Get Your Sh*t Together: This 85-Year-Old Badass Does More Than You & Me (Steal Her 7 Amazing Secrets to Life)
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The greatest gifts of all time is friend ml, and welcome to the male Robin's protest. I am so excited for today's conversation because we're going to talk about longevity. And by longevity, I don't mean, how do you live forever?

I mean, how do you live a long, viBrant, connected, happy, healthy and purpose of your life? How do you do that? What are the guidelines, the keys, the secrets? What are the mistakes of people make that prevent them from doing that? And in order for us to really dig into this topic in a fun and entertaining and helpful way, I thought, why don't I just track down the most bad woman that I know in terms of somebody who's in their eighties? Who am I talking about? I'm talking about my mother in law duty robbins.

Every single time I post some photo with her or some video with her on social media, you guys ham me with questions. How does SHE have buy ebs in a six back at the age of eighty two? How can I hold a plane for two minutes and thirty seconds? That is true.

In fact, we were in bar class the other day, and we walk in and I go and grab the five pound weight SHE in gravy, eight pound wakes show off. Now I am joking, but seriously, I have been so impressed because he has been a whistles and he was sixty nine years old. And SHE lives her life in a way that makes me want to be as connected and happy and optimistic and viBrant as he is at the age of eighty five.

SHE inspires me. And you guys ask a lot of questions about her secrets every time you see. In fact, I posted a photo of my family holding her up like a little dog.

She's opposit at our daughter's graduation, and he had just taken a combe and was dancing with us at graduation party. I mean, she's just an absolute hood, and i'm not the only one who feels that way. Her friends feel feel that way about her.

And everywhere we go, people are stunned that SHE is as older SHE is because he doesn't act that way and SHE doesn't look like IT. And so I thought, you know what? Let's get her on the podcast.

Let's answer your questions and let's dig into what he believes are the habits, the mindset, tricks and the values and priorities in her life that have LED to living such an incredible life in the last chapter of her life. I mean, how amazing would I be for us all to wake up at the age of eighty five and truly, authentically feel like the best days are in front of us? Because, you know what, with small changes, they can and they should be, and that we're gonna in today.

So ladies and gentleman, without further, do meet my friend and my mother in law, judy jank, for Robins. Welcome to the our robots broadcast. So there's a lot to cover, but I just have to have some highlights here. So how old you in iran, your first marathon with me.

seventy.

How old do you when you jumped out of an airplane for the first time?

Eighty one for .

you're over thirty one years older than me duty and the woman rocks of beki. I SHE has a six back. She's got just ridiculous cut by accepts SHE exercises every day. He has more fun than anybody that I know, and he has an enormous group of friends.

And I want to know like what what is IT? Where do you even want to start? Like to me, you are complete bad as so maybe what we should do is divide this into a bunch of questions.

Okay, hold on. I'm trying to get how I got to try the asm. See, i'm having a hard flash stage then .

god and passed that. Well.

let's boil IT down to what you do every morning. What's the day in the life of duty? Robin? S S.

look like you want to know specifically.

yeah, what time do you wake up?

I wake up very early because i'm old, and you do when you, when you, when you get old, you wake up too early. I have a sona in my house. Yes, so I go, go downstairs.

I turned my son on, then I make myself. Water and a orange, you know, one thousand, you know, those packets, oh, you have an emergency. yeah. OK have an emergency water, yeah. I get back in bed.

God.

okay, I have. I can do that now. You know, I don't have kids run in around and and then I go through my mail.

mail in bed yeah.

on my phone.

you go through your mail on your phone, yeah you in your email, you are in the exact opposite of what i'd help people to do. By the way, I keep .

going and I play one hand of bridge on your phone. Yeah, and my phone is a practice and OK. I never seemed to win, but I play at every boarding.

Then I go downstairs. I get in the sana. I have a monta that I actually a fairly new monitor that i've learned from a woman appear, which is mind blowing. Now.

hold on a second. When you go in the sanda, are you wearing a tow? Are you completely new?

