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The Science of Love, Desire and Attachment

2022/2/14
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Andrew Huberman
是一位专注于神经科学、学习和健康的斯坦福大学教授和播客主持人。
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本期播客探讨了欲望、爱和依恋的科学基础,涵盖心理学和生物学两个方面。节目中深入分析了童年依恋模式对成年亲密关系的影响,以及多巴胺、催产素和血清素等神经递质在其中的作用。此外,还探讨了自主神经系统在调节亲密关系中的关键作用,以及如何通过提高自我认知来改善依恋模式。节目还介绍了一些可以提升性欲的补充剂,例如玛卡、东革阿里和蒺藜。 本节目强调了自主神经系统在亲密关系中的核心作用,将亲密关系中的情绪波动比作跷跷板,并解释了童年经历如何影响这种平衡。节目还探讨了同理心和积极错觉在建立和维持亲密关系中的重要性,并分析了导致关系破裂的四个因素:批评、防御性、回避和蔑视。此外,节目还介绍了海伦·费雪的四种人格类型(多巴胺型、血清素型、睾酮型和雌激素型)及其在择偶中的表现,以及最近的神经影像学研究结果,揭示了大脑活动在亲密关系中的同步和差异。最后,节目还讨论了性欲和一些可以提升性欲的补充剂,并提醒听众在使用补充剂前咨询医生。

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This chapter explores how childhood attachment styles influence adult romantic relationships. It explains that the neural circuits for attachment in childhood are repurposed for adult attachments and how our biology shapes our perception of attractiveness. The impact of smell and body symmetry on attraction is also discussed.
  • Childhood attachment styles significantly influence adult romantic attachments.
  • The same neural circuits underlying infant-caregiver attachment are repurposed for adult romantic attachments.
  • Smell and body symmetry are powerful cues for attraction, influenced by women's menstrual cycles and oral contraception.

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In this episode, I discuss the psychology and biology of desire, love and attachment. I explain how childhood attachment types are thought to inform adult attachment styles to romantic partners, and I describe some of the major theories of human mate selection, relationships and infidelity. Additionally, I explore the neurobiology and proposed subconscious processing underlying desire, love and attachment, including the roles of empathy and “positive delusion." I outline how self-awareness can shift one’s relationship attachment style towards securely bonded partnerships. Finally, I describe specific tools and supplements that have been researched to increase libido and sex drive. Throughout the episode, I explain the science and key mechanisms underlying romantic love and outline tools for those seeking to find a strong, healthy relationship, or for those wanting to strengthen an existing relationship. 

For the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com).

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Timestamps

(00:00:00) Desire, Love & Attachment 

(00:02:59) Odor, Perceived Attractiveness & Birth Control

(00:08:21) Sponsors: AG1, LMNT

(00:14:13) Romance: Balancing Love & Desire

(00:19:00) Animal Studies, Vasopressin & Monogamy 

(00:22:06) Strange Situation Task, Childhood Attachment Styles

(00:32:52) Adult Attachment Styles

(00:38:50) Secure Attachment 

(00:41:23) Autonomic Arousal: The “See-Saw”

(00:50:39) Tool: Self-Awareness, Healthy Interdependence

(00:53:11) Neurobiology of Desire, Love & Attachment  

(00:58:02) Empathy & Mating & the Autonomic Nervous System

(01:10:02) Positive Delusion, Touch

(01:15:20) Relationship Stability 

(01:21:22) Selecting Mates, Recognition of Autonomic Tone

(01:38:28) Neural Mechanisms of Romantic Attachment 

(01:47:43) Autonomic Coordination in Relationships 

(01:56:13) Infidelity & Cheating

(02:08:56) “Chemistry”, Subconscious Processes

(02:12:44) Tools: Libido & Sex Drive 

(02:20:20) Maca (Maca root)  

(02:25:58) Tongkat Ali (Longjack) 

(02:28:56) Tribulus terrestris 

(02:33:14) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify/Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Instagram, Twitter, Supplements

Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac)

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