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When Comfort Turns to Chaos: Midlife Dating, Bad Ass Bitches, and the Emasculation of Men

2025/5/6
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Michelle Locke: 我今年40多岁,不再把生育作为人生的首要目标,因此我更能清晰地思考,对感情关系的容忍度也降低了。我不再为了生育而忍受那些让我不快的事情。我更看重一个人的智商,而不是外表。我吸引来的是那些试图控制我、试图摧毁我独立性的男人。 在之前的婚姻中,我扮演着强势、独立女性的角色,在工作中展现的是男性化的能量。然而,我希望在家中能展现女性化的能量,享受被呵护的感觉,但我的伴侣无法理解这一点。他最初被我的独立和强大所吸引,最终却因此而厌恶我。 我意识到,在一段关系中,如果感到很舒服,那可能正隐藏着你熟悉的混乱模式。我需要一个伴侣,而不是一个试图改变我或占有我的人。 Jake Teptula: 女人想改变男人,男人想占有女人,这是一种普遍现象,但也不尽然准确。在一段关系中,男性不想被女性“阉割”,但女性也可能遭受男性的控制和虐待。 我观察到,很多女性在经历过创伤后,会不自觉地选择那些让她感到熟悉和舒适的关系模式,即使这些模式是具有破坏性的。 我个人在约会中也遇到过类似的问题,我倾向于去“拯救”那些陷入困境的女性,这让我在情感上感到疲惫。我希望找到一个能与我一起承担生活琐碎,并享受其中乐趣的伴侣。 Brittani Ard: 我‘阉割’了所有遇到的愚蠢男人。我分享自己的故事是为了让更多人感到不孤单。我的故事并非耸人听闻,而是关于每个人都会经历的悲伤、爱与失去。分享自己的故事让我感到解脱。 对幸存者的羞辱是一种严重的问题。在评论他人故事之前,应该先考虑分享者所经历的痛苦,并避免带有偏见和指责的评论。 我从19岁开始就一直是自雇人士,不喜欢被别人管。我喜欢与听众交流,并欣赏人们在困境中的韧性。

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We are hard at work on season 3, we'll be back soon with more episodes. For now enjoy this conversation with Michele and Jake from LoveLustFear.


Brittani Ard, host of You Probably Think This Story's About You, joins Jake and Michele on lovelustfridays for a raw and thoughtful conversation about trauma, relationships, and the emotional weight of storytelling. She opens up about her transition from a career in architecture to podcasting, and the lessons she's learned along the way. The discussion dives into the complexities of dating in midlife—particularly for strong, independent women—touching on breakups, emotional boundaries, and the process of unintentionally emasculating men. Brit also reflects on how independence can sometimes hinder connection, and why taking small, intentional steps back into the dating world can be so valuable.**Please Visit Our Sponsors!**Ready to start your own podcast? Descript instantly converts your audio files into text documents—just like editing in Google Docs or Microsoft Word. It's the tool we rely on for Lovelust Fridays to keep everything running smoothly. Click here to try it for free!https://get.descript.com/pepqx4ars509

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