You're completely new. okay. Now, do you wax at your age? You just let the hair grow. You shave. Do you grow hair?

Urge down there? You lose hair. You do. There have no hair under my arms, really, and not much between my legs OK. So I don't need to have a brazil.

yes. Now you don't. I will never forget when we had our kids up here visiting you one summer, kendall was here with a couple of her friends. I think they must have been eleven years old, right? To remote the memory and talk to about you are all of the pond. And they were skinny dipping in the middle of the day, in the sun, in the pond here in vermont, and you stripped right down in front of, and they've stared at you because they saw that your pubic care was grey. And they were like, you just, i've always admire that about you, how you are such a free spirit.

Well, you know, why not I mean, what my I have nothing to hide. That's true, do you know? And I think don't we all want to be with people that are real?

Um you know there there's so many people that you can spend time with you just say to yourself, just be honest with me, right you know yeah tell me what you're really thinking about, what you're talking about. You true anyway. So we're .

back in the saana OK.

So I meditate in the sauna for like fifteen twenty minutes.

And what's your new mantra? Are you like to share? Sure.

it's called sa 那。 And they sing at first, good sa sa. And they do that for probably twenty five times.

And then they whispered, sama, and then they do IT silently in your head. And while you're doing IT, you use your hands. What do you do your? And so .

you do inger just here in .

manchester, yeah SHE a yoga teacher, but he is taught this all over the world to people with alzheimer and dementia, and has actually proven that he can stimulate your brain if you continually do that every single day.

Well, I don't doubt that I mean, you if you listen to some of the brain experts you're basically talking about what I believe is called um i'm going to forget the name. It's neurotics where you are combining a intentional thought with a physical movement and it's one of the fastest ways to create new neural pathways. It's a whole field of study called and that's what you're doing. You're basically pairing intentional thought with a physical movement of touching your each one of your fingers to your thumb.

And I had my group. I have a group called the very chick, which are my old, old friends from many, many years. And we were up here in your gym.

yeah. And we had her over here for private class. And now everyone of my friends is doing IT wow every morning. wow.

And what do you notice when you do IT for yourself? Personally.

I don't know. I think i'm convincing myself that i'm remembering more thing. I don't know. It's IT all in your mind, right?

Is true or it's not in your mind. Okay, so that after the song.

what you do, then I come upstairs and I make myself a campus, a apple cider vinegar and a fresh squeeze orange juice.

Okay, like all together thing that similar to the farmers, switzerland, swiss l something, switzerland witcher, something like that, that my grandmother used to drink, my mom drinks, which is hot water, apple side of vinegar, a little bit honey.

And some women, will you have to mix the apple site of vinegar with something?

Because a takes? yes. okay. So now we've got our data.

And no, then I go and walk for five miles.

okay. Now this, I think, is really important. How long have you walked five miles a day?

Well, I used to run. I used to be a runner. Yep, and I think I stopped running when I was like seventy five and started walking. Okay, when did you start running?

A lot of the questions that we get because you are so physically fit and you look so Young, I mean, you're gonna be eighty six and most people peg you in your early seventies. And have you ever had any like faceless .

every now? Then I will have, you know, a shot here and there, but very often, and I have been lucky that way I ve never had a face.

Um so you walk five miles and you have walked five miles a day since i've known you and we've known each other almost thirty years and you get really gouge if you don't get your walk in.

If I don't exercise, I do get route, but don't you?

Well, some days.

Well, all things become a habit and you can do IT IT makes you kind of, you know, upset, yes, because it's something that you want to do and you is part of your routine.

It's what makes you feel like yourself. yeah. So I think this is a really important thing because you have walked or run five miles a day since I ve known you. And that is a core habit. And what do you notice about your about people that you know your age who have continued or who are mobile versus people who are more secondary?

