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You Asked, I Answered: Don’t Blame Me for Delivering the Hard Truth

2023/9/25
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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判断一段友谊是否应该结束的标准是付出与回报是否平衡。如果长期以来你付出得多，而对方回报很少，并且这种情况并非由于对方暂时的困境所致，那么就应该考虑减少投入，甚至结束这段友谊。友谊并非必须是终生的，友谊是能量交换，当友谊的容器（例如共同的居住地、工作或关系状态）消失时，友谊也可能随之结束。如果朋友长期处于低落状态，而你一直是他们的支持系统，却得不到回报，那么适度减少投入是合理的。减少对不平衡友谊的投入可以体现在减少联系频率、延迟回复信息等方面。停止付出努力，关系就会消失，这表明关系本身可能并非真正的友谊，而是你单方面的追求。做出决定时，可以参考你尊敬的人的做法，借鉴他们的果断和自信。如果参考意见让你感到不舒服，那只是你的恐惧在作祟。在鼓励伴侣寻求心理治疗时，要表达你的担忧，并设定清晰的界限。如果对方拒绝接受帮助，你应该为自己设定界限，并决定是否继续这段关系。应该将心理治疗视为一种提升自我、改善生活的机会，而非某种负面评价。坦诚表达脆弱感并不意味着毫无保留地倾诉所有细节，可以控制信息披露的程度。所谓的“中年危机”实际上是人生的转折点和机会，应该积极利用之前的经验和人脉，迎接新的挑战。应对伴侣拒绝佩戴助听器的问题，可以尝试幽默的方式，并深入探讨伴侣内心的恐惧和担忧。

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This chapter discusses the signs that indicate when it's time to walk away from a friendship, emphasizing the importance of mutual effort and energy exchange.
  • Friendships require mutual effort and energy exchange.
  • Sustained feelings of not getting back what you put in can signal the end of a friendship.
  • It's okay to pull back from friendships that are no longer fulfilling.

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In today’s episode, we are trying something new, and absolutely anything goes. You’ve been flooding my inbox with questions, problems, sticky situations, and big, big dreams and goals.

 

So today, because you asked, I am going to show up and deliver the hard truth, the surprising advice, the tricks to get you out of any pickle, and the inspiration that you need to take that next step.

 

Nothing is off the table. So don’t f***ing blame me when I tell you how it is. 

 

I’ve got a pile of hundreds and thousands of YOUR questions, and I’m giving you the coaching you need.

 

This might be my favorite episode I ever recorded.

 

We are going to cover:

  • When it’s time to walk away from a friendship (hint: when these 2 things disappear).
  • How it’s about damn time you stop dating for potential.
  • How to use the ‘Let Them Theory’ to protect your energy.
  • ONE tool you need to make decisions without overthinking.
  • What’s keeping you from getting a raise or promotion, and more importantly, what should you do to get it.
  • How to get someone you love to go to therapy (and when it’s time to walk away).
  • Why a mid-life crisis is actually your greatest opportunity.

 

 

Oh, and we will cover my favorite swear word for the season (I can’t write it here, so you’ll have to listen).

 

You will laugh with me in this episode, and you will also get advice you need to hear. 

But don’t blame me if it is TMI—you asked for it!

 

Xo, Mel

 

P.S. If any little ones are listening, put those headphones on!

 

In this episode:

 

  • 1:40: How do you know when to walk away from a friendship?
  • 9:00: How do you make decisions without overthinking?
  • 10:20: How do women negotiate a fair salary with a boss?
  • 11:55: Mel, what were your dreams when you were a girl?
  • 14:40: How do you get someone to go to therapy when they need it?
  • 25:50: How can you be vulnerable with word vomiting everything?
  • 26:30: Mel, what’s your favorite swear word?
  • 28:20: You need to hear the advice I give about the BS of a ‘mid-life crisis’.
  • 30:50: Betsy’s husband is missing out on life, and she needs help.

 

 

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at https://melrobbins.com/podcast).

 

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