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Hello, welcome back to Tuesday Magic.If you are coming back, welcome.If you are listening to this for the first time, welcome, welcome.Today I am going to talk about this line that I learned from a podcast called Eat Your Crust.It's like you cannot expect to do ABC and expect XYZ.
但我必须说,我自己感到非常高兴,因为我正在星期天录制这一集,也就是说这一集将在星期天通常播放。你可否相信这一集将在星期天播放?
在晚上,我以前是在早上或早上上我的直播,但最后,这次我正在进行进展。对,今天的视频会很短,因为我正在尝试睡觉前的晚上,那让我睡了 12 分钟,所以让我们尝试吧。
对,所以当你没有能够做 ABC,然后期待 XYZ 的时候,我觉得这就说明了我们有时候想要某些东西,而如果我们看我们的行为,
我们并不是走在我们的理想目标上的路上。我给你一个例子。夏天,我和一位朋友一起吃饭,我没有看过他过几年。
她在上学后,她去了伦敦,学习社会工作,获得了大学学位。现在她在北京做治疗工作,或是调查工作。我去她的,因为我认为我需要一个
她是一位专业的,她建议了一个人来我那里,不太有帮助,但我真的要感谢她我邀请她吃午饭,我们过得很好的时间。在那顿午餐中,她告诉我,她一直在想要家庭,一直在想,她一直在想,她在去到伦敦之前,
And she was in love with someone,and they were together,but something happened,the whole plan was off the table.And then she said to me,when we were having a lovely Chaoshan hot pot,I love Cantonese food.Anyway,so she said to me,I always know that I want a family,I want my own family,but if you look at what I do,I chose to study abroad,I chose to do a job that is quite...
我从一个南部城市回到北京因为她在北京出生我没有做任何事情,其实是带领我建立自己的家庭我认为这完全是有趣的因为如果你看她,你会想起她是一个
你懂的, stereotypical, independent, not needing a boyfriend lady,but yeah, she wants a family,and I felt really really happy for her,because she said to me,there are not that many people that she could share her honest feelings towards,and I was one of them, so I was happy, anyway, so that was an example,
她在某種程度上的想法,但如果她看著她的實際行動,他們會導致相反的事情。這是一個相當嚴重的例子,因為在那種情況下,這個人想要的事和這個人在做的事,完全是相反的。另一個例子是,有時候你做了某種事情,
你认为这是你计划的事但其实这可能是你认为你应该做的事但其实你不必做的事让我明确一点英语里有一个语言叫做"on a hamster wheel"想起一个小可爱的小小的小手鞋在跑车上它真的想脱离它但它不能做到这不意味着
The hamster was born to run on this little wheel,but he got so caught up by what's right in front of him,that he probably forgets what he actually wants to do.An example would be, sometimes we feel like we're so busy,we are packed with tasks,we're absolutely swamped sometimes.
And whenever people say, hey, didn't you say that you want to travel?Didn't you say you want to go to a dance class?Didn't you say you want to visit a friend or a family member whom you haven't seen for a while?And you would say, no, I'm just so busy, I don't have time, I can't do it, I've got things to do.But if you have a look at what's actually going on,
我用了"实际"的词,今天的视频有很多时候都用了"实际"的词,请留意一下。你会发现,你不是在花时间在你所值得的事情上花时间。你在花时间在你应该做的事情上。
Is it that tells you, okay, you need to do A, B and Z, when actually what you want is X, Y and Z.So we need to prioritize and need to know how to say no to a certain things.And recently I've been learning to say no to stuff, because I've been uploading things quite often on Xiaohongshu, so I got quite a lot of collaboration invitations, which was great.However, some of them...
不是我的茶杯例如我从来没有用过这些产品或者我试过它,但不喜欢所以我认为我不应该推荐这些产品给我的观众这就是我的理由所以我设定了一个邀请者
我说:谢谢你这么多的机会,但是我试了这个产品,它不合适。我真的不能继续,我不能继续推广你的产品给我的观众,因为我觉得这是很负责任的事情,而这不是我想做或打算做的事,
他们说我如果这个产品不成功,你不会想要继续这项公司合作。我感到很惊讶,因为我一直在想,等一等,这不是自我证明吗?为什么会有人推荐任何东西,如果这些东西不成功?
我们开始了一个斗争,我一直很冷静,但他们的态度失去了,他们的态度得到了他们更好的面子。我再也不能跟他们交流,因为我感觉这就不会再有效了,我不能让自己被理解。
因為他們似乎價值的是這次合作的錢他們不太在意我的觀眾他們不太在意我的信任作為一個內容創作者他們不太在意我的想法所以我其實提議
不再持續發行,還沒有回覆產品的資料但他們還是沒有發給我資料的地址所以我不知道,我們來看看但問題是如果在過去的時候我會
让我感到犯罪的感受真的被我控制了,当这种事情发生,因为我会感觉到我让了别人下来,但现在我发现,我真的没关系,当我够清楚的说明,我价值我比他们的意见更重要的事,
所以我想这是我最近学到的一件事,我真的想和你分享一下,因为有时候,当你有长期计划,例如,旅行到世界各地,移到不同的国家,或者做一个充满的工作,你会知道当人们问你,你知道当你停止思考的时间,
你所在的心中,你希望在 5-10 年之内在你日常生活中,你很受到不可名的任务。我甚至不可以说出任何任务,因为每个人都不同。
有时候我对我男朋友提醒我应该专注于长期目标,而不是短时间的工作或短时间的喜悦。我完全同意。今天我终于开始读学术文章,在我可能有兴趣的项目中做了毕业。
I mean I know it's going to be a long time before I can actually do a degree because I really want to take my time and identify the fields that I want to spend years and years in but actually it's a good start so I felt like today is quite a remarkable day because I finally started on this journey and realized that we need to
take pauses and really reflectand ask ourselves the questionam I really doing what I want to dothe thing that I'm doing nowis it going to lead meinto the direction that I want to head inor is it dragging me or pulling me backfrom my dream job, from my dream careerfrom my dream house, from my dream, I don't know, familyso yeah, I think that's quite
我最近学到的重要事件,我已经在末月底做了九个月的 Tuesday Magic。我真的不敢相信。可能是时候专门介绍我的 Podcast 了,因为我从来没有做过。
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