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Are You Hiding Behind Happy? Allison Holker Reveals All Pt 2:The Power of Sharing Your Struggles, Creating Community & Healing Together

2025/2/4
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Allison Holker: 我和已故丈夫Stephen "tWitch" Boss都曾隐藏在快乐的假象背后,压抑负面情绪。他的去世让我意识到,他阳光的形象下隐藏着深深的痛苦和自我怀疑。他去世前几周,我们还计划要另一个孩子,这让我更加难以接受他的离去。他去世三天后,我感觉他来探望了我,并向我道歉。他生前曾进行过Ayahuasca体验,我认为这是他人生的转折点,之后他似乎失去了往日的活力。他的一些行为,比如控制欲和强迫症,现在看来是不正常的,但我当时没有意识到。他去世前一天晚上发给我一个树的emoji,这让我感到不安。他去世后,我经历了巨大的悲伤和痛苦,但我也逐渐从中走出来,变得比以往任何时候都更好、更强大、更快乐。我开始学习如何平衡积极和消极情绪,并诚实地面对生活。我公开我的新恋情,并表示自己正处于人生中最快乐的阶段。我将永远怀念我的丈夫,但我无法完全认同他的选择。我的任务是让孩子们知道,自杀不是解决问题的办法。我将继续分享我的故事,希望能帮助更多的人。 我将继续分享我的故事,希望能帮助更多的人。我坚信信仰的力量,并相信生活是美好的,即使经历了痛苦。我选择每天都过着天堂般的生活。面对网络评论,我将它们视为评论者自身问题的反映,并为他们祈祷。我将继续努力,成为最好的自己,并帮助更多的人走出困境。 Jamie Kern Lima: 许多人隐藏在快乐的假象背后,压抑负面情绪,这会对身心健康造成严重损害。Allison Holker的故事非常感人,她勇敢地分享了失去丈夫后的心路历程,这将激励和帮助许多独自挣扎的人。tWitch的去世给全世界带来了冲击,因为他总是以积极乐观的面貌示人。Allison Holker的故事提醒我们,要关注身边人的情绪,及时发现并帮助那些需要帮助的人。积极肯定很重要,但更重要的是要学会平衡积极和消极情绪,并诚实地面对生活。不要害怕寻求帮助,也不要害怕分享你的悲伤。

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Allison Holker opens up about her late husband Stephen 'tWitch' Boss's hidden struggles with depression and self-doubt, masked by his infectious positivity. She shares how they both embraced toxic positivity, neglecting their own emotional needs and failing to recognize warning signs.
  • tWitch's outward positivity hid deeper pain and self-doubt.
  • The couple practiced toxic positivity, neglecting their emotional well-being.
  • Warning signs of tWitch's depression were overlooked due to their shared belief in 'powering through' difficulties.

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Are you hiding behind happy? Do you feel like you always have to lift everyone else up, or people please, or should only be seen when you’re happy? If this is you, you’re not alone – studies show 40% of us frequently suppress our negative emotions, all to put on a happy face for everyone else.

Today’s guest, Allison Holker, says she and late husband Stephen “twitch” boss know this all too well. And today on this episode of The Jamie Kern Lima show, Allison is sharing parts of her story, she’s never shared before, with the intention she says of inspiring and helping others, who might also be struggling alone, before it’s too late. She’s also sharing how she says tWitch gave her permission and his blessing, to share them.

From So You Think You Can Dance, to Dancing with The Stars, Allison Holker is an Emmy-nominated choreographer, dancer, host, actor, and author.

It’s an honor to have these conversations and create a space for others to share their stories with you and me together. The intention of the show is to be a force for good and a force for love in the world, and my prayer is that this episode is both, for you, today. 

Note: If you or someone you know is struggling, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988, or text the word "STRENGTH" to the Crisis Text Line at 741741 or go to* 988lifeline.org*).

*To receive 24/7 support from the National Sexual Assault Hotline, call 800-656-HOPE (4673). *

To report child sexual abuse or find resources for those in need of help, contact the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children) at 1-800-843-5678.

The views, thoughts and opinions expressed on the podcast are solely the guest’s alone, and do not necessarily represent the host, the show’s, or any of its partners. 

Chapters:

**17:03 **Masking depression with a smile

**21:47 **The power of positive affirmations and learning tools to deal with sad days

**23:27 **Signs she didn’t realize were meaningful

**36:41 **The Ayahuasca journey Allison says was the turning point

**39:36 **The importance of the Tree emoji Allison says “tWitch” texted the night before his death

**46:32 **Allison says tWitch visited her 3 days after his death, what he said to her, and how she says he still visits her and her daughter

**55:40 **Allison’s intention and purpose, to inspire others to get help and not hide their struggles or feel like they have to face them alone

**1:02:26 **How tWitch gave Allison permission, she says, to share his and their story and write the book and how he’s proud of her

**1:23:51 **On healing, and her new partner Adam. How she’s “in love and wants to scream it from the roof tops” and is in the happiest place she’s ever been

It’s such an honor to share this podcast together with you. And please note: I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional.

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