Well, I think people that are more sedentary at my age, yeah I think they're depressed. I I mean, I have a lot of older friends that would not even admit that they're depressed, but they they don't go out there. They know you know there's always something wrong you know I won't done so on so today but looked the day is raining yeah as if raining as any do with their day.

Yes, true um but I have a lot of Younger friends and that's very important as you get older to have a lot of Younger friends. I have a lot of friends. That's also very important. I think being social is almost more important than exercise.

why?

Because IT makes you feel loved. And if you can wake up every day and know that you've got people that love you, you feel good about yourself.

We have a lot of people that write into the show who said they have no one. And if you were to talk directly to somebody who feels like they don't have anyone who loves them in their life, because i'm always surprised by the number of people who write in about this, what would would your advice be about how to get .

started without a skipping a beat? I would start by taking the hospital training, oh, and go and take care of somebody. Because who you take care of is gonna give you love and it's gonna make you feel so good about yourself.

Even if you don't have your neighbor or your friend, if they don't love you with the person that you are taking care of will love you, makes a very big difference. I've been doing hospice for over forty years, and you know, people say, I don't know how you do that. You know, these people are dying. IT is the most rewarding thing that you can do. And you know, your husband does IT, yeah.

what do you get out .

of IT a tremendous feeling of satisfaction that i've contributed to somebody y's life, you know, like duty, like I went and saw her this morning. And even if I only spend an hour, this is a very good friend, as you know of mind, who has parkinson's. You know, if I only came in for fifteen minutes, she's grateful.

You know, you just have to make the time. You can say that you're too busy. And so for the people that feel very lonely, that don't have anybody that love them, they can create love by taking care, somebody else.

That is such beautiful advice, because we do start to look outside ourselves and look for other people to fill in need. And what you're saying is the truth. Fill IT for yourself first in the way to bring more love into your life is to give IT to a perfect stranger in being part of the hospital community. That's an incredible piece of advice.

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Welcome back. I ml robbins, and I am here with my eighty five year old mother in law, judy. And by the way, she's here because you wanted to hear you add so many questions about how and eighty five woman could be walk in five miles a day and still had by steps. And so SHE is spilling her secrets for living a long vibrate and meaningful life. So judy, tell me more about your day.

Well, i'm active. Obviously, I play off a little bit.

In fact, you played eighteen holes today.

And I walk, I don't take a current.

So did you walk your five miles and then go play?

Okay.

because the walking eighteen holes serves IT. yes. okay. So you play golf. What else you do during the day?

I play bridge? Yeah, which I think is good for the mind. Yeah I have an organized group that plays at my house yeah um I have like forty women on the list, but I can only take sixteen so I arrange them.

So you have sixteen women that come and play bridge once a week at your house .

yes wow um and I do hospice. I go see judy and I I try and keep in touch with my grandchildren n and it's an interesting concept um because I think that older people and and believe me, i've thought about this, why don't they call me i'm old? Why don't my kids call me? Why don't they pick up the phone and say, you know, J, J, how are you but because I am healthy, yes, and I have my own social life, they wait for me to call them.

How are you and the in some ways that's um a good feeling rather than feeling sorry for myself that my kids don't call me right. Once they start calling me, I know it's because they're worried about me. And if they're starting to worried about me, then they know that I don't right.

I think there's a bigger takeaway for everybody, which is that so many people .

sit around and .

waste time and build up presents and stressed themselves by wishing things were different or wishing more people would care. And you don't sit around and do that, you have witnessed or someone who is focused on her life and as hard as IT may be as a grandparent or as a mother, to sit back and go out what they're busy. They have busy lives.

I'm not the center of their lives. They don't have to call me exactly if I want to have a close for connection. I have to create IT. And so I see you in every area of your life creating what you want and that you don't sit around and get angry about the fact that the grandkids might not call as much as they should or your sons might not call, or your daughter and laws might not call as much as you wish that they would. You've created this ability to basically give people the freedom to live their lives, to just pour the love out.

