Stop Taking Things So Seriously: A Hilarious Story About Wedgies, Wardrobe Failures, Art Museums, & Having More Fun
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Hey, each friend. Ml, and welcome to the male Robin. Let's do that. I am so excited for today.

I came run up the stairs above the government here in our studio and verbal, and boy boy do I have a story to tell. Not only you, but i'm sitting here with my friends and colleagues, amy and Jessie. Hello, hello.

okay. So I think we're to call this a jump on a mike kind of episode because this is going to be super random. But I promise you there is a point to IT.

I have a freking hilarious story to tell you guys. IT involves a water of failure. Yes, that is super embarrassing and really, really funny.

Ready for? Yeah okay. So first of all, I have a question for everybody. Is there any Better feeling than taking your at the end of the day, no period.

That's a let loose feeling.

yes. Would you describe that? Like you literally reach back on hock?

Yeah, it's a do you ever get like the H I like u you just want to rub under knees. Like you just want to just .

a little shake, shake and loose. Yeah yes, yes. There's it's a good thing.

It's like IT just is like a giant.

yeah. I you .

know what I wonder .

do do have a black. Do they have like a let loose moment? They might always .

be loose.

A serious question, is there a moment for a guy that feels as freeing as unhooking new bra?

I think, like you think about a guy in traditional sense, coming home from work, walk through the door. First thing that is.

I don't think, what about a belt? A belt I would say if the belt is quite tight and I told him a lot in, that would probably be like, god, yeah, I just heard my husband polin there is I have to ask for, is about this. I'm going to call him right now.

Yeah, I tell him to come up here. A copy has his cell phone on because Normal, he doesn't. Did you wear shape or you're wedding? Jessie, I did not wear shape by him. Isn't that when everybody does this.

you're wedding night. You're going to have some quick, easy access after that, right?

We can be.

we can be scrambled to get that off. One thing to get the dress and then like that's gonna super glue after a night.

No way that's true. It's like this is sausage thing that you're going .

to be bop tape, but that's fine.

Here he comes. Hi, hey, baby. Yes, okay. So we got a question for you. What's up? There is almost no Better feeling for a woman then to take her brow off. At the end of the day, what is the equivalent for dude?

Of removing a piece of a peril.

just freedom like you, just like.

well, I didn't play a lot of football, but I would imagine removing a jx strap would be a little bit like that.

What about your bike shorts? So you've been out for a seventy mile ride. You wearing a pair of padded bike shorts, your.

my roes like on the.

when you know that off a.

what do I feel like my balls heard and all deal yes, yeah, that feels pretty really. yeah. The amount of sort of abuse that my nuts are taking in the sadder on a bike ride is very different than your breasts over the course of a day, right?

Why I know that's why I am asking you.

what do you think he does all day?

I don't know where the breast. Well, there's some feeling associated with removing the brazil.

Yeah well, I just figured your your balls or your dool debts that you call them sometimes that they just kind of drop .

a little and that feels very freeing yeah like I said, no different than well, I guess for you wearing banks there's nothing dropping um right it's just but yeah, that's a good feeling.

I would love to know for you listening is there something that we're missing here that you feel is that moment .

of its just like at the .

end of the day, I you guys are so a creative and uh very a sort of interesting in your insights about these things and so I guarantee you you're missing a couple so I can't wait to hear what you write about. But the reason i'm telling you this story is because yesterday I experienced a moment of body .

freedom that was.

I would say, maybe twenty five times more liberating than taking a bus off at the end of the freedom. Yes, IT also involves a major water failure. Um so let me tell you the story.

okay. And as I tell you the story, I would love for you to think about some order of failure that maybe you've said because he seems to happen to me all the time. I don't know what IT is that. So here's here's a habit so my a daughters have recently introduced me to shape are um i'm a huge fan of Sarah likely yeah the founder banks I love her story but i've never been sorry for a huge fan shape ware.

And one of the reasons why is because when spanks first came out and this is not like a slam on banks, but when they first came out and I bought a highway to pair a bike shorts, they could be gas. I don't know that's like a news. I don't know that's me.

But I felt like the compression was so compressed or maybe I bought the wrong size that I felt gassy and crappy all day wearing shape ware. So I thought, OK, i'm getting gas. I have crap.

