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Research From Princeton: 13 Proven Hacks That Boost Your Influence & Make You More Confident

2023/8/10
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Vanessa Van Edwards: 本书的核心观点是魅力并非与生俱来,而是可以通过学习和练习来提升的技能。魅力的本质在于同时展现高温暖度和高能力,这两种特质能够让人们对你产生信任和依赖。研究表明,人们对你的评价82%取决于你的温暖度和能力,因此提升魅力对个人的职业发展和人际关系都至关重要。 在虚拟会议中,展现双手、保持合适的摄像头距离以及避免使用疑问语气等技巧能够有效提升你的魅力。此外,缓慢的三次点头、倾斜头部以及一些声音上的表达,这些都是可以传递温暖感的肢体语言。在邮件沟通中,使用温暖的语言,例如“合作”、“连接”等,能够促进积极的互动。 内向者在肢体语言方面常犯的错误包括:假笑、缺乏眼神交流等。假笑会破坏你的声誉,因为它无法传递真实的积极情绪。因此,建议内向者学习使用其他温暖的肢体语言,例如缓慢的三次点头、倾斜头部等。 Mel Robbins: 本期节目的核心在于帮助听众提升个人魅力和影响力,从而在职业和生活中取得更大的成功。节目中邀请了行为调查员、肢体语言专家Vanessa Van Edwards,她分享了基于普林斯顿大学研究的13个实用技巧,帮助人们提升自信,建立信任,获得成功。这些技巧涵盖了虚拟会议、面试、薪资谈判等多个场景,并强调了温暖和能力在人际交往中的重要性。

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Vanessa Van Edwards explains the concept of charisma and its importance in personal and professional success.
  • Charisma is not about extroversion or attractiveness but about signaling warmth and competence.
  • Highly charismatic people are perceived as trustworthy and reliable.
  • Charisma can be learned and improved through specific social signals.

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In this episode, you’re getting a crash course in 13 essential hacks that will help you be more successful, and they’re backed by surprising research out of Princeton.

 

Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of the behavior lab The Science of People, a behavioral investigator, body language expert, and bestselling author who specializes in the kind of science-based people skills most of us never hear about.

 

Vanessa’s research proves that anyone can learn these practical skills, earn the trust of others around them, and become more confident, competent, and reliable.

 

News flash: You don’t have to be an extrovert to be successful.

 

Whether you want to be a better leader, land your dream job, achieve big goals, or align your life with what you want, this is the episode for you.

 

Listen, and you'll learn:

 

  • 3 things you must do in the first ten seconds of a Zoom call to appear trustworthy and reliable
  • How to nail any interview by building unstoppable confidence
  • Why do you keep getting passed over for a promotion?
  • The words you need to get the bonus or raise you deserve
  • Why a second impression is just as important as the first
  • How a fake smile will ruin your reputation
  • The simple mistake we all make when asking for what we want
  • How do you spot a liar?

 

 

This is an encore episode that is packed with tools, tips, and scripts to boost your chances of success. With new and exciting insights from me at the top of the episode, you will leave feeling more confident for your next interview, first date, or wherever you are upleveling in your life. 

 

You owe it to yourself to learn how to cultivate unstoppable confidence and influence, and you can do that in just a few minutes. 

 

Xo, Mel 

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

2:23: The shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up.

4:50: What exactly IS charisma and what does it look like?

6:58: Why high achievers can’t just rely on their intelligence.

8:15: Two types of awkward people and how to tell.

14:14: Are you highly competent? Look for these three signs.

16:42: What highly competent people are missing.

21:27: What highly warm people are missing.

23:58: The ONE thing you need to do in the first 10 seconds of your Zoom call.

28:06: A simple test that will help you figure out how charismatic you are.

32:10: The reason why you keep getting passed over for that promotion.

40:08: Why you should never fake a smile. 

46:02: Three ways you can start building your charisma today.

47:42: Why a second impression is as important as the first.

51:07: Five silent cues to command respect in any situation.

 

 

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