And if IT doesn't come back in the way that you want IT to come back in terms of the frequency of phone calls, you don't get your nickers in a pinch about IT. I don't never call you. And have you go have a her for you in a while? I don't. And we don't talk all that often ever really on the phone.

No, we don't.

I never call you.

No, we don't, but I understand that. Yeah, I mean, I get that you're busy woman. We texted. Yep, you know, you'll take command over and I come yep, you know everybody has their busy life. You just have to understand that you know, doesn't turn around you.

right? It's true. It's important. I noticed you a big reader. yes. Do you read every single day?

Yes, I listen to a book. Yeah, when I walk. okay. So I always got a book, an order table.

And why do you think that matters?

Because so I don't want to be in my head for all that time without something that was to. I tried that when we practice for the marathon. remember? Okay, oh my god, sixteen miles. I was like, no, I have to listen to a book and and IT gets me going, yeah, you know, I want to know what's happening. So as soon as I get out of the house and I start my book on my way.

well, it's also nice about that ever for those of you that like you don't have a lot of friends in your life, is that if you're listening to a book while you're out, you actually are with somebody, you're listening to the narrator, you are learning something, you're having input, which is very, very important when you're lonely and it's active input.

It's not you've sitting on the couch main lining a series alone in your house, you're out and about and moving. And it's true you are always listening to a book. Ever since i've known you, you've had books on tape in the car yeah now you've got books .

in your ears as you walk. I try and read every afternoon .

for an hour to if I can well um I want I just kind of hit some topics because I remember I took you to a bar class at this place where we rent a beach house every summer in the island. And every time we walk into a bark glass, you're lifting heavy weights than me. You are super bandy and stretchy, and you're sitting there pump up in the iron and your bye PS are bigger than mine and everybody is flared that you're as old as you are.

You and I once to a plank chAllenge, you had a plank at the age of eighty two for two and five minute. That's incredible. And so i've got questions from listers and people wants to know, have you always worked out, or did you start later in life?

No, I definitely started later in life. In my thirties, he started exercise. Children, I didn't, but that's exercise in itself.

Three kids, you know, yes, but no. I never had a routine. My husband, I started running in our thirties. How do you maintain .

the motivation to do IT everyday?

Guilt, what? yes. If I mean, you know how everybody talks about ten thousand steps, yes, I look at my forging phone to see whether I have done ten thousand steps. And if I have, and I feel guilty.

why do? Well, this is what psychologists called good guilt. Good guilt motivates you. yes. Why do you think ten thousand is the magic number?

I don't know. They write about that. I believe all that stuff. I right.

And what's your life? I believe that for you, read your times. I do. yes. What's your favorite way to stay active?

Well, getting up, like you say, right away and moving up, just moving. I have stairs. I have have three floors. And a lot of my older friends say, know, why would you get a condo with three floors? What the best thing and you can do, I will always walk the stairs, always my laundry down the lower level and my bedrooms up above.

What do you think is the biggest chAllenge to staying active as you age?

Just making to the routine. I would think that a chAllenge not to say, okay, well, I think i'll take a week off. Um I don't think that's a good idea. I don't either. You take a week off, then you can take ten days off, so I don't take days off.

What is your secret to staying Young at heart and Young in your mind?

Stand connected, staying connected to your friend, old friends. I've always had a man in my life. I've been very lucky about that.

What does that mean? I've always had a man in my life because how long are you married?

Forty five years. He died of cancer.

How old are you?

Sixty eight, kay and about a year and a half later I met a man um and I thought i'd fAllen in love and my children thought I was way too early for me to have a man in my life.

I didn't feel well.

you're not one of my boys.

I don't think first felt that way either.

Well, the other two did. And but I don't think they remember that can was sick for two years. That's true.

So I was alone for two years as far as having someone loving me. So I was with being up for a while, and we had our differences. And after two years, we went our separate ways.

