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The R.E.A.C.T. Method: Leading Yourself Through the Storm w/John R. Miles | EP 627

2025/6/20
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John R. Miles: 我在一栋被飓风摧毁后重建的房子里，遭遇了一场意外的冲突。承包商因为瓷砖和账单问题对我大喊大叫，质疑我的正直。我感到震惊和心碎，因为这不仅仅是关于瓷砖，而是关于信任和尊严。我意识到，当神经系统被劫持，价值观受到威胁时，真正的考验是如何保持联系，而不是做出过激反应。很多人都有过类似的经历，在压力下会想知道如何保持联系。真正的连接始于内在，包括觉察、一致和有目的地选择临场。本期节目讨论如何在情绪激动时领导自己，而不是被情绪所控制。我希望通过分享我的经历和REACT方法，帮助大家在压力下保持冷静，做出符合自己价值观的回应。 John R. Miles: REACT方法包括五个步骤：识别情绪激增（Recognize the spike）、在行动前呼气（Exhale before engaging）、与价值观保持一致（Align with your values）、选择你的回应（Choose your response）和花时间反思（Take time to reflect）。第一步是识别情绪激增，命名它，给自己一个空间。第二步是在行动前呼气，打破模式。第三步是与价值观保持一致，问问自己，正直此时此刻是什么样子？第四步是选择你的回应，选择在情绪上可持续的行为。重要的是拥有自主性，而不是压抑情绪。第五步是花时间反思，从中学习。反思能将这些时刻转化为精通。通过练习REACT方法，我们可以在压力下保持冷静，做出符合自己价值观的回应，并从中成长。 John R. Miles: 我在面对承包商的冲突时，运用了REACT方法。我识别出了情绪激增，深吸了一口气，停止说话，看向窗外，专注于脚下的地面。我与我的价值观保持一致，并选择了我的回应。我降低了声音，并清晰地表达了自己的需求。当对方无法在同一个空间交流时，我选择了离开，保护自己的内心平静。之后，我与妻子一起反思了整个过程，并从中学习。我没有完美地处理好这件事，但我坚持了下来，没有放弃我的价值观。这是一种从内心建立性格的胜利。真正的领导力不是控制或表现，而是协调一致。真正的成长很少是光鲜亮丽的，它需要在困境中做出选择。在想要惩罚时暂停，在想要逃离时呼吸。真正的力量是在困境中建立起来的。目标不是完美，而是练习。练习能改变我们。

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What happens when your values are tested in real-time—no script, no prep, and no exit ramp?

In this vulnerable solo episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles shares a deeply personal moment of conflict inside his hurricane-damaged home—an unexpected confrontation that became a defining test of presence, identity, and leadership.

Out of that storm came a powerful framework: The R.E.A.C.T. Method. Built for the moments when your nervous system is flooded and your instincts scream for control, this 5-step tool helps you pause, return to center, and lead from who you are, not what you're feeling.

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And if that framework sparked something in you—if you're thinking, “This is exactly what I need, but I’m not sure I’ll remember it in the moment…”—I’ve got something for you.

I created a free R.E.A.C.T. Companion Guide inside The Ignition Room on Substack.

It’s packed with:

  • Real-life language to use when you’re triggered
  • Journaling prompts to unpack your reactions
  • A printable one-sheet to keep visible—on your desk, fridge, or even in your wallet

If you want to train your nervous system to respond, not just react—

👉 you can grab it now at theignitedlife.net).

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