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Don’t Learn This Too Late: Make An Authentic Life Now, By Getting Real About The End

2024/10/31
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Alua Arthur 认为，思考死亡能够帮助我们更清晰地认识自己，了解自己真正想要什么样的人生，从而过得更加充实和有意义。她分享了在公交车上与一位临终癌症患者的对话经历，这段经历促使她开始从事死亡陪伴工作，并致力于帮助人们更好地规划人生和面对死亡。她认为，死亡并非终点，而是人生旅程中的一个阶段，我们可以通过思考死亡来更好地把握当下，活出真实的自我。她鼓励人们在生日时进行反思，重新审视自己的生活和价值观，并制定相应的计划。 Mel Robbins 则表达了对死亡话题的普遍焦虑和恐惧，并通过与 Alua Arthur 的对话，逐渐理解了直面死亡的意义。她分享了自己与母亲关于整理遗物和临终安排的对话，并意识到这些看似简单的谈话，实则是打开更深层次沟通的契机。她还探讨了如何与年迈的父母以及与自己关系疏远的亲友谈论死亡的话题，并强调了在面对死亡时，坦诚面对彼此关系中的问题和情感的重要性。 Mel Robbins 在访谈中表达了对死亡的普遍焦虑和恐惧，并通过与 Alua Arthur 的对话，逐渐理解了直面死亡的意义。她分享了自己与母亲关于整理遗物和临终安排的对话，并意识到这些看似简单的谈话，实则是打开更深层次沟通的契机。她还探讨了如何与年迈的父母以及与自己关系疏远的亲友谈论死亡的话题，并强调了在面对死亡时，坦诚面对彼此关系中的问题和情感的重要性。她还分享了自己与一位朋友在面对父亲去世时的经历，并强调了在面对亲人去世时，支持和陪伴的重要性，以及坦诚面对复杂情感的必要性。

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Why is thinking about death important for living a vibrant life?

Thinking about death helps clarify who you want to be and how you want to spend your time, unlocking deeper joy and purpose.

What are the three powerful questions to ask yourself for a more authentic life?

The three questions are: Who did I love? How did I love? And was I loved?

How does contemplating death help in personal growth?

Contemplating death allows you to see your life more clearly, identify areas for change, and live more authentically.

What is the role of a death doula?

A death doula provides non-medical support to the dying person and their family, helping with end-of-life planning and emotional, logistical, and spiritual support.

How can talking about death help in preparing for it?

Talking about death demystifies it, helps in practical planning, and allows for deeper emotional and spiritual preparation.

What are some common regrets people have on their death bed?

Common regrets include not living authentically, not spending time wisely, and not showing up fully for loved ones.

How can grief be a useful emotion?

Grief can lead to personal growth, new purpose, and a deeper understanding of oneself and one's relationships.

What is the significance of leaving a legacy?

A legacy is about how you impact others through your actions and character, not just your achievements or possessions.

How can one start a conversation about death with aging parents?

Start with practical topics like estate planning and gradually move to emotional and spiritual aspects, using the experiences of others as a bridge.

What does it mean to die well?

Dying well means living authentically and making peace with one's life, so that at the end, there is a sense of completion and gratitude.

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Mel Robbins introduces the concept of using death as a motivator for living a more fulfilling life, setting the stage for her conversation with death doula Alua Arthur.
  • Thinking about death can unlock deeper joy and purpose.
  • Alua Arthur will share three questions and an exercise to help listeners live more intentionally.

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By the time you finish listening, your perspective on death—and life—will be forever changed.

Today, Mel sits down with death doula and best-selling author Alua Arthur for a transformative conversation about how embracing the shortness of life can unlock a profound sense of joy and purpose in your life right now.

Alua shares three powerful questions you should ask yourself today and reveals an inspiring exercise to perform on your birthday to help you live with more intention and gratitude.

With wisdom, warmth, and humor, Alua shows how getting real about death can unlock the authentic, fulfilling life you’re meant to live.

Prepare for a mindset shift that will change how you look at life, death, and everything in between.

For more resources, including links to the studies mentioned in the episode, click here) for the podcast episode page. 

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