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Screens Q&A: No Drama Screen Safety & Success from Toddlers to Teens

2024/11/13
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专注于家庭教育和儿童行为管理的专家,提供实用的策略和脚本来改变家庭和学校中的行为。
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Kirk Martin: 本期节目讨论了如何管理孩子们的屏幕时间,从幼儿到青少年,涵盖了各个年龄段孩子可能遇到的问题。Kirk Martin 强调了亲子关系的重要性,建议家长成为值得信赖的领导者,以不戏剧化的方式处理与屏幕相关的问题。他认为,孩子沉迷屏幕可能源于缺乏安全感、与父母关系不好或同龄人关系不佳等问题,因此家长应该关注孩子的内心世界,并与孩子建立紧密的联系。在孩子接触屏幕的时间上,他建议家长推迟孩子接触屏幕的时间,并根据自身情况决定,不要受他人影响。他还建议家长为孩子选择功能更简单的手机,例如翻盖手机或儿童手表,以降低风险。为了对抗屏幕带来的多巴胺冲击,家长应该与孩子建立紧密的联系,并参与孩子的兴趣爱好。他建议家长尝试让孩子暂时远离电子设备,让他们重新找到其他的娱乐方式,并允许孩子做一些可能会弄脏或造成不便的事情,例如在泥地里玩耍。在提出活动建议时,应该具体明确,并让孩子参与到决策中。他还建议允许孩子进行一些有风险的活动,例如滑板、爬树等,这有助于刺激大脑发育。兄弟姐妹之间的打闹对孩子的大脑发育也有益,家长应该对此持包容态度。家长不应该因为孩子使用屏幕而感到内疚,尤其是在孩子需要平静下来的情况下。家长应该引领孩子,而不是试图说服他们参与活动。他还鼓励孩子参与社区活动,例如做家教、开柠檬水摊等,以培养他们的责任感和社交能力。如果孩子沉迷于手机和屏幕,家长应该坦诚地与孩子沟通,并采取措施限制孩子使用屏幕的时间。当家长限制孩子使用屏幕时,孩子可能会出现负面情绪,家长需要做好心理准备,并坚持自己的决定。为了解决孩子不遵守规定、绕过家长控制或在被要求关掉屏幕时情绪崩溃的问题,家长应该从一开始就设定明确的规则,并坚持执行。屏幕使用权是一种特权,而不是权利,家长应该坚持自己的规则,避免与孩子进行无休止的争论。如果孩子能够绕过家长设置的屏幕使用限制,家长应该取消孩子的设备使用权限,而不是与孩子进行无休止的争论。家长不应该对孩子进行说教,而应该通过自身的行动来影响孩子。家长应该向孩子展示自己如何克服对屏幕的依赖,并与孩子一起寻找解决问题的方法。家长应该积极参与孩子的兴趣爱好,例如玩游戏等,以便更好地了解孩子的心理需求。保护孩子网络安全就像教孩子骑自行车一样,需要循序渐进,最终目标是培养孩子的责任感和自我保护能力。孩子在网络上的行为不应被视为私密行为,家长有权查看孩子的网络活动。家长应该利用科技手段来保护孩子的网络安全,例如使用Bright Canary等应用程序。

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At what age should parents start giving their kids access to screens?

Wait as long as possible. There's no reason to open Pandora's box early. Parents should make decisions on their terms, not due to peer pressure.

Why do kids often seek screens as an escape?

Kids may seek screens as an escape if they don't feel good about themselves or have strained relationships with family members. Screens provide an easy outlet for emotional relief.

How can parents compete with the dopamine hit kids get from screens?

Parents can create intense connections with their kids by engaging in activities they are passionate about, even if it's something the parent doesn't care for. This builds a stronger bond and provides a different kind of dopamine hit.

What should parents do if they suspect their child is addicted to screens?

Have an honest conversation acknowledging the addictive nature of screens and take away the device for a set period. This may cause a dramatic reaction initially, but it can reset the home environment and help the child regain control.

How can parents enforce screen time rules without constant drama?

Set clear, consistent expectations and enforce them matter-of-factly. Avoid engaging in endless negotiations or arguments. If kids don't comply, follow through with consequences without drama.

Why do lectures often fail to teach kids about the dangers of screens?

Lectures rarely work because they don't engage kids emotionally or practically. Instead, parents should model behavior, share personal struggles, and have open conversations about the impact of screens.

How can parents keep their kids safe online?

Use monitoring tools like Bright Canary to scan for inappropriate content and set clear expectations about online behavior. Teach kids that online actions are never truly private and can have serious consequences.

Chapters
The advice is to wait as long as possible before introducing screens to children, resisting peer pressure and focusing on responsible parenting.
  • Waiting longer to give kids access to screens is beneficial.
  • Parents should make decisions on their terms, not based on peer pressure.
  • Children will be unhappy with parental choices, which is normal.

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Screens Q&A: No Drama Screen Safety & Success from Toddlers to Teens

What do you do when your kids melt down when you tell them to turn off their screens, work around parental controls, or won’t comply with your rules? How can we compete against that dopamine hit from screens? What if our child is kind of addicted to screen usage? How do we keep our kids safe online? At what age should we allow screens? Kirk answers your toughest questions with practical strategies and insights for kids of all ages.

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