeah. No, he is, that dude has dealt with a lot. Oh, I know. Talk about paranoid. I remember he, I lived in like the most shitty apartment in Nashville. It was so expensive for no reason. It was a hamster box.
And him and Chase had came over, and I was just drinking a few, you know. I think I was just begging, if one ain't, you know. Yeah. And we had went downstairs because we wanted to dip. And I was like, yeah, I'll put one in. Yeah, oh, God. And we ended up sitting in –
the middle of kind of like a road because up church had locked his truck keys in his truck. So then we had to wait for, I think his name is Tubbs. Yeah. To come by and save the day. But during that, like it was just us three just chilling in the back of a truck. I'm drunk as hell. I made omegas and bacon. I'm talking about all types of stuff. I think we talked about Jesus. We were hearing gunshots and we all were like,
You know, it was a good, he's a good deep dude. Like, I love that. And I love that he found love finally. I know with that one chick, Bethany, she, and she seems like I heard she does so much for him and he does like, like a perfect country. Yeah. I love it. I love it. And she said, and you know what? A lot of these girls in the industry don't talk to me because, well, a lot of the wives don't fuck with me because I'm half naked on the internet and you know, they don't know me until they have a conversation with me.
And she's never been like that though. Let him judge. Oh no, I don't. Honey, I do not give a shit. And these girls know that. But Bethany was always really cool with me. She's never like been weird. She's never. I'd never. I have never met her. I just hear Ryan and how he talks about her. And like you could tell. Yeah, I've never met her personally, but I've talked to her online and she's just always very sweet. And
And just... She's always cooking. She likes my shit all the time. Like, even when I'm half naked, I'm like, you know what? I fucking like you. You know? Like, it's just the sweetest thing ever. So... No, I love that crowd. Yeah. They're all doll faces. I think a lot of these Nashville boys... The older crowd. Like, my husband. And... I don't think I... You know what's crazy? I...
Didn't even know that until like I started creeping. I didn't even know who is that is like real name jelly. Like I didn't really know. I was like, I didn't know. Um, no, that's his, uh, I just started listening to his music. Yeah.
This morning I was like about to tear up. Listen to his Addiction Kills album. It's a little more hyphy and we were on the west coast when he wrote it so I like to think that I influenced the sound. It's the party album pretty much. This song, it was kind of sad. Which one? Son of a Sinner? Save Me? Save Me. I love that one. I put me in the feels. I related to it a lot. You're going to have to come. We're having a huge show at the Bridgestone December 9th. Marina.
Yep, Bridgestone Arena. Yep, December 9th. Is he going to play that song? Oh, of course. I'm not kidding. I'm never like, you know, I think I heard from Jelly from my boy Rev. Yeah, probably. Rev is like friends with Chase and I met Rev through Chase when I
Chase and daddy have done a few shows together. I need to get up to date maybe. If you move to Mount Julia, you'll be up on all the shows. I'm in my own world all the time. That's a good thing though. Floating. Making money and making memories. I don't know. I've never really had many problems here. Well, Jay, I can't wait to see what this next year brings you. You got to promise me you'll come back on the podcast next year.
I want to, I want to like check in with you yearly and just see how you're doing and everybody can see your progress. I'm like brimming with snake.
I got a parrot. I forgot to tell you I got a parrot. Maybe I'll bring the parrot. Bring the parrot. Chachi will fucking probably shit bricks, but we'll have, I won't bring Chachi that day. Um, I really, thank you so much for trusting me with your story and coming here. What? Like so cool. Also nice car. Cause like, I don't know why we drove up. I was like, I gotta be her. I gotta be your car. Yeah. Oh, the G wagon. It's so dirty. Kayla came to pick me up and I was like, what the fuck did, did you go off roading in this? Like what the fuck happened? Um,
It was so dirty. Sorry I was hungover this whole time. Thank you so much. No, you're fine, dude. Thank you so much for coming. Like, I just, I love the light that you shine and I think you're just an absolute fucking doll. That's too nice. That's really nice. Thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of Dumb Blonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye. You gotta make eye contact with the camera. Yeah, dude, I was like, how do we close it out?