It's sort of like the same thing as when you were really high wasted pants and you sit down and it's like a turn a kid on your stomach. Yes, yes. So I probably just bought the wrong style and work with the wrong thing.

yeah. So I have not worn shape ware. You guys wear shape are I did. I have yeah.

And then we moved to her mind.

you don't need IT up.

That's strong. yeah. You really don't .

let everything.

No, yeah. yeah. Just no, I still have that.

I can almost guarantee you that if I were bring in and show IT to you and you were to take the waste and and just kind of like flex little a little bit would probably disintegrate because I just have never wear IT.

Yeah, yeah. So here's what happened. My daughter candles up, and I asked her who had helped go through my closet because I am trying to get rid of close IT don't fit. And so I was trying on close. And my daughter came to this conclusion that the reason why I hate my cloth is because I have no shape ware and I have sagi brows.

So she's saying, shape, where is essential? And he .

pulled up the internet, and SHE went to hold up the yet he went to skins, which is kim Carter asians line. And you know, if anybody other than terrible likely is gonna shape ware, kim kasia seems like the perfect person to do that. And we ordered about your stuff.

So IT arrives. IT comes in this box. I pull this stuff out.

I kid you not. IT looks like Barbie clothing. That's how small IT is.

I pulled this out. I like, this is not gonna IT me. Did you order the children and size? She's like, mom, this is perfect.

This exactly how looks I like, are you kidding me? I can't fit my body in this. And so SHE coaches me through getting IT on. And basically you stretch IT like to kind loosing IT up a little Better. Yeah, yes, I had to.

And then, you know, I stepped into IT and you sort of like yang IT up on your body and it's a lot like pulling sausage casing up over your body. Very thin stretches out. I put IT on SHE ordered me the song, okay, which I probably would not have done.

But I gotto give props to kim kardashian because the song was not a string. IT actually was like a landing strip. There was enough theirs, but I was not going to go right up my rear end.

And so I put IT on, and I looked in the mayor, and I like dying this. This looks pretty good. Not, not a life. What did you think about the schemes that the body suit?

They look good. IT looks kind of uncomfortable to me. He looks kind. Little date.

not sure I would .

go with that.

Here's the mistake I made. I tried IT on and like, this is great. And then I took IT off. And when on with my life, I didn't walk around in IT, I didn't sit down in IT. I didn't test IT.

For real life, you have to test .

driver underwear. That is actually.

yeah, you do. yeah. Well, I did not know this.

yeah. So I an ward, the story. And Chris, you've heard this horror before.

So if you want to blaze right now is a great time to bounce. But first, I just want to thank you for coming up. So thank you, honey.

We love you. Ladies and gentleman, Christopher, her, a thanks for representing. Yes, awesome for the okay, you too ready for this? Ready for me to go back to the story? Oh, oh my god.

okay. So I was in boston because I was invited by a friend to go to this, a fundraiser at the institute of contemporary art that was celebrating women artists. And I was so excited to go, I thought, OK, this would can be a cool group of people, and really coal group of women.

Yeah, I A cool.

And so I pull out a pair of black pants that I have not worn in probably eight years. Day now the day, now the day. And they're very like stretchy fabric, and they were the kind of pants that I war when I had to go into corporate setts.

So really nicely tailored. You can see everything in the rear end. And like, this would be a great moment to wear my body suit. yeah.

right? Yeah, and i've also pulled out a sweater that is a ripped sweater. So it's tight, right? And the sweater is is the baldest colors so i'm going like the pop are, look, i've got a black pants.

I've got a black heeled boots and i've got on this tight rib sweater 在， is bold stripes. I look like human cautious tape. IT is White, and then IT is yellow, and then IT is Brown.

great. Yeah, yeah. And the shape were pulled IT all in.

And my, this is great. I look like I support art. I S really cool, but not pretentious.

I got like the pop thing going. The color is all springing. yes.

And so I get in the car. Things are really good. I'm listening to great music.

Things are really good. I get downtown, the boston. Things are really good. I find a parking space in a parking garage a couple blocks away from the ica. Things are really good.

I get out of the car and going from sitting to standing up sort of made the body suit go from really good to not so great because that fung started to turn into O I get out of the car and I tried to reach back and pull IT down a little volume in the parking garage right ah and hand job but I don't know that right plot plus the thing is five minutes so I I got to go. So I stick my hand down the back of my pants and try to just like move IT down. Yes, and that works.

