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3 Ways to Break Childhood Patterns & Reparent Yourself #456

2025/3/9
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我意识到许多成年人的选择，包括伴侣、职业、友谊和日常生活，都受到童年模式的影响。许多父母在疗愈童年创伤的过程中，重新养育自己，学习新的技能，并给予孩子他们童年未曾得到的东西。 作为孩子，我们对周围环境非常敏感，以确保安全和满足需求。我们学会适应家庭环境，牺牲个性以换取爱与接纳。这些反应成为模式，延续到成年，可能在某些方面对我们有益，但在其他方面破坏我们的关系。 例如，在愤怒或挑剔的父母家庭中长大的孩子，可能会学会顺从以获得积极关注，长大后成为完美主义者，在工作中表现出色，但在生活中却感到怨恨和无法放松。在混乱或酗酒家庭中长大的孩子，可能会成为照顾者，成年后继续这一角色，被他人忽视和利用。在充满冲突或虐待的家庭中长大的孩子，可能会学会压抑自己，成年后难以表达需求和维护自身权益。 为了打破这些模式，我们需要识别并理解这些模式是如何影响我们的生活的。我们可以通过反思童年经历，识别我们扮演的角色以及这些角色如何延续到成年，来开始这一过程。我们可以写信给那个保护我们的孩子，表达感激之情，并释放他们从照顾他人和过度谨慎的责任中解脱出来。 我们可以通过肯定来帮助自己，例如：‘当我还是个小男孩时，我学会了隐藏和沉默以求安全，这在当时很聪明，但现在我已经长大了，我可以不用再小心翼翼了。’我们可以练习新的行为和技能，例如尊重自己，变得坚定，为自己的需求发声。 通过这些方法，我们可以疗愈童年创伤，打破旧模式，建立健康的关系，过上更充实和幸福的生活。

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Explore how childhood patterns influence adult choices and the importance of recognizing and breaking these patterns.
  • Many adult choices stem from childhood patterns.
  • Breaking these patterns involves reparenting oneself.
  • Acknowledge how childhood experiences shape adult behavior.

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3 Ways to Break Childhood Patterns & Reparent Yourself #456

"I hadn’t realized the degree to which so many of my adult choices—my spouse, my career, my friendships, my daily life—have been dictated by the patterns I learned as a child." Kirk gives you scripts and practical action steps to heal those childhood wounds, reparent yourself, and break those old patterns. Take advantage of the Black Friday Sale in March at https://celebratecalm.com/black-friday/)

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