And soon after that I met another guy who is local. And, you know, hans and I were together for ten years, ten years. Yeah, can you believe that? No, yeah, we were. wow.

But he's the nicer, sweetest man, as you know but he just doesn't have the energy that I have yeah and I was constantly, you know arrange all our social life and all our trips. We did a lot of traveling, but I was I was the one that was doing that. And so I eventually got him to move back into his own house and then down the line into a retirement community, which she's very happy.

And I still see him. And we're very good friends. Yes, my very friends love hands. And then I met another guy who is in town, and actually with me who met john. Yeah, I mean, I knew john, but I saw him at, I saw at this artist team you were there.

Oh, this is when I first moved here, and I was having constantly and hating my life. And yeah yeah, thinking I I I now going to a place where people live when they're about to die yeah I did realized that's where you .

meet you okay? Well, I didn't meet him. I already knew him. Okay, but um something else was happening later in the week.

I don't know some concert something and I saw I just want up to john and I said, would you like to go and he said, yeah, but he also had a girlfriend in canada. So that went on for a while. And then he gave up .

and he picked you up.

Yes, and so we're together and he makes me very happy and he has a lot of energy and he work is everything like when I do a dude branch, we just got back from a dude branch.

you know? Yes, so eighty five years old, the two of you go off on your first trip together and you go to a dude ranch in montana, where I understand you are learning how to heard cattle on horseback. Yeah.

we did. We did a cattle drive with awesome.

And you're not like a horse person. What how long had a been into a truly been a horse? so.

Forty years are right, so abstain, connected. But this goes be, but you went for a long period of time, not in relationship. So no.

I actually, I probably started seeing hands about a month .

after I broke up. Bill SHE ty.

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You're funny.

Yeah no, i'm very fortunate that way.

Yeah well, you create what you want yeah and you put yourself out there. And I also notice that connection to friends is very important, extremely important. Hey jude, we need to take a quick break and hear more from our sponsors.

But when we come back, I want you to share with us how you have stayed connected to your friends over the years. Even though you guys all live in parts of the world. I want you to fill those secret duty when we come back.

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Welcome back. I'm here with my eighty five year old mother in law, judy Robins, otherwise known as J J. J. J. Judy is a cute, and she's also a little energizer bunny spitfire who has managed to keep close relationships with lifelong friends.

And IT is one of the reasons why he says he has been able to create a meaningful purpose, or of in life. And so jude, what is the secret? I'm very impressed by the fact that you have stayed connected to the women that you raise your kids with, like the women that are your friends to this day are the women that you knew when my husband was a baby.

I mean, we're talking in fifty years here. So what is the secret? De.

well, I actually melt. I have to give you some credit here. You, because after candied, and I didn't have anybody in my life, and i'll never forget this either, before you started into the business, I ran IT up an apartment, new york, if you remember, oh yeah, by myself, which was a kind of a lonely experience, actually, because I would went to dinner by myself.

And but of course, as soon as people realize I an apartment, they started coming. But it's still been in a big city alone, can be very lonely, right? Because you see people everywhere.

Yeah, but I was right next to hudson river, so I was running and I took my bike. So I stayed active physically. But I remember mentioning you that I was gonna to florida.

I didn't know, you know, what I was going to do and you said, me, pick up the phone and call some your friends and make sure you have something on your calendar before you hit the ground in florida. I'll never forget that. And that made a difference because I had something look forward to yeah, otherwise I just had a blank slate and I probably .

could have felt pretty sorry for myself yeah but even even beyond that, you have kept in close touch with your women friends.

Very important to do that.

And how do you do that?

He picked up the phone and call me N. Um you know it's. Is so many people go around the back door and I anna, give you an example.

I have a good friend who has elsewhere as in SHE, Young and SHE admitted that he has alzheimer. So she's very open about IT. yep. And SHE recently her husband, or on the new drug, the alzheimer's struck by biog this winter. He was very glad that he did, and he was glad that he was on IT.

