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How to Get What You Want Every Time: 3 Steps to Negotiate Anything With Anyone

2025/5/22
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Mel Robbins: 我认为很多人需要帮助，但因为害怕冲突而不去寻求。生活中有很多令人沮丧的情况，但人们常常觉得保持沉默更容易。沉默解决不了问题，需要找到合适的方式来提出需求。人生中最美好的事物往往出现在艰难对话之后，而且被尊重比被喜欢更重要。因此，我们应该学习一种简单的方法来进行这些对话，因为被尊重比被喜欢更重要。 Kwame Christian: 我认为人生中最美好的事物往往出现在艰难对话之后，大多数人一生都在避免这些对话。最重要的是要与自己进行艰难的对话，要克服恐惧、焦虑和自我怀疑。通过一次又一次的艰难对话，人们可以改善人际关系和事业，并活出最好的自己。为了被他人喜欢而牺牲自己，最终会导致不认可自己。因此，我们应该开始尊重自己的情感，因为情感是心灵告诉我们什么才是最重要的。获得尊重不仅仅是获得他人的尊重，也包括尊重自己。

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Mel Robbins welcomes Kwame Christian, CEO of the American Negotiation Institute, to discuss how to have difficult conversations and get what you want. They explore the reasons why people avoid these conversations, highlighting the importance of respect over being liked.
  • Avoiding hard conversations damages relationships and self-respect.
  • It's more important to be respected than liked.
  • There's a three-step framework to navigate any conflict.

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Right now, there’s something you want. 

Maybe you need help at home, more support from your partner, or it’s time to set a boundary at work. 

But you’re avoiding the conversation. Why? Because it feels hard. You don’t want conflict, you don’t want to upset anyone, and you just don’t know how to bring it up. 

That ends today. 

The greatest things in life are on the other side of hard conversations. 

And in this episode, you will learn the 3 simple steps to have any difficult conversation and get exactly what you want. 

Mel sits down with world renowned negotiation expert Kwame Christian, CEO of the American Negotiation Institute, to break down exactly how to approach the conversations you’ve been avoiding. 

Whether you want to negotiate a raise, ask your partner to step up, or finally tell your friend what’s bothering you, this episode is your crash course in how to advocate for yourself. 

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

-Why avoiding hard conversations is damaging your relationships (and your self-respect) 

-How to handle someone’s emotional reaction without losing your cool 

-The 3-step “Compassionate Curiosity” framework to navigate ANY conflict 

-Why it’s more important to be respected than liked (and how to make that shift) 

-How to negotiate at home, at work, and even with your landlord

-How to stand up for yourself without starting a fight 

If you’ve been staying silent, stewing in resentment, or dreading confrontation, this episode will give you the confidence and skills to speak up and change your life. 

You deserve respect. This is your roadmap to get it. 

For more resources, click here) for the podcast episode page. 

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