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Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained

2023/12/18
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Thais Gibson: 依恋风格是潜意识中关于爱和连接的一套规则,它并非天生,而是后天习得的,可以通过调整来改变。不同依恋风格的人在童年时期有不同的经历,这些经历塑造了他们的核心创伤、需求和边界问题,进而影响他们成年后的关系模式和目标实现。安全型依恋的人在童年时期得到充分的关爱和回应,成年后更容易建立健康的关系;焦虑型依恋的人害怕被抛弃,容易在关系中过度依赖;回避型依恋的人害怕亲密关系,倾向于高度独立;恐惧型依恋的人在亲密关系中表现出摇摆不定的行为。改变依恋风格的关键在于了解自己的核心创伤,并通过重复练习积极的意象和情绪来重编程潜意识。 Mel Robbins: 作为一名听众,Mel Robbins分享了她对依恋风格的理解和自身经历,并提出了许多问题,例如如何识别自己的依恋风格,不同依恋风格的人如何破坏自己的目标,以及如何帮助不同依恋风格的人建立更安全的关系。她与Thais Gibson的对话深入探讨了依恋风格对个人生活各个方面的深远影响,包括人际关系、职业发展和自我认知。

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Thais Gibson explains what an attachment style is and how it impacts relationships, emphasizing that understanding one's attachment style can lead to healthier and more secure relationships.

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Why do you love the way that you love?

 

How do you have the best relationships of your life (including the one with yourself)?

Today, Mel sits down with expert in attachment theory Thais Gibson to explain the framework to improve any relationship in your life.

Her work on the subconscious mind and personal transformation will empower you to set better goals and have happier and healthier relationships.

 

Topics discussed include:

  • How to have secure and healthy relationships (including your relationship with yourself)
  • What your “attachment style” means and the 4 types
  • How your subconscious mind drives a lot of what you do
  • What love is supposed to look like
  • How your attachment style impacts your personal goal-setting
  • The biggest limiting beliefs from childhood (which one is yours?)
  • How to figure out your attachment style
  • How to make your attachment style “secure”
  • The difference between “core wounds” and “core needs”
  • The 2 things you did in childhood that made you a people-pleaser
  • How to feel less anxious and overwhelmed in relationships
  • How your fear of abandonment shows up in your relationships
  • The one question to ask yourself before you argue with your partner
  • What your new love interest needs if they have a hard time trusting
  • How to reprogram your subconscious mind for healthier relationships

You can purchase Thais’s latest book*, Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory*, here: https://a.co/d/i2Ae9vG)

 

Follow Thais Gibson:

Instagram: instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool)

YouTube: youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool)

 

Watch the podcast episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr)

Check out my book,* The High 5 Habit*: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt)

 

Follow Mel:

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LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB)

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