Fleeing the LA Wildfires with My Newborn
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Oh man, money rehabbers, a lot has happened since I last talked to you. Oh my gosh, I'm already crying. I said I wasn't going to. I haven't even started talking. Okay, so last time I spoke to you, I was nine months, like 10 months pregnant, wrapping my head around a sort of kind of maternity leave.

Since then, I did have my baby, a girl. She is beautiful and healthy. And I knew this was going to be a big period of transition and change in my life. I just did not know the extent of it. Because two weeks after we brought home our baby girl, we lost her home.

Our house burned down in the LA fires in the Palisades. I thought, naively, I guess, in retrospect, that I'm pretty calm in a crisis. I've learned to catch many a curveball in a way that you only really can with practice. I mean, this wasn't my first disaster. It was not my first metaphorical fire, at least. But this was nothing new.

Nothing like I have ever experienced before. The evacuation for us wasn't what it sounded like on TV. We didn't have orderly instructions about what to do. We literally saw the fire from the rooftop of our home and we left as soon as we could. When we evacuated, we left with nothing. Literally the clothes on our backs and our baby in arms. I grabbed her, not even thinking to pack a bag.

I know that sounds crazy. If I was hearing this, I would think it was crazy, too. You know, you always say, well, I would take this or I would take that in case of a fire. And I had that list in my head. But when it happens...

You're caught between thinking you'll be back, that it couldn't possibly get to your house, and not thinking at all. I knew in theory, even before I went through this, what you are supposed to take with you if you're evacuating your home. But again, I thought I would be calm and rational in a crisis, and I also really thought we would be back.

But what I could not anticipate was how all of this would feel as a new parent. I had been a mom for all of two whole weeks. I mean, the title still felt weird and new coming out of my mouth. I was still getting used to that feeling of

having a piece of your heart beating outside of you, which is a thing a lot of new moms say. And honestly, it's pretty true. It's also true that you immediately feel this protective mama bear instinct as soon as you see your kid for the first time. But if you're lucky, you don't have to act on that mama bear instinct. But I did. And the fire did not give me time to think. I just had to act and we had to protect her.

So I didn't take my wallet, my driver's license, my passport, my birth certificate, my social security card, all the practical things that are like another set of fingerprints. The records that prove you are you. And I didn't take any of the sentimental things I thought I would with me. My father's book that has his signature in it. He died when I was 11. It was my most prized possession.

And the only thing I had of him, my journals, my poetry, press passes from the last 20 years, the glass we broke on our wedding day, anything from my wedding, my wedding dress, years of keepsakes, years of mementos that are more than just fingerprints. They're all of the things that tell the story of who I am and all I've built. So we evacuated with nothing.

And then we just waited to hear if our house was gone or not. And then our neighbor called us with the news. And I thought that was a low point on top of the many low points that you might expect during postpartum. But seeing a video of the remains of our house, I mean, that made it real. And that was the lowest of low.

I do want to say I am lucky. I absolutely know that. I was able to find a temporary rental quickly so my family has a roof over our heads, a place to live while we figure it all out. I have incredible, incredible friends. And now that includes people I didn't even know I could call friends who jumped into action to help me and my family with things big and small.

I have people who listen to the show who reached out to send me good thoughts and prayers and wishes. My loved ones set up GoFundMe, which we've been using to buy supplies for our daughter and basically everything we had in our brand new nursery, everything we got from our registry. I know that there are many people that haven't been as lucky. And so I have

Been digging deep to try my best to do my part and share resources that I find helpful. Being useful, being of service has given me some sense of purpose and meaning through all of this chaos. But I hope I can be honest and vulnerable with you. This has been so hard. Losing my home and everything in it was never on my life bingo card. If you would have asked me for the top 10

one million things that could go wrong in postpartum. This would not have been it. And it wasn't just my home. It was my car and our brand new office and our BO box and our pediatrician. It was the whole town that I built my life around and that I loved. I've lived in 10 cities in 20 years, and this one was the first place that felt like home.

