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Raw and Refreshing Advice on Navigating Anxiety, Insecurity, Popularity, & Peer Pressure in Your Teenage and 20-Something Years

2023/9/14
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Mel Robbins
一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Oakley Robbins
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Oakley Robbins: 本节讨论了青少年和年轻男性处理愤怒和负面情绪的方式,以及如何与他们沟通。Oakley 指出,男性通常倾向于独处来处理情绪,而不是直接表达。他建议父母在孩子准备好沟通时,以轻松的方式询问他们的感受,并尊重他们需要独处的时间。他还分享了自身经验,说明在一天结束或清晨,青少年通常不愿意与人交流,因为他们需要时间来处理一天的压力和情绪。 Mel Robbins: Mel 补充说明了青少年不愿与父母交流的社会原因,即社会普遍认为表达情绪是软弱的表现。她建议父母在孩子愿意倾诉时,询问他们是否需要建议或只是倾听,并尊重孩子的选择。 Mel Robbins: 本节讨论了如何帮助青少年处理小团体行为和同伴压力。Oakley 分享了自身经验,说明小团体通常具有排外性,而朋友群则更包容。他建议青少年应该选择那些能够给予他们信任、安全感和快乐的朋友,而不是那些仅仅追求受欢迎程度的朋友。他还分享了自身经历,说明真正的朋友会在你受到伤害时支持你。 Mel Robbins: Mel 补充说明了如何帮助孩子应对言语霸凌。她建议父母不要直接介入霸凌者的家庭或学校,而应专注于支持孩子,并帮助孩子练习应对言语霸凌的技巧。她还强调了与孩子沟通的重要性,并建议父母询问孩子需要什么帮助,并提供支持。

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This chapter explores the challenges parents face in getting their teens to open up, especially when they are upset. It discusses the societal norms that discourage boys from expressing emotions and offers practical advice on how to approach these conversations.
  • Boys often feel societal pressure to suppress emotions, viewing them as a sign of weakness.
  • Teens need time to process their emotions and may not be ready to talk immediately after an upsetting event.
  • Parents should acknowledge their child's feelings and ask if they want to talk or need advice.

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Lately, I’ve been getting a ton of questions from listeners about how to best support high schoolers and 20-somethings. There are lots of questions about anxiety, peer pressure, and getting young adults to open up. 

So, in this episode, I have a pile of your questions in front of me as my son, Oakley, and I go through them rapid-fire style, so you get both of our perspectives on the topics everyone worries about but is too afraid to talk about.

I have to say, Oakley really showed up for this conversation for you. He has hilarious and heartfelt thoughts on topics he has first-hand experience with. 

We cover it all. From academic pressure to body image to bullying, this conversation is full of tools and strategies and is raw, unfiltered, and filled with relatable stories (and only a few f-bombs).

You will learn:

  • What teens and 20-somethings really need (and don’t need) from their parents.
  • (If you only get one thing from this episode, make it this…) How to encourage the young men in your life to open up.
  • The ONLY thing you need to do when your young adults come home in a bad mood.
  • How to get unhooked from toxic popularity and cliques and find your people in school or in life.
  • 3 smart strategies to use when your child is getting bullied that will strengthen your bond with your kid.
  • An 18-year-old's surprising take on when to give your kid a cellphone.
  • The must-use hacks for introverts who want to be more confident in school.
  • How to get your kid to do chores (and still like you).
  • Strategies for handling your kid’s anxiety without yelling or freaking out.
  • The best way to navigate curfews and late-night parties with your teen.

 

I can’t wait for you to hear this. I loved the questions and the advice. And as a mom, I couldn’t be more proud of Oak for how much wisdom he shared.I’d love for you to listen with your teens and 20-somethings. In fact, at the end of the episode, Oakley gives specific advice (including exactly what to say) to get your kids to listen. 

Xo, Mel

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • 1:20: Why is it so hard to get my teen to open up to me?
  • 4:00: Your kids need quiet time at these two times of the day.
  • 7:22: Here’s what to say to start a conversation with your child.
  • 9:30: How should your kids handle clique groups?
  • 11:00: How can you tell who "your" people are?
  • 12:15: Three strategies to help your kid deal with hurtful behaviors.
  • 17:30: What teens need (and *don’t *need) from their parents.
  • 21:45: At what age do you think your teen should have a phone?
  • 23:30: My high school senior has no idea what she wants to major in.
  • 26:00: Two best hacks for introverted teens everywhere.
  • 28:45: How can you help your kids find their friends?
  • 34:00: My teen is a senior in high school, but he still has chores at home.
  • 36:30: Oakley gives you a peek into his own anxiety to help your anxious teen.
  • 41:20: How do you reassure your kid when he’s dyslexic?
  • 42:45: The gold-standard tutoring program we used to help Oakley with his dyslexia.
  • 44:20: Two simple hacks that have made a big difference for Oakley in school.
  • 45:30: The two qualities I think of first when it comes to curfews.
  • 47:00: Here was my #1 desire for my Vermont home when it came to my kids.
  • 49:40: I literally sat Oakley’s friends down and laid down two rules for hanging out.
  • 52:40: So how do you get your teen to listen to this interview?

 

 

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