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You’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This

2022/12/5
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins:真正的快乐在于停止自我折磨,停止内心的‘痛苦运动’。人们常常不自觉地陷入‘痛苦运动’,总是寻找让自己不开心的理由,而不是享受当下。即使在生活积极向上时,人们也可能陷入‘痛苦运动’,主动寻找负面情绪。‘痛苦运动’可能是童年经历或家庭环境造成的,但我们可以主动改变。 Amy:Amy 的‘痛苦运动’表现为自我谴责和内疚感,这与她的成长经历有关。Amy 将自己的生活比作‘打地鼠游戏’,每当好事发生,她就会找到新的坏事来让自己不开心。Amy 通过改变对日常琐事的看法来克服负面思维,意识到人们常常抱怨天气,并以此为契机,开始关注积极的事情。Amy 分享了她克服负面思维的方法:写作、焚烧和洗手,将负面情绪通过文字表达出来,然后焚烧,象征着将负面情绪从生活中清除出去。 Jessie:Jessie 的‘痛苦运动’表现为对节日的焦虑和压力。通过写作练习,Jessie 意识到自己需要摆脱家庭中根深蒂固的负面思维模式,并开始关注积极的事情,最终在写作中找到了新的积极思维模式。

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Mel Robbins discusses her realization about the 'Campaign of Misery,' a constant negative internal dialogue that prevents true happiness and contentment.

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I was lying in bed one morning, and all of a sudden it hit me…

 

If I ever want to be truly happy, I have to stop doing THIS.

 

So do you.

 

What is this thing we need to stop doing?

 

I call it the “Campaign of Misery.”  

 

In the background of your mind, there’s a campaign of misery running on a loop. And until you stop it, you will never experience the happiness, joy and contentment you deserve. 

 

I promise you - it is there. In the background - talking to you all the time. 

 

This is the missing piece to true happiness. 

 

When you remove the campaign of misery, you create room for joy.

 

I recorded this episode the same morning I had this profound insight.  What you're about to hear is a conversation with me and two friends and colleagues, Amy and Jessie. Pull up a seat at the kitchen table; I want you to hear me unpacking this breakthrough about happiness in real time.

 

My two friends saw their “campaign of misery” immediately and started describing in detail the ridiculous ways they torture themselves. You’ll laugh, you’ll nod along, and you might even cry a little. We sure did.

 

Because when you realize how much you rob yourself of the happiness you deserve, it is sad. 

 

I always say, this isn’t just a listening podcast, it’s a doing podcast. So by the end, there’s something specific I will be asking you to do with us while you listen. 

 

In three simple steps, you will join us as we put down the sword, grab a book of matches, and pick up the pen to write new default programming into our minds. 

 

Don’t worry, I’ll explain why you need matches near the end of the episode.

 

And you’ll be so happy that I did.

 

You have the power to change the way you think and the way you talk to yourself. You have the power to stop seeing all the reasons your life is hard and teach yourself to see how this could be easier. 

 

Yes, you can be happy.

 

You can be content.

 

But first, you have to stop making yourself miserable. Let’s support one another on this. 

 

If we fight this battle for happiness together, side-by-side, I am certain we will win.

 

Xo Mel 

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • What happens when you get caught up in your stories
  • My profound breakthrough around the importance of mindfulness
  • How to start celebrating yourself right now, no matter your mindset
  • The 3 incredibly powerful mindset hacks I did with my friends and colleagues, Amy & Jessie

 

Go deeper:

 

Do you want to create a better morning routine? Join my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge and I’ll coach day by day on setting your day up for success here).

 

Morning Pages inspired by Julia Cameron: The Artist’s Way)

 

For complete show notes, click here.)