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6 Signs You’re Addicted to Stress: Psychologist Teaches You How to Remove Drama From Your Life

2023/10/26
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Mel Robbins:探讨了戏剧成瘾的概念,并与Dr. Scott Lyons讨论了其成因、表现和应对方法。访谈中,Mel Robbins分享了自己的经历,并提出了许多发人深省的问题,例如为什么人们在平静时感到焦虑或无聊,为什么八卦和争吵会让人感觉更好,以及如何与戏剧成瘾者建立健康的关系。 Dr. Scott Lyons:详细解释了戏剧成瘾的定义、内在感受和外在表现,并指出其根源在于童年创伤和对压力的依赖。他提出了“revving reflex”(加速反射)的概念,解释了为什么人们在平静时会感到不安,并倾向于寻找刺激来逃避内心的痛苦。他还分享了自己的故事,说明了如何通过识别和处理童年创伤来克服戏剧成瘾。他强调了压力作为一种天然止痛剂的作用,以及如何通过改变思维方式和行为模式来打破戏剧成瘾的循环。 Dr. Scott Lyons:详细阐述了戏剧成瘾的生理机制,解释了为什么戏剧化的行为会带来能量提升和疼痛缓解。他指出,戏剧成瘾者往往会对压力产生耐受性,并出现戒断症状。他还解释了为什么人们会通过观看暴力或戏剧性内容来获得痛苦缓解,以及如何通过建立自我意识、接纳和自我原谅来克服戏剧成瘾。他提供了具体的应对策略,例如与信任的人约定安全词,减少媒体接触,谨慎选择语言,并学会自我原谅。

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Dr. Scott Lyons defines what it means to be addicted to drama and provides examples of behaviors that indicate an addiction.
  • Drama is unnecessary turmoil and exaggeration.
  • Common behaviors include using extreme language, feeling anxious or bored when calm, and gossiping.

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I was talking sh*t about my daughter and got caught red-handed. Talk about unnecessary drama.

We've all been there. And according to today’s expert, this type of conflict is causing more stress than you think.

Today, I am joined by Dr. Scott Lyons, a medical doctor, holistic psychologist, and renowned body-based trauma expert. He says there are 6 telltale signs that you’re addicted to stress.

I never considered myself to be a person who is addicted to stress until this conversation.

Dr. Lyons is certified in more healing modalities than you want me to list and has even created his own body-based trauma therapy called Somatic Stress Release™, taught in over 20 countries.

You and I are digging into the fascinating science, research, and psychology of stress. And more importantly, you are going to get the tools you need to remove it from your life.

Dr. Lyons will explain why we keep ourselves on edge, why we find ourselves picking fights, gossiping, zombie scrolling, and staying in relationships where drama is present.

This is a cycle you need to break. It’s time you slow down and learn:

  • The shocking ways you are addicted to stress.
  • How to deal with drama-addicted friends and significant others.
  • What zombie scrolling, zoning out in front of the TV, and always being on the go say about you.
  • What it means when you always need to be the center of attention.
  • What “revving” is and why you need to stop doing it today.
  • The 3 ways to break free from a stress addiction.

 

If you’ve read this far, it means you want to feel less stress. I want that for you, too.

That’s why I can’t wait for you to listen and learn how to remove all the unnecessary drama from your life.

 

Xo, Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • 3:28: What exactly does it mean to be ‘addicted to drama’?
  • 4:56: Here are the 9 external signs you might be addicted to drama.
  • 5:00: If you use these 6 words, you might be addicted to drama.
  • 5:15: Do you feel these two emotions when things are calm?
  • 5:30: Gossiping is a double-edged sword
  • 8:23: How addicts feel inside vs. how they seem to others
  • 10:26: What is a revving reflex?
  • 11:10: Whoa. I had a major lightbulb moment here.
  • 11:50: Addiction to drama is really an expression of trauma.
  • 12:57: Mic drop: We chase our drama to avoid our traumas.
  • 15:15: How we are reclaiming this word ‘drama’.
  • 16:00: The 3 ways drama feels good.
  • 16:12: What is drama exactly?
  • 20:15: Dr. Scott begins to share his own vulnerable story.
  • 21:20: Are you ‘drama bonding’?
  • 23:50: This is why hurt people can’t let go of drama.
  • 27:35: What is dissociation?
  • 28:20: Do these signs feel familiar in your own life?
  • 36:55: Examples of childhood traumas that can create drama addiction.
  • 37:50: Here’s what we did so that our kids felt abandoned.
  • 43:25: How to be in a healthy relationship with someone like this.
  • 48:15: Do this so you don’t get involved in their drama cycle.
  • 51:40: One surprising sign of dissociated tolerance I bet you’ll recognize.
  • 54:00: How the heck does stress give you pain relief?
  • 1:00:20: How do you create boundaries around controlling children?
  • 1:06:22: Here are 4 ways to take control and end the drama addiction.

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