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The Mirage of Success: Why More Is Never Enough | EP 570

2025/2/7
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John R. Miles: 我发现很多人都在追逐一个幻影,他们误以为追求的是满足感,但实际上却在追逐更多。我曾经也经历过这样的时刻,我拥有看似美好的一切,但内心并不满足。我以为只要得到更高的职位、更多的金钱,我就会感到快乐,但事实并非如此。我意识到,我需要重新审视我所追求的东西,并找到真正能给我带来满足感的东西。我问自己,我所追求的是真正重要的东西,还是我被社会所灌输的观念?我所选择的道路是否与我的价值观相符?我在这条路上牺牲了什么?这条路是通往满足感,还是仅仅在满足我的虚荣心? Jennifer Wallace: 我认为孩子的韧性从根本上取决于父母的韧性,而父母的韧性则取决于他们关系的深度和培养。现在很多父母都感到自己无关紧要,没有发言权,害怕被裁员,他们的贡献没有得到认可,然后他们精疲力竭地回到家,却被期望成为孩子们痛苦的第一反应者。我们已经把物质目标置于内在目标之上,而这正在使我们失败。我们正在培养一代不了解自己的年轻人,因为我们没有给他们留出时间去弄清楚。 Dr. Shige Ueshi: 我认为有两种方法可以最大限度地提高自尊,一种是最大限度地提高你的成功,另一种是减少你的欲望。如果你想要很多,那么成功必须足够大才能获得高结果。但通过降低雄心,即使你的成功很小,如果欲望很小,你也会对自己感觉良好。 Harvard Study of Adult Development: 我们通过长达85年的研究发现,幸福、健康和长寿的首要预测因素是牢固的关系。拥有深厚人际关系的人寿命更长、更健康、更快乐。那些感到孤立和脱节的人患抑郁症、焦虑症甚至身体疾病的几率更高。 Julianne Holt-Lunstead: 我认为孤独对健康的危害相当于每天吸15支烟。这就是归属感的重要性。我们为什么一直追逐外在的成功,而内在的联系才是真正能维持我们的东西呢?

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We’ve all been there—pushing, striving, chasing what we think will bring happiness. A bigger salary. A better title. More recognition. But what if the very thing you’re running toward is an illusion?

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the Mirage of More—the false promise that external success leads to internal fulfillment. We’ll explore why we keep chasing things that don’t sustain us, how to recognize when you’re caught in the cycle, and—most importantly—how to walk away before it’s too late.

Download the Episode Worksheet in the shownotes at: https://passionstruck.com/the-mirage-of-success-why-more-is-never-enough/)

What You'll Learn in This Episode

✔ Why we’re wired to seek "more"—and why it never feels like enough

✔ The psychological trap of achievement (and how to escape it)

✔ The Harvard research that proves success isn’t what makes us happy

✔ How to recognize when you’re caught in the Mirage of More

Next Episode Preview: *Next week, I’m sitting down with Dr. Shige Oishi—one of the world’s top researchers on human well-being. *We’re diving into his new book, Life in Three Dimensions: How Curiosity, Exploration, and Experience Make a Fuller, Better Life. And trust me—this conversation will change the way you think about how you live.

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