So all of this is like a surreal kind of grief, realizing that all of your things are gone in an instant.

I keep realizing more and more every day. My night guard for grinding teeth that I have to get replaced. The driver's license, the passport. As I've learned, these things are really hard to replace, but they're replaceable. My dad's signature, the glass we broke on our wedding day. Those are not. The crazy thing is that it almost feels like you don't know if you still exist, partly because you

The paperwork that proves you do exist is gone. My most recent bank statement online lists my old address, so do all of my bills. It's an address that doesn't have a house standing there anymore. But it is so much more than that, and it is so much heavier than that. In the fire, I lost the memories that I had already planned on making with my daughter, what I thought would be...

where I thought would be her first steps, her first birthday, tucking her into her toddler bed that we kept the extension for in the attic when she was big enough. So in all of this, you lose the future that you had planned and also your past. All of those irreplaceable things I mentioned. The poetry, the book, the treasures from our wedding.

If you lose the artifacts from your past and the ideas from your future, what in the hell is tethering you to reality? I never thought I would tell this kind of story, let alone live it. But here I am, even a month later, still delirious, still running on fumes, still constantly crying, hanging by a mental health thread.

And here's the thing, this experience has forced me to face something that I have been avoiding for years. You've heard me say on the show before, you've heard me say on other people's shows, that I've always had this deep, complicated relationship with the idea of home. I've often talked about the mean girl inside my head that tells me that I'm going to be broke, alone, and homeless. And honestly, I used to think a nicer house, a better space, more stability.

would fix this deep ache. But this fire literally burned through those illusions. I keep asking myself, where is the lesson? There has to be a lesson. And if I learn anything from all of this horror, it is the idea that home was never going to be solved by a bigger house or nicer stuff. That the gaping wound, the one that made me crave stability so desperately,

Something I would have to face head on. So here we are. And maybe, just maybe, one of my favorite poets, Rumi, was right. The wound is the place the light enters you. So for now, I'm going to focus on finding that light. Finding the gratitude. The gratitude that my family is safe. The gratitude that we have been met with so much kindness and that I am being forced to rebuild not just a home,

But the idea of it, that's something, something deeper within myself about the idea of home. I've always felt like I could access something bigger than myself through my work, through this mission that I'm on. So I want to come back while I'm still juggling all of the things that I need to do to put all of the pieces of my life back together, taking care of my daughter, taking care of myself.

But there is also a lot that has happened in the world since we last spoke. So this week, I want to help try to make sense of some of the big financial headlines. And as always, how you'll be affected. So you will be hearing from me again. No promises that I won't be crying. You'll also hear from some great guest hosts from time to time too.

This feels weird. It feels strange to start to go back to work. I cannot pretend, and I cannot lie to you, that everything is business as normal. It is not. I am both okay and not okay at the same time, and mostly not okay and super sad right now. But I know I will be more okay than not okay sometime soon. And doing this show and talking to you

It's a part of my life that gives me so much meaning. It is something that no fire could ever take away from me. So thank you for being part of this rebuilding, this journey. And to everyone else who is going through this, I see you. I love you. I love our hometown. I feel your heartbreak. I feel your grief. And I don't know when, but I promise we will get through this together.

One step, one day at a time.

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Thank you. No, seriously, thank you. Thank you for listening and for investing in yourself, which is the most important investment you can make.

Toyota has been building a legacy of excellence for years, from developing hybrid technology to upping the standards of safety and efficiency. Toyota is always innovating, always making progress. And with Toyota's superior lineup of SUVs in stock at your local Toyota dealer, you can experience the legacy for yourself.

So check out an adventure-ready RAV4, designed to be the perfect mix of style, practicality, and go-anywhere attitude. Or test drive a capable and affordable Corolla Cross, with the style, space, and available tech to keep you cool and connected. And both RAV4 and Corolla Cross are available with all-wheel drive, giving you the freedom to roam.

Quality, reliability, efficiency. That's the legacy of Toyota. Visit buyatoyota.com, the official website for deals, to find out more. Toyota, let's go places.