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Escaping the Drift with John Gafford
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将失败转化为燃料：Jon Gafford 的应对失败之道
我，Jon Gafford，在《逃离漂流》播客的最新一期中，坦诚分享了我个人在事业和生活中遭遇失败的经历，以及我总结出的应对失败的方法。失败，不可避免，却也是我成长过程中不可或缺的一部分。
失败是“油箱”还是“后备箱”？
我深受Ryan Holiday的《The Obstacle is the Way》和Ari Rastegar的《The Gift of Failure》这两本书的影响。这两本书启发了我将失败视为“油箱”或“后备箱”的观点。将失败视为“油箱”，意味着将其作为学习和成长的动力；而将其视为“后备箱”，则意味着将其视为沉重的负担，拖累前进的步伐。
我的应对失败的三步曲：
面对失败，我的应对方法包含三个步骤：
允许自己感受负面情绪: 首先，我允许自己充分感受失败带来的负面情绪，例如沮丧、失落等。这并非消极，而是必要的“消化”过程。我需要时间去体验这种痛苦，而不是急于寻找解决方案。就像我的女儿一样，有时需要几天时间来平复情绪。
像分析“学校项目”一样剖析失败: 接下来，我会像分析一个学校项目一样，仔细剖析失败的原因。我使用一个个人博客或日记，记录下失败的细节，包括财务损失、情感损失以及我当时的想法和感受。五年、十年后，我可能已经忘记了具体的细节，但这些记录能帮助我重温当时的感受和教训。我会认真思考失败的原因，既包括内部因素（例如，自身能力不足、决策失误），也包括外部因素（例如，市场变化、竞争激烈）。
吸取教训，避免重蹈覆辙: 最后，我会总结出从这次失败中吸取到的教训，并将其记录下来，避免在未来重蹈覆辙。例如，我曾经因为过于依赖自己进行销售而导致项目失败，现在我深刻认识到团队合作和专业销售团队的重要性。我将这些教训转化为行动指南，并将其作为激励自己前进的动力。
失败的象征：激励我前进的动力
在我的办公室里，摆放着许多失败的“象征物”——那些曾经失败的项目、产品或经历的记录。它们并非为了让我沉浸在失败的痛苦中，而是为了时刻提醒我从过去的错误中学习，并激励我不断前进。例如，一个失败的营销项目留下的昂贵维生素，以及一次错失的电视节目试镜机会，都成为了我宝贵的教训。
掌控自己的命运：
重要的是，我不会将失败归咎于外部因素，而是从自身寻找原因，并积极寻求改变。正如电影《虎胆龙威》中所说，“没有人会来救你，只能靠你自己”。 我始终相信，只要从失败中吸取教训，并积极改进，就能掌控自己的命运，最终走向成功。
结语：
失败是人生旅程中不可避免的一部分，但它也蕴藏着巨大的学习和成长机会。通过积极地面对失败，认真反思，并从中吸取教训，我们可以将失败转化为前进的动力，最终实现个人和事业的成功。 这不仅是我的经验总结，也是我想要与所有听众分享的宝贵心得。
Why is it important to let failure sting briefly before dissecting it?
Allowing failure to sting briefly helps in fully experiencing the emotional impact, which is crucial for understanding and learning from it. It also prevents premature solutions that may not be fully considered.
How does Jon Gafford handle failures in his personal and professional life?
Gafford uses a structured process involving a failure journal where he writes down the details of the failure, reasons for it, and lessons learned. He also keeps physical reminders of past failures to serve as constant lessons.
What analogy does Mikey C Rock use to describe dealing with adversity?
Rock uses the analogy of either putting adversity in the 'trunk' (as a burden) or the 'tank' (as fuel). This mindset shift helps in transforming setbacks into opportunities for growth.
Why does Jon Gafford recommend Ryan Holiday's 'The Obstacle is the Way'?
Gafford believes the book profoundly changed his life by providing a stoic approach to dealing with obstacles and failures, emphasizing the importance of finding lessons within adversity.
What is the significance of not blaming outside forces for failures?
Blaming external factors makes one a victim and out of control. By focusing on internal reasons, one retains the power to change and improve, fostering a proactive rather than reactive mindset.
- Jon Gafford has failed multiple times but views failure as a necessary part of success.
- He references Ryan Holiday's 'The Obstacle is the Way' and Ari Rastegar's 'The Gift of Failure' for inspiration.
- Mikey C Rock's analogy of failures either going into the 'trunk' or 'tank' is used to explain how to handle adversity.