By demonstrating that you can stand up for yourself without offending the other side, showing that you're a good partner and ambassador. This often involves testing behavior, either intentional or subconscious, to see how well you can handle disagreements while remaining collaborative.
Disagreeing constructively shows that you can stand up for yourself and your interests without causing offense. This builds trust and demonstrates that you can be a reliable partner, which is crucial in negotiations.
Slowing down allows your brain to process more thoughts and ideas, which can lead to better decision-making. It also shows respect to the other party and helps in active listening, making the conversation more effective.
The 'right to veto' preserves the other party's autonomy, making them feel less forced into a decision. This increases the likelihood of a voluntary and positive agreement, reducing future regrets.
Switching to 'no' questions can significantly increase conversion rates, as it reduces friction and makes customers feel more in control. This approach helps in gaining honest feedback and building trust.
The word 'fair' can be used to invite the other party to point out any unfairness, fostering a sense of mutual respect. It can also be weaponized to make the other side question their own fairness, depending on the context.
Mirroring involves repeating a few words from the other person's statement, which can build rapport and encourage them to open up. It shows that you are actively listening and engaged in the conversation.
Treat cybersecurity threats similarly to hostage negotiations by asking calibrated questions that make the other side think. Focus on understanding their timeline and constraints, and use the negotiation to gather evidence for potential law enforcement involvement.
Summarizing the other party's perspective accelerates the conversation and builds trust. It shows that you understand their viewpoint, even if you disagree, which can lead to more productive discussions.
Chris Voss is the world's #1 Negotiation Coach and CEO at The Black Swan Group, a negotiation consultancy serving Fortune 500 companies globally. He represented the U.S. in international conferences and served as the FBI’s hostage negotiation representative on the National Security Council’s Hostage Working Group.
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