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3 Easy Ways to Change Your Child’s Behavior Quickly (Discipline That Works!) #461

2025/3/23
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Kirk Martin: 我分享了改变孩子行为的三个简单方法。首先，肯定孩子已经做得很好的事情，避免使用否定性的词语。这比你想象的更重要，特别是对于意志力强的孩子，他们很容易因为负面评价而关闭自己。要具体地赞扬孩子，避免空泛的赞美。赞美和道歉一样，都是对事实的承认。 其次，要找到孩子行为背后的根本原因，并教会他们如何运作自己的大脑。我介绍了一个三列表格，分别列出孩子大脑中对秩序和结构的需求、对大脑刺激的需求以及感官处理的需求。通过满足孩子内在的需求来改变他们的外在行为。强烈的孩子、领养的孩子或有依恋障碍的孩子可能会通过不良行为来寻求关注，父母应该教会他们以积极的方式满足自己的需求。行为图表并不能有效地改变强意志孩子的行为，因为他们往往会陷入负面循环。 第三，创建一个触发板，列出每个家庭成员的触发点以及应对方法，以此来帮助家庭成员更好地理解和管理自己的情绪。帮助孩子识别他们的触发点，并教会他们如何以不同的方式处理这些触发点。与其关注改变外在行为，不如教会孩子如何处理和克服导致外在行为的内在触发因素。这比孩子在学校里学到的任何东西都重要。 我还分享了一些练习冲动控制的方法，例如延迟满足感。可以通过一些实际的方法来练习冲动控制，例如在餐厅留下一些薯条，或者在商店里看中东西后不立即购买。使用视觉体验式教学来强化关键概念，例如使用一个软球来帮助孩子在做出选择之前思考。让孩子学会掌控自己的情绪，并做出选择。

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3 Easy Ways to Change Your Child’s Behavior Quickly (Discipline That Works!) #461

What is one easy way to change your kids’ behavior that has nothing to do with changing them? How can you teach your kids impulse control and delayed gratification? Want to replace behavior charts with a tool that will get to the root of the behavior? Kirk shares over a dozen practical strategies you can begin ASAP to change your family. These ideas are from the updated Discipline That Works program, part of the Get Everything Package now 50% OFF with our Spring Sale at https://celebratecalm.com/products)

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