Three days ago, SHE went out to lunch with a very good friend of mine and said to her friend and my friend, you know, I just had a physical, and i'm one hundred percent alright. I don't have alzheimer's really. So obviously she's coming all away around into the denial, which he wasn't before.

So this is when I, this is my point, surely said, do you think I should call martia and tell her marsh have been a good friend? And I said, what? Why would you do that? Why don't you call bob her husband? Why do you go directly to bob? He might already know that, he said that, but he might not and say to him, I just had lunch with cane, and this is what he said.

And this is what's so important in life, is that if you have a good friend that you wanna talk to, you talk to them. Don't talk to your other friend. That's a friend of your friend.

right?

You know, if you want to talk to somebody on the phone, call them. And I don't think a lot of people do that.

They talk about their friends, but they don't talk to their friends. That's right. yeah. If you're thinking about somebody, pick up the phone and call them. If you have something that you're concerned about, pick up the phone and call them. Don't talk about what you're concerned about.

Well, we have another friend that has is now into dementia, but is not in IT. And the scary thing is that they are thinking, maybe your husband has IT too, and I haven't said anything, but i'm thinking that I need to go to sale and say to her, are you worried about yourself because everybody y's talking about her, but nobody is talking to her.

And maybe he would say to me, what are you talking about? I'm fine, right? Or maybe sh'd break down and say it's true. I don't know what i'm really doing yeah because he doesn't wow.

There is one other thing that I would love to touch on, because service has been such an enormous part of your life, and volunteering after your human, and forty five years can died, you moved to cambodia. Well, I didn't move. Or what did you do? You did something that is just incredible.

Well, I went on a bike trip to to vietnam, and I visited campo dia, and I fell in love. I fell in love with the people in cambodia. So I said, and I was with bill at the time, I said i'm going to come back here and teach english. And so I got a hold of this N G O cambodia, a living arts, and asked them if they could find me some place where I could see, which is really quite busy. Since I don't know anything about teaching, I just know I know how to talk english or speak.

I know he talks english well .

everybody but that's IT anyway um yeah they got me a position in the school that um the kids go to a regular school but they come here to learn english after school. yep. And I mean, I had monks in that class. I had mothers in the school. I mean I had, oh my god, I was historical.

How many years did you go to cambodia? Six years. You'd live there for almost three months and teach seven days a week.

Plus your daughter came, and our daughter, and when he was an eighth grade, went over and felling, like felling love. And she's actually on our way back because of that experience as we speak. wow.

Talk to us about staying Young at heart. And because every at the heart of every one of these stories, there's very similar things. You have to create what you want your life.

right?

You connection is incredible, and you have this wonderful sense of humor about you. Or you just try IT like you don't even stop yourself. And thank well, how is gonna work on moving to cambodia? Sixteen, nine years old.

I'm going to do this alone and I I don't even know what i'm doing like I was just gonna where where I got you just like, okay, let's do this. We're going to figure that out so how do you stay Young at her? What do you think that's about?

Well, I go back again about .

living in the .

moment and I I don't take any day for granted that I have. I mean, i'm really grateful for every day I have .

yeah and that's the .

only thing I can say. I mean, I think most people live their lives like, well, of course, they'll be tomorrow, yesterday. We'll be tomorrow.

They'll be next week. I can do this so I can do that well, who is to say we have a friend who just without his motorcycle? bingo.

Yeah so that keeps me um positive because I am grateful. I I am so grateful. First of all, I have a fabulous life.

I am incredible family, all these grandchildren. I'm not sick, you know i'm heavy. I have all my news and all my heaps. So i'm very grateful you don't have .

your hair between your life. so.

