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Jr. Attorney, Cop & Judge At Home? 5 Responses to Arguing #454

2025/3/2
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我经常遇到一些孩子,他们就像家里的‘小警察、小法官和小律师’,喜欢指控别人,却不受规则约束。他们会为一些小事争论很久,即使你告诉他们不要那样做,他们也会无视你的话,并且和你争论很久,试图证明自己是对的。我理解这种行为会让父母感到很沮丧,但是我们应该尝试从不同的角度来回应孩子。 首先,当孩子提出一个有理有据的论点时,我们可以肯定他们的逻辑能力和沟通能力。我们可以说:‘我注意到你的论点很清晰,你理解我的顾虑,并提出了有理有据的反驳,这显示出你具有很强的策略性思维和批判性思维能力。你甚至预料到了我的反对意见,这就像一个优秀的销售人员一样。你很善于沟通,而且非常精确。’当然,我们不必同意他们的观点,但我们可以肯定他们的能力。 其次,孩子争论有时是为了寻求关注。如果孩子总是和你争论,那可能是因为他们希望得到你的关注。这时,我们可以尝试用积极的方式回应他们,例如一起玩耍、做游戏等,而不是和他们争论。 第三,我们可以尝试理解孩子争论背后的真正需求。有时,他们只是想被倾听,或者想得到你的认可。我们可以说:‘我听到了你的话,但是你真正想要的是什么?’通过了解他们的真正需求,我们可以更好地回应他们。 第四,很多孩子争论是因为他们对公平正义有很强的感知。当孩子因为不公平而争论时,我们可以承认他们的观点是合理的,但同时告诉他们,我们无法改变现状,并尝试一起寻找解决其他问题的方法。 第五,我们可以将决定权交给孩子,让他们自己想办法获得想要的结果。例如,孩子想要更晚的睡觉时间,我们可以问他们:‘你打算怎么做才能获得更晚的睡觉时间?’这可以培养孩子的责任感和解决问题的能力。 最后,也是最重要的一点,那就是建立信任关系。我们可以直接问孩子:‘你信任我吗?你相信我总是为了你好吗?’当孩子感受到你的爱和关心时,他们会更愿意和你合作,而不是和你争论。

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Jr. Attorney, Cop & Judge At Home? 5 Responses to Arguing #454

Do you have a relentless arguer at home? A child who can prosecute everyone else, but is immune to rules? Who has a strong sense of justice and fairness? Your strong-willed kids ARE going to argue. Kirk provides 5 different responses/scripts, including an emotional one at the end. Listen to this one twice!

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