That works. Well, I am embarrassed to tell you what I did next, but i'm not telling you until after a break. Oh, my god. So no, don't go anywhere. This is where sticking around for we ll be right back.

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Okay, welcome back. It's red ml. I'm here with amy and Jesse. And I was just telling you how I was wearing this new compression wear body suit for the very first time. And IT was looking and I was feeling great, great guys.

And I was driving in the boston, and things are really good. But as soon as I stood up, I have this giant, painful wedge in this public parking garage. And is, Jessie says, in order to unlock that kind of body suit way, that is a good hand job.

So being a new bie to this sort of situation, I did not know that. And so we are at the part of my story where I am sticking my hand down the back of my pants, and I just to push the thongs part down, to move IT down a little. And what do you think I did next? Did you watch your hints? Now, I smell IT. I know you gna say that.

No.

he did not smell that. And like, okay, okay, so. You.

and yes, let me tell you something. what? Yes, but why? Why are we doing this?

Why are we you I am about to walk into an event where i'm going to see my friends. yeah. And I don't want to give them a hug if I have poo pants yeah but not like actual pop. But I don't want my hand to smell like that yeah I can't .

say I ever smell someone's hand though.

I know, but I just felt like smell. There's something like not cool really everybody what somebody what is somebody that I don't know is standing next to one of my friends and I hug my friend and I keep my hand off of my friend. But then somebody goes, it's nice to meet you and then .

extend your hand well.

it's on you for .

not principles. So I just wanted like I wanted have a clear conscious and walking into this.

Yes like checking your breath yes yeah like just do that. Yeah I get IT is .

related. Think it's actually a very concise ious thing .

to do is true. That is true. It's conscientious. But also a lot of people wouldn't admit that. So props to you for just telling all the details .

of the story. okay. So i'm like, okay, i'm good. I have five minutes to get two city blocks to an advance is about to begin yeah and so I start to walk. And as i'm what's a called forward ambulation, that's what the neuroscientist call IT.

I'm forward ambulating as I walk and as i'm walking and i'm walking like i'm lake because about to be late, i'm realizing as i'm walking, this chicken body suit is starting to slowly inch up and the body suit is starting to give me a simultaneous wedged in the front, in the back, which basically means I had both a cameo and a piece of floss that was starting to go up and up and up like a hammer from the front to the back. And so now I can't stride IT out because I A split myself and half. And so now i'm as fast as I possibly can.

Yes, I don't want a big stride. And I huffle into the ica and there is my friend, and I walk right up to, and I give her a big hug, and I whisper in her ear, i've got a giant wedge in my body suit. I've got to find that.

But where's the bathroom? Just like, oh my god. Oh god, that's the worst feeling like a pointed things got save you. okay. And I H my god.

I love you. Do you love her? Yes, yes.

So I huffle to the bathroom. This thing is so far up me that I dropped my pants to the floor. And to your point, I see, this is a two your hand.

We've been over there. Yeah, yes, I have to grab both sides, front and back. I didn't start there.

Oh, you started on your side. Create what? And some extra. This body .

suit showed itself to you as a, as a Barbie outfit. You got to expand. IT was like, IT was like the pumpkin turned into a carriage and then all of the sudden it's snap back to barbi suit, yes.

At the right time, yes. And so right back to the pumpkin and you haven't even got ten to the dance yet. And you're like, this, this is a difficult situation.

I get I sides thing. You need the slack. Yes, I think I was a good strategy.

Yeah, you pull down. Yes.

because I wanted .

a couple inches. Yes, OK. And plus something basically like rolled up almost like a string, right? Because I was so nice, I have to flat the landing strip backup ts IT doesn't do IT again.

I just wanted tell you my heart is racing for this start. Like i'm really feeling this like i'm a little bit starting to sweat is is very related.

Yes, you know, here's the thing and I have to give myself props. The old me would have just been like embarrassed and like walking on to anything and and I just was like, this is the crazy. I was laughing at myself. And I think that's yes, so important in life to be able to whispers in your friends here that you got a weg to be able to laugh at yourself as you're in a bathroom in like what you think is the best art forward outfit you've ever put on in a brand new body stuff that you've never tested like a real life situation. Yeah, I am yanking IT down on the sides to give me a couple extra inches so that I can straight out the middle and get IT reposition their place and snapping IT was not an option because what happens when you and snap body suit?

