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Where Did All My Friends Go? A Simple Guide to Finding Your People (Steal This!)

2023/7/10
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
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Mel：成年后交友很难，但可以通过主动积极的方式建立友谊，让生活充满乐趣，如同夏令营般。她分享了自己从孤独到拥有众多朋友的经历，并提出了一些实用建议，例如利用咖啡馆建立联系，主动与陌生人交流等。她强调友谊需要主动维系，不要因为见面的次数减少就认为友谊消失了。她还鼓励大家主动创造机会，积极参与社交活动，让生活充满乐趣。 Amy：分享了自己曾经感到孤独，渴望找到朋友群体的经历，并认同Mel的观点，成年人的友谊需要主动维系和创造。 David：与Mel和Amy一起分享了他们之间建立友谊的经历，并认同Mel提出的咖啡馆交友策略。 Gretchen：通过电话参与节目，分享了自己过去感到孤独和沮丧的经历，并肯定了Mel积极主动建立友谊的做法。 Jessie：在咖啡馆与Mel相遇，并成为了朋友，这印证了Mel提出的咖啡馆交友策略的有效性。 Mel: 通过分享自身经验，强调成年人交友的主动性与重要性，并提出以咖啡馆为中心建立社交圈的策略。她指出，不同类型的咖啡馆吸引不同类型的人，选择适合自己的咖啡馆，定期前往，可以更容易地结识志同道合的朋友。她还提供了一些与陌生人开启话题的技巧，例如赞美他人、主动提供口香糖、询问当地活动等。对于内向的人，她建议尝试从赞美他人开始，并强调主动联系的重要性，避免因为错过联系方式而失去结识朋友的机会。她鼓励大家积极主动地参与社交活动，让生活充满乐趣。 Amy: 分享了她过去寻找朋友群体的经历，并认同Mel的观点，成年人的友谊需要主动维系和创造。 David: 与Mel和Amy一起分享了他们之间建立友谊的经历，并认同Mel提出的咖啡馆交友策略。 Gretchen: 通过电话参与节目，分享了她过去感到孤独和沮丧的经历，并肯定了Mel积极主动建立友谊的做法。 Jessie: 在咖啡馆与Mel相遇，并成为了朋友，这印证了Mel提出的咖啡馆交友策略的有效性。

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Mel Robbins reflects on her journey from loneliness to creating a fun, summer camp-like atmosphere with adult friends, emphasizing the power of intentional community building.
  • Mel's transformation from feeling lonely to having a vibrant social life
  • The importance of showing up differently and being intentional about creating fun with friends
  • Using coffee shops as a starting point for meeting new people

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In this episode, I show you how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult in a very simple way.

 

And it starts with your morning coffee. 

 

Plus, I’m sharing 4 opening lines and tactics you can use when approaching a potential new friend.

 

Can we just be honest? Making new friends as an adult is so hard. And I believe that we are all struggling with it.

 

So I’m going to share the strategies that I have used in the last year to go from moving to a new town and feeling like I have "no friends" to taking the steps to create an awesome new circle of adult friends.

 

Today you’ll learn:

  • The ONE practical and life-changing tool you need to create adult friendships
  • A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area
  • The lies we all tell ourselves about friendships that keep us thinking we have none
  • How remote work has changed the friendship game
  • The single best place to park yourself on a Saturday morning to find your people
  • How to approach a stranger (potential friend) without coming across as weird, creepy, or awkward

 

What I’m sharing today works because this is how I found my people in the last 12 months.

 

Xo Mel

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • 2:37: Today I feel like I’m living in an adult summer camp; it wasn’t always this way.
  • 4:31: It is within your power to create community and connection.
  • 7:13: What happens when you look through the lens of loneliness?
  • 8:55: The #1 mistake I made with my friendships.
  • 10:15: If you want the flower to grow, you need to plant the seed. Let me explain.
  • 14:05: The lie you’re telling yourself when it comes to friendships.
  • 18:44: Why making friends feels so hard nowadays.
  • 20:07: A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area.
  • 27:58: The coffee shop I go to and why it’s been a gamechanger for meeting potential friends. 
  • 31:28: I challenge you to do this the next time you get a coffee.
  • 33:08: Friendship is a verb, you have to make it happen.
  • 34:18: This ONE tool will allow you to create lasting bonds.
  • 35:03: For all my introverts, here is my advice for you...
  • 36:18: The easiest ways to create connection in any situation.
  • 37:20: Don’t have weekend plans? You will after you do this.
  • 41:08: Making new friends can be fun and easy (I’m being serious).

 

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