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6 Steps to Navigating Major Change Like a Pro (a Hilarious Guide to Back-to-School and College Drop-Off Season!)

2023/8/21
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Lynne: 第一次送女儿上大学的经历让她意识到过度关注孩子的情绪会适得其反，她没有给予女儿足够的鼓励和支持，导致女儿陷入焦虑和不安。第二次送女儿上大学时，她改变了策略，控制了自己的情绪，鼓励女儿独立面对挑战，并提醒女儿这是她成长过程的一部分。 Mel: 父母在孩子面临重大改变时，不应该给予过多的安慰和退路，而应该鼓励孩子独立面对挑战，并相信他们能够克服困难。她分享了自己和孩子在大学送别和人生过渡中的经验，强调了父母在孩子成长过程中扮演的重要角色。 Amy: 孩子在经历重大改变时，需要坚持一段时间才能真正体验到其中的所有方面，并做出正确的判断。她分享了自己在大学期间的经历，以及如何帮助孩子应对大学生活中的挑战。她强调了父母的信心和支持对孩子克服困难的重要性。 Lynne: 在送孩子上大学的过程中，最重要的是鼓励孩子，并提醒他们运用自身的技能来应对挑战，这将使他们变得更强大。她分享了自己在送孩子上大学的过程中，如何帮助孩子建立自信，并鼓励他们独立面对挑战。 Mel: 在孩子面临重大改变时，告诉他们这只是他们应对改变过程的一部分，这是一种正常现象，可以帮助他们更好地应对情绪。她分享了如何利用“桥接技巧”来帮助孩子应对分离焦虑，以及如何帮助孩子建立信心，并鼓励他们独立面对挑战。 Amy: 父母在孩子面临重大改变时，需要比孩子更相信孩子自己，给予孩子信心和支持。她分享了自己在送孩子上大学的过程中，如何帮助孩子建立自信，并鼓励他们独立面对挑战。 Lynne: 面对重大改变，不要被内心的质疑声所影响，要相信自己过去的经验和能力，并告诉自己能够克服挑战。她分享了自己在职业生涯中经历的重大改变，以及如何通过自我鼓励和积极的心态来应对挑战。 Mel: 当孩子在面临重大改变时感到焦虑时，父母可以通过缩小孩子的关注范围，帮助孩子专注于当下可以做的事情，从而减轻焦虑。她分享了如何利用“缩小关注范围”的技巧来帮助孩子应对焦虑和压力，以及如何帮助孩子建立信心，并鼓励他们独立面对挑战。 Amy: 焦虑和不安是面对重大改变的正常反应，这表明个体是健康的，能够感受到改变带来的影响。她分享了如何帮助孩子认识到焦虑和不安是正常的，并鼓励他们积极面对挑战。

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The episode begins with a discussion on the emotional challenges of college drop-offs and major life transitions, emphasizing the importance of empowering those in distress.
  • Parents often take on their children's emotions, which can hinder the child's ability to handle change.
  • The best approach is to encourage and remind children of their skills to handle any situation, making them stronger adults.

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In today’s episode, you are getting a relatable and hilarious guide to navigating major transitions like a pro.

 

Join me in a real and raw conversation with my friends and colleagues, Amy and Lynne, as we unpack the major mistakes and 6 lessons learned from "horrible" college drop-off experiences (both our own and the ones we had with our kids) and the fear that comes with any major transition in your life.

  

Whether you’ve got kids or not, these 6 lessons apply to you. Everyone is going through some kind of transition right now: back to school, back to work, and dropping out of college. It’s a time of saying goodbye, of saying hello to new chapters, and of helping people move into new dorms and apartments and transition to new jobs or a new grade.

 

That means it is the perfect time to learn the 6 lessons I learned (the hard way) about managing big life transitions without losing your sh*t.

 

Listen and Learn:

 

  • The RIGHT way to empower someone who is drowning in self-doubt.
  • The #1 thing to say to help anyone move forward with confidence.
  • The 4 words that will help you or your child commit to change.
  • A science-backed "bridging" tool to help any child feeling nervous.
  • The 2 most important qualities you have to let your child borrow from you.
  • Why feeling scared and anxious before a big change is mentally healthy.

 

 

Xo, Mel

 

In this episode:

 

 

  • 2:30: Hear one mom’s mistake after dropping her child off at college. 
  • 4:30: And what this mom did differently for her second child.
  • 7:30 The drop-off experience that I wish I’d done differently.
  • 10:30: Say THIS to your kids to help them ride the wave of emotions.
  • 11:30: What you think you will feel is different from reality and that’s ok.
  • 14:30: The #1 tool you have to let your child borrow from you..
  • 18:10: Use this preschool trick from psychologists when you leave your kids.
  • 29:00: Remember this the next time you start to overthink.
  • 29:20: Recapping 4 major takeaways.
  • 31:00: A fighter pilot shares how to gain control of your emotions.
  • 33:00: I’ve used this trick often to help others adjust to change in their lives.
  • 35:00: Feeling sad or uncertain about change? Good; you’re normal.

 

 

 

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