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11 Crazy Facts About Laundry, Showering, & Getting the “Little Stuff” Done That Will Make You Laugh (and Prove You’re Doing Better Than You Think)

2023/9/7
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins: 节目开始就点明了家务琐事令人难以承受,许多人将其视为自身缺陷的证据。她还分享了大量听众来信,讲述了他们因家务和自我照顾而感到压力的经历,例如难以抽出时间洗头、刷牙,甚至连起床都感到困难。 KC Davis: 她认为完成家务的困难源于情感、生理、心理和社会因素的综合影响。情感上,人们容易将家务未完成与自身价值联系起来,产生羞愧感。生理上,残疾等因素会增加家务的难度。心理上,压力和精神状态会影响大脑的执行功能,导致即使简单的家务也难以完成。社会因素则体现在社会对家务的认知中存在种族主义和性别歧视,以及对女性的要求过高,家务被赋予了过多的道德意义。 她强调家务本身是道德中性的,凌乱和家务本身没有道德意义,只有人的行为才有。人们容易将家务未完成与自身价值联系起来,产生羞愧感,而这是一种错误的认知。她建议人们将家务视为一个循环往复的过程,而不是非黑即白的完成与否,并根据自身能力调整家务节奏。自我关怀的核心在于做一些关爱自己的事情,而不是将家务作为衡量自身价值的标准。 Mel Robbins: 她与KC Davis探讨了人们对家务的羞愧感,以及如何将家务视为道德中性的行为。她还分享了自己的经验,指出即使是日常琐事,在精神状态不佳时也会变得令人望而生畏,并与KC Davis一起分析了刷牙等看似简单的家务为何会变得如此困难。 她还强调了自我同情的必要性,指出羞愧会阻碍心理功能,而自我同情则能提升心理功能。她建议人们不要将家务的完成情况与自身价值联系起来,并鼓励人们根据自身能力调整家务节奏,找到适合自己的方式。

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Mel Robbins and KC Davis discuss the overwhelming nature of household chores and the emotional weight they carry.
  • Household chores feel overwhelming due to emotional difficulties, physical aspects, mental complexity, and societal messages.
  • Shame and judgment are often attached to not completing these tasks, making them feel like moral obligations.

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In today’s episode, best-selling author and therapist KC Davis answers the question, "How can you be successful in many areas of your life but fall short on getting the laundry, dishes, or grocery shopping done?"

 

Which begs the question: why are all the "little tasks" so hard?!

 

Because when it’s time to get them done, they don’t "feel" so little.

 

KC’s advice, breakthrough ideas, and research will make you realize you’re not the only one who feels like you’re drowning.

 

And her compassionate, hilarious approach and simple tools will help you take better care of your home and yourself immediately.

 

If you’ve ever said:

 

Why can’t I get it all done?

Why does everyone else do this without a struggle, and I am FAILING?

I should really have my act together….

 

All the answers you need are in this episode.

 

And if you (or someone you love) is having a moment where even taking a shower or brushing your teeth feels like climbing Mount Everest, KC Davis is an angel sent from the heavens to lift you up.

 

This is one of my favorite conversations of all time. It’s so wide-ranging in topics and deeply relatable, laugh-out-loud funny, poignant, and actionable.

 

Talking to KC is like having an old friend show up at your house with a mug of tea, a mop, and a casserole you can stick in the fridge.

 

There are so many life-changing realizations that will restore your sanity—and the functionality of your home—that this is only Part One of your time with KC and me.

 

Today’s episode will change your entire life. You will learn:

 

  • A shocking approach to laundry and anything else in life that changes everything. (This one is so goooood!)
  • 3 rules for self-care made simple
  • A 5-step tidying method that will improve your life
  • A genius trick for when the dishes or laundry are piled sky-high
  • KC’s "momentum-building trick" that will make your brain work for you
  • Making relaxation your right, not your reward
  • Leveraging self-compassion as a motivational tool
  • KC’s favorite phrase to say when she feels overwhelmed

 

 

My mission today is to prove to you that if you don’t have your sh*t together, you aren’t broken. You’re just like the rest of us – you’re human.  

 

Get ready to laugh and learn as I confess the details of what a disaster I am at home, as we go step-by-step with instructions and affirmations for an empowering and gentle journey to a functioning space.

 

Xo, Mel

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • 3:30: Why is it sometimes so hard to do even the small things?
  • 5:30: This is why you feel so much guilt when you’re not getting it all done.
  • 9:15: Your disappointment in yourself goes so much deeper than chores.
  • 10:30: Here’s what your piles of laundry say about you. OR don’t.
  • 21:30: I confess; this is the only time I’m motivated to do laundry.
  • 23:00: Who knew what a WIN it was every time you make it to the shower?
  • 35:00: Here’s how brushing your teeth can creep up on you in insidious ways.
  • 37:30: Research shows that drowning in shame arrests our psychological functioning.
  • 41:45: Alternatives to showers when you just don’t have it in you.
  • 45:00: How can you make your space calm?
  • 48:00: This reframe of your household chores will change your life.
  • 51:00: Ditch the guilt and shame when you realize you didn’t sign up for this.
  • 52:30: Here’s why emptying the dishwasher is way worse than loading it.
  • 54:00: KC found a system for her laundry and that changed everything.
  • 57:00: Here’s a new way to look at tasks when every task feels monumental.

 

 

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