Uh, I the snaps s hate your teeth a goes.

yeah basically rolls up like a window shade and plus thing like, I was afraid if I am snapp ed, it's going to hang out the front in the back and god knows that I got stuff on IT because I don't have want .

to wear on and I like .

this is a this is been yeah you don't know yes and so I get IT all positioned and the problem is, is that now as i'm pulling IT down, it's pulling off my boobs .

no no like it's not on your boobs anymore no and I yes.

I so I now look like, what is the in the Polly girl .

swear so .

you can see the nipples, es and everything else i'm like yanking this thing oh, what I try to struck IT out I finally, you know, I didn't even occur to me I could have .

just taken .

enough and beyond IT .

did even occur me would never ccr to me .

that you don't want .

to .

be .

that point you so I am get IT opposition ed, I of course .

wash .

my hands. Good, everyone. yes.

And I go to the launch on and what's .

your attitude like i've got this or you like A A world .

of bunch people because like, I think it's hilarious and I think everybody, I think everybody.

and I think a lot of times people look at you are like, wow, no, he doesn't give shit. She's got to go, what a bad, as I think that's true. And then I I have to give me to email you. Take IT up a note. Not only do you not give a shit, but you you make fun, you say you, you let everybody .

in on the jail tell people. I think an interesting point that you just made about the kind of distinction between not giving a shit versus being able to laugh at yourself because they are related. But it's a different thing, and I think both are really important.

The not giving a shit part is the ability to whisper in your friends here yeah that you have a wedding right now and to tell people the disaster just happened to the bathroom yeah right. And that is one layer that I think is really important. And the second thing though, which has been very freeing for me, is just like listening the grip and being able to laugh at these moments.

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yes, but professional, you know, IT wasn't like you were set on the couch.

your girlfriend. But there's all this research about leadership and teams when IT comes to having a sense of humor. Now I would not tell your boss you had a song.

What do that? Yeah, but I think there's a lot cured impact. And by the way, i'm not done with the store.

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Welcome back. It's your friend mal. And i'm here with my colleagues and friends, amy and Jesse and our studios, and we're doing a jump on the my episode, which basically means I rolled in here hot with a story to tell and now we're making some of IT.

But I was just talking about this wardrobe malfunction and how having a sense of humor is such an asset in life. Where were we? So here, here we are.

And then we got to get to the humor things. I think that the big take away here, yeah laugh, laugh, laugh at yourself. You have to be able to laugh at yourself um because the second you start laughing at a situation, this is the most ridiculous thing i've got myself into.

Why do you always do this yourself? Melt like you can go two different ways, right? I could either be shuffling toward this museum, beating myself up, buying the wrong size, always getting IT wrong, screwing things up, running late, or I can be laughing at myself, yeah, at how ridiculous.

Of course, i've done this to myself. Of course I would have a thong at my ask the first time I am going to this really nice thing. And of course i'm having a massive water problem. But so this is that all. So as i'm sitting at the lunching, IT is slowly starting this up again.

No why you're sitting.

And so as we walk back to the parking garage and with a friend on my closest friends, lisa, and she's just like, stop picking at that. You stop picking at that just on nap the day. And I can have the thing can, in a public space, happy body suit.

And a direct way is next to impossible. no. And so my only choice is to try to pick at IT. And so we get down to the parking garage. Thank god we ve got to hear car first.

One of to walk that far and SHE drives me to my car so that I don't have to keep dealing with this. I get out of the thing, and I opened up my car door and step behind IT. I mean, I do something i'm not going to like, drop my pants. You make least a watches. So I literally unsnapped .

IT rolls .

up like a window shade .

question, are your pants still down?

Are you able to do with your pants around and take my pants like down? They're down. And I if you think taking a bra off or a pair of bike shorts off, yeah, for you gentleman out there feels liberating.

Try on snapping a sung body suit that's too small. While you ate, poach salmon and a spiral, I just wanted to stand there for a minute with my legs, shoulder with the part. You just yes, I just it's expansion .

from all sides.

Not it's .

like you that is the definition of let loose yeah, yeah, yeah.

You let IT all lose. And sure enough, I button my pants back up. I step out from a side, the side, the door. I shut the door. Lisa is laughing hysterically.

Ally, because now, of course, I have the front part hanging down in front, and the back part like a tail, and she's laughing and i'm laughing. And i'm like, you've got to take a picture of this. You ve got to take a picture of this.

Student like this is hilarious. I had to remember this. And so SHE goes, why I got to back the car? Rup, so I get a good angle.

And on my goco so SHE searched, backing the car. P, I can make this up and SHE freaking hits a parking pile. So now i'm doubled over laughing with the unsnapped body suit hanging out of my pants.

And i'm like, what should I do? What should I do? And she's like, just step over there and strike a pose.

So I kind of put my ARM up on my head. I look like this exasperated freedom. Look SHE snap a photo.

And when we look at IT, we cannot believe IT. I got to show you there's this only gamma. I want you to look at the sign that is above me and ad to everybody.

Caution, dead end.

And it's in black and White, yellow. And my sweater is a yellow, black and White stripe bumble b sweater. Yeah, this looks like some art director .

is perfectly curated.

Ah the way you did this goes is .

the of IT is the t the .

post really ah with the nude skimmer to yeah I love that .

it's all about humor. Yes not like, oh, we created this awesome yes moment together. That was a point. IT was just fun through and through. And when you look at that, you think, lisa, you think a laughing, right?

I think of women and art, think. I think of approach salmon. I think of my friend Robin, who invited about stuffing ross the a the harbor in the support like this.

Like, think of all of IT. And I also just laugh. And I will remember this moment for the right most of my life because of the humor.

Yeah right. Turning something embarrassing and somewhat painful into something hilarious and relatable shifted everything about IT. And by the way, we will share the photo with you if you're watching on youtube.

Congratulations, because you've already seen IT. If you are listening to this, just look in the shown nuts and we link to this photo. And IT kind of brings me full circle to this idea.

How do you develop a sense of humor? Because just like I had to like on snap the hole that the body that I created so much freedom yes. Yeah, when you on the judgment and the seriousness that so many .

of us have.

yeah you're missing out on one of the greatest joys in life, which is learning how to laugh at yourself like it's one thing you not give a shit about what other people think we for those of you interested, we did up incredible podcast about the art of not giving a shit, hugely popular, or link IT to the showing. Tes, but this is about something else. It's about allowing yourself the freedom to be human and learning how to laugh at yourself.

yeah. And amy, I want to bring you into this because you are a stand up comic. You do improve you. You actually perform .

on stages yeah at at amateur level .

but yeah IT .

is a scale. Be becoming someone who looks at the world in a funny way is not just something that you're you're born with. You can really get funny er and you can develop a sense of humor beyond anything that you think that you have right now. And I think it's worthwhile.

Oh, I do you like I think when you make fun of yourself, you allow people to bond with you over the shit that's reliable in life. Yeah, i'll do IT yeah if I had to give any advice about IT because i've always been so hard to myself and learning how to laugh at yourself not unlike a consenting like, but more like that what can funny yeah, that's fine. And IT allows other people in. And I think that's the thing that people miss.

Yes, well, that's thing that I admire most about you. And I think that thing that that stood out to me the most in this story is that you don't keep IT to yourself and just say algo what that this is really funny. I can play.

This is happening. You do not do things in a whisper, you know, you do them out loud and let everybody in. I can just imagine all the women at your table and you're saying, like guys, I just, anybody else have a strong problem right now because I and then and then people are not thinking about their own insecurity or judgments.

They're thinking about your stuff and laughing about IT. To share laughter like that is especially with people you don't know or just getting to know. I mean, what a gift that is.

And he goes like to, of course, people would be like, go god, I can only show the the pictures where i'm all done up no gonna that i'm gonna talk about IT most like, you know, here's my art outfit with the edgy yes.

hang out yes and I also, that's also why I post the ridiculous photos of myself where i'm just in real life kindi us because I laugh at myself yeah.

it's funny.

It's really funny and and here's the other thing that I just got that the metaphor for not a knowing yourself to laugh and not sharing that with other people is your whole life becomes like you're wearing a body suit is too small IT constricts you IT suffocates tes you IT cuts off your life worse and resorts lation and that there's something available to when you lighten up.

