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Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels Impossible & What to Do About It

2025/2/10
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Mel Robbins: 我曾经在友谊中犯过很多错误,既粘人又排外,还很功利。我过去不了解建立良好友谊的真谛,也不知道如何成为一个好朋友。20多岁时,友谊会发生彻底的改变,但没有人预料到。很多人都在犯着我曾经犯过的友谊错误,只是他们自己没有意识到。无论年龄大小,每个人都渴望并值得拥有亲密的友谊。人生中最美好的友谊并非在过去,而是在未来,我会分享创造美好友谊的路线图和见解。我很兴奋能和你谈论友谊,这些研究和见解改变了我的生活,让我的生活变得更美好。如果你抽出时间听这一集,说明你重视时间,并且渴望学习如何改善生活,包括建立友谊。如果你收到别人转发的这一集,说明你确实有朋友,并且有人关心你。友谊很重要,你有能力创造友谊,最棒的友谊在前方,我会告诉你如何创造友谊,尽管现在感觉很难。我要分享一些关于成年人友谊的规则,这些规则几年前我也不知道,但它们彻底改变了我的友谊。无论你处于人生的哪个阶段,都需要朋友。每个人都值得拥有友谊,这也是我们今天要讨论这个话题的原因。无论年龄大小,无论你处于友谊的哪个阶段,都值得拥有美好的友谊。如果你觉得成年后很难交到朋友,你并不孤单,我会让你感觉更好,因为你会明白,人生中最美好的友谊还在前方,你有能力创造它们。非常感谢你抽出时间来听这一集,因为你的生活会变得更好。成年后交朋友很难,因为20岁时友谊会发生巨大的转变,但没有人预料到。我会分享一些关于成年人友谊的规则,这些规则几年前我也不知道,但它们彻底改变了我的友谊。无论你处于人生的哪个阶段,都需要朋友。每个人都值得拥有友谊,这也是我们今天要讨论这个话题的原因。无论年龄大小,无论你处于友谊的哪个阶段,都值得拥有美好的友谊。如果你觉得成年后很难交到朋友,你并不孤单,我会让你感觉更好,因为你会明白,人生中最美好的友谊还在前方,你有能力创造它们。非常感谢你抽出时间来听这一集,因为你的生活会变得更好。成年后交朋友很难,因为20岁时友谊会发生巨大的转变,但没有人预料到。

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Mel Robbins discusses the challenges of making friends as an adult. She explains the "Great Scattering" phenomenon, where people move away, change life stages, and friendships become more individualistic, unlike the group-based friendships of childhood. She introduces the three pillars of adult friendship: proximity, timing, and energy.
  • Friendship changes significantly in adulthood.
  • The "Great Scattering" explains the difficulty of maintaining friendships.
  • Three pillars of adult friendship: proximity, timing, and energy.

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If you’ve ever found yourself wondering “where did all my friends go?” or felt like making friends as an adult is impossible, you are not alone. 

In today’s episode, Mel is breaking down the surprising reasons why friendship feels so much harder in adulthood—and, more importantly, how to change that. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

  • The three essential pillars for creating deep, lasting friendships. 
  • Why you may be experiencing a “friendship recession” 
  • How to stop taking friendship shifts personally. 
  • How to use The Let Them Theory to take a more flexible approach to friendship. 
  • A simple, step-by-step plan to find and keep incredible friends at any stage of life.

 

Mel also shares shocking research that will change the way you think about friendships—including how long it really takes to form a close bond and the single most important factor in building lasting connections.

If you feel lonely, disconnected, or simply want to strengthen the friendships you already have, this episode will give you the exact roadmap you need.

For more resources, click here) for the podcast episode page. 

If you liked this episode, your next listen should be this one: What Makes a Good Life? Lessons From the Longest Study on Happiness)

Get a copy of Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory here). 

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