Well, some people .

pay for brazilian. So but seriously, there's a lot of people around the world that have their health, that have great family, that have friends around them and they're miserable. Well.

because they're expecting something else that they don't have and there is nothing else. You have what you have right now at the moment and don't expect anything more. And I think people live in a lot of disappointment because they think about what they d like to have or what their neighbor has or something other than what they have this moment. And that creates the stress because if there's something out there that you want and you don't have IT that's stressed in itself.

right? What is also amazing about that perspective is if you're not happy and grateful for the things that you have now, why on earth do you think you're gonna happy and grateful when you get something you don't have?

And how do you know you have IT?

Yeah, like you need to learn how to appreciate everything on the way, exactly. And until you do that, you're never gonna happy. No, because you're always going to be expecting something more and wanting something more and then think that you deserve more. And that mindset also keeps you from not only appreciating everything that threat in front of you like the day that you have, but IT also makes you as somehow I like, prevents you from realizing you can create IT like you can learn how to wake up every day and be grateful for this day and just put your head down and do the work to create what you want.

Be thanks for what you do have. Don't think about what you wish you had, I will always remember. And I think this is true of every little, every child.

My mother used to say, you know, you gona wish your life away because we'd say, oh, I wish I could have. I wish I could do. I wish I could go, you know, as a child, we're always wishing, SHE said, you gona wish your life away. Well, what do you wishing for? Just be grateful for what you have write this minute.

Does who knows what you're .

wishing for might not be right anyway. True.

it's true. And as soon as you wish for something else, you're rejecting what you have.

exactly. There are .

anything else that you, anna, share or that you can think of mistakes that you think people make.

I think one other things that I think about when we talk about staying in the moment is that. We don't realize that the process that we're going through in life, it's really the most exhilarating. The best part is the process.

It's not getting there so often, whether you're building a house or whether you are going on vacation, it's the process you think about, oh my gosh, you know, when we go, we're going to do a do french and we're going to do this and we're going to do that. It's the anticipation is so exciting, right? And then once you're there is like, oh, okay um. So it's it's the wishing, don't wish for something else. Just be so thankful for what you have right now.

Judie Robins, everybody. She's gonna eighty six and she's drop in knowledge. Go, judy, I love you. I love you.

I love you. I love you too. You know.

one reason why I love you so much, judge, is because you are a child at heart and you've got a lifelong learner, and you have been an inspiration to me, because you have proven to me IT doesn't matter how old or Young you are, you have everything that you need to do the work to create, the life, the friendships, the mindset and the daily habits that you want in your life.

Stop waiting around for other people to do IT for you and wake up every day and be grateful that you have this day. And yes, i'm talking to you, whatever IT is that you've been putting off, whatever griping you've been doing, whatever IT is that you think you need to achieve in order to be happy. I hope you take everything we talked about today to heart, and I hope you start waking up and being grateful for what you have.

I hope you don't wish your life away. I hope you make today the day where you say that's IT. I'm going to wake up every day. I am going to create a morning routine that works for me. I'm gona stay close to my friends and if I don't have any friends, i'm gna reach out.

I'm going to volunteer at hospital, or i'm going to do something that makes somebody else feel Better, because that will bring what's missing in my life to me, by me, by doing something for somebody else. I got so much out of today's conversation. You can reinvent yourself whenever you want to listen up.

Your age isn't stopping you from doing anything. Your excuses are now, I love you. I believe in you. Get out there and go create the less that you want. As I need you here, we're doing life together, and I want your life to be long, happy and fulfilling so we can lock arms and do IT together outside in a few days.

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I think that sounds prety sexy. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. Hi, here you go.

All right, you got to hold the mike up to your beautiful mouth with your gorgeous pank lipstick, but hold the make up to earth. Woman, why do you take a promise? I don't a talking to the, why do you take a probiotic here? You can look at me.

but just make sure the microphone OK one minute to .

when eighty five member.

we had my birthday. We celebrated my birthday late .

all in my house last year. We grow your part. Yes, yes.

Oh my god. See, i'm losing my mind and i'm only fifty four. Not fun. The thing is fun.

okay?

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