And we did do a little bit research very quickly, will linked to the studies. But just the things that I draw IT down are really important. Like, first of all, people respect leaders that are funny more than people who aren't.

yeah. And the research shows we believe that somebody with a sense of humor, I am not talking about an inappropriate one, an appropriate sense of humor. We believe they're confident. We believe they're more powerful. We immediately raise up their status.

We think they're intelligent and they tend to be somebody we like more because there is this like bond that gets created between somebody that cracks jokes, makes fun of themselves, makes fun of a situation that feels reliable and true. It's like letting you in on something personal. And here's another thing, when IT comes to work, this is really interesting.

Ninety eight percent of executives, according to one study, said they would prefer an employee with a sense of humor. wow. And eighty four percent of those same leaders believe that people with a sense of humor do Better work.

Those are high numbers.

high numbers. And I think that goes beyond that class. One thing you know, bunny is is a power. It's it's a superpower that you can have yeah IT is IT creates a dynamic that two people or many people join in on. That really changes our perspective of the world, which I think is fascinating.

And I love that I ve how you could have just had this wedge and felt really angry with yourself, thrown the skins out and and but instead we all get to laugh at IT lab at the table with the were laughing about IT now. And it's it's brightening my day and it's making my mood a little bit Better. And a gift really is a gift. Well.

I think that's the invitation to you. Listening is as you go through your day to day, something embarrassing or funny. Is brother going to happen? Just notice IT, and then notice whether or not your laughing at yourself or your laughing at other people.

IT could be as something like, you know what? What happens to me all the time? I spill on myself all the time, all the time.

And when I do, I don't change my shirt or I means I just make a joke of IT. why? Because it's funny yeah you know we can all relate to IT.

And so there is an invitation here whether it's a wardrobe failure or is something that you do at work today that super embarrassing or it's the fact that you're talking to your kid's teacher and offset you belt in the midst of the sentence, and then you both burst out laughing. Or what about the time that I thought at work? And I thought, Jessie, such a great day was going to lose your mind.

SHE was laughing so hard. We had to stop downtown for three minutes, you guys, because he could not get control of herself. yeah. And so we know I did next. The second I felt when coming, I actually pushed IT out because I knew if I did a second one, SHE would lose her. God dam mine.

And he did and so I just feel like stop taking yourselves to damp seriously now learning to lighten up and lose in the grip and unsnapped the uh life body suit you got on yourself and be a little human IT lets people in IT lets up the pressure on you IT makes you more reliable IT makes seems smarter and more confident because you are because IT takes a person the ability to look at life and those domains situations that happen and turn IT into a joke instead of something to ruminate about. Yes, right. I'm off my show box now. Thank you. Welcome to my ted talk yeah is great and IT .

lets more love in yeah is what we're talking about yeah all the time, you know and if you feel like, oh, I don't have a great sense humor I can't make that funny yeah you could still laugh at IT laugh at somebody else is joke, you know, like, help somebody else .

kind of get through their day with a smile or a little bit. Your kids had to laugh and what to give?

Yes, absolutely. Oh, you spell that the whole box of and then you put the chocolate says on top of them and now it's all over your and the old in IT you guys are so funny. Yeah like that is a great thing.

amazing. You know what else going to be funny? The bleepers on this episode ah epic already, in case the video tells you, i'm going to tell you, I love you and I believe in you and your ability for after yourself.

You got this, we got this. Ladies and gentlemen, loosen the tie. Take off the grab.

Pull off the bike shorts on. Snap the body suit. Let IT all hanging out and laugh a little.

I love you.

My mike, amy, yeah, what you want to know? Put amy down. It's what my parents would say all the time.

Just put her down. My just, you know, don't let her feel good. I just going.

wo, oh, i'm so glad you tuned in today because i'm rolling in here hot I thought .

you're going to say i'm rolling with my homework.

but no.

what else that down?

Oh my god, can you hear that in real?

That's a big pizza machine. I'm a huge fan of Sarah brakely. No, that's not of your name, you know? No, that's the famous actors, big blackly .

like .

lively, who are taking of there. I immediately had a panic that I was saying, name ah, okay, let's go wash your body suits her everyday.

Oh, and one more thing I know, this is not a blue per. This is the legal language. You know what the lawyers right? And what I need to read to you, this podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes.

I'm just your friend. I am not a license therapies, and this pocket is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist or other qualified professional. Got IT good. I'll see in .

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