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The Science of Gratitude & 6 Surprising Ways You’re Getting It Wrong

2023/6/12
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins: 本期节目探讨了真正感恩与有毒感恩的区别。真正感恩是一种深刻、持久、发自内心的感激之情,它需要具体性、个人化、情感驱动和持久性四个要素。有毒感恩则相反,它可能表现为只关注积极面而忽略负面问题,用感恩来操纵或羞辱他人,用感恩来逃避负面情绪,用感恩来合理化不作为,用积极的言语掩盖不知所措,以及用感恩来贬低自身成就。Mel Robbins结合自身经历,详细解释了六种有毒感恩的表现形式,并提供了相应的应对策略,强调了接纳负面情绪、诚实面对自身感受的重要性。 Judah: Judah分享了他保持平和心态的方法,包括脚踏实地,专注于目标,并以爱为动力。他认为,明确自身目标(Why)能够帮助人们克服任何困难(How)。他将自身积极乐观的态度归因于音乐创作和分享,以及他乐队‘Sunshine and the Fox’的理念——成为一股爱的超强力量。

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Mel recounts a chaotic morning in New York City, including a false fire alarm and a frantic rush to a barre class, setting the stage for the discussion on gratitude.
  • False fire alarm at 3:48 AM in a New York City hotel
  • Mel's frantic preparation and descent down eight flights of stairs
  • Only person in the hotel to leave their room during the alarm

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Today we are digging into the research on gratitude. Gratitude is a critical life skill, yet most of us are practicing it wrong.

 

That’s right.

 

According to the research, there are 4 essential elements of genuine gratitude. Without all 4, you can’t unlock the powerful physiological, neurological, and psychological benefits of genuine gratitude.

 

For example, if you’re just thinking about what you’re grateful for or writing a list before you go to bed, you’re probably not getting the full impact of its power.

 

Once you know the 4 steps, you can use genuine gratitude to actively rewire your brain!

 

Next, we’ll discuss the “Toxic Gratitude Theory” and the 6 ways you probably use gratitude in a backhanded or manipulative way – and don’t even know it!

 

I’m guilty of all 6 types of toxic gratitude (ouch) and now that I see it, I can stop doing it.

 

So today, let’s learn how to unlock gratitude and all its profound power. You’ll also learn…

 

  • The 4 neurotransmitters involved in a science-backed gratitude practice
  • The important difference between being just “thankful” versus genuinely “grateful” and why it matters
  • How using one specific word is critical to building up your resilience
  • What to say to someone who’s going through a really tough time

 

And because I’m so genuinely grateful for you, I have started rolling out a fun bonus with each episode, Mel Robbins Podcast Bloopers, so listen all the way through for a good laugh!

 

Xo Mel

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

  • 6:00: Ever met someone who just makes you feel so loved and grounded?
  • 12:20: What happens in your body when you feel more gratitude?
  • 16:00: What’s the difference between being thankful vs. gratitude?
  • 21:40: Here are the four important elements of genuine gratitude.
  • 25:00: Are you using gratitude in a toxic way? Hear these six types of toxic gratitude.
  • 26:00: Let’s unpack the #1 way we engage in toxic gratitude.
  • 28:10: The #2 type of toxic gratitude is actually resentment in disguise.
  • 29:45: This #3 type will keep you stuck in what’s not working for you.
  • 33:00: We use the 4th type of toxic gratitude to escape uncomfortable emotions.
  • 36:00: Being mentally well means giving yourself the space to feel all emotions.
  • 37:30: Let’s unpack how you use the 5th type when you don’t know what to say.
  • 39:00: And please don’t use this type to downplay your accomplishments.
  • 41:00: This is one of my favorite acceptance speeches ever.
  • 43:00: I looked up the meaning of Judah’s name and couldn’t believe what I found.
  • 46:00: So how do you stay grounded in a chaotic environment? Listen